JoyfulC

They've tried this in the past, with vaginal gels. The problem is, how do you allow fertilization without permitting infection? ..c..

Article in this week's Scientific American newsletter: "Component peptide ferries virus into mucosal cells, ratcheting up infectivity as much as 100,000 times" http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=male-semen-makes-hiv-more-potent&sc=WR_20071225 Interesting! Perhaps this is why female-to-male transmission rates have always been so low. ..c..

A happy new year full of sexy fun and satifsaction to all. ..Christine..

This is a _bad_ idea. Not just with respect to STDs, but with respect to healthcare in general. Never EVER take an antibiotic unless prescribed by a physician who has properly tested and diagnosed your need for such. And when you have been prescribed an antibiotic, take it exactly and completely as prescribed. This is serious stuff. STDs pale compared to some of the antibiotic resistant bugs we have emerging due to both improper prescribing and improper use of antibiotics. ..c.. (Oh, and ps, if you tell your doctor that you've been taking a friend's meds, I think your doctor has a legal obligation to ask you who gave you prescription medicine illegally and report them. Never ever share prescription medication with anyone. It's by prescription for a reason!)

Perhaps some of you are taking a wrong approach to the hour session. Instead of going for the MSOG, perhaps you should focus on prolonging the first shot to take the full session. Lots of teasing, kissing, massage, exploring, getting to the edge and backing away. I think you'll find it a lot more fun than trying to rack up multiple shots. Let's face it, you don't see an SP for conversation. You can get conversation at the bus stop. Don't be afraid to take your time and get your money's worth of pleasure. Some younger SPs might need some guidance in this area, but you'll be doing them a favour. ..c..

You can't assume that all clients expect the same standards, either. Especially with respect to the bargain hunters. I've told guys that I'd been working out or just finished another session and needed a shower, only to have them tell me that they don't care. !!! Apparently some are into sloppy seconds. For myself, I can't feel sexy if I'm not clean, if my premises aren't clean, and my linens aren't clean. But not everyone feels that way. For some people, raunchier might be sexier. It's not for us to judge. ..c..

I also think it's okay to ask up front -- although I'm not sure you'll get a completely honest response. Like you, I'm highly allergic to tobacco smoke. I have found that many smokers believe that if they're not smoking when I'm actually with them, I won't be able to tell the difference. (In one way this is understandable, as they're desensitized and wouldn't be able to tell themselves.) Actually I can detect tobacco on a person's skin for up to a year after they quit smoking. I feel sorry for smokers, as it is an addiction and they don't make a conscious choice to do so every time they smoke. I've had a number of clients quit and they seem so energized by the choice to do so. For me, smoking isn't a good thing. I don't work well with it, and I've found that most smokers don't appeciate the problems. I suspect what they aren't able to do so. This may be the problem with some SPs too. For all we adults suffer from dealing with smoking, we at least have some control over what we're exposed to. Children living among us have even less. That's who we really need to get serious about. If adults want to engage in tobacco use, I say let them do so under strict circumstances. But not advocate exposing us all, and especially not exposing children and unborn children to it. Let's advocate responsibilitiy. ..c..

Mix 2 tsp of cocoa with 2 tsp of sugar, add enough milk to stir into a paste, then add a cup of hot milk and stir well. We like to throw some mini marshmallows on top. It's simple, but it's so good! Great apres-ski drink. ..c..

I love doing multiple male dates! There are a few groups here in town who are always a blast to party with. ;-) ..c..

If you are more comfortable writing in French, then write in French. Ottawa is a bilingual city. Si vous ?tes une ?criture plus confortable en fran?ais, alors ?crivez en fran?ais. Ottawa est une ville bilingue. ..c..

I have a wish list, but I'm running out of room. :( ..c..

The other thing to consider is, are you looking for an incall? While incalls are broadly tolerated in most Canadian cities that don't require escort licensing, it does pose a problem in that explicit discussions may incriminate the provider with respect to bawdy house legislation. What I want to know is why do some guys insist on being so explicit? Is it just the thrill of talking about sex acts on the phone? It's not like you have any guarantee. Someone can (and will) tell you anything over the phone to get you and your wallet in the door -- but may or may not deliver. But on the other hand, someone who is discreet (to the point of losing business if necessary) is probably going to be best trusted to protect your privacy too. Why not just show up and take your chances? From everything I've heard and read on these boards, I'm not sure that discussing explicits up front really results in a higher degree of satisfaction. ..c..

In order for the charge to stick, I think there would have had to be some sort of verbal confirmation that manual release was a service included in the price. This cop would have had better luck charging the masseuse with sexual assault! ..c..

I just viewed the video that Amber co-starred in with my good friend, Carrie Moon, and Juicy Pearl (whoever that is!), "Dazed & Cum-Fuzed." I don't know Amber at all, but I was very pleased with what I saw in the video -- despite some very poor videography, editing and production! She seems like a very down-to-earth, natural and responsive young lady. The "pearls" scene at the end was quite cute! Carrie also shone like a diamond in this extremely crappy production. I can't help but wonder what any of these girls could do, given videographers, producers and editors that could match their talent. ..c..

Sorry, but I can't agree. The minute we have legal brothels, we'll have zoning bylaws and then we'll be in the same soup the strip clubs and adult stores have found themselves in all along. We'll bear the brunt of heavy accommodations costs and legal fees -- that is, when we can win the right to accommodations at all. As it stands now, we are able to work in reasonably priced residential areas in most cities in Canada (except those that license us -- another bylaw by-product!), as long as we keep a low profile and don't make waves. Under a literal reading of the Criminal Code, we shouldn't have to provide accommodation -- technically, that should be up to the client, at the very least when dealing with SPs who don't know him well enough to invite him to their discreet accommodations under circumstances that are safe both from a security and a legal standpoint for them. But because so many municipalities have opted to turn a blind eye to open advertising of incalls, it's now incumbent upon local escorts in many communities to provide accommodations -- and often this happens at risk to the escort, without any additional remuneration! Frankly, I think we've ended up with a situation that favours clients over and above the security and legal risks/expenses of SPs. Having worked under both situations, I know that there won't be any less business if we were to go back to when the customers bore their fair and reasonable responsibilities, with the hope of earning privileges by way of verification and familiarity. Trust me, ladies -- there was as much or more business back then! I think going the brothel route serves the clients, but does little to serve us. We'd be better off leaving the status quo the way it is or pushing to have the police more effectively enforce the bawdy house laws. ..c..

Sadly, I think most of the guys I see would far rather be enjoying at home what they do with me. I think they love and still desire their wives, but either time or other circumstances conspire to make it impossible for them to get what they need at home with the one they love. Truly, I do believe that most of the guys I see love and desire their wives. This morning, my husband, Fred, and I stole a few furtive moments -- the dogs were yelping in the background, the cat was mewling, and the phone was ringing. AND since we live on a llama farm, there were about a zillion flies buzzing and bugging us. Married sex ain't all it's cracked up to be. At the risk of putting off business, maybe I should suggest that married guys invest in a luxury hotel room once a month to get it done really right. ..c..

One reason why we shouldn't have "benefits" (unless we buy them ourselves) is because we're self-employed entrepreneurs. As such, we dont get the same benefits that the "employed" sheep do. (And yeah, they *buy* their own benefits too -- but their choices are limited.) Believe it or not, we have a freedom -- and also a level of responsibility -- that most salaried/wage-earning employees don't. God help us when prostitution becomes a wage paid or salaried job. That's just legalizing pimping!! It's bad enough that's encroached on every other level of society -- I dread the day it comes to us. ..c..

Surely the best of anything you'll ever enjoy is home-made -- whether that be wine or cuisine or l'amour. ..c..

I think prices simply go up and down with supply and demand. Whether you're an SP or a hobbyist, sometimes you're the windshield and sometimes you're the bug. I had lowered my prices last year and kept them down until recently when things just got so busy that it didn't make sense to offer a price incentive any longer. The secret is to get in with an SP when she's at a lower price and remain a regular in good standing with her -- that way, when she raises her rates, there's a good chance she'll value your business enough not to raise them for you. By good standing, I mean no unreasonable cancellations or no-shows, you usually don't go over your time, you always pay in full, etc. I have guys I've been seeing for more than a decade at very reasonable rates who got in this way with me. They're happy because they get a great rate; I'm happy because I have a decent customer who I can count on to see regularly and who never gives me any trouble. Everybody's happy. ..c..

Do you think Quest would be a good place for an agency to recuit? ..c..

This can happen to anyone these days. Unless you are a regular customer, I think you shouldn't count on having an appointment honoured until you see the whites of her eyes. The problem is that we SPs face the same thing. Some guy will phone up and say that he wants to come for 1 PM. He'll phone multiple times, ask 305 questions, yada yada -- but then 1 PM comes and goes, and he doesn't show. Meanwhile, the SP has turned down a half dozen other offers for that same time. Now, not only has she lost the money she might have made from that particular appointment, but she's lost any opportunity to sell it to someone else. Her time has been wasted. As CapitalGuy pointed out in another thread, this is something you guys do only occasionally, but we do every day. Imagine getting stood up a couple times a day? And unlike you, we're not doing this just for kicks -- we're trying to make a living, and we have expenses and overhead (advertising, incall location, phones, etc.) to cover before we even see any money for doing so. It can take some patience to get an appointment with someone who hasn't seen you before. Sometimes you get lucky and get it on the first try -- but sometimes it takes a couple tries. The better the escort, the more in demand she's going to be, so maybe you should try again. ..c..

CapitalGuy, I hear what you're saying and I believe it 100% when you describe the way guys feel walking into a situation. But we are actually not fearless ourselves! We have our concerns, and many of them are legal. Independent SPs feel very put on the spot when someone asks them on the phone or in e-mail if they'll commit to providing a sexual service. PLEASE don't do that to us! It puts us in the position of either having to compromise ourselves legally or lose the business. Independents tend to make their livings on repeat business (too much new business is just too nervewracking!), and so trust that once you meet the escort, she's going to work hard to ensure you'll want to come back. A dishonest person will tell you anything over the phone just to get your money -- but most honest escorts are highly uncomfortable hanging their butts so far over the legal line that way, because generally, we tend to be nice girls who've never been in any trouble. And we want to keep it that way! For an agent, such as Jessica, please be mindful of the fine line she has to walk with respect to the law. It won't serve anyone to expect her to hang herself out and risk getting busted -- to do so will simply run all the good agencies off and make it impossible for anyone but one who approaches running an agency the way a pimp approaches running a stable. I've worked for dozens of agencies and run a few over the years. Generally, a good agent will make every effort to convey constructive criticism and feedback to the escort in a way that will protect the anonymity of the person making the complaint -- even if it just happened yesterday! What would be her motivation to get the customer in trouble? The agent is on her OWN side -- and for that reason, she wants to help the escorts AND she wants to help the customers. The only time agencies turn on the customers is when the customer puts the agency in jeopardy in some way first -- such as threatening the entire agency over the irresponsible action of a single escort. For example, many times, I've heard of an escort ripping a customer off -- if the customer phones the agency to let them know, but doesn't hold them responsible, then probably the agent will get rid of the bad escort and will probably make it up to the customer, even though it wasn't their fault, just to ensure his return business. But if the customer screams that he's calling the police and demands that the agency give him the money that was stolen, then at that point, usually the agency has little choice but to view the customer as unreasonable and as a threat. Remember that you are going through an agent for *assistance* with connecting with an escort -- but you and the escort are ultimately responsible for what happens between the two of you. A good agent can go a long way to help you with providing feedback, and many (such as Jessica) view it in their best interest to make it up to customers whose experiences were less-than-satisfying. But be realistic about what the agent can and cannot control or be responsible for. Don't forget that we have our concerns too! ..c..

I checked it out. They don't allow professionals to promote themselves on there -- and although I know some do, it's not my style to violate the policy of a site, and so I didn't take any business off there. Mostly, I just wanted to see what it was about, and I figured if I connected with someone I felt comfortable with, who knows! We might end up being "friends with benefits" or maybe I'd find someone to make some video with me. But I found it to be a complete waste of time. I got swamped with hundreds of replies, but most of them just wanted to meet right away. ?? Obviously I couldn't meet with everyone -- if I met one a day, it would probably take me well over a year to meet them all. And I found that the guys who responded did little to distinguish themselves. Maybe in a format like that, there's little one can do to stand out. And then there was the site itself. It offers a free membership, but continually hounds you to upgrade. So I figure, fair is fair, they're trying to make a profit here -- so I upgrade to the Silver membership. Did that put an end to the hounding? No way! Then I was being hounded, every time I logged on, to upgrade to a higher level. Yeesh! It was really annoying! So I dunno. I'm lucky in that I'm happily married AND I'm an escort, so I would never have to be at the mercy of a site like this to find a playmate. There were probably a few guys on there that I might have clicked with, but under the circumstances -- between the avalanche of responses and the constant nagging by the site to buy more -- it was just too distracting to actually get to know anyone. ..c..

An agent actually provides services TO THE ESCORT -- not to the customer. Agencies take care of advertising, phone reception, reasonable security, etc. Some escorts are new to the business and don't yet know the ropes, so they find it safer and more practical to work through an agency than to try to be out there being an independent when they don't know what they're doing. Others may be more experienced, but maybe they're not full-time or maybe they simply prefer to pay someone else to handle the business side of things. Agents often have standards for who they'll represent -- for example, they're not going to risk their reputations on someone who's always late or shows up intoxicated or whatever -- but once the escort and the client meet, the agent really shouldn't have any say over anything that happens between two consenting adults. It's a legal issue, and guys need to understand this. (And yet, I know there are agencies who get right into the nitty gritty of what might happen in a session -- we won't be surprised when we see them up on charges one of these days!) Jessica is right. There's only so much she can do, as an agent. Technically, if you find the incall location unacceptable, you should comment directly to the escort -- after all, she's responsible for keeping it clean. But it's understandable that some guys would be too shy to do that, and one of the advantages of going through an agency is the customer can have the agent run a bit of interference with respect to feedback. I'm sure if someone were to say something right away, Jessica would make every effort to handle it diplomatically such that the escort didn't know exactly who made the complaint. (Which, let's face it, that's what some are worried about.) And in the longrun, an escort whose incall location results in continual negative comments (especially on boards!) might be dropped by the agent. After all, she has a responsibility to ALL the escorts she represents. If she allows one or two to bring her public image down with the customers, then she's not being fair to the other escorts she represents. So yes, feedback is important -- but be prompt, constructive, and don't slam the whole agency over something that's really the escort's responsibility. I've often wondered how much men actually care about the cleanliness of an incall location anyway. I've worked in the sleaziest massage parlours and in the ritziest hotels, and I've come to wonder if men are capable of appreciating good housekeeping when in a certain state of arousal. In fact, I think there is some small percentage who actually find a sleazy place a bit of a turn on. For me, though, lying down on freshly laundered sheets and having clean towels and washcloths makes me feel WAAAYYYYY sexier!

Technically, if they're going to use our content, then they should be paying us! But I've seen so many sites like this come and go -- no point suing 'em and no point trying to make them pay for content because they're not making any money anyway. This is usually a case of some little guy thinking he got a bright idea, but who actually doesn't have a clue. ..c..