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I've probably asked this question before but the answer always escapes me every year. Are Ottawa clubs (Specifically BF and/or PM) following their usual weekday daytime hours on Monday? Posted via Mobile Device

These types of incidents are known to happen at pretty much any night club (stripclub or otherwise) on peak nights (Friday and Saturday). That being said, I've been a pretty regular visitor of Barefax for years now and I've never heard of this type of thing happening on a Wednesday, let alone as early as 6:30pm. If I had to guess I'd say this was a fluke occurrence, and would have been just as likely to happen at any club. Even Playmate had to eject some people after a fight broke out at their Christmas party this year. And back when I was a frequent visitor of Barb's I saw similar incidents go down at night time. It shouldn't be seen as a reflection of Barefax or its staff IMO. You get enough drunk people together in any enclosed location, these things will occasionally happen. I think you can still go to Barefax on a weekday day time or early evening and not worry about getting shot or stabbed, at least no more than at any other day time stripclub.

COF is something I VERY much enjoy doing....and I'd be lying if I said there wasn't a certain "dominance" factor that goes into the appeal of it. It's not the entire appeal but it is a part of it. However I personally don't feel that "dominant" should automatically imply "disrespect". Not in the least. I think that's where some people may get that distinction confused which leads to the mistaken impression that it is disrespectful. I have never once felt disrespect for any of the ladies I have partaken this with. I have developed friendships with many of the ladies I have performed COF with, whether it be in my civilian life or as part of this lifestyle, and have even remained friends with a few ladies after they have left the lifestyle. I have nothing BUT respect for them. Certain sexual positions (K9, CG, etc) can also be seen as being dominant as it puts the doer in control...it puts either the lady or gentleman both figuratively and literally "on top". Does that automatically make those positions disrespectful? Or even dirty talking can sometimes take a dominant turn...if agreed upon and enjoyed by both, is it disrespectful? I don't partake in full on BDSM so I can't say for certain but I'm pretty sure a good Dom doesn't feel disrespect towards their Sub. That may be implied throughout their acts/playtime but that is part of the fantasy. Just another example of how dominant does not automatically mean disrespectful. And I can't speak for why some ladies enjoy COF, but as Ice4Fun stated, I love getting my face soaked while pleasuring a lady. Mostly because it is an indication to me that she is enjoying herself. but it also fills me with a sense of accomplishment and "Wow! Look what I can do!". Or it could be as simple as this. COF is a rather naughty act and some people just like feeling naughty. I think the only time it becomes disrespectful is if it is not previously discussed and agreed upon. Whether it be discussed beforehand or something that is requested by the gent (or even the lady!) in the heat of the moment, you need permission. The "surprise facial" (if done on purpose) is VERY disrespectful...I would even go so far as to consider it assault.

Can anyone (ladies or gents) recommend a good portable stripper pole that can be easily set up and taken down again for when I am hosting a lady who is so inclined? Just refurnished my living room and there is a now big open space in front of my sofa...and I said to myself.."This space is missing something. Ah HA! Stripper pole!" ;)

And there generally isn't any cover charge to enter the club during the day.

Staying up all night trying different home remedies you found on youtube for the mother of all toothaches.

For the record, I never use the term "menu" when contacting a SP. I used it for the purpose of this thread because the restrictions put onto this site have limited the terms I can use....and also because it's the term most often used by ladies in their disclaimers...but I agree that it's in very bad taste to use it when referring to a woman's time and services. Thanks everyone for your feedback so far!

Over time I've seen a few posts, tweets, etc from different ladies essentially stating "If you ask me for a menu, you won't be spending time with me." Here's my thing....without going into details I have a physical restriction which prevents me from engaging in all the activities one normally comes to expect from seeing an escort. And it limits me to only participating in certain activities. Rest assured they are considered "safe" activities by most SP's, but not all SP's provide them. Also, a big reason I participate in this lifestyle is to live out certain fantasies and fetishes I have that a lot of "civilian" girlfriends may not go for. Again, they are "safe" fetishes and fantasies, I'm pretty vanilla lol, but still not things that every single escort provides. Hence, if I need to I will inquire beforehand if those services and/or activities are available. I do respect a lady's right to personal boundaries...which is why I ask beforehand....but given my own restrictions and fantasies, if I show up without first inquiring only to find out that what I had in mind is not available, not only will I have wasted my own time but the lady's as well. Often times a lady's ad and/or photos will grab my attention but then a disclaimer of "don't ask me for menu items" prevents me from contacting them. So to the ladies who have issues with being asked for menus, I pose this question to you: Is there a difference between "asking for a menu" and inquiring about a specific service or services? I understand that inquiring in a rude or disrespectful manner is one thing...but if I inquire in a respectful and polite manner (which I like to think I do) if X or Y service is available, will that also automatically get me blacklisted as someone who "asks for a menu"? I totally respect a woman's right to determine how she is approached or contacted, but I guess I'm just looking for clarification on what is considered "asking for a menu". The language used in this lifestyle is often open to interpretation.

A few too many lap dances. What? Well it was!

Getting ready to sit down with a Jack and Coke and watch the live feed of Ian Fraser (Lemmy) Kilmister's memorial service :( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSAXVdIj6jY

Yup. I just came back from the Fax and she was there. Sadly she was occupied with another client and I had to leave before having the opportunity to take her upstairs

I'll be spending a day or two in Montreal next month (Black Sabbath!) and was hoping to see a lady (or two ;) ) during my stay at the Marriott downtown, across from the Bell Centre. This will be my first time hosting an outcall at a hotel instead of my residence, so my question is this: I often hear about hotels being referred to as "SP friendly" or not. Is this something that only SP's using the hotel for incalls have to worry about? As a gentleman using it for an outcall, do I need to concern myself with whether or not it is a "SP friendly" hotel? Assuming the lady in question arrives dressed discretely...how would they even know a SP is visiting me? And is the Marriott SP friendly in that regard? Thanks a bunch!

Deathgasm! Horror-comedy from New Zealand. All I'm gonna say is that a wide selection of various sex toys is apparently a very effective weapon against demons. Also, "He Never Died" starring Henry Rollins in his first ever leading roll. And he owns it. I won't post the trailer because it spoils too much, but it's awesome. Canadian horror(ish)/comedy....and the humor in it is wonderfully dry. My favorite kind of humor. Very quirky little movie.

My thoughts exactly. I don't pretend to know if we've ever actually been visited or not, but there is no way we are the only intelligent civilization in the universe. It seems kind of egotistical to assume that our little speck of dust is that special. Not to mention depressing...on the whole our species is pretty much ready for the short bus.....so if we're all there is....man, that's one discouraging thought right there. The term "Alien civilizations" always seems to imply beings who are far more advanced than we are, but that's a notion created by science fiction...which is why I'm not convinced that we've ever been visited. But I am convinced that there are other planets out there with people not unlike ourselves probably wondering the same things we are.

Was in there earlier this evening (Saturday) and had a few dances with Delicious and Candy but the highlight of the evening for me was Bianka. She mentioned she's been working there for years so I'm kind of surprised there hasn't been more discussion of her in this thread (unless I'm getting here name wrong). Slim, Quebecois, brunette with small natural breasts. Very hot and sensual time in the CR and I'm not sure if it can be chalked up to chemistry or not but she seemed to legitimately be getting turned on, either that or she deserves an Oscar. (I've spent more time in strip clubs than is probably wise so I can usually tell the difference ;) ).

That right there is why I don't attend strip clubs at night (especially Friday or Saturday nights.) This kind of thing (or worst) happens way too often. I'm strictly a daytime SC guy.

Came in out of the cold today and finally had a few songs with Emily who did a pretty damn good job warming me up. I've been seeing here there for a long time now but never had any dances with her before today. Very well spoken, seems pretty intelligent with a good head on her shoulders. I found her to be very friendly, fun to talk to and quite a bit of fun in the CR (within the usual SC boundaries). I'll definitely be seeing her again. After Emily sufficiently got my motor revving I finished off the visit with the insatiable Sally. While I was there I saw a few new faces which piqued my interest (At least they were new to me). - A short, petite, very cute and exotic girl with small natural breasts named Joy. She approached me and seemed very sweet and personable but I was waiting for Sally. But she'll be someone I'll be keeping an eye out for in future visits. - And a tall, "alternative" looking girl named Karma. Long, curly, dyed red hair, thin, again with small natural breasts. I'm not sure if she's the same Karma alpharise mentioned since she didn't have glasses. I didn't get a chance to interact with her at all, I only saw her from the stage. But she had a certain something about her which really got my attention. Anyone had any experiences with either of these 2 ladies?

I echo a lot of the previous sentiments. If you go to PM during the daytime or early in the evening on weekends (anywhere between 4 to 8pm-ish) than you should feel perfectly safe despite the neighborhood. I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel in that neighborhood at night though. And as for the club itself, the staff is all top notch from what I've seen and the dancers all seem to get along well with no internal drama. If you go during the times that I've suggested than you'll find the club to have a very "chill" homestyle atmosphere. I can't speak for the night time atmosphere as I never frequent any club during those times.

Same here. I plan on taking advantage of a few days off of work to go during the daytime at least once this week. Haven't been there in a few years either so I have no idea who is working there now.

Yes I know the title of this thread is contradictory lol. But without revealing any spoilers about season 3, can anyone tell me if the series ended on a cliffhanger or not? Or did it have a satisfying conclusion? It's my favorite show on tv right now but I'm wary of checking out the new season if it ends in a frustrating cliffhanger the way the last 2 seasons did. Especially now that I know that there won't be a season 4.

Mary Reilly. John Malkovich playing Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, told from the POV of one of his servants (Julia Roberts). Truly underrated flick IMO

Finding out that Hannibal has been cancelled! That was my fave show on tv! :icon_mad:

Casual Friday at work. So I decide to wear some loose fitting cotton shorts. Get halfway to work when I realize that in my usual morning rush I forgot to put on underwear. Let's just say there's not much being left to the imagination.....especially when the wind picks up...Looks like I'm gonna be spending the day thinking up strategic ways to sit, stand and walk. Posted via Mobile Device

Good to know. I didn't realize she worked weekends too. Thanks!

How are Saturday days at BF these days? I remember it being nothing to write home to Mom about but it's probably been over 5 years since I was there on a Saturday but was thinking of checking it out tomorrow in the early afternoon. Anyone have any suggestions of dancers to keep an eye out for? Additional Comments: Yes she did. I saw her at PM today and she is indeed the same Ashley who was at BF way back in the day, then at Barbs for a few years.