Nicolette Vaughn

Relaxing on my deck

Congrats Miquelon on 1000 posts! Always a pleasure and thank-you for your contribution to Cerb! xo

Since my last post in this thread, I have started offering the 45 minute option and it has been successful.

I will be there!

Congrats Emily J on 1000 posts! Thank-you for your contributions to Cerb! I have always enjoyed reading your posts and here's to many more! xo

I quoted your post in response to comparing women to inanimate objects. My post was not entirely directed towards you. It was a general reply to the masses here. Thankfully, I'm glad to say that the majority of men on Cerb do not try to negotiate with me and these posts do not even apply to them. If an SP lists that her rates are non-negotiable as I see that many are listing that these days, a potential customer should NOT even be asking. Then again, some people fail to read the entire ad and some just try anyways. Let's not even bring God into this.....this does not apply. As for ladies offering specials, that's their business but not all of us do. Just because one SP does, doesn't mean it's automatically okay to ask or assume that another SP does. All of this can be found in reading ads and websites and the problem is some people just don't bother to read. Many SPs receives questions from potential customers asking what their rates are or where they are located when all of it is listed on the same site such as Cerb where they are contacting the SP. Really, is that asking too much?

Enough of comparing SPs to inanimate objects like a house or a car. We are not a product! We are a person offering a service and no we are still not a product even if we are advertising ourselves if you really want to argue semantics. Technically we are not offering ourselves per say but a service. Do you negotiate with your lawyer accountant or RMT? If I wanted cosmetic surgery, would I go to a doctor who specializes in that and ask for a discount? Hell no! I wouldn't dare insult these professionals. It can be agreed upon that negotiating is acceptable when buying a house, a car or even tires but not when it comes to a person offering such an intimate service. Many men get offended if the SP is all business during an encounter but at the same time have no problem asking her "Can you do this for x amount?" As for business principles, there are universal codes of conduct that SPs all over the world follow. Many of these would include discretion and safety. We do not come with written guarantees and we also don't have to adhere to certain rules of business practices. However, good SPs will be ethically correct as in any other business but no where is it written in stone that an SP has to be open to negotiate at all. There are no written rules for this which makes it a business unlike any other. Until prostitution is legalized, SPs are free to make their own rules. Some make correct decisions, others unfortunately don't. At the end of the day, no means no and someone shouldn't push the boundaries with negotiating just as they would attempt to do with trying to receive certain services that an SP doesn't offer. If she says her rates are non-negotiable and she even clarifies this to the customer via email, text or phone then it's time to move on regardless of whether or not what one's view is on negotiating. In other businesses, a man doesn't have to be a gentleman. When you're dealing with SPs, it is best to do so.

Perhaps I should have been a bit more clearer in my last paragraph. I was referring more to those who advertise the "best" experience promising all sorts of things but not delivering. Offering the "best experience" is very subjective. To one offering it and the person on the receving end could interpret that as something entirely different and often times too good to be true. Yes, you are correct in the fact that I should not have listed specific rates. However, these specific rates are those that have been troublesome to those classified sites that promise the world but are either fly by nights, bait and switch or scam artists. This isn't speculation, this is a fact and you can read this in a certain blog that a certain member operates. By no means was I forming judgements against SPs who charge lower rates as there are SPs whose rates are higher than mine and vice versa. I don't pretend to be in a higher echelon than anyone else and I certainly don't judge those that quote higher rates. An SP's rates are very personal but if someone is asking a lower rate promising all sorts of things, one should be able to read between the lines but then again, others don't and that's where they get scammed. Bottom line, you get what you pay for and this isn't a matter of being judgemental. When an customer buys into that, there is some sort of guarantee that they will be disappointed. Again, you get what you pay for.

More new sexy dresses and some new pics taken outside!

If I may put my nickel' worth in here... I really wish people would stop comparing women to tires, McDonalds, cars and the list goes on. We are human beings and offering an intimate service. While we do have a list of services we offer, we are not a drive thru where you have it your way. And as Meg said, this is a luxury service. Not something that is a necessity in life like a roof over your head or food to put on the table. Seeing an SP is a privelege, not a right. It becomes very disconcerting that people think of humans this way no matter what one's view on prostitution is. At the end of the day, we are PEOPLE with feelings and emotions. If we were robots, I don't think negotiating would be a problem because the service would be mechanical and the entire experience that men seek out which is intimacy would be a moot point because there would be none. If you want a menchanical experience, there are lot of ads out there that offer $80-$100 experience but remember you get what you pay for. And if one thinks they're going to get the whole nine yards, you are in for a big disappointment. They can advertise the best experience all they want but for that amount they will do the minimal required and that will be it. There will be no established connection, none of the extras that a higher end SP will offer but again if that's what a hobbyist wants, then there is a market for it with lots of supply and demand. Enjoy!

Finding a cyst on my shinbone. Happens with runners.

Jesus woman! You crack me up! Apparently I have witch powers too! Don't negotiate with a witch. LMAO! After all, we are solid members of the FYU5! ( An inside joke which I won't reveal!) When I was younger and before plastic surgery ( which made my nose look great btw), I was always told that I looked like Buffy the Vampire Slayer on a regular basis. I guess I do have that witch thing going on! lol.

I've had people text me those kinds of negotiating questions and I say to them "Would you like to go to work for free today or have your boss tell you that you will only be paid X amount?" No I didn't think so! Don't negotiate. It's tacky and will not get you anywhere! Think about the outcome of all this...you go to see the SP and she is completely resenting you. You think you're going to get good service? I highly doubt it. This is why the better and more reputable SPs will NOT take whatever they can get. We actually care and take pride in our services and our rates are on par with that. We enjoy what we do for a living but at the same time we also have bills to pay, mortgages and other things to take care of . Don't mistake the fact that just because a person enjoys what they do has to accept a lesser rate. In fact, they should be getting paid their asking rate because the experience will be that much better. Taking an intimate encounter with a woman and turning it into all dollars and cents and what can you get for this or that completely cheapens the entire experience. If someone is looking for that, they can hit the streets and look there. You definitely get what you pay for!

I love wearing Ralph Lauren Romance. I enjoy wearing perfume but most times refrain from doing so as many of my clients are attached and may get a wiff of it or those with allergies.

Putting my cerb ad up for today.

My big orange cat has been gone for 2 days now. I don't worry about him because he is an outdoor cat and usually outside for 18 hours a day and comes in when he's hungry. I feel so used. lol. I don't miss him biting my ankles in the middle of the night though when he wants to go out. He is a persistent little fucker who never shuts up when he wants something! When he does see me, he loves his stomach rubs and then bites my wrists. He's crazy!

I have found after being an SP for a while I can manage the balance but I'm not going to lie and say everything is perfect. I hold a lot of responsibility in my personal life and in my family I am the "go to" person when something is wrong. This has stressed me out a lot. I am the second mother and always there. I play psychologist, nurturer, the one who listens, the one who helps. . I do it because they're family and I don't expect things in return. I am kind but at the same time I make sure it's not mistaken for weakness. This has often carried over into my job as an SP whether it affected my schedule or whatever. If I'm having a real hard time personally, I find I can't see clients. However, there are times over the course of a day with something has made me upset and one of my favorite regulars or a new client will call and when they visit, I'm in a good mood again. I don't find I have two personnas because I don't have to psych myself up to do this job or pretend to be someone else. However, I do admit that I don't go around in my personal life acting seductive to others but it is a natural part of who I am. I can turn it on or off but I certainly don't fake my passion and sensuality with clients. That's inherent within me. When I am with a client, they have my attention and I put aside whatever it is on mind as there will always be a solution. If there is something really troubling me, I won't book appts. I have found that when I'm at home and have my "me" time, the phone is off and I don't focus on anything work related. I leave my work at the door. We all need that.

If an SP states that it's too intimate then a client has to respect that. Myself, I enjoy kissing but what you or myself may not see as intimate may in fact be for others. SPs are offering an intimate service already and kissing may be too much for some. It's their body and you can't fault them for that. There are certain things I won't do that other SPs may offer. I suggest that it is best to ask all questions beforehand. If they agree that kissing or other things you are interested in are part of their service and once you're in their company they change their mind and state that it isn't, then the onus is on them. That's bad business. However there is the YMMV clause such as a client having a mouth like a sewer, would you really expect them to do that? If your mouth is fresh as a daisy and she agrees to it beforehand, there shouldn't be any problem.

Should be cleaning but I'm another one who is also procrastinating!

Just putting on a hot new sexy hugging dress with lots of cleavage!

H is for horny

V is vivacious

R is for ravishing

P is for passion

I like Roamingguy because he is a true gentleman.