Nicolette Vaughn

Just call me "Niagara Nicki". lol.

Glad to be back on Cerb after dealing with family related things.

Happy Belated Birthday Luxe! Love ya lots! xo

People serial texting who you told NOT to text you that many times after you didn't respond and texts again several times long after you've explained the situation. This is definitely not respecting someone's boundaries or whatever personal issue they have to deal with and have already fully explained for the umpteenth time. No respect for a person's private situation. That's when it's time to block their number. What part of "I am not available" do people not understand? And my name isn't hun, sweetie or babe either. lol. Not following the SP's protocol shortly before arriving to an appt. Do you have a boyfriend? Meeting people for the first time and they attempt to go into other rooms at the SP's place without even asking. Or others wanting a tour of other private rooms. What the hell? Time to put locks on the door handles. If the door is shut, it stays shut. People who don't take off their shoes and insist they are clean. No they're not. You were outside. "Are you available now? I can be there in 5 minutes." Receiving a text out of the blue. "I'd like to make an appt. What is your address?" And you don't know this person from Adam. "Rates? Location?" text is a definite way to NOT receive a response back. Stepping off my soapbox now. I know it's like preaching to the choir here but thought I'd add a few..

When you are in a session and getting multiple texts from the same person and they start to get really rude and irate esp if I'm on an hour or appt or longer. I don't answer the phone when I'm with someone and I'm only one person. I wish that I could have a secretary but I don't. When you tell someone you don't negotiate or give discounts and they act self entitled. I don't want to hear about financial sitations either. It's none of my business and I don't wish to have someone put that on me. People serial texting or calling. I had someone text me 58 times the other day when I was visiting in the hospital! No joke! Picture texts of a person's junk. And..."How much for just a bj?"... "I'm young and hung". Sorry that doesn't pay my bills. lol.

I am still here but haven't been on Cerb much as my Father is very sick right now. :(

Happy Birthday Carrie! xo

La La La- Naughty Boy ft. Sam Smith

While professional pictures are nice to present, they are extremely hard to live up even if you are already an attractive by regular standards..without the makeup, lighting, etc. You cannot carry photographer's lighting to create the same look. To expect a person to look the exact same way in the picture is ridiculous. However, using pictures like that often times can produce too many high expectations. I've been using pictures I have taken myself for the last few years and people tell me I look better in person. There isn't as much pressure and I can look like myself. The only thing that changes with me from time to time is the blonde shade of my hair and the length. As for only capturing the positive side in a picture, isn't that the point? Afterall, there is a level of professionalism that we need to aspire to. I'm certainly nowhere near perfect yet I know I'm attractive but that doesn't mean I should deny catching the beautiful aspects of myself. Don't expect the exact same picture. Small things such as different hairstyles or varying shades of color change in the course of 3- 6 months but that certainly doesn't qualify as a bait and switch. The key is to have realistic expectations and understand that we're not magazine cover models. If a person is building the SP up to be a fantasy and then disappointed by the outcome, the SP should not entirely be at fault unless of course she's using fake pictures or ones she knows she can't live up to.

I've posted in this discussion many months ago but have noticed some things happening with the 15 minute requests. What I don't like is it's become something that many men think it's the status quo. I don't offer them, I don't have anything against other ladies that offer them but lately I've had some uncalled for type comments after refusing them. "Give me a discount. I'm a student". "I only need 10 minutes and I only have xxx amount of money." " I can't afford your rates". Yet they keep on trying AFTER I said no. The self entitlement with some individuals is appalling. This is a luxury service, not a necessity like putting food on the table. Where are the boundaries with some of these people? To be blunt, this is what upsets me about 15 minute appts and with men who want them contacting me after it's clearly stated in my ad that I don't offer them. They don't take no for an answer. There is a new generation of clients out there and frankly I am old school where rarely did I see negotiations, the self entitlement and the rudeness. While there may be men out there who are polite when making these requests, I have rarely been addressed by them myself. Like I said before, I don't judge other SPs for offering them but I do have a problem when a lot of men from other sites think it's a given that SPs offer 15 minute appts. Many don't read the ads and they are very short ads!

Not being able to see Hedley in concert tomorrow night because of other commitments. I have to find a way to get REALLY good seats for Bruno Mars this summer. I would pay a lot to see him. On the ticket site right now! lol

A new high end car but that was part of a long term exclusive arrangement I had with a very nice gentleman once upon a time.. Honestly, while I am grateful for the gift whether it's big or small, what I really appreciate is the thoughtfulness that goes into it. I do have to admit tho, I love gift cards from local stores at the mall and shoes from online sites. lol. :)

Congrats on an impressive milestone!

A similar thing happened to me recently last week when I was away. This is someone ( not a cerb member) who dropped off the face of the earth for 2 months after meeting me every week.. I don't demand an explanation when a client disappears for a while. That's their business. I don't ask questions. Life happens. Nor would I ever cold contact someone. He reappears.. Day 1: Morning: "Hello?" Afternoon: Hello? 1 hour later: Are you there? Repeat everyday for 5 days (3 x a day) when I didn't even have my phone turned on. Day 5 Morning: Hello? Afternoon: Hello? Are you pissed at me? Late afternoon: Hello? Where are you? I DEMAND an explanation! According to him, I don't have a life or I could have been out of town, been sick or worse, dead. I suppose I'm not entitled to be any of those things. lol. And that's when I changed my phone number.... Goodbye.

Remember the quote that we are being paid to leave. If we were friends or girlfriends, there would be no compensation. While I enjoy being an SP and have established a great rapport with new clients as well as current ones, I'm under no obligation to have contact with them outside of an appt. If I did that with everyone, I'd never get anything done. I think people have to know their own boundaries as well as the SPs that they meet. As great as the connection may be, one has to keep it in perspective that this is what we do for a living.

I went to chatr the other day and got a new sim card. Said the number was for my neice who is a teenager and that it would be a gift. No questions asked and wasn't asked for Id. Gave them a fake name and address that is supposedly hers.lol.

It can be frustrating but I have booked many appts by text and they liked the way I sounded through that conversation. They booked right away and then I made sure they called to confirm. Sometimes people want to have a sense of who the SP through a real life back and forth exchange. Same thing by talking on the phone. I would say it takes about 5 texts to securely book an appt. I've had people ask where I'm located. I tell them and then they say it's too far. It was in the title of the ad!! That is a clear cut case of when an SP gets annoyed. Then they try to make you feel guilty about it. lol. With those types of guys, I cut them off quick. I don't like email exchanges and never have. To me, it's a waste of time because ultimately I'm going to need to speak to them by phone. At least with texting, it's real time and don't have to wait around for a response. Most texters text because they want a quick response which is what I offer. I don't mind answering questions but if the exchange seems never ending is when I tend to get annoyed. One person said to me the other day that they love to chat. I told them that's great but I only text to book appts and if they're interested, great but I don't have time to chat all day. I have to do it in a diplomatic way instead of not sounding rude even if I want to rip my hair out at the time. lol. He got the message. You can tell within a matter of minutes when someone begins to be a pain in the ass. I try to give as much info up front with a standard text I have saved in my phone. If it's one liners one after another with "Do you do this?" Next text, "Do you do that?". It's all included in that standard text and if they start up with that, I tell them I have to go. In fact, answering questions and giving info is a large part of my daily routine as long as the conversation is on the straight and narrow. It it diverts into an attempt for sexting then I cut them off. Texting pretty much takes up a lot of my time other than seeing clients but I don't mind because I'm building a rapport with people and when you are selling your services, people begin to form their opinion of you. So how you come off sounding is very important.

I NEVER wear underwear! lol

The phrase ``Are you available right now'' makes me want to cringe. Some people think we sit there pretty waiting by the phone or computer all day long. Actually it`s quite the opposite. I find productive things to do with my time. I need 30 mins notice to set things up and get ready. This is the way I run my business now because I offer half hour appts ( whereas in the past I didn`t), I`m aware that people want the SP who offers these appts to be ready on shorter notice. I always take a shower first thing in the morning washing my hair, shaving and doing my hair. I also take quick showers in between appts but before each client, I redo my makeup, fix up hair again, make the bed, light candles, turn on music. It takes me 15 minutes, One time I did it all in 8 minutes ( I hate rushing ) but if someone can`t respect my policy then it`s a no go. I`m not asking for a day`s notice, 2 hours or even an hour but for some, it`s still not good enough. I`ve had people ask me to be available in 10 mins and when I say i need a bit more notice, it`s not good enough. Yet, it will take them 20 mins to arrive from wherever they are travelling from. lol. Sometimes I think the little head takes over in these cases. No offense but it`s a two way street. Fortunateone, I can relate. Getting a phonecall from someone I`ve seen beforè saying they are right around the corner and if I`m free in 5 minutes. Sigh...it isn`t going to make a difference. I could be out running errands. While for the most part, I am pretty much ready in a short amount of time but``right now`` is n`t going to happen. I wish I could sit there all day and look pretty but it doesn`t work like that. I have a life and things to do.

Like Fortunateone, in my experience it only affects the quantity. In a one hour appt, more time is allowed for a second time to have fun. In most half hour appts this doesn`t happen often even if the gentleman is physically able to do it. Some people sneak away from work to have some fun and don`t have the time. lol. I offer the same quality experience but with 45 or one hour appts, I am able to provide extra services like a longer massage or the use of my big bath tub. That has been great and it`s always fun with candles, soft music, bubble bath and occasionally a glass of wine. Once people see that bath tub, they want to come back for a longer session than just 30 minutes. However, I completely understand where budget and time constraints are concerned.

How an initial text from someone starts off..."Rates, location?" "Address?" $!@%!!!!

If I may interjet for a moment... clients only see SPs in a certain mode. She is offering the perfect fantasy being the woman the person wants her to be in that moment through the way of intimacy. They truly do not know her in everyday life. I don't think many people would want to see me in a bad mood when I'm not working. lol. I am a grouch! This isn't to say when you see her that how she receives you is a put on but everyday life is complicated and being an SP and dealing with this is even more difficult and awkward at times.. Two weeks ago, I had 3 clients ask me out off the clock. I declined because I don't get involved with clients and no matter how great the chemistry or intimacy was, it is not indicative of real everyday life. I enjoy what I do for a living for various reasons but it doesn't make me a nympho on the hunt for a f**k buddy or because I have a great chemistry with a client that a more serious relationship should occur. I'm not looking to date anyone. I think people who see SPs or MAs should just enjoy what they have and when they walk out the door to leave it in that special place between the two of them until they meet again. So many people get too ahead of themselves with what "could be" but life is so much more complicated than that. The purpose of seeing an SP is having those lust feelings and the chemistry with someone you enjoy but also being able to leave it just the way it is which is how it's supposed to be. That's when you know you've met a very good provider! ;)

Work Bitch - Britney Spears

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website? The reason I ask if because when I had my former website, many people have admitted to being intimidated to meet me based on the way I had presented myself and in my writing. What they expected of me in terms of personality before meeting me was a no nonsense type of person from the website. When they actually did meet me, they said "they didn't expect me to be that nice". While I am an assertive person, I was sort of shocked to realize that it was too evident. Some respected and admired me for it, others felt intimidated and then others speaking through the grapevine thought I was a "bitch" without having ever met me.

I don't use email as a contact method because it's just 'too available' for anyone to use and a way to hide behind something. I always ask people who want to see me to call me even if they initially text. Psychic abiilities run in my family and I have a very strong intuiiton and sixth sense. I am very good at reading people, their body language and their voice. I know within 30 seconds in a phone conversation if I want to meet them or not. I base it on their tone of voice, how they speak to me and the questions they ask. If I don't like what I'm hearing, it's a no go. And I've also had those big bells go off and I listen to them. No exceptions. When they show up, at that point I am reading their body language and if they can't make eye contact or acting in a weird manner, I know they have something to hide. If something is making me feel uncomfortable and I can't put my finger on it, I will ask them to leave. It hasn't happened often. There are some people I haven't clicked with and wouldn't see again but they didn't make me feel so uncomfortable or felt as though I were in danger that I had to cancel the appt. I am pretty good at adapting to people so I just go with it and be professional. I don't judge on looks. Politeness, cleanliness and respect towards me goes a long way. I deal with many different personalities, fully accepting this and can adapt to it well while still being able to offer a nice encounter. If someone lies there like a dead fish or isn't interactive ( sometimes they just want to relax which I understand), I make the best of it. If someone is pushy or rude/disprespectful in certain ways like using rude language towards or doing something I don't like, I warn them. If it gets worse, I tell them it's not working out and ask them to leave. This is rare because I usually can tell over the phone beforehand esp with the type of questions where services are concerned such as the laundry list of acronyms. When people are rude or don't respect women in general, it often shows up indirectly in the phone conversation. I am very good at picking up on those things. I am a nice person and I have a lot of patience so someone would have to really do something incredibly wrong on their part for me to get very upset. I'm assertive but not in a threatening way yet I don't tolerate bullshit or allow someone to disrespect me. If a person no shows me or acts nonchlalant like my time isn't worth anything, I will make sure not to bother with them again. Act like a gentleman and there are no problems. If a person has done something and crossed the line, there is no going back even if an apology is issued. Their true colors have already been shown. I don't give second chances. It's ultimately their loss.