Nicolette Vaughn

Mine would have to be the Sun Life Financial commercial where those baby boomers are dancing. I hope I'll be dancing like that when I'm ready to retire.lol. "Fe Fi, fo, fo fum,.. Look out future cause here we come." Another one... "Call one hundred -two six seven- two thousand and one ... Alarm Force!!" I just sang it as I was typing it.lol.

Cleo.. You are a hottie! As I mentioned to you before that 50's style pic of you in your apron gets me going. You and I could bake cupcakes together. Icing, sugar and spice... Oh my... I'm liking the sounds of this!!! :)

Okay, I'll come right out and say it... Busty Vanessa!! Even though I have never met her, I have found her pics to be sooo sexy. lol. Soleil from Winnipeg. I met her at the party and all I can say is wow! and a really nice woman to boot! There is someone else but I'm keepin' it a secret as I'm sure she is as well. You know who you are.;)

Oh one more thing... don't say you're going to visit a boyfriend. Otherwise they might think you will never return to Canada.

When I was young and out on my own for the first time, I was determined to make it without any help or having to move back home. With 2 part-time jobs and going to school, I still had trouble making ends meet. I lived on bagels, frozen ice tea and soup for 6 months. I let a friend use my Honda for months and made them pay a certain amount for using it. I had no cable and watched movies on my vcr, turned down the heat and used a big comforter to keep warm. I lived above the Royal Oak on Bank St and knew the guy who worked at Mr. Sub who lived in the same building. Many times he would give me free subs at the end of the night. Across the street there was a store called Big Buds before dollar stores were in existence.lol. I remember the owner asking if I had run away from home because even though I was considered an adult, I still looked so young. I'd often sneak into Barrymore's as well. I walked and took the bus everywhere and bought all my clothes at discount stores. Man, those days were tough but a lot of fun too. My girlfriends lived down the street and we'd always get together and go to bars in the market, get in for free and most of the time not drink but guys would buy them for us sometimes. It's wierd because when you are struggling, sometimes things are easier because you don't have all these expenses to worry about. It is possible to get creative when you're poor.

When going to the U.S. as an SP, leave all condoms or anything that could be considered related to this business at home. Including the lingere. Take a trip to Victoria's Secret if you have to when you arrive and buy condoms at a drug store there. Then on your way back, just claim the lingere as a shopping expense and toss the protection in the hotel trash can. Wipe your netbook clean if you have to or delete any images off your cell phone, texts, or emails. Many girls I knew who worked down there would send their money back on a daily basis by Western Union to a trusted friend or family member. Back in the early 2000's it was financially lucrative to go there... not anymore and it's not worth the risk. And one of the biggest things to back up your excuse to go there is say you're visiting a friend. I hate to sound sexist but when they see a woman travelling alone, it raises red flags. In this case have someone like a trusted regular back up your story. Have your answers ready and a fabricated story of how you met this person ( where and when), dress the part of a tourist and don't get argumentative with customs agents or stumble on your words. Just answer their questions and you'll be fine. As long as they can't prove you're going there to work and you don't have a criminal record, it is unlikely that you're going to have any trouble crossing the border.

Happy Family Day everyone!

I think one of the most common things I have experienced in a private chat conversation is those asking for single services or those trying to lowball an SP. I just tell them I don't do that and politely end the conversation. Yes, it's annoying but sometimes you have to weed through some bad apples to find a few good chat buddies. :)

Jar of Hearts - Christina Perri

Or a free lunch.lol Those women will want something in exchange. They are not on those sites because they are in a crappy marriage and are lonely or being on there out of the goodness of their own haeats. In the long run, SPs are less expensive with no strings or promises made so you can walk about satisfied not having to worry about any b.s.

Did they have proof that you were 'turning tricks'? Or did they assume this based on what they saw in pictures, emails, etc? I suppose it's best not to travel with a laptop there or delete everything off the computer and phone.

Cleo, Thanks for posting this link! Those kittens are soooo cute! My cat is sitting here next to me and couldn't take his eyes off this clip. lol.

Yes, I can say there is definitely an increase however an SP has to be careful when promoting her self with high quality photos. Some photographers can capture the beauty of a woman so well but often gloss up the photos with unrealistic lighting and airbrushing. I used to have these types of photos and while they are nice to look at, it is an unrealistic expectation because I don't wear layers and layers of makeup and I certainly don't go around with lighting to make me look better. While it's definitely not a bait and switch scenario, it sets high expectations for the client. I'm not saying that is a bad idea to use a pro photographer but the images have to realistic for everyday life of an SP. Something else to consider for example is that I also had clients who caught sooo caught up with the pictures and the image of me and my former website that when they came to visit, they were still preoccupied with that "image" and I'm still experiencing this a few years later after those photos. it was all about the images and found that it was not about the experience they were having with me as an SP. I no longer look like that person and I have matured and changed as well. While these were great marketing techniques for me back then, I no longer use them as I have learned from these mistakes with the pictures. I know I provide a good service so I want clients to have realistic expectations when they see me so now I only post pictures that I take myself and there are no disappointments because it is regular lighting and no airbrushing. What you see is what you get. I also have fun taking these pictures myself. i think I will have to take some more very soon. :)

I can definitely see how travelling requires a lot of planning. 90% of the clients I see are local and they usually come to visit on their lunch hour. I think everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to establish or communicate with an SP.

Justin Beiber! And NOT by my choice!! Just shoot me now.lol.

I used to strictly book clients through email in the past and while they did give me a brief description and sounded okay, it never really gave me a sense of their whole personality and what they were truly interested in. More often than not, their personality was much different than I had encountered by email and sometimes not in a good way. Now I only book by phone and I don't mind taking an extra few minutes to talk to someone. I must honestly say that I can pick up a vibe as to whether or not I will get along with the person by hearing their voice and engaging them in a conversation. Mind you, I can tell when someone is wasting my time but it doesn't hurt to chat for a few minutes. I often have older gentlemen calling me telling me they're looking for someone regular to see every week. I have very many established regulars this way and this often makes up over 50% of my income so it's definitely worth it to go the extra mile in the beginning to gain some sort of rapport and find out their likes and dislikes and vice versa. Upon meeting the appt it is much smoother, casual and no pre jitters or formalities to worry about. Once I am aware of their type of personality, i can gage the appt and what I have planned based on that. I try not to let them hype up the appt or have extremely high expectations. Only knowing that I offer a GFE service ( and what that entails) and that I will not take their money and run. Everything else is a surprise and they walk away happy. Another thing worth mentioning is that the way the rate of technology is constantly advancing, people want some sort of instant gratification right away. Rarely are appts booked in advance. It is now always within the hour or couple of hours. Emails to me are less frequent, more texting and more phone calls. I don't mind this at all and have gotten used to it. I find many people no longer take the time to communicate back and forth through emails so some sort of client form would be pointless. There are a few people who take the time to write me emails but they are few and far between. This is where my business has changed. And you can see this trend happening with the length of appts as well but that's a whole other topic.

Thanks for the suggestion Rick. I really hope to catch up with you at the party. Top Hat and Tails, I look forward to seeing you again at the party. :)

The song "Feel" by Robbie Williams. Those lyrics run very deep with me. I equate it to fully loving yourself before being able to love someone else. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olYVnvfPDoI&feature=fvst

17/20. I guess I know more about Canada than I thought I did.

The name of the party will be changed and won't be anything related to this board. Once tickets are booked and paid for, the name of the party will be told in private.

I put a duplicate thread for the party in the general discussion area and in the Ottawa/Courtesan area.

I don't want to come across as preachy here but since I will be heading this one up, I will ask that you adhere to a certain code of conduct and act accordingly which the majority of you did at the last event. We are all adults and have to realize that what you may think is appropriate in this industry may not be considered socially acceptable to others. Please remember that there will be other patrons and staff at the next venue and they all have eyes and ears and can see and hear what's going on. You put us all at risk when this happens and most of us are discrete in the business and hobby so I ask the same of you when you attend. While 95% of the group from cerb were great at the last party, it only took a small number of people to ruin it for us and not being able to go back to that location. And it was a perfect location. I would certainly hate to see future socials cancelled as a result. If you're going to engage in inappropriate activites, please do it off the premises. Thank-you for attention regarding this matter. I would really like to make this party a success and avoid any altercations this time around as I will be trying to protect everyone's best interest here. The staff or other patrons do not need to know the nature of our party. Carrie, I really hope I can twist your arm and convince you to attend. It won't be the same without you!

You and me both! I almost died the next morning when I had to go to my other job. lol.

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen of Cerb, Mark your calendars as Thursday May 5 is the next tentative date for the unofficial Cerb Spring Fling Social for those wanting to attend. More info will be posted in the next few weeks regarding ticket sales ( cost and number of tickets we will be selling), venue, etc, etc. Please note that this is not a Cerb sponsered party so please do not bother the Mod about this upcoming event. I, ( Nicolette Vaughn a.k.a Nicki) will be hosting this upcoming social while Angela of Ottawa and Carrie Moon will be assisting me in various duties to make this event happen. To ensure continued success of these socials and to make them even better, I will ask that you PM me in the next few weeks if you are interested in coming to the party. Please remember that tickets will be limited so it's best to secure a spot in advance. This will give me an idea of how many people would like to attend. Thank-you for your consideration and I hope to make this party as good or even better than the last one. I look forward to seeing you on May 5! Sincerely, Nicolette Vaughn