Carole

I just wanted to say that I deleted my above post because I eventually figured it out. :D Thanks for PMing me about that, Mod! Carole

In my opinion, including more info in your initial contact is better than too little info. If the SP is pressed for time, she is more likely to respond to those guys that have given her enough info that she already feels comfortable in contacting them back and potentially meeting them. Makes sense, right? More info is also better because it weeds out potentially bad dates faster. Neither of you wants to get into a date and then find out that you aren't compatible together for whatever reason. Not enough info exchanged before the session can be the cause of misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations. I always suggest that you take a good look at an SP's website, if she has one, before trying to set up a date. It saves both of you time and potential aggravation if her ad looks great but her website goes into more detail and you decide that you'd be better off seeing someone else. Or from her website, you can tell that she offers exactly what you are looking for. Her website can also tell you more about her, what you can expect from her on a date and perhaps her expectations from you as well, rates, whether she does incall or outcall or both, and so on. Again, always check out her website before trying to set up a meeting. Also some ladies won't see young guys. In my personal experience, they tend to be too immature, too rough. So that might be working against you. Good spelling and grammar are good too. Signs of intelligence, good manners and humour are good too. You sound like a good guy. I think you'll start having better luck with the ladies now. Good luck! Carole ;)

Here are couple of suggestions: Maybe it's how you are contacting these girls that is putting them off. Are you sending one or two line PMs? A PM or email saying "I wanna meet you now" or "lets hookup" is less likely to get a response from me than a lengthier note that says "Hi, how are you? I am _____ and my handle on CERB is CrayonSnatcha. I saw your ad there. I also checked out your website and I really think we'd get along great. You are exactly what I am looking for (and explain what you liked about her, her services, etc.) Tell her when you'd like to set up a date and for how long, incall or outcall, what area if outcall, and what you were thinking you'd like to do on your date with her. Give her an email address or a phone number to contact you outside the board. -- Basically give her an idea of the person you are and how you'd like the date to go. Right now you are a board newbie with only a few posts, she doesn't know you from a hole in the ground. Give her some info and make her feel confident and comfortable in meeting with you. Are you trying to book for an appt. in 20 mins., for an hour from now, tomorrow or a few days in advance? Advance bookings get a better response because it gives her time to get the email or PM, decide whether she wants to contact you back based on the info you've already given her, or whether she'd like to send a few emails back and forth or talk to you on the phone for a bit before deciding that you'd make a good client or not. I hope those help you out. Good luck! Carole ;)

I'm curious as to how everyone likes to spend their long weekends or how are you planning to spend your time on this long weekend? Carole ;)

Hi Amber, I'm so sorry to hear your story. You didn't say how old your ex-b/f is but he sounds older than you, possibly by several years. That can also be a sign of control and immaturity in a guy. What I do know about him is he is an expert manipulator. Look at the situation from this perspective. If your best friend was telling you all of this, what is the advice that you would give her? You would tell her to get out, get out NOW and stay away from him. This man that you thought you loved, showed you incredible disrespect time and time again. Calling you names, calling you stupid, telling you that he was attracted to other women more than he was to you, telling you that he was having sex with other women, and so on, is just so disrespectful. A man that cares about you at all, will not do even one of these things to you, much less all of them. He treated you like a servant and a sex slave. He was nice to you until he felt he had your love and you were "hooked" on him and then his true abusive side started to show and just got worse over time. I agree with Mod that he could have wanted you to get pregnant because it is another way to control you but I bet the bigger reason is that he just wanted to have sex without a condom. Any boyfriend that I have ever had that talked about getting me pregnant or me having their baby, just wanted to have sex without a condom. I have never have sex without a condom and never will, (I don't want any nasty STIs or a baby either!) When they found out that they would never be able to have sex with me without a condom, the relationship didn't last long regardless of how much they said they loved me, wanted me, cared about me, complimented me, etc. BEFORE I made it very clear that no glove=no love. Once they understood that I meant what I said, their true natures started to show and I got out of those relationships fast. He has eroded your self esteem so much that you think that you aren't good enough to have a great boyfriend. He has made you feel so bad about yourself that you feel you aren't even worthy of a total loser like him. How crazy is that? Honey, you are so much better than him! You are such a great girl and you have so much to offer and so much love and support to give the RIGHT man. You need to stay away from the wrong man so you can heal and be ready when a good man comes along who is just right for you. Getting a makeover, a gym membership and expensive clothes will not make an abuser treat you better. I suspect that because you had a young child, he was the sole income earner and you had no money of your own to go out and buy new make up, get a nice new hairstyle at the salon and buy expensive new clothes anyway. A man like this will always find something to criticize about you no matter how thin and fabulous you are and look. Never saying "no" to your man in the bedroom is no guarantee that he won't stray either. I have clients that swear they love their wife, that she never says no to anything and yet he is still out there having sex with other women. A guy who won't be faithful, just won't be no matter what you do. I believe that you teach a man how to treat you. Never let a man put you down, swear at you or call you a name. If he does it once, warn him you will not tolerate being treated like that and if he disrespects you like that again, you will walk away and never look back. I make it clear in the early part of a relationship that I would never tolerate any kind of abuse and it has worked for me. If a man hurts you physically in any way, (a shove in anger, hair-pulling, throwing something at you, a slap, a punch, a kick, choking, pushing you down the stairs, forced sex, etc.) then call the police and charge him. Say it, mean it and most important of all DO IT! You can't make threats to leave or call the police and not follow through, otherwise he will know they are just empty threats and he can do whatever he wants. Now this also applies to you as well. If you don't want him to swear at you, to put you down, to call you names, to throw things at you, to slap you, to hit you, you also can't do any of these things to him. This is a two-way street. Respect must go both ways. Do not talk to this man again, refuse his phone calls, refuse his visits. Go to Legal Aid and get a free lawyer so you can get custody of your daughter. If you don't, your daughter will grow up thinking that this is how all women are treated in a relationship. She will be involved in abusive relationships herself all her life because that is all she knows. Stay away from this man for her sake if you won't do it for yourself. I also suggest some self-esteem classes or books and go even further to suggest taking some martial arts classes or self-defense classes. Even watch Dr. Phil or Oprah when they have abusive relationship shows on to see what others go through. Once you see yourself in those other woman being abused, I am sure that it will open your eyes like nothing else ever could. Remember what I said before, if your friend was in this situation, what advice would you tell her? If I can give you private morale support or advice, let me know. Best of luck to you. I hope you never put yourself or your daughter in this kind of situation again and from now on stay away from losers, hold out for the great guy that I know is out there looking for you too! Carole

WOW!!! I have just seen one of the trailers for Indiana Jones and the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull. It looks amazing!!! Who else is going to be lining up to see this one??? It's going to be fabulous!!! http://www.indianajones.com/site/?deeplink=videos/2/v35

I wanted to add that each lady is different. Some will travel, some won't. Some will charge an extra fee, some won't. You need to check each provider's website or contact them directly for correct and accurate information on what they will and won't do and how much they'll charge if they do. I hope this also helps! Hugs & kisses! Sassy & Classy Carole ;)

Hi there, I can't help you with who to chose since I'm actually from Calgary and I'm not familiar with the Toronto scene. I did want to suggest that you have a little more confidence in yourself and choose a different screen name for yourself such as goodguy, greatguy or funguy. I'm sure you are a really great guy and perhaps your screen name should reflect that. Good luck in your TO search! Hugs & kisses! Sassy and Classy Carole ;)

I am an SP in Calgary and I too am a non-smoker, drug-free and I only drink on rare occasions. I post it on my website. I post that info to let guys know what to expect from me and what I expect from them as well. My advice is to always read a lady's website thoroughly for information and if you can't find the info there, then ask her directly. Hugs & kisses! Sassy and Classy Carole ;)

Happy St. Patty's Day! Blessings and may the luck of the Irish be with you! Hugs & kisses! Sassy and Classy Carole

Thank you! :o Sometimes it's helpful to see a situation from a different viewpoint or to be offered some suggestions you may not have thought of on your own. I'm just glad that I've been helpful. Hugs & kisses! Carole ;)

Lol, Katia. Thanks, but I can speak for myself. I do offer daty (and kissing!) even if they have facial hair lol. Hugs & kisses! Sassy and Classy Carole ;)

Facial hair is very aging on a man and it isn't fun to kiss someone when their mustache is tickling your nose and you're fighting down a sneeze the whole time. It isn't fun to have nasty, sharp stubble scraping your delicate skin either. Please shave, gentlemen! (Above and below! lol) Hugs & kisses! Carole ;)

I forgot to suggest that you start using the bank machine for your cash withdrawls or start spreading your banking out at different branches of the same bank so you aren't visiting the same tellers all of the time. Although if they are like the bank tellers here, they are so busy and have so many customers that they don't have time and can't be bothered to keep track of who is withdrawing how much, how often and in what denomination of bills. I hope this helps. Hugs & kisses! Carole ;)

Is the way you are spending your money so different from spending it on season tickets to your favorite sports team? What do you have at the end of the season except some fond memories of some good times? You could say the same about spending your money on many types of expenditures: going to the movies, going on vacation, sporting events, spending money on a drink or two of alcohol every night, paying for cable or satellite tv, etc. What do you have to show for it at the end except that you enjoyed yourself at the time and you have some fond memories? If it really bothers you or is providing a financial hardship then you need to stop and if you can't stop on your own there are resources to help you. Good luck and please keep us informed on your situation. Hugs & kisses! Carole ;)