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Lets get back to the question being asked, what does the client want in a session with an SP. The ethics about being an RMT is something that Katrine understands and will sort out in the future. What do I want, and I will express this in terms of an older gentleman, number one I want a good massage, and nude or not I just like to relax and enjoy a good relaxing massage for I would say the first 60-70% of the time, maybe a little bit of chat. Sure, I've always liked hopping in the shower with the masseuse to start, great way to get acquainted, but then just lay back and enjoy. At the later part of the massage I don't need the continued simulation of a body slide, but a fairly progressive tease to finish. I like a lady that is comfortable with being touched and caressed during this part of the massage. Every once in a while I like to get her to get up on the table and I give her a real massage. Just a few ideas, it varies one lady to the next, one session to the next, and I guess that it would equate in SP terms to GFE.

This is part of the landscape for the ladies. Conditions vary, but the really important thing is that you give her appropriate notice that you are going to have to cancel. If it's last minute and she is going to miss business or she's made preparations for you then by all means reimburse her in some manner when you do get to see her. I sure wouldn't go as far as backrubman, especially with three days notice.

Don't be discouraged. The way to remedy the lack of civility is to lead by example. If we consistently and visibility do what is right others will notice and hopefully follow our lead.

I for one am quite comfortable with giving up personal information about myself. I find that it's really not necessary as most SP's I've dealt with trust me enough through the initial conversation and references I can provide, to not require that information. As I tend to repeat with the same ladies they do get to know who I am and I believe it leads to a better level of trust and more personal get together. I do like to make friends with the ladies and do expect a good degree of honest personal interaction, but am pragmatic enough to understand the limits of this type of relationship. I am fairly fortunate in that I'm widowed and don't have the concerns of many others in terms of secrecy. Most know that I can be called if they need. If you are careful with the liaisons you have, I think there are no real safety issues in terms of the information you give them. I think that those that are concerned and hide there identity are at far greater risk of having problems.

Credit for a session, no thanks. I only go out when I have the money in my pocket, or I'd probably double what I now spend.

My experience is that many web pages are only as good as the day they were put up. Many are not maintained on a regular basis. I quite agree with WIT that clients should be sensitive to the way in which they phases their questions. I know that if I am calling a provider for the first time, I like to have a bit of dialogue during the first call so that I can gauge the type person with whom I am considering a date. Rather than making assumptions and being disappointed, it's better to make sure to clarify the terms of the session.

I think you're pretty safe drinking the tap water in any of our large metropolitan areas. It's actually been found that many of the bottlers of water are taking it out of the municipal systems. That's the first I've heard about pets being affected by chlorinated water, I know that when I had pets there wasn't a problem.

Well done Berlin, I also think it's a tribute to the CBC to have her on to show, that there are many women working in the trade that aren't the usual stereo type portrayed in the media.

I'm not so sure it will be the answer, after all it's only an hour here and there. If that's all you were getting from the girlfriend then maybe. The other thing you have to consider, it might take quite a number of dates to find the right "therapist", the one with the skills that suit your needs.

This show was distorted in a number of ways, but I think there were a number of positive aspects to the story. This wasn't meant to be a comprehensive report on the industry. The thrust of the police actions was an emphasis on two things, one to get to the underage girls and offer them some support, and two to concentrate on getting at the pimps who were controlling the girls through drugs and intimidation. During one of the raids at a hotel, the girl was alone and once they determined that she was there of her own free will, they gave her their card so that she could call for support if necessary, and left so she could do her business. There was one incident that horrified me. The girl being interviewed related how her pimp had heated up a curling iron and put it up her vagina, and then once she was able sent her out to work again. As I can't understand such cruelty, I applaud the police for going after these leaches.

Actually the highlight of the WE. Great priceline bid accepted, airline standby tickets, and a trip to Toronto to see all the shiny new toys at the auto show.

I tend to prefer the independent over the spa as rule, but am comfortable in both. I like Cleos response, in that she can set an all in fee ahead of time. I've never liked the idea of two different fees. Many times the tip is negotiated later in the in the session and can be an unwelcome interruption. As I have a reasonable idea about what is fair and I'm not too cheap I usually just make an offer which is usually acceptable. Luckily I like to repeat which solves that problem. One other reason I like to see independents is that I like to see the provider get all the money, without having a part of what I've just spent going to the spa owner. This may be misguided in that the independent could have her own overhead costs and I'm sure the spas do provide services to their girls.

I think if you see reputable MA's either independent or at a spa there is next to no chance of being arrested, but no one can give you a 100% guarantee. Getting arrested is something you bring on yourself by putting yourself in a vulnerable position, like picking a lady up off the street or dealing with under age girls. Be careful and you'll be fine.

Mistakes happen, and you did get on the phone right away to apologize. You have a good rep, so I'm betting he'll be making another appointment. I'm sure you'll be making his next date as memorable as possible in the way of making up.

I think it's the difference is between a recommendation and a review. If it's someone that's new I on many occasions will check other sites as there may be some negatives that would not be permissible here. This is particularly true when the provider is new or has a limited presence on CERB. I am pretty easy and a long time member of the board, but on one instance burned by one lady on this board, and it's pretty hard to express that feeling except through PM. I know that other boards can be very blunt and at times outright nasty, but as a provider if you provide good service it really doesn't matter where the reviews or recommendations appear.

This sort of thing is only really an issue at the spas. I think if you've been around for a while you know pretty well what the range is, and it's really dependent on what you want from the session. I see one provider where there is no nudity, and I continue to see her because she gives a real good massage and understands how to give a superlative release. Others I expect a shower, body contact and some pretty liberal touching. If you can talk to the provider, ask for an all in fee. Also I always carry a few extra bucks in case she wants more than I expect, her loss because I won't repeat. And my last thought, lots of times I don't ask, and generally they are quite happy with what's laid down on the table at the end of the session. Try not too be too cheap and you'll have a great time.

On seeing the subject line I reached a different idea than what I found when opened, thought it was going to be a really lively thread. Expecting a virgin looking to have his cherry copped. LOL

It is many years since I entered this life style. At the time I was married, but I also was very careful and knew what the risks were and that there were major consequences if found out. I think my wife as all women probably have their suspicions. In fact at one point she informed me that she would take the kids and leave if she caught me messing around After that I was very careful and limited my stepping out. I suppose I did regret that I had indeed strayed and now had a taste for a little variety. Now, since my wife has died a site like CERB is a great resource, and I've met many nice people both Socially and professionally.

I am an older person, and unfortunately I find that generally what were considered common courtesies 25-30 years ago are no longer the norm. Thanking someone, opening doors, giving up your seat on the bus, and taking off your hat when appropriate shouldn't be the exception. There's an ad on the tube at the moment of a man offering a pregnant lady his seat on the subway, and they speak in very loud voices to illustrate the point that there needs to be more civility in our society. Another way to give and get a great deal of satisfaction is to volunteer. I do a lot of it because I have the time and inclination. But, many organizations are begging for people to help out. I think that it's an indictment of society when we have to require our high school students to so many hours before they can graduate, when they should have learned how to do this at home. One last comment, but very personal for me, one way to do a good deed and really help others is by donating blood, or signing the organ donation part of your drivers license. My wife had a cancer that required may transfusions, and bone marrow transplants. Although unsuccessful I always felt indebted to the donor community. Sorry for getting a little mouthy for a fairly light thread, but had to be said.

Soft lighting works for me, using all ones senses during an encounter including that of admiring a ladies body is arousing. I suppose if you are presented with the situation from the initial post one would have to persuade the other partner to compromise. Concentrate on her needs and giving her good sex and maybe she'll go with a single candle or night light to start.

I believe JodyWild is also in this area.

It's good to remind us now and then. I tend to be fairly gentle, but I am 200+ so It's easy to see how I might inadvertently cause discomfort. We need to remember that your body is one of your most important assets,and we should treat it with care.

I was with a fairly open minded lady, and we had reversed roles and I was giving her a massage. Anyway she was fairly excited, so the next thing I hear is put your finger up my but. She's very clean so i quite happily did as I was told, it was a really hot experience.

A while back I remember listening to a CBC debate on whether the term sex addiction was in fact a disease. I did a quick search and came up with the link, take a listen and you decide. http://www.cbc.ca/q/blog/modern_love/2011/12/15/is-sex-addiction-real/

I wouldn't necessarily conclude that more money leads to a better experience. Price is a rather nebulous concept, it's simply an agreement between two parties on the price of a good or service. An analogy would be the car industry, some people are quite happy buying an econo box, it can provide good transportation but isn't terribly stylish or have many options. Mid range provides more comfort with style and more options. And then you have people who have Cadillac tastes, it providing status and all the comforts. As a hobbyist, I've tried all the options over the years, but usually stick with the mid range. But, when I am a little randy the economy model works out quite nicely and fills my needs. Once in a while if I'm really taken with a women I might splurge on a high end model. Each satisfactorily fulfills the need at the time and how I feel.