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EDITED. I have followed this post a couple of times and my gut says that no advice can be correct, because the circumstances of every individual are different. Long post coming. Using the M:F hetero pattern for clarity, but obviously men, women, Trans, Bi, can be any of these. RESCUERS I am a Co-Dependent "Rescuer" vulnerable to the "Pretty Woman" fantasy, imagining that Richard Gere can help Julia Roberts. But the truth is, she saved him! Now she may be a fiction (an SP with a heart of gold), but from what I see here, there are a great many SPs who work hard to keep their humanity, not become jaded, and genuinely care for their clients. As my shrink told me in 2001,, he does his work "with love" without getting confused by "Transference," by maintaining professional boundaries. So SPs may be way more mature at this than the average person; keeping "Love" well apart from "SEX." But a (former) Rescuer like me "loves" the one in need so she will need him. That can get toxic. So SPs avoid the clients who start to "fall in love" with them. Dangerous. Sometimes a Rescuer can actually help a victim get her act together VICTIMS: I victim wants to be rescued and does not take responsibility to help herself. When she learns to love herself and take responsibility for her own needs, she does not need the rescuer anymore. But Rescuers may turn Controlling to keep their partner in Victim Mind. Bad news. Either way, many Victims stay stuck begging for others to save them. The victim mind is often rooted in real trauma. they really were VICTIMS. It is hard to heal. Most get stuck get stuck in addictive and obsessive behaviors. CATFISHING: A rescuer is easy prey to a scammer playing out the romantic fantasy of a damsel in distress. Pretty Woman turns out to be Cruella deVille, thinking, If it is all about money, who not take advantage of the suckers? Donald Trump. But in my experience I have met far more Catfishing on dating sites. LL surely has many too, so beware!, But when I asked my SP for "Therapy" she was decent, honest, and acted genuinely caring (with her boundaries respected!). IMO SPs provide solace to a great many persons hurting bad, and desperate to feel loved through sex. Is the OPs SP truly in need? Quite likely. Does she play the role to pump suckers? Quite likely, but maybe not. Real grief happens and can overwhelm anyone. In an industry where you have to PRETEND all the time, it must be really hard to be able to speak to someone with genuine trust, who provides genuine consolation. Isn't that why SPs often bond to each other? But even if we are probably being played, and know it, some of us would rather help, even if we are pretty sure we are being played. WHY? In a world full of cruelty and deceit,acts of kindness proclaim our humanity, defending the the virtue of caring for one another. The Man of La Mancha knew his Dream was Impossible, and chose to pursue it anyway. That is nobiiity IMO. MOST GUYS? Yeah, I know. I prefer being a softy, and chose to relate to a stranger with respect and honesty, even if they are acting out. One poster said that Bad Boys do much better with the ladies IRL. Yes, I know. So be it. But the Bad Boys still have a hole in their heart. Mine is healing. BTW, genuine co-dependency is not healthy. We have to love ourselves first. I am working the Twelve Steps of CoDA (CoDependents Anonymous) to get there. I am becoming far more the kind of man I genuinely respect, while learning to set my boundaries and walk away from the bottomless pits of neediness. My SP helped me Take care of my genuine need. A turning point. But it remains hard not going back for more. From what I have observed in Lyla, most independent SP's manage to avoid getting sucked into dependency better than the rest of us. I am encouraged. But what to I really know? Thanks, Skyler!

Heya everyone, I need a bit of advice. Obviously for privacy, I won't mention who but a very nice lady I met at the start of this year has had a really tough time recently... A death of someone close, separated from her child, lost her apartment and in recent conversations with me, has mentioned wanting to die. She said she feels alone and that nobody is there to help her. Since my day job is helping people, I offered to try to help her too (ie. at least help her come up with a plan to get back on her feet). She seemed really appreciative and open to it, but then she goes MIA every time I try to help her, only to come back 12-24 hours later saying things like she turns off her phone to forget about the world (or wishing everyone forgets her), or that she just sleeps all the time as an escape and that's why she wasn't responding. I'm genuinely concerned for their wellbeing but it's not like I have their full name or address to even call the police for a wellness check. My work is pretty stressful, so adding the stress of worrying about this lady hasn't been great for my own mental health... What should I do? I feel obligated to check in on her now, but am I overstepping boundaries? Or is it more of a risk to just leave her be (I don't want her to feel like nobody cares)? Or should I be leaving it and she can reach out if she actually wants help? Or is this person pulling one over on me and they're just seeking attention? I only rarely see providers, maybe once every year or two so I've never been in this situation before... So I'd appreciate anyone's input! TL/DR version: a lady who I saw once is going through a very rough patch, and I'm worried about her. I don't know if it's for attention or if she actually needs help.

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Thanks for the info, 506 Guy. Was curious too

Well no new posts on their page since June 8, wonder if they just couldn't find dancers. Meanwhlle I am getting so nostaligic about the long lost Cabaret. That place had the best atmosphere and vip.

Met her last night. She is real. Going to do up a reco for her later on. Can book with confidence. 🙂

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Sorry you had a bad experience. I had seen her multiple times and had not faced any issues so far. The last time I saw her was like 4 months back. Not sure whether something has changed since then.

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Hey Selena, someone may have already done this but just in case, Ill do it too. I know Lyd already linked it for u but these days knowing basic tech is important to your independence so Ill give u a few tools real quick. Theres 2 ways to give someone your twitter link. - One is the way most have here, to copy/paste the URL. (URL simply means the exact web address.) So when you are signed in to twitter, go to your profile page. U can do this 2 ways. Click on either your avatar (that means your little profile pic. My avatar is to the top left of this msg. (A long haired girl with a star for a head). Or on the left you will find the word 'Profile'. Both will lead you to your profile page. - Take your mouse up to the URL (Web address) and right click on it You should see the option 'Copy' (if you dont, click on 'Select all', then again for copy) - Then all u gotta do is go to where you want to paste it, right click again and left click on paste and it will appear. You can do that with anything. you want to keep. If using a phone, u just press n hold your finger over it. Another far easier way is to just tell people what your handle is on there with the @ sign in front of it. So it seems like yours would be @SelenaDiamond2 Another great piece of advice I can give you is a saying "GIB" it stands for 'Google it bitch' lol Google is amazing and so is youtube. Just go on google and ask your question and google will tell u how to do stuff. If its something where a visual will help go to www.youtube.com and type in 'How to ....; and you'll find plenty of videos showing u step by step what to do and even some problems u may encounter and how to get out of it. This is true not only for computer stuff but anything. Wanna remove tarnish from jewelry? Its there, wanna fix a broken PS4 controller, its there, need a make up tutorial... good god its there! lol Google and youtube have saved me so many times! And Im not too bad with tech. I highly recommend taking some time to learn as much as possible as an independent SP. This is how we market ourselves right, so the more you can do yourself, the more you get yourself out there and the less u have to pay anyone. And we all know how hard it is to find good help when so many arent SP friendly and the ones that are know it and take advantage of us. I've had zero formal training with computers but when I started I built my own site and any time I need to change anything instead of texting and waiting to have it fixed and paying, i just go in and fix it. For photos, instead of paying someone to remove my face and tattoos and knowing someone will have the exact same pix but with my face and tats on there... im the only one who ever had it and I destroy the originals when Im done. Even when I get a photog, I insist on my own memory card. It saves me money and the piece of mind is invaluable. Then when the pandemic hit I needed to find a new revenue stream. I looked at options like Only Fans and found it a total rip off. So instead I did some research, chose and downloaded a video editing program and I now have my own porn site. Didnt cost me a single cent at a time that i would NOT have gambled money not knowing if itd be cost effective. I just picked stuff up along the way and its never too late to start. A friend of mine who is also an SP was very intimidated by tech when I met her. I taught her the copy/paste thing too. She didnt have a website but knew how important it was to business. Issue was, she had the same story Ive heard way too many times. She put something like 1000$ down and the person just dicked around and screwed her over. I encouraged her to just go on weebly, wix, squarespace or godaddy to build her own website. Basically if you can play a game on your phone, u can build a basic website. She said she never tried a phone game so I offered to build it for her at a far more reasonable price.And now she maintains her own site and I very rarely get so much as a question. Its amazing watching her blossom in independence and see the little things she creates online. It sounds dumb but u just have to believe in yourself. It seems SO intimidating at first. But u dont have to know how to fix a computer to use one. Its just that most find it daunting and also arent aware that there is free education out there. I really hope this helps you. Remember GIT when ever u are stuck or wondering something. These things will become second nature as u go along and youll learn more n more. I hope nothing here sounded condescending. Thats SO not my intent. My intentiob is only to help a fellow SW sister out. Have a great day! Jessy xoxo