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Hello there, I think it's a shame that there is nothing under Vancouver massage discussions:) So, why not start a thread about customers' preferences. I have been giving massages for over a decade and have my routine, but I believe that if you want to be good at something you should never stop learning. These are questions to customers who like to get erotic massages or are interested in getting one in future. Because I am located in Vancouver, I am interested mainly in the opinions of the local guys, but if you are not from here, please feel free to give your opinions. These are some of the questions I would like you to answer. 1. do you prefer to go to a massage parlour or to see an independent masseuse, and why? 2. do you prefer massage oil, powder, and which kind? (I use a body cream, because I found oil too messy.) 3. what kind of finish would you prefer? Handjob? Blowjob? Full service? (this won't change the fact that I provide handjob only, just curious) and why? 4. do you prefer music or silence? and what kind of music, if this is your choice? 5. do you like candles? 6. do you prefer a nice chat with the masseuse or want her to be silent? 7. do you prefer a bubbly personality or should she be more businesslike? 8. do you want to touch and if so, where? 9. is there anything in particular that has bothered you during massages in the past? elaborate :) 10. what part of the massage is more important for you? Deep massage or the erotic part? 11. How long do you want the handjob last? 12. How do you like your penis being touched? Is there a certain part that is too sensitive? How about the balls? 13. After ejaculating, do you want her to continue or to stop? 14. is there anything in particular that is a major turn-off for you before, during or after the massage? I guess this will be enough for now :) Thanks for your contribution.

Hi Brandi, I think it was very wise of you not to go. You live in a relatively small town and show your face in your ads. ;) But it is the intention that counts and it is nice of you to care. just my 2 cents

Hi Young Stud, It is big of you to apologize. :) As I said, it has always been easy for me to remember the spelling of words, and I can say without bragging that I am pretty good when it comes to languages, but I have never looked down on those who don't have the same gift. There are other talents I will never have, no matter how hard I try. Everybody is different. Not very long ago people judged those who were left-handed, gay, dyslexic or otherwise different. I will neve forget a documentary about a young girl who had a disorder, I can't remember the name of, but she had involuntary movements and uttered strange noises when she tried to talk. At first glance, she made the impression of a mentally handicapped person. After she was given a device with the help of which she was able to type words and communicate her thoughts, it turned out that she is highly intelligent and she just got her university degree. Judging without trying to understand is not only wrong, but it can be very cruel. If we are good at something we should be grateful and shouldn't judge others.

True. But, no reason to worry. Nobody would believe us :)

I am so happy for you:) It is so sad that most women outside of this business are convinced, when they reach a certain age everything is "over". It is like they are throwing away everything and give up hope. Sometimes I try to tell them it is not so, there are guys who would desire them, but of course I can't tell how do I know...:) And thinking you are not desirable is a downward spiral, because it makes women let themselves go. I do blame the magazines for spreading the myth that unless you are young and flawless there is something wrong with you. They are selling the cosmetics and destroy women's self-esteem.

I am all for legalizing independent escorts and honest escort services, but at the same time a serious effort should be made to eliminate human trafficking. In Europe where prostitution is legal, trafficking is rampant.

Well, it's time for a visit ;)

You are pretty, you would look great in the magazine :)

Oh, thanks sweetie, this is nice of you :)

I heard this so many times :)

Babylon is a great little software. You can keep it on the desktop and look up any word or expression or use it to translate from/into other languages. Just place the mouse on top of a word and push a button. If you misspell something it asks you 'did you mean ....?' and gives you the proper spelling. Wordweb is also pretty good and free. It gives you also synonyms, antonyms and examples.

I know where mod is coming from. :) Logical people don't want to stop their train of thought and stop to think about which form of its/it's is correct in a certain sentence. It disrupts their attention and it is hard for them to get back on track again. They are like: 'you know what I mean, what's the fuss?' Having said that, I, too, notice these mistakes, but only because I am not sure of my English and want to double check if I am right.

Actually, I have a trick. Ever since I started learning English as a kid, when I see a new word I pronounce it phonetically, like it would be written in my language, and that way it is relatively easy to recall when I need it :) I feel sorry for the kids here. They have no such crutch to rely on.

Allow me to chime in on this issue. Not because I want to contradict, but because I would like you to take a look at it from a different point of view. English is my third language and spelling has always been easy for me in any language. Grammar is a different story, but let's not change the subject ;) In my native language, we have what you call "phonetic" spelling. Meaning that you spell everything exactly the way you say it. All you have to do is to learn a few simple rules and you can spell any word. You can't imagine what a difference this can make for a student. No spelling bees, no desperation for kids with no special talent for remembering strings of seemingly illogical consonants and vowels :) In Italian, for example the sound "ee" is always, without an exception is spelled as "i". In English it can be spelled "ea", "i", "ee", "ie".... let me know if I forgot something :) I don't know why the English spelling is so complicated. I am sure it must have had a reason hundreds of years ago, but today the whole thing is unnecessary. I think - especially because we are heading towards globalization, and it looks like English is going to be the common language - the spelling should be reformed, and I am sure it will be sometime in the future. Yes, when I see abbreviations like "U" instead of "you" I get the picture of a teenager with an ipod in his ears, but I can't blame the people who do that. Everybody does a lot of typing nowadays, and I think it is only natural that people want to say more with less effort :) Yes, traditions are beautiful, but sometimes they have to give way to modernization and progress.

Thanks everybody for the input :) If we can go by the poll, looks like most guys are not looking exclusively for young girls/women. This is good news ;) I am just wondering how far does this interest go? Let's say there was a Playboy-like magazine about women over 40+ or 50+, with "normal" older women, no excessive Photoshop, not much botox or plastic surgery. With other words, normal, nice looking older women naked. Can you imagine buying that magazine and masturbate to the pictures? Or, let's assume there was an escort board for women over 50, would you go there looking for actual dates, or would you just look at it as entertainment, but would never consider seeing them? I can't see any such magazine or escort board, and the online porn about older women is more like a freak-show, at least the ones I came across. And the million dollar question: :) If there is so much interest in older ladies, why is the whole escort and porn industry geared toward flawless, pretty young women? (I apologize if any of these questions are too personal and puts you on the spot, feel free not to answer them:))

Sorry, I missed that :(

Thanks everybody for the input :) I guess I just wanted to know what the average guy's opinion is on this.

True, but one of my young customers said if he told his friends he likes older women they would think he is weird :)

When I started out in this business about ten years ago I thought I was too old for it. But here I am ten years later, doing the same job (erotic massage) loving it and having no problems attracting customers. Honestly, in the beginning I thought I will only attract people who can't afford to see the "really pretty" young girls, but as time went by I realized that men are not always attracted to perfect young beauties. Many customers tell me they prefer older ladies. Many of them are very young; they could be my sons, but, interestingly, I don't feel bad about seeing them. Their enthusiasm is so genuine that it puts me at ease. I have young customers who have been coming to see me for years. They say they are not interested in girls their age. Some of my customers have childhood fantasies about a sexy aunt, teacher or neighbour and tell me I remind them of those ladies. I was wondering how does the average guy think about this? I am sure these men, especially the young ones, don't share their thoughts with their peers. It is taboo to find an older woman sexy, but everybody understands the enthusiasm for sexy young girls. I am wondering, are these customers of mine exceptions or is it true that a large percentage of men are attracted to women a lot older than them? The poll is anonymous, so you can be honest ;)

I personally don't like to give discounts. My prices are reasonable and it is true that - especially if it is done in an impolite way - it can be offending. Having said that, I do have long time regulars who asked for a price reduction and they got it, partially because they are good, reliable customers, partially because they never stay the whole hour or half hour, so lowering my prices doesn't make me feel being taken advantage of. What ticks me off, are obviously very wealthy people who are stingy. Dressed in Versace from head-to-toe, wearing a Rolex watch and asking me to take off my panties for them, and when I tell them I charge for that extra service they are not interested anymore:) 35 year old guy telling me he is retired living on the Cayman Islands for tax purposes and not leaving a penny tip when leaving, after I worked my butt off on his poor, golf-damaged back :) Don't get me wrong, I don't expect tips, but for a guy like this, $20 is nothing. On the other hand I have regular guys who work in customer service or other bad paying jobs and they still save up to see me. That makes me feel good and sometimes I do a little extra for them to show my appreciation. But unfortunately, you can't change your prices for every customer :)

Thanks, I just learned something :) All I know is that for us everything East of Manitoba is 'Back East'. :)

Hello Bethany, Thank you for your nice words:) It could be the fact that I openly advertise this as a service... Some of my regular HJ customers after they found my website started asking for it. At first my clients offered me extra for prostate massage, so I just added it as a service and included the usual tip I used to get. Well, I am no expert either. But I think we women know instinctively how we want to be touched and penetrated.... Dry vagina and forceful entry equals pain and is no fun lol Honestly, I get many times the "Is this what women feel like while having sex?" question. I would say, it must be close LOL So, guys, if not for any other reason, you should try it as a social study...:) (kidding.) It is good to have different sizes. Same here. I tried domination, but found it too complicated. Every sub is different and they are reluctant to tell you what they want. I still have simple cases like spanking only, etc. But I don't dress up and don't do role play. Thanks, and same here. Whenever you visit Vancouver let me know and I will show you around and we can talk shop:) Actually, I've never been back East and I am thinking of taking a trip, maybe this summer, Toronto, Ottawa, Montreal, Quebec City, New York. Not necessarily all of it or in this order... xoxo Anita

Thank you very much, especially for the condo part LOL Feel free to contact me for an appointment whenever you visit Vancouver! :)

Thank you for the warm welcome :)

Oh, I just realized this discussion is for Ottawa. Am I still allowed to post here?