Nicolette Vaughn

I've been there many times and my advice is not to bring too many clothes if you are going to be by the pool. I would bring a few outfits that are of thin material because depending on the time of the year and the area, it's more of a dry heat. You could also convert into evening wear depending on where you are going other than the pool. Sometimes wearing a skirt with a nice top during the day can also be worn at night with another top. Buy a few trashy Harlequin romance novels and you're good to go.

I've known people who had university degrees yet their spelling was atrocious. They would write the word "were" when they really meant "we're". I remember learning that in grade two. Or others who couldn't string a sentence together. I sometimes wonder how they made it through. I've also seen CEOs of large multi million dollar companies make the same mistakes using the word "weather" when they were supposed to use "whether". LOL. Their first language was English so there was really no excuse. I believe that it is not just education that can make someone go further in life. Personality, ambition and a positive outlook are major contributing factors as well. If you have life experience, it counts for something as I've also known people from high school who have an education yet they do not have the life skills and are still living at home at the age of 30. And they have the personality of a piece of wood to boot. I would not let your lack of education get in the way of your business. I have spent some time in this industry and learned a lot and have had many great conversations with clients. It is also the way you carry yourself. If you give off that vibe that you don't think you're good enough or smart enough, people pick up on that and the ignorant ones will try to use that to their advantage or make you feel stupid and worthless. I've never had problems in school but I don't really consider myself book smart. I felt as if I was just going through the motions because that's what you were supposed to do. To be honest, I really wasn't that interested in learning theory. I was more of a practical person who had a creative side. It wasn't until I finished high school that I discovered what I wanted to do. I am someone who has a lot of life experience from an early age and made me who I am today. If you want to discuss certain topics with clients, I would advise you to stay on top of current events. Reading the newspaper daily doesn't hurt either. Generally, if you're on a half hour or hour appointment, there is not a lot of time to test the intelligence of an SP. However, if you're on a dinner date and want to have a good conversation, ask questions ( what they do for a living and let them lead the conversation) or find something light to talk about. At the end of the day, SPs are not there to prove how smart they are. If you've created a name for yourself in this business, I think you're off to a good head start as our industry is cut throat. It takes time to establish yourself. By doing so, you will have proven to others that you are an intelligent person. Sometimes just being yourself makes you more interesting instead of having to prove how smart you are.

Thanks everyone!

I end up doing TOO much laundry!

Met a really nice gent this morning from Cerb. Had a great time!

Imo, I find that is is better for men to see an escort than to have a physically and emotional affair which can be damaging to the family unit as a result. The majority of escorts do not fall in love with their clients and vice versa so for someone to visit a professional will not infringe upon a husband and wife and whatever bond they have with one another. Most of my clients comes to see me and we do not engage in any conversation that is too personal and I prefer it this way. I don't know 100% if they're married or not but it's none of my business anyways and I expect the same in return. They walk away happy which means I'm happy. We offer an invaluable service and while I'm not sure if it can actually save marriages, it may inadvertantly help them. And if you're going to do this, you sure as hell better not be foolish enough to get caught! lol.

You're running a bunch of errands and find yourself eating while driving because you don't have time to sit down. While driving, you make a sudden turn and end up choking on a carrot stick so badly that you can't breathe. And you are still driving. You pull over still lodged with a carrot stick in your throat and can't breathe through your nose because you have severe allergies and are stuffed up. You stop, open the door and start coughing as if you were coughing up a lung. People are staring but just think you're sick and not choking and continue to walk by. Suddenly the carrot stick flies out of your mouth and lands on the dashboard of the car without any notice. And the next day, you lose your regular voice and now have a husky one similar to Demi Moore's. Never choked like that ever in my life! Very scary!

Having the courage to do something you had been on the fence about for a long time and wondering if you'd be okay making that decision and how it will change your life for the better. I get by with a little help from the support of my friends. I did it!!! Thank-you! You know who you are!

There are many different scenarios in whether or not you should tell the truth or keep your mouth shut so if a friend asks if an outfit looks good on her, I will tell her the truth and usually they appreciate it. If I went to dinner at someone's house and didn't like what they served, I would be grateful for them inviting me and tell them that. I would find a way around it so their feelings wouldn't be hurt. If someone is getting on my nerves, I will tell them. Or if a kid asked me if there really is a Santa Claus, well that's a tough one.. I'm the kind of person who is polite and sensitive but if I need to speak up and tell the truth on a certain matter, I will. Even if the truth hurts.

I commented earlier in this thread and mentioned that I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur but when I was very young, I wanted to be a vet because I loved animals ( and sitll do!). Another one was a police officer. RCMP goes way back in my family so it kind of just rubs off on you.lol.

I like both on a woman and believe me, we women look at other women.

One word...allergies.

Sitting outside on my deck with a good book.

I've always wanted to go on one but can't because I was born with a heart condition. If I could go on one, it would be the Mean Streak at CedarPoint Amusement Park in Sandusky Ohio.http://www.cedarpoint.com/rides/Roller-Coasters/Mean-Streak When I was there, I just stood there looking in amazement.lol.

If an SP is using words or phrases such as "top notch", "the Best", etc it usually is an indication that they are trying to oversell their services and a tall order to live up to if you ask me. If a potential client falls for this sort of advertising, they are bound to be disappointed. There is a reason a person will look at your ad. Something obviously caught their eye but if it is something like "I am the best", they may or may not believe it. Then again what is considered the best? The words "classy", "VIP", "Elite" are often overused in my opinion and once again a way to make clients believe they are offering something that may be better. Now I know many SPs use this words and many may provide a great experience for clients while others just tend to throw it in there. It's just like the term GFE used in advertising which may or may not be true. All of these terms are common within the adult industry. I find the best way to describe yourself is by being genuine. While we as SPs are offering a fantasy, if you let your audience know who you are as a person while describing your attributes in a way that reflects on your services, you will definitely create a buzz where they will want to know more. This will lead to more bookings. Everyone is intuitive to a certain extent and they can hone in on what is considered phony or fake. Your advertising should clear, concise and above everything else, keep it real! Be yourself and you will reap the rewards.

While I think this is an informative thread, I think it would be a good thread for the newbie section that is posted as a sticky at the top of this area. I think most guys who are seasoned or respectful hobbyists are already aware of the things you mentioned and I agree with you that there are others who will not follow suit. As an SP, I tend to take these things on a case by case basis. If I have to address a certain situation like an unhygenic client, I will find a method to do so without ruffling any feathers. It is unfortunate that people do not want to respect your rules or something that is considered the polite or right thing to do. There will always be clients like this and you just have to deal with it. While I understand your frustration and wanting to broach this subject, imo it would be an exercise in futility. Some will get it and others won't. Most men are respectful and considerate and others are just ignorant. This happens in any and every type of business. We as SPs are basically welcoming clients to visit us and in such an intimate way so it is up to us to make sure they repspect our wishes along with our boundaries. In a perfect world, we would all have good clients who are polite, hygenic, etc but we are dealing with all different types of personalities and vice versa. Over time an SP wil be able to adapt to various situations and handle them with ease. I used to be bothered by this sort of thing but I just deal with it when I need to and no longer sweat the small stuff. I can only control it to a certain degree. The reality is it comes with the territory. Life is too short.

The only time you'll catch me wearing a hoodie is when I want to go incognito like to and from work wearing yoga pants, a pair of big sunglasses, wet hair and no makeup. Does that count as sexy? LMAO!

Being in a new home construction zone every damn day. Not a nice thing to hear in the morning. And finding a nail in your tire. :(

I went to go plug in my blackberry today and couldn't find the cell phone charger and ended up having to get a new one. My apologies to anyone who tried to contact me.

I'm Nicki, I'm a ste mother, an SO, a sister and daughter. I was born an East coaster but Ottawa has been my home for a very long time. I'm known to be stubborn and also a perfectionist. I'm all about detail and a person who does everything 110%. I hate being a quitter. I am an entrpreneur at heart and also have leadership qualities which has served me well in various management positions over the years. Up until recently, I have managed a large group of people. I chose a program for my post secondary education that allowed me to follow my creative passions and have worked in that field as well. I am an excessive person so I am either one extreme or the other. There is no in between with me. I am a loyal, helping friend and would be the type to give you the shirt off my back. When I give someone my heart, it is all theirs. I often think of myself as a loner as I don't mind spending time alone. I like to think of life as a glass half full and be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. I tend to say what's on my mind without regrets but think it through before I speak. Many people think i'm aggressive ( and can be) but I am pretty laid back but confrontational when I need to be. My friends joke that no one would want to mess with me when I'm angry. lol. I am sweet but feisty. I am a guarded person and often suspicous of others. I consider myself "street smart". One of my flaws is that I need to take more time for myself and become a bit more selfish. I am comfortable with many different types of personalities and am versatile in various situations. People say I am classy without a pretentious attitude and very down-to-earth. You could find me at the opera or at a backyard barbeque with a beer in my hand. Cupcaking is my hobby. I'd love to own a bakery one day. I have an appreciation for all types of music but not really a fine arts type of person. Don't ask me the difference between Monet or Monay because I couldn't tell you. LOL. I love cats and seem to relate to them so well believing that I may have been one in a past life. I feel I have psychic abilities ( it runs in the family) and consider myself very intuitive allowing me to assess potential situations. I would have made a good police officer. ;)

I've had no shows ( the reality is it's a cost of doing business) with no phone call or anything but most guys have cancelled within a reasonable amount of time. If you're cancelling 10 mins before then I find that unacceptable. I also have a "Do Not See list" and have had guys try to contact me again in the hopes that I won't know or had forgotten about whatever they had done. Once someone wrongs me, I freeze them out. My SP friends call me the Ice Queen for this very reason. Once someone wastes my time or anything that is considered bad in my books, they are a waste of time to me. I don't bother with them again..they become invisible in my world and I rarely give second chances. I don't screw around ( oh, the irony!lol) and for every no show/rude ass time waster, there will always be a good customer wanting to meet. Life is just too damn short....

Damn, I should have.lol. Was about 3 minutes away from you too!

Was stranded yesterday morning with 7 other cars on a half unfinished road near where I live. Construction trucks drive down it where they atre building b new homes and also people who live in the area. Didn't realize how much snow was on it ( wasn't plowed) and bottomed out. And I was in an SUV! Took 2 hours for a tow truck to come and I think the driver did something to my power steering after turning the steeering wheel too hard. Now it's seizing up. Fuck! This morning I'm in my girlfriend's car going down my street on a corner and myself and another car slid into one another. Not really anyone's fault but roads aren't fully plowed. Small dent in a plastic bumper and thankfully not much to fix. Other guy only had scratches on his bumper.

Dealing with catfights in my house this morning. Hissing and fur everywhere at 5 am. A certain orange 14 lb troublemaker wants to be king of the household as he jumps my poor 15 year old cat who can no longer fight back.