hello, I was just about to place an ad here. As this isnt a PERB/TERB/MERB related site I will respond here. In order to respond on one of those sites, you have to be a paid advertiser. You also have to be a paid advertiser to access the blacklist - which is a safety concern. Either way, both of these things take away power from women working in this industry. There was no way for me to respond to this, as I left Winnipeg. The only reason why I advertised on that board, which attracts the lowest tier of clientele accross Canada, was due to it being the main advertising site in Winnipeg. The man lied several times and was pushy in the booking. I did ask PERB to review it and even sent the screenshots, but they do not care as the client has been on the site for 8 years and I only payed like 50 bucks for an ad, and I toured to winnipeg 4 times since 2020. So clearly the regular paying client who writes reviews gets the pass.
You have to realize we are women working in adult entertainment. We are bound to encounter dangerous and pushy and rude men, that can weild power over us by threatening bad reviews (motivation for him was a power trip). There is also a positive review on there from years ago, and I believe things were written here as well as I toured to Halifax in 2022 and I am touring April 11-22 and possibly Moncton for a few days after.
I may seem short in the messages, because random men don't read the ad and text me trying to start some kind of conversation. It's clear from the ad, read the booking form or provide the info to book. We all have lives and you are not the only man texting us. When multiple people text at a time and we are on tour, we have to schedule our days to make money, and we don't have time for that. You have no idea how many men timewaste even if we are polite (for free attention). That being said, I've lived overseas. Maybe my speech seems "rude" to some Canadians who are used to a less direct way of speaking - especially in smaller cities like Winnipeg or Halifax, it's a cultural difference as well.
A few bad apples ruin this and think because I am an escort I have to tolerate anything in a booking, as well as harassment, disrespect, dehuminization and even stalking (which happened once on my last tour to Halifax). This may be customer service, but I still have to enforce boundaries and speak up if I feel uncomfortable, and I have a right to ask someone to leave if they are being aggressive.
This client on Perb also lied, saying my hair was black and I was mid 40s, and he was in the room for over 30 minutes as he arrived 20 minutes early and I have screenshots of this. He was grabbing my face and being aggressive, and I asked him to leave due to this. He did not ask for a refund for the 30 minutes he had left, he didn't even make eye contact and just ran away, then texted me "I'm going to leave a bad review". Generally if someone leaves halfway through the session for whatever reason, they ask for a refund - which he didn't. He literally ran out the door when I told him he was being too pushy and I was stopping the booking. He said the session only went on for 10 minutes and nothing happened, which was also a lie as we had sex. Clearly he wanted something that he could throw around because again, some people see us as vulnerable and having to take anything instead of realizing that the majority of our clientele being nice and respectable men. I have the right to withdraw consent anytime. Which clearly made this guy upset and act childish on the internet instead of taking responsibility for why I kicked him out. Also, a lot of workers go along with pushy behaviour but everyone has their own boundaries and sorry, grabbing my face and pushing me around is too aggressive. Maybe for someone else it would be fine, but that's exactly why client's shouldn't just assume because someone else was okay with it (or afraid to say no), everyone will be. And sorry he couldn't coerce or threaten me with a bad review to make me change my mind, he should have asked for a refund for the 30 minutes he didn't use.
In terms of the boards - Lyla is fine, and CAF in Alberta is great. It's mainly regional - we have to advertise on boards depending on the region we are touring to because some sites have all the traffic, it's just where the local clientele go. This applies to smaller cities in Canada. Larger cities use Tryst. Lyla is where the east coast clients go, not tryst, and in winnipeg, they mainly go to PERB, not tryst. Same thing with CAF in Alberta, and I tour to Alberta like 7 times since 2021, and I don't have a bad review on there. But that's where I have to advertise to find clients. That being said I ask for no reviews because I don't like play by play summaries of sexual encounters online, I find it a bit weird to read about myself, and I've been doing this job for years, and I only got bad reviews by assholes with some kind of vendetta.
Anyway my tour is confirmed and I appreciate the business of any clientele who are respectful and don't view me as a commodity. We are people as well and unfortunately this job attracts some terrible people, and I wish for any women working this job not to encounter them nor be punished when they also have to fear for their safety. It is not fair to us to have to literally FEAR some men (rape, assault, robbery, stalking, murder, bad reviews, mental distress reading hateful shit on the internet) and we have the right to ask them to leave, and we should also have the right to respond to them on a board or list them as being dangerous - which I did not as my paid advertisment ran out. Luckily the admin on LYLA are good and I can also reccomend to East Coast workers to tour to Alberta and use CAF, because the clientele on there are good and the Mod is good as well. Thanks.
The last thing I'm going to say is, if you are a client that saw me on my 2022 tour to Halifax (I was in Halifax for two months) and you had an OK or good time lol, please feel free to respond here to this thread. I'd apprecaite it.