Well that escalated quickly :S
To be clear, it was not my intent to insinuate that there were problems with the moderation on this forum. I think we've hit the sweet spot where there's enough freedom for people to show their true colours while still maintaining a sense of decorum. I'd hate to see that change.
My intent in posting this was to generate a discussion around the lack of effort that some folks, often newbies that don't know any better yet, show when posting for information, and what we as more experienced and active forum users could do to better inform/educate people.
In my experience with managing and coaching people, they learn new behaviours best when:
- We show them the expectations
- We model the expectations
- We provide coaching/feedback
- We show that not meeting expectations does not give them the result they are looking for
So this was the point I was hoping to make, that instead of providing all the info they were looking for, we instead give them the tools and some coaching to allow them to achieve their goals of finding that perfect companion.
I've always said that the way a potential client interacts with people in a semi anonymous forum such as this, speaks volumes about what they would be like to deal with in person.
With all the complaints I see (especially on Twitter) from SP's about the complete lack of effort from potential new clients to the point where they simply text "available?" without bothering to read the ad they found the number on, I'd think that this forum is providing a lot of information about some of these new folks to the providers here.
But hey, that's the great thing about the poll, it shows that people don't agree with me on this point. And that's cool, to each their own. This was always about trying to make this already great forum even better, but I can certainly admit when I'm wrong about something.
@lydiahardwood Quoting the bard William Martin Joel - Don't go changing, to try and please me, you've never let me down before -- I love you just the way you are.