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This video belongs in this thread! Not my favourite Calle 13 song, but now my favourite Calle 13 video! Atrévete te te -- Enjoy!

It seems like you ought to be able to complain about that any time of the day. But here's a copy of the bylaw. I know for sure you can complain about it happening during certain hours. http://ottawa.ca/en/residents/laws-licenses-and-permits/laws/noise-law-law-no-2004-253 (Not that I ever once called bylaw. But man, was I tempted!)

The exhaust is finally fixed! It didn't cost too much, and we never got a ticket, even though we were driving it around, late at night, for weeks with it being noisy. We ordered the muffler and waited and waited. Finally we called and found out that our order was mangled. So they re-ordered it, and we waited some more. We finally got it in, and... our mechanic went deer hunting. For one week with one group, and then for another week with another. But it's finally done today! Whew! Now. Painting.

Carrie Moon is the tallest SP I've met in Ottawa, and is a big, busty, bodacious Amazon queen.

I disagree that seeing an SP is a good option for a younger guy. I don't really prefer the younger guys. If I did, I could make a fortune, because it seems, in recent years, they're starting younger and younger. I think this is because we're becoming more of a consumer society. Young people think first to buy what they want, rather than to live the life. In a way, that's really sad. For many years, I wouldn't see younger men because I didn't want to "become the crutch that cripples." In other words, I always felt that, by relying on the service of SPs, young men were able to take an edge off that otherwise might have compelled them to develop the skills and qualities they'd need to form more profound relationships with women. But I think all that's out the window these days. We've become a zombie culture, stiffly trudging from one immediate urge to another with our credit cards in hand. It will probably get worse before it gets better. My preference is for a man who's walked a fair track of life, who brings a heart that has loved well, and who knows himself well enough to admit how much he has yet to learn.

With cell phones able to record video these days, this has become more common than ever. But that said, please bear in mind the SP's situation: -- She may wish to use her own equipment -- She may wish to edit and select which footage is shared -- She will undoubtedly (and rightfully) retain copyright (meaning that you cannot share the footage, for profit or bragging rights) But that said, if you know someone very, very well--as in you have been her regular forever and she knows who you are and where you live, and she feels safe with you--she may allow you to use your phone to capture a souvenir for your own use.

I strongly agree with what others here have said. There's a huge difference between having a cat and having a dog. With a dog, you are its life, and when you're not around or off busy with something else, your dog has no life. It's like putting the dog in solitary confinement, a form of torture. Not only will this make the dog miserable, but it will likely act out by chewing or tearing things up, barking nonstop or other bad behaviour. Many dogs end up being surrendered to rescue because people get them without realizing the commitment they require.

Thanks everybody!

Thanks everybody! I had a pretty busy day and didn't even realize it was my birthday until this afternoon. Celebrated with some ice cream and maple syrple. Mmmmm....

I certainly enjoy it, but nothing beats the feeling of cumming with someone inside me. Trouble is, despite hearing about these women who can cum dozens of times in an hour, I've never been one of them. Three or four times is my limit, and then, I can barely keep my eyes open or remain coherent. I guess my orgasms take a lot out of me, especially these days, because after a fun encounter, I need to nap. Facesitting is fun, but if you'd like to give your companion the opportunity to cum with you inside her, don't wear her out too much beforehand.

My husband has a business helping people get themselves and their vehicles home after a night of drinking. I drive the follow car. Although no one is supposed to ride in our vehicle, it often happens that someone will run over and jump in the car with me. Who knows why? And because they've been drinking, I usually find it easier just to let them ride along than to object. So a couple weeks back, I had this amazing session with someone. Later that evening, Fred had a job involving multiple drop offs from one vehicle. It was a truck and space was limited, so one of the guys ran over and hopped in our car. We turned to look at each other... and laughed our asses off! What a coincidence!

I wouldn't be at all surprised if some IRL friendships didn't result from meeting on CERB or other online venues. I'd say that, if someone is interested in making friends with whom they can be open about this, maybe this is the best place to start. Send a PM to someone who seems to be on the same wave length. Who knows where it will go. But bear in mind that most hobbyists have chosen this option because discretion is imperative. Not everyone will be willing to take it to the next level.

When asked, of course we tell them that. But what about you? Will you come out of the closet and tell them yourself?

Nathalie, I am surprised to learn of john sweeps in Canada not involving outdoor or public venues (such as massage parlours and strip clubs). I guess I'd better google that. I agree that it would be disastrous if the Swedish model were embraced by Canada, but I think the only thing that will defeat that, in any country, is the court. I have lost faith in the belief of destigmatization. As we see with the issue of race south of the border, no matter how hard you try to combat certain prejudices, you only succeed in driving them underground. Familiarity is the only thing that successfully defeats stigma, and if more customers were willing to be open with their families, friends and colleagues about being customers, then that might actually succeed in changing the most minds. Few customers are in a position to do that, though. Not because they fear the stigma, but because it would create serious complications. It's very hard to destigmatize a group that hides its face. For sure, when people ask me, I tell them that the only men I see are decent guys who I'm proud to know. But it's not like I can say, "For example, you know so-and-so? Well, he's my client." We can make the claim, but we can provide no evidence to back it up.

Brad, there's how things should be and there's how things are. We all want progress, and a wise person knows that pressure for progress must be applied prudently, or it can result in a backlash. I thought we were living in a country where individual rights were balanced very well against community interests. I have been living and working in Canada since 1982, and have had almost no problems resulting from unjust laws or overzealous enforcement. Quite the opposite! So why rail and stomp our feet if there isn't a problem? I doubt there's much sympathy these days for the plight of internet advertising prostitutes and their customers in Canada. We're not exactly hard done by. Discretion is important, of course, but I think a huge part of discretion is knowing what the stigma looks like and looking like anything but. This is why I get so annoyed with these guys who try to "be discreet" by parking a couple blocks away and sneaking over on foot. That plays right into the stigma, and while it might be done with the intention of being discreet, it is actually indiscreet. It may be counterintuitive to some, but parking right out front and striding up and knocking on the door like you have every business being here is actually the most discreet thing to do, and attracts the least attention and curiosity. We can use the stigma to our advantage by letting people focus on it instead of on us. It protects our privacy. The only thing that I find sad is when I see an SP or a customer embracing the stigma. I have had customers ask me how I deal with dirty or rude or rough customers. Don't they see that I don't deal with people like that at all? Do they think they're the only decent guy I know? I don't encounter many of such people, but I have heard that some customers assume that all SPs are on drugs (I have known very few who use at all, much less more than on an odd occasion) or are all single mothers on welfare. I've heard SPs over the years make remarks to suggest that they think customers have to pay because they couldn't get laid otherwise. We don't see that much of those attitudes here on CERB, and when we do see it, it's usually nipped in the bud pretty quickly. That's the best type of progress I see!

I watched a damned good documentary earlier today: Saturday Night Live, The First 5 Years. I had no idea that John Belushi was a male chauvinist pig who didn't believe "chicks" were funny, and who demanded that Lorne Michaels fire women. Damn, I miss the 70s! :)

Years ago, as a young woman in my 20s, I was standing in the packing area at a drop zone, talking to some people I didn't know. One person noted that I had a pager (we didn't have cell phones way back when), and asked me what I did for a living that I needed to carry a pager. I replied that I was a call girl. Everybody laughed and wanted to know what I really did. So I said I was an obstetrician and I was on-call. They readily bought that. Another time, a jumper's wife made a rare visit to the DZ one weekend, and was talking with us girls. At some point, we found ourselves alone and she had questions about E, another jumper. Her husband had told her that there was a prostitute jumping at the DZ, and she assumed it was E. E did her hair and applied make-up in the morning at the DZ. E wore sexy clothing and even a sexy jumpsuit. She was flirtatious. You should have seen her face when I explained that E worked for one of the hospitals in Toronto, and I was the prostitute. No one hates the damned stigmas more than I do, but I also recognize that they protect us. I don't really look or act like what people expect a prostitute to look like or act like, except when I'm in a session. My customers don't look like what most people expect customers to look like. This allows us to walk free, with invisibility cloaks, unseen and unbothered by those who might bother us if they were able to see us. Perhaps for single customers, it's more important to be able to come out and not be negatively judged for using the services of. Most of the men I've entertained over the years have been married men, men in position of trust in the businesses or communities, and for them, complete secrecy was probably more important than feeling understood by society. We know the stigma is way wrong. And we know that stigmas often are way wrong. Isn't that good enough? Many of us have had people in our lives who knew who we were, and I think we've been able to challenge some notions on a person-by-person basis. But hey! We're up against Hollywood.

Thinking you're all that in the technology department, then spending several hours smashing your face against the keyboard, trying to figure out why, Why, WHY your video isn't displaying on your web site. After trying every possible HTML combination, crying, and pledging my faith to a variety of deities, I discovered, to my utter embarrassment, that the AdBlocker extension I just installed on my netbook was blocking the video as an ad because it had the word "ad" in the file name. I feel like a total chimp.

Being worshiped as the local tech guru! One of the young guys came to me last night and told me his iPhone was broken. It would no longer turn sideways to play YouTube videos full screen. I showed him how to turn off orientation lock.

Actually, I think it's more of a problem of wrong and fatal business mindset, and it brings down businesses in many industries outside our own. In business, you can't afford to delude yourself. You have to be honest with yourself about your failings, your strengths, and your realities. When you start looking for excuses, "sour grapes," or focusing more on causing others to fail than your own success, you're seriously screwed. I have had SPs say to me that they think business is slow because there are too many SPs of our type competing for the same business. What I heard was, "if customers have a choice, they'll choose someone else. Business is best for us if they don't have any choice." I do NOT like the sounds of that! I like to think that someone chooses to see me for me, and in that case, it really wouldn't matter how many other choices he has. I also think it's healthy for guys I see regularly to enjoy some variety (and I'm pretty sure most do). I would prefer to think that someone decides to come visit me on the basis of his great memories from last time, rather than because he's stuck in a rut. But this is a type of mindset error that's made at much greater levels than us little old SPs. Look at the GM industry. They've been so focused on people stealing their seeds--and surely, some are. But too, how bright or responsible was it for them to release the technology into the field before they could control its ability to contaminate naturally evolved or cultivated species? And they're so rabid in their fight against labeling in the US and Canada--as if Americans and Canadians are all that health conscious in their choices. They deploy their shills across social networking to dismiss anyone who expresses even the most reasonable concerns about GMOs as luddites who'd rather see people starve. They're so focused on a noisy bunch of organic extremists that they've projected a Darth-Vader like image of themselves in fighting back, and that has done a great job of scaring the rest of us. Or at least making us wonder. I'm a great believer in do what you love and do it with love. Focus on those you attract and don't worry about anyone else. Be authentic. Never blame. Look in the mirror often. Put all your effort into achieving a better outcome for yourself, and if you ever put any effort into someone else's outcome, stay on the light side and help them. Any attempt to inflict injury on others is cancer, and it will grow and eat you alive.

Busted! I'm so lazy about advertising. (That number doesn't take text messages, though. The NSA might get them, but I don't. They just go off in space.) Yep! Me too. You'd think I'd be less nervous, but on first encounters, even after all these years, I'm a basket case. But by the end of the session, I'm relaxed. (And usually ready for a nap!) Oh, the visuals! I think maybe you shouldn't take it personally. I didn't mean that you should never initiate any exchange with an SP unless and until you're ready to book. Just be genuine. If you're just passing time or looking to get to know someone better, don't act like you're trying to set up an appointment that you probably wont keep keep. You wouldn't believe how many guys do that. But then, I suspect, that's not your style. (Cheez Whiz? No. ... NO.)

I find it disturbing that an SP is trying to destroy your reputation. I hope any gentleman that hears anything negative about one SP from another will stop and ask the very important question: "Why is she telling me this?"

Apples and oranges. Solution? Fruit salad!

Hear, hear!

Sitting on a mattress in my front room, surrounded by all the stuff from upstairs, an erected tent (kitty containment), and four dogs who are all trying to hump each other, catching up on my mail, and wishing hard that the stairs and floor will be dry enough to walk on so I can sleep in my bed tonight. Happy Thanksgiving!