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The descriptors "upscale, elite, exclusive etc" are mostly self awarded and definitely in the eye of beholder. Just be a good guy and I wouldn't worry about measuring up. Peace MG

I've learned that my Mom was right that girls would like me..... though she forgot to mention the envelope part. Peace MG

I'm struggling with boredom. Have achieved what most would want, including financial security, business success, a positive attitude, long term relationship, good health and a close circle of friends. I know and appreciate that I have been blessed but part of me feels it was all too easy. I find I'm craving something challenging and feel the need to be really pushed to see what I can or can't accomplish. Peace MG

There's no need to be aggressive in any way shape or form. I've been told more than once that some clients are too passive and not engaged in the process. I am engaged which I view as different than aggressive. Peace MG

Initiate....always. Peace MG

I think this happens both ways a lot more often than we read or hear about. I've developed feelings for a provider and know that a provider has developed feelings for me. I stopped seeing both and explained why and the reason was simply that I started to like them. It may seem like an odd way to put it but I know it wasn't a love thing it was a like thing. It's very easy to become confused, it's kind of like a vacation romance in that everything seems perfect and idyllic and it is because it's only for an hour or two it's not all day everyday reality. When I start to "like" some one or sense they are starting to "like" me, I move on. It's much simpler. Peace MG

There certainly is a long history of many comedian's being insecure and for some their humour is driven by that insecurity and some times unhappiness. And they are performers trying to be funny is their job. I think having a sense of humour is different. I find it helps people relax, particularly in this game where feelings of vulnerability is often a bi-product for some participants. For me it helps to see past the facade and perhaps allows an opportunity to see the real people. Peace MG

To me nothing is sexier than being confident enough to be real and a sense of humour... Peace MG

At one point I'd put a lot of thought into gifts for a regular. Burned a few cd's, wine, haagen daz ice cream, movies and interesting (to me anyways) books. Now not so much, I figure if I show up clean and tidy, engaged and with a good positive attitude that's gift enough :) Peace MG

I dress the same way (black from head to toe) whether I'm in a boardroom, shopping for groceries or meeting some one it's makes no difference to me. Though I've raised more than a few eyebrows in boardrooms over the years :). Peace MG

The Killing House of Lies Veep Modern Family Not sure they've been mentioned. Peace MG

There's reco's about Lara on this board in the recommendation section. Didn't take much digging... just sayin Peace MG

Like it or not as with everything ultimately the market decides all. From services offerred to pricing the market dictates everything. Peace MG

After reading threads like these I will altering my BFE for sure. Peace MG

I think this is a bit like loose lips sink ships or what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, one can poll all they want but the reality is it's become more prevalent, offered more often and requested more often in the last 2-3 years. This might be because of new players, providers and johns alike who have a different attitude about the bbbj issue. I also think it is a bit of a YMMV kind of thing and those who don't include it or advertise it specifically as a menu option want to have the ultimate choice of providing it or not. But I've seen reviews and recommendations that specifically state bbbj being provided then read the ad for the provider and see it is specifically not offered. In the end who really knows for sure. Peace MG

Frankly, I've never asked one way or another, but that being said I find it is much more the norm now than the exception. Peace MG

This is an aspect of the game I've pondered for awhile now. I am fortunate to be the age I am (59) as I've lost more than a few at far younger ages :(. I am also fortunate to be in pretty decent physical shape, carrying and extra 10 or so pounds and I have had a few surgeries from sports injuries and the first part of the mornings isn't always pretty but all in all I can't complain. I have a positive outlook and have great joy in my life. That being said, I've given lots of thought to hanging it up as it were. I don't play nearly as much as I did and find I'm less interested generally. The chase is more of a pain now. Part of it comes with age as men my age have declining testosterone levels which might explain the lack of interest. But that's not all of it for me, being 30-35 or more years older is becoming an issue for sure. I prefer 1/2 hour sessions for this reason. I do expect this will be my last year in the game and then I'll ride off into the sunset with a smile on my face and lots of fond memories. Peace MG

Thanks all :) Peace MG

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Thanks Soleil :) Actually tomorrow but I'll take all the good wishes I can get :) I am Irish and would've been named Patrick so I didn't arrive til the wee hours of the 18th. Peace MG

This kind of gig obviously isn't for everyone and from the outside it may look simple and easy. But when you consider the fly by night types and those who become overwhelmed by what it takes to run a successful business I'd think the 80-20 rules applies meaning that maybe 20% can actually make it for any period of time. Peace MG

Ethics, an interesting question for lots in the game. I'm kind a Jekyll and Hyde type or a Ying and Yang type which some could describe as schizophrenic though I'd describe it as a charming Pisces type :) Going in two directions at the same time. On one hand I'm a very serious highly ethical and focused business type who isn't afraid to be confrontational if needed. Being strong ethically has been both good and bad career wise but I've managed to carve out a nice niche and have been relatively successful. On the other hand in my personal life I'm completely different, a pot smoking, yoga liking meditator who is non confrontational, laid back and goes with the flow. So how do I justify the ethics of playing this game? Simply put I don't. At one point I thought I could as I'm a non f/s player (my line in the sand). But in reality that doesn't fly. Some think cheating is a physical act alone but chatting online or anything you wouldn't share with your partner and is secretive....in my view is cheating. I'm 27 years in, no kids, financially secure, so boredom could be a justification or the classic mid-life crisis. But it's not. I've come to accept that I'm not a perfect person, I look in the mirror and have accepted that I'm not perfect and know some of my actions aren't those of a perfect person. But that's ok with me. When I see some one, I try to be kind and nice and interested in them as people. Not everyone out there who says "and I love what I do" does in reality. So trying my hardest to be a good guy helps me rationalize my participation at least to a degree and that's all I can do. Peace MG

Another BP train wreck outed. It could become a full time job :) Peace MG

Negotiating = Not cool Well I guess there will be a pretty happy salesperson the next time I buy a car. Peace MG