Nicolette Vaughn

Congrats BCguy!

Are you serious? This is not the way for an SP to run her business as she may face the possibility of other guys finding out. The only way would be to put him in the bad date list. If someone has done something that justifies being in there, then they have screwed themselves over in the future to see other reputable ladies as many of us know each other. It is one thing to suggest this but if you put yourself in that situation, I'm sure you'd be freaking out. Unless he has done something REALLY bad ( and I'm not justifying this guy's actions) but discretion is key and there are many other ways to screw over a guy who has jerked you around. It's called confronting him on the spot demanding to be paid for her time, karma will get him in time and being posted on the bad date list. Many of us ladies are not rats and we do not use blackmail tactics and leave personal lives out of a business transaction in the SP-client relationship. Rest assured, I would never out a guy to his wife. There are other ways to deal with it.

I think many married men are happy with their home lives except for the sex part. Having been married, I can see how it all unfolds over the years. Children, finances, careers, exhaustion/stress all play a role where everything else is happening in the bedroom. You just get comfortable and then suddenly your sex life is diminishing. Going to see an SP is a lot better than getting emtionally involved by having an affair. I've been in two situations where I've had wives contact me and you would expect that they would have some anger towards me but they didn't. They had just wanted to know if their husbands had contacted me because they found evidence of both men visiting my website and out of the blue one of them said he was going to Ottawa. I had never heard from these men but one of the wives said to me that they'd rather have their husband visit an escort for physical reasons rather than carry on an affair. They thanked me and I never heard from them again. I'm sure I have helped many marriages over the years yet I know I could never be labelled as a home wrecker as I don't have a stake in someone's marriage. We as SPs are offering a service and most of the time, it ends there. The majority of my clients do not mention their maritial status and I view conversations in my encounters as on a need to know basis. I don't really care to know. Other times, as I have had repeat visits from clients, I have heard all about their wives, what they do and how unhappy they are. I understand sometimes they just need someone to listen and I have done just that. They are not really looking toward me for a solution, just for someone to ease their stress at times whether it's physical, mental or both.

I am hoping I can still come. Not sure just yet.

What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.

I love waking up to a view of the ocean like when I stayed in Santa Monica one time..Sheraton Delfino hotel. I like to have someone cuddle with me with our legs intertwined. That's how I like to wake up. :) Now I just have to find Mr. Right...lol.

|Not every woman is 5'1" and 100 lbs and no, you don't need to be a spinner to turn heads. Trust me on this one..all you have to do is flash the twins if you are fortunate enough to have those assets. It's also the way a woman carries herself. Prsonally I don't care about the trm spinner because it doesn't apply to me. I don't think I'd want to be a spinner... being spun around like that would give me a headache.. Okay, okay lame joke but this baby has some back! I say rename the group to "Thick with curves" and I will join as a member.lol.

- My Thanksgiving turkey hangover is gone and I feel energetic! I don't think I will eat turkey again btw. - My house is OCD clean the way I like it after letting the cleaning lady go who would cut corners after you pay her $80 to do the house. -

I don't wear perfume anymore. I have been told by clients that I always smell really good from the shampoo and body wash that I use and it doesn't transfer onto them. :)

Great job Megan! Very well deserved!

My long standing philosophy as an SP has ben this... WYSIWYG. "What you see is what you get." I am not one of those SPs who has a complete separate personna for working purposes. I consider myself a genuine person with my own personality in tact who doesn't kiss a client's ass ( okay not literally) to get on their good side. I do like to keep my personal life separate from my work but this doesn't mean I have to become a completely different person. I mean I don't have a Marilyn Monroe type voice when I answer the phone and then sound like a husky Demi Moore smoking a cigarette when i get off the phone. And no, I don't smoke.;) People who do know me are fully aware that I am a no holes barred person with a take no prisoners type of attitude. I don't bullshit people. If I have a problem with you, you will know about it. If a guy has a fat gut or a 1 inch cock, I wouldn't be the type of person to say "Oh you have such a big cock and you're in such great shape." Just like a guy who came to see me who really preferred a spinner isn't going to tell me that I'm so gorgeous in his opinion or that I have such a slim body because I don't! I understand that guys will appreciate someone more if they just don't say anything at all while providing a good service instead of trying to kiss up or put on some sort of act. Sometimes less is more and I will pay a client a compliment if they decide to visit me on more than one occasion. I have tried to give people compliments ( even if it's a nice shirt they're wearing or if I like their biceps) as I get to know them better and often times I have heard the famous line "I bet you say that to all the guys." I think if you have a good rapport and enough chemistry with the SP, that you should take the compliment even if you are a modest person, have low self esteem or don't fully believe it. I once tried to give a client that I knew for years a compliment on his performance in bed and he told me I was lying. How do you think that made me feel after the countless session I had with him, the extra time I spent with him when I didn't have to? I also told him something somewhat personal that I didn't have to share with him, he didn't believe that either. So I guess I had to consider the source and realize that the guy had issues with himself that he was trying to transfer onto me. I suppose his attitude was that all SPs were liars and would do whatever it took to say things to get what they wanted. I have noticed in the past that if a client has low self confidence, they are likely to not accept a compliment, give you a hard time or make you feel like you are bullshitting them. Basically if you do that, you are calling the SP a liar. I think you can get to know after a while if an SP is phony. I can spot them a mile away. So when deciding to accept a compliment from an SP, you have to see who it is coming from, how well do you know them, what they are like and then gauge it from there.

As an SP, I WILL guarantee the following: - That I will be professional, friendly and polite - That the description I provide is accurate - Full discretion - The client will receive the services that were stated by phone or txt - The client will be given the full amount of time they were paying for unless they make the decision to leave before the time is up. I will NOT guarantee a client's money back if they did not have a good time or if I were not the type of person for them physically but they got the services they were looking for. Why? Because chemistry between two individuals is subjective, looks are subjective and then there are unsavory people out there who would say they had a horrible time just to get their money back. I think if a prospective client does his homework whether it's looking at an SP's site, her ads/pictures here and/or just speaking on the phone in a little more detail as to what he can expect will ensure a much more positive experience than those who did not bother and just wanted to someone on the fly.

He has a Ph.D in clinical psychology but isn't a medical doctor. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phil_McGraw#Texas_State_Board_of_Examiners_of_Psychologists Texas State Board of Examiners of Psychologists The Texas State Board of Examiners of Psychologists determined on October 21, 1988, that McGraw had hired a former patient for "part-time temporary employment".[13] Specifically the Board cited "a possible failure to provide proper separation between termination of therapy and the initiation of employment"[14] and issued a letter of reprimand and imposed administrative penalties.[15] The Board also investigated claims made by the patient of inappropriate contact initiated by McGraw, but the "Findings of Fact" document issued by the Board on October 21, 1988, at the end of its investigation, includes no reference to any physical contact of any kind. It specifically identified "the therapeutic and business relationships" as constituting McGraw's sole issue with the Board.[15] McGraw fulfilled all terms of the Board's requirements, and the Board closed its complaint file in June, 1990.[16] In 1990, McGraw joined lawyer Gary Dobbs in co-founding Courtroom Sciences Inc. (CSI), a trial consulting firm through which McGraw later came into contact with Oprah Winfrey.[17] Eventually, CSI became a profitable enterprise, advising Fortune 500 companies and injured plaintiffs alike in achieving settlements. McGraw is no longer an officer or director of the company.[17] After starting CSI, McGraw ceased the practice of psychology. He maintained his license current and in good standing until he elected to retire it 15 years later in 2006.[18] Appearing on the Today Show in January 2008, McGraw said that he has made it "very clear" that his current work does not involve the practice of psychology. He also said that he had "retired from psychology".[19] According to the Today Show, the California Board of Psychology determined in 2002 that he did not require a license because his show involves "entertainment" rather than psychology.[19] Magraw's license is currently listed by the Texas State Board of Psychology as "retired" and he holds no other active licenses to practice in any other state. According to Texas State Law, McGraw could still be open to a charge of practicing without a license in Texas, since his show is broadcast in that state.

Dr. Phil is a twit and let's not forget how he once tried to seduce a patient of his, how he skipped town after he owned a fitness club that went no where and last but not least how his son married a playboy model. Yes, he is definitely the high moral individual that we should all look up to. NOT!!

I'm never eating turkey again.lol. However, I'm sure I will one day soon. Everything was great last night but turkey makes me feel sick and tired. Must be that certain hormone in them. I did not overdo it but I feel like I have a hangover. Leftovers anyone?

Yeah that sucks Cheektocheek especially after you warned her not to do it. Not all SPs are like this. Bad business move on her end.

It turns out I am hosting Thanksgiving now but only for 7 people. I tried to go find a turkey today and couldn't find a fresh one. Damn, I had to go with a frozen one. Thankfully, I have some help this year. Wish me luck tomorrow!

Yes, I was almost bitten by a rotweiller puppy last week early in the morning when I was out. Owner figured no one was around. All I saw were teeth coming at me and I fell to the ground having to fend him off. I called by-law to make a report and tore a strip off the owner but as Cat said, it's almost as if their dog's actions and consequences don't resonate with them. All I got was an insincere apology followed by my "You're lucky I didn't sue your sorry ass you idiot!" response.

I like kids but I never thought I had the maternal instinct. Having said that, yes, I have had kids. Unfortunately one has passed on and the other is now a teenager. I am the mother of a teenager! Did I just say that? lol. I guess I am not someone who goes around talking about kids all day long. I tend to keep my parts of my life separate and private. Prior to their arrival, I was so selfish and thought how am I going to be responsible for someone else? Once they are placed in your arms though some kind of weird chemistry kicks in and you become very protective. Things just fall into place and you do what you do. That's the easiest way I can describe it. I was never one of those parents who went crazy about parenting and the do and don'ts and I was never part of those mommy groups or watched those parenting shows. All of that stuff made me want to puke partly because I was a young mother, I still hadn't fully given up my social life, I worked and was also pursuing a post secondary education. I looked at all the more mature mothers and their whole lives revolved around what sound their kid made that day. That sort of thing still drives me crazy!! My worst fear as a young mother was turning into one of those frumpy matronly mothers who drove a mini van who stayed at home all day. My philosophy is that to be a good parent you have to have other interests than your kids. If you take care of yourself first, then you're more than capable to take care of others. Right now I am happy where I am. I am still young enough to have more children but the thought of it makes me tired. I don't think I could go through all of that again and my kid is used to being an only child. When I think of having another kid, I just say to myself that I will get a kitten because they are so pure and innocent like babies and are pretty much independent in the first 2 years. I dote on my cats like I do with my kid even though it drives my own kid crazy and even got jealous when I brought one cat home.lol. My kid has grown up to be a polite and caring young person and most importantly they are able to confide in me and trust me. They tell me about their friends and who they are interested in, etc and I appreciate that because I sure as hell would have never told my parents those things. I have been told I was the "cool mother". I tell them if you ever end up drinking or something at a party and you can't call anyone else, please call me. Even though I will be upset and there will be consequences, they know they count on me to be there and that I will still love them unconditionally no matter what they do. I don't try to control my kid's life and will let them make mistakes but step in if I realize they are about to make a big one. I can see how someone who doesn't have kids might think it's weird but once you have your own there is no going back and that maternal instinct WILL kick in. It's primal. I was there once. Everyone views children in a different light and we raise our children according to what we think is appropriate. Others are not interested in having children and that is a choice I respect and would never try to debate it. I don't find that weird that people don't want them. It's a personal choice. A lot of personal sacrifices are made when we have children and some people are willing to give things up. Not everyone wants to have kids and some are just not cut out for it. My advice is if you want to have kids and you worry that you're not going to have that maternal instinct.. don't sweat it. Just let it happen naturally and things will fall into place how you want them to by your own rules. Most people know themselves well enough to know whether or not that they want kids.

Good to hear that visitor profiles are back and work in the best interest of everyone. Now I can go back to seeing who follows my every word on every post I make. Welcome back my stalker groupies! lol.

Falling asleep at 10pm only to be woken up an hour later by your neighbors who are having a lovers quarell in their jacuzzi in the backyard sounding like they're both pissed drunk. This continues on and off for another 2 hours and in a woozy state after taking sleeping pills, I finally yell out the window for them both to STFU and that people are actually sleeping. I said if you want to fight it out, why not try and drown each other. lol. Silence.... after the door slams. I got an apology this morning and all the gossip. Haha!

That does look like Old Dog's bathroom! lol.

I really can't stand Gene Simmons either. He will find a way to make something marketable including his own wedding. He is the kind of person who loves to hear his own voice. I think he was afraid he would curse himself if he did sign a piece of paper by getting legally married and of course giving into a woman. Let's face it.. he's pretty much been married for all these years by having children and living with her. Shannon Tweed would get half his money anyways.

Lying in your bed, you look up and realize there is a giant spider crawling right above you on the ceiling. I took a tissue, scooped him up and flushed him down the toilet. Having a rotweiller on the loose try to attack you, you fall on your back on the pavement and kick the dog in the face to keep him from biting you. Having to go to the cerb social on pain killers and not being able to feel your left shoulder.

Everyone in my family has made different plans and are going out of town so not this Thanksgiving. I will see them at Christmas. Not sure what I will do this weekend. Probably just go out to dinner and get some much needed rest. I have done Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner hosting for 15 + people for more years than I can imagine so I'm taking a break which is something I don't get to do often.lol.