Nicolette Vaughn

Yes, I will miss my sundresses with the eye popping cleavage but then again that's what the carribean is for during the winter where I can wear those clothes again.

Congrats gorgeous! Thanks for being such a great contributor to Cerb.

Both your brother and sister living with you since they are both out of long term relationships at the same.. oh the irony! I'm trying to readjust to living with them like when we were younger. Two things I'm not used to... beer after work ( I hate beer!) and cigarette smoking outside. Good thing I work at another location. Damn! I want my house back! lol. Just a few more weeks..Thankfully they help out around the house and with bills..The things youi will do for family!

Watched a roast on the comedy channel for Roseanne Barr. I love her. I got to meet her briefly one time in Toronto when she was on a standup tour. Funny woman!

My sister who is staying with me for a while remembered the horrible nickname I used to call her when she drank too much the other night. It was a night of revelations and stuff we had totally forgotten about. Hahaha! Now i have been teasing her about it since then. I was so mean to her as a kid. Sucks to be her right now. lol.

Congrats Emily! Thank-you for contributing to Cerb.

I realized my second oldest cat is dying ( he's 16) and now spending as much time with me as he can by following me everywhere in the house and crying at my bedroom door every night to let him in so he can sleep on my bed. He has slowed down gradually over the last few months and will have the same fate as his brother from the same litter who passed away from old age back in late January. He is modelling the same behaviours as my first cat who became very clingy, slowed down almost overnight it seemed and then died 2 months later. Cats instinctively know it's just a matter of time and I have regrets from the first cat because at first I didn't realize why he was acting that way until months later when he realized it was time to go and died peacefully in my arms one night as I craddled him. It's sad but I know they both had a good life and I took very good care of them and still do with my eldest cat and my younger cat who will be the only one left out of the three. Fortunately, he is not suffering from any illness and I'm glad he is still here and that I can still spend time with him as I consider my pets part of my family.

RG's quiz proves 3 things.... people can only be seen and judged a certain way by outward appearances only, no one is perfect and everyone has their demons, a past, dysfunction and guilt that haunts them.

Betty Grable.. one of the earlier pinup girls.

I think if you are offering 1 hour plus sessions, I don't think a known loyalty program would be the way to go. I could see it being successful for half hour appts because if you look at your target market, if a person sees you for an hour, you know they are not into quickie type sessions. They have more of a vested interest in spending time with you and therefore it becomes a mutual business relationship. Saving money may not necessarily be an issue for them even if you were to extend some type of reward for them. I don't think they would necessarily expect some type of reward. If it were me, I would be generous in maybe spending some extra time with them to thank them for their business. I do think this type of rewards program would work for half hour sessions. This is a separate market as opposed to the hour or multiple hour customers. There IS a difference in those looking for a quicker session whether it's due to the time or limited amount of time, type of experience they seek out as well as their budget. And I'm not knocking half hour appts or men who visit SPs who offer them because I also offer them and in the past I only offered a minimum of one hour appts so I have been on both sides of the fence. I could definitely see half hour clients enjoying this loyalty type program. I have many regular half hour clients and I see them more than once a month or every 2 weeks and visits add up eventually. Giving a free session after a certain amount of visits would also not take a lot of time out of an SP's schedule and it would also depend on after how many visits would they receive a free session. It is ultimately up to you to decide but I would be a bit more subtle about it given the type of clientele you're attracting. Also take into consideration how often clients visit and what would be the premise for giving them a free session. If you have a fair amount of clients, offering free sessions may end up costing you in the end. IMO, offer some extra time to your favorite clients who have been good to you or do something special for them when they visit. It is always the thought that counts and as Maya Angelou once said, "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel." It would be at your discretion and then everyone is not expecting it. Word often travels fast in this business and if you see someone once and you're not crazy about seeing them again and they know about this program, it could backfire. Not all clients but I'm sure a small number may try to get a free session in a roundabout way or complaining. I'm not saying this would always be the case but all it takes is one customer to turn a good thing into a nightmare. Most regular clients that SPs see are great to spend time with which is why they become regulars but a loyalty program for customers is something you would have to be on top of all the time.

I realized my hair is almost to my waist!

Happy Birthday MrNice2!

Convincing my athletic tomboy sister to let me dress her up, wear a pair of high heels and do her makeup before she went out last night. She woke up in a good mood thanking me this morning as she was hit on all last night with guys buying her drinks all night long. ;).

I have not been on the receiving end of nasty emails from wives very much but I can tell you is that you cannot accept this lying down. You are someone who is an offering a service, an outside party who does not judge nor are you biased. He is seeking you out and you have no control over what someone else's husband does or doesn't do. I also don't them threaten, intimidate, or go on some sort of verbal rampage. Otherwise I just hang up if a mature woman cannot be civil. I have let these wives know this and also remind them that there are other reasons why their husbands are contacting other women and perhaps it's best the speak with their spouses to find out why. I do not let someone else blame me for THEIR problems. Afterall, I am only offering a service that does not entail anything emotional and therefore I am a neutral party. With a response like that, the onus is now on these wives to find out what is happening or should I say lacking in their marriage.

I had one guy say to me last week looking at his watch, "Well, I was here for 28 minutes, how about going one more round?" With 2 minutes left are you kidding me? Were you looking at your clock while doing it? Haha. And by the time he stopped complaining about it being only 28 minutes, the time was up. How about I alarm my clock and the buzzer goes off as soon as the person finishes to completion? What a way to kill the mood whether it's the SP or client doing it. For many guys who partake in seeing women in this business, anything to do with time or companionship or just seeking out some company in general along with a good roll in the hay has completely gone out the window. Now many ladies are seen more than ever as a mechanical machine for oral sex or a blowup doll. Or some are just so fixated on a specific act that they just want to focus on that and they're done. It's all so impersonal. In and out you go. I think next time I will only accept the "Love you long time" half hour plus type clients. I can offer a very good GFE session in a half hour or more and if one thinks they can get a gfe in under 20 mins, they are deluding themselves. If someone wants to treat me like a blowup doll "No GFE for you!"

Do some people have rocks in their heads? To approach someone while with their family whether it's an SP or a client? Seriously? If this were me, smoke would be coming out of my ears, I would be furious. When you stupidly approach an SP like this, you don't know how they will respond to you whether it's through words or actions. Good or bad. And I'm thinking it won't be a very good scene. Please respect a person's privacy if they are SP or client. Imagine an SP coming up to you with your wife present saying how they had a good time in the sack with you last week. I think the divorce lawyer would be ready to be programmed onto the wife's speed dial. I'm still shaking my head.

Best thing is to recognize the signs of this behaviour upfront. I've had many clients who seemed infautated or obsessed with me and some of them I just didn't trust. So I stopped seeing them. I'll post more on this later..

I'd be okay with that as long as the person doesn't have a 5 o'clock shadow. Not a nice feeling!

Do you think your incall partner would like to come and play with us? First of all, most times she is not there and sure no problem but only if you're willing to pay her for her time. Busy today? Can I be your first appt of the day? Why? Is there a lineup outside? lol Do you have any STDs?

I'm not a guy and I know you've made your decision but here's my advice from someone who is very acquainted with this industry or other ladies attempting to make the same choice strictly from wanting someone else to manage their business for them. I'm not referring to new SPs looking to be hired by an agency. Most girls go to agencies when they are new in the business to get a grasp on things and most often branch out or quit based on their short term or long term goals. Being an independent SP means you are working for yourself. Only you have to answer for yourself. If you don't want to work, you don't have to work. You also accept the consequences for what you do or don't do. Work for someone else and you have to cater to the fact that they also want to make money and sometimes although an agency may have the best of intentions for the ladies that work for them, at the end of the day it's a numbers and dollar equation. Sorry but that's the bottom line. Although they are there to manage things for you or say they will protect you, is the booking agent going to think someone is creepy? Or because he/she doesn't think they sound bad doesn't mean they won't be. Those people aren't there on that appt when things go wrong. I worked for an agency for 2 months and said screw it. I had more bad appts and was put in bad situations than I was ever was on my own out of my whole entire SP career. And no I'm not critisizing agencies as a whole as there are plenty of good ones but there are also bad ones with pimp like tactics. As an independent, I chose who I wanted to see and I would go with my gut instinct especially when I spoke to clients on the phone. If something sounded off from their tone of voice or the questions they asked me, those alarm bells go off instantly. Intuition is your right hand man or I should woman in this industry. One bad client can ruin it all. No one else can save you in these situations in time except when you use your own judgement from the get go. Yes, handling all these things such as phonecalls, emails, annoying emails, emails/calls from nice clients to pricks or even just in general can be a pain in the ass when we are trying to live our lives outside the business, make money and pay our bills. I've done it all but it comes with the territory. I just accept it for what it is and it gives you pretty good business skills that will help you in the future when dealing with people and different situations. It's all about multi tasking and doing it with ease without being stressed out. Best of luck to you!

Can I ask you something? Are you doing research or writing a book? Just curious.;)

I may be in the minority here but in the past I only did a minimum of one hour appts but decided to try half hour appts. I understand why people like half hours. They have a limited amount of time during the day when they can skip out on their lunch break and it also indicates to me in that time if I would like to see the person again or not if they decided to call me back. I'm still selective in who I see and even though I have a long list of "Nooner" or "afternoon drive home" clients in my area, I have hand picked who I will see after that initial 30 min appt. I have very nice clients so it is rare that I will refuse to see someone again unless they have done something inappropriate, rude or made me feel uncomfortable. Having said that, I still make myself available for one hour appts or more but most of my business is through half hour appts and it's what I'm used to for first time meetings.. However, I wouldn't limit my business to just 30 minutes but I would prefer to meet someone on a half hour for the first time on an incall and then they could decide if they want to spend more time with me. This way they are not obligated to spend more time or money and they walk away feeling satisfied within that half hour giving them the decision to decide what to do for another encounter whether it's with me or another SP. Half hour and hour appts can differ in terms of type of client, location, rates, etc but I am still flexible on all types of appts as most of my time spent as an escort has been offering 1 hour + plus sessions. I adapt very easily whether it's 30 minutes, 1 hour or 2 hours and can also read people in terms of what they are looking for during an encounter.

Here's one another lady told me from a guy who contacted her from another site." Umm, I just need 5 minutes of your time, how's $40? What next? Pay by the minute? LOL. The problem with that other site is there are certain things you are not allowed to state in your ad mainly rates except for hourly rates.. So there are a lot of tire kickers ( you will find 1 or 2 out of 10 guys who become gem clients) or those who attempt to make up different types of sessions according to what THEY want ( i.e. the 5 minute $40-50 session) and one girl will do it and these guys assume that because one did it, that she now has set the bar for the entire SP industry and we will all succumb to it. And then there was a text going around from a U.S. area code that a lot of ladies received from a guy who wanted a bj before payday and that he would give them the money in a few days. Seriously, this industry is getting stranger by the minute aside from the 15 minute appts. If more ladies stuck to their guns and charged their rates by time instead of an "act" none of these shennanigans would be happening. We are escorts and throughout the years we have been known to charge for our time. Both parties know what is going to happen without having to explicitly state it. Now if you don't do this or that, you're tossed to the side because you don't offer all the PSE activities and if you can't stand on your head, well damnit, you're SOL and you won't last according to these guys who think they can have it all including a second round in 15 minutes. It's actually quite amusing. I'll stick to my minimum of a half hour thank-you very much. I'm not a drive thru express lane. ;)

Hmmm, I think my 4 story walk up apartment building fiasco would be a good one to tell. Apparently I'm a legend among firefighters. Sorry, I'm being a tease. I'm keeping it to myself. Okay, so here's another one I'm willing to tell. I was with a client when he had a heart attack. Not just with him but literally riding the guy! Imagine looking at a guy while you're on top of him and all you see is him turning red, sweating profusely and putting his hand to his chest. And then having to drag a 250+ lb guy off the bed to perform CPR. I didn't care at the point because I was trying to keep this guy alive. I called the front desk at the hotel he was staying yelling at them what has just happened and called 9-1-1. They were all there within minutes and the staff came through the hotel door with key cards. They didn't care who I was at that point. Thankfully he survived. Now being on top always makes me go back to that moment when I will never forget that look on that guy's face. Yes, I guess you could say it traumatized me somewhat even though I had the knowledge to deal with this type of situation. It's just one of those things I will still do but have that feeling such as "What if"... And just a warning... please don't take viagara after you've had a triple bypass surgery the year before!

If it were a regular client's birthday and I knew it was upcoming, I would do something special or maybe give them some extra time for the ocassion.