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You simply have no idea how much you have been missed Old Dog! sweet kisses, cat

I would recommend taking a look at Charlotte Sinclair. She is a truly lovely lady, beautiful and brilliant. I know she has made couples her specialty niche and in your shoes, this is who I would seek out... cat

Hannia's is actually a legit location. They offer many excellent services that are far more profitable than massage/hj's now. Be delicate and discreet when indulging. If you aren't you will get a "no"... cat

Mentally I'm terrified I'm never going to figure out how to be a real grown up. Phyiscally, the only thing I've ever found myself to afraid of is being alone with my daddy. I'd rather be locked in a room full of lawyers; or zombies... cat

This is the #1 reason I stay out of chat. When I post in a thread, I have the opportunity to reread what I've said, what others have said then think about it. I try to see it thru other filters and interpretations. When I don't have that chance, I seem to carry a really big stick when I don't intend to. My daughters call it "The Cat's Bite" and I've learned to soften it but it takes time which there is none of in chat. Everything moves soooo fast. I can see how easy it would be to write something that would be easy to misinterpret... cat

Bring toys!!! cat

Love this discussion! For me it is morals without question. Laws and authority have never held any sway over me... cat

We are waiting... cat

I understand you questioning this but providers are not about to discuss their management of these situations in a public forum as it simply gives a client with this intention insight into how to circumvent our safety measures. I gently suggest you find a good agency, learn the ropes, earn your stripes and if you go indie and still have questions you will be granted access to the private area where our important issues are discussed. This game is sold, not told. Let the people making the money off the phones teach you. It's their job... cat

Darlign gloryhole, I am truly sorry for your loss. I worked as a grief recovery facilitator for 13 years and I don't think you are ready for an intimate encounter at this point. I gently suggest you take a peek at The Grief Recovery Institute. They are leaders at helping people move thru loss and it's important that you address the situation head on. There are programs across the country and their handbook The Grief Recovery Handbook that you can pick up at any book store. Here is the website... http://www.grief.net/ I wish you all the best, please know there is a path forward... cat

This is why you are so treasured... cat

Living down wind of the Fat Bastards Brothel, I'm assuming you haven't burnt them yet? I can still smell them and haven't seen a 5 alarm fire response... cat

Most SP's are more than willing to sell undergarments both to visiting clients and via mail order. If you want them delivered or to pick them up you need to be prepared to pay at least a providers social time. Often I get requests and the man wants to spend $20 on the panties (they cost me more than that to replace) AND he wants me to deliver him and "meet" for a coffee with no other consideration. This offer is simply a waste of our time and will not be taken up. If the offer is realistic and financially viable you should have no problem finding a lady to indulge you... cat

I've tried to ignore this thread, I've skimmed it pretending not to read it. Those who've been in touch with me this week will already know that my mind has gone on vacation and left my big bad self unattended and I've turned the edit button off. That warning posted, here it goes... You are paying $$, $$$ or $$$$ to get laid and you want to fuss about parking? We search high and low for the perfect place to put up our den of inequities and you want to complain about spending an extra $10 for the afternoon to park in a lot rather than $4 for an hour of street parking? It's not like we stay at the Chateau where the parking is $22. There are parking lots all over this city within spitting distance of every major hotel. Here is the Parkopedia link to help those who are logistically challenged. http://en.parkopedia.ca/parking/ottawa/ This mini-rant stems from new clients walking thru my door wanting me to REFUND their parking at the Minto and initially I DID IT! I felt guilty that I didn't know 4 years ago when I moved here that all the street parking would be removed for bike lanes. I have since reconciled that and simply tell guests that if they want to avoid parking tickets to park underground or in a lot. Guys get teed off if a girl is clock watcher but then get even more pissed if she isn't and he stays too long resulting in him getting a ticket. The way I see it, there are three viable options to prevent the hassles of finding street parking and risking getting a ticket... 1. Only see girls within walking distance of where you are. 2. Only see girls that have free parking, ask in advance. or 3. Pony up the extra $ and pay to park in a lot. It isn't rocket science. If you're paying for pussy don't be a penny pincher... cat

I take no offense to being called baby or hun in person. In writing, not so much. As for choosing another name, there would have to be a brief conversation in advance so I'm prepared. I like to use my clients names as I think it helps protect me from CRSS (Can't Remember Shit Syndrome) but if it doesn't work for my guest then I don't have to. I am here to provide an experience for you, the guest, that fulfills the needs you have identified to the best of my ability. If names are an issue, I can work with that. It is no different than which color stockings you like or if you are white or red wine drinker. The only names I don't want to hear from anyones lips are my government names unless you have a warrant... cat

An Oriental spa refusing a female service? Hmmmm, what do you think? I'd put my money on that they needed an excuse and size was the first thing that came to mind. Most asian MAs don't see women... cat

This post means nothing without a picture! cat

I know how she feels Sophia. I remember the days of being afraid of the grid, living on it, being accountable for being an escort and it is the hardest hill to climb. Once you are at the top tho, there is no view like it! Welcome to our precious little corner of the world Maria! Send me a pm and we'll get to know each other... cat

Once again Miss Samanath, I suspect we were separated at birth... cat

...Crosses the line Over the span of my career, on more occasions than I would like, I have had to have a conversation with a client who wants to "be friends". I think it's important to explain to hobbyists what this actually means to us; why it is crossing a line and why this conversation is one we should never have to have with a client. There comes a point with a good working relationship where a client reaches a certain comfort level with his provider and for some reason it sometimes flips a switch within him. This is the phase of the relationship where there are genuine feelings shared and some clients misinterpret these emotions. He feels it's time to renegotiate the relationship and take it to the next level, to make it "real". Sometimes it's a romantic gesture and those clients are just very confused men and that is not the situation I want to discuss. The men I'm appealing to are the ones that feel that we should "be friends". I would like to present this situation from the providers point of view. This is a conversation we providers unanimously dread. We very well may have genuine care and true fondness for this client; we may look forward to seeing him and enjoy his company immensely. Without a doubt these emotions change the quality of the experience for both parties in the best of ways but what it doesn't change is that THIS IS WHAT WE DO FOR A LIVING! Asking us to be friends is an impossible ask and puts us in a difficult place. No matter how we answer, the dynamic is forever changed and not for the better. Many providers develop friendships with clients, myself included but it doesn't change the fact that our time is our livelyhood. It's how we provide for ourselves and our loved ones and asking us to alter the arrangement at hand will not end well for either party. If we accept, we have now lost a valued client that will need to be replaced to maintain our financial responsibilites. If we decline, we risk hurting this person that we care about and losing a valued client that will need to be replaced. Either way, the provider loses. I admit that I see my work a little differently than most providers and I do consider my favorite guests to be friends as well as lovers. These men understand that I care deeply for them, they don't need free social time to see and feel that. They understand that if they choose not to contribute to my financial well being it will result in one of two outcomes. 1. I will have to spend the time I work with another client to ensure my financial obligations. or 2. I will have to find alternative forms of income which means a 9-5 job to pay my bills. Either way, the "friend" moves to the bottom of my responsibilities list. I first have to pay my bills, second is to take care of my loved ones and then third is my social life, which I don't actually have. This is our livelyhood and last time I checked, the bank doesn't take friendship for mortgage payments and according to Revenue Canada, it doesn't matter how many friends I have, there is no break on my taxes. If a client stops paying then he no longer provides for me or my basic needs. I have a couple of clients that moved from guest to friend but they were taken off the dance card. By honoring their "ask" for a friendship, they reliquished me as a lover and now I seldom get to see them as I just don't have time for socializing. I accept my guests into my life with great care. I willingly allow my guests time with my body and my spirit in exchange for the financial security they provide me. It is delusional to think that if a guest withdraws the financial aspect of the relationship that I will have the time or the energy to continue a relationship with him. My guests don't pay me to be their friend, they pay me so that I have the freedom to spend time with them, NSA and at their convenience. The demand is high for a "genuine GFE" experience but when we provide it we run the risk of guests misinterpreting it. Please understand that often when providers are a little aloof or cold, they may be simply trying to protect the business relationship as a lawyer or doctor would. For those of us who try to be more open and willing, don't put us in a situation where we end up losing you as a client because you "don't pay people to be your friend"... cat

When I arrived in Canada I had only once used a real picture in 19 years of working in this industry. I understand the philosophy behind "real" pics but it doesn't mean I am any more comfortable with my pics being out there. I understand the reasons why she may have used the photos and I respect her offering an apology... cat

Kudos to Miss Angela, once again you have outdone yourself. Thank you for the effort and dedication you show when putting these together. It was an outstanding night all around... cat

I'm sure with the right SP it could be an excellent arrangement but you need to find someone who is trustworthy, honors her word, responsible and appreciative of the opportunity. If you find a girl like this, chances are she can put a roof over her head on her own. The girls that this offer would attract would be more trouble than convenient. At $250 a session that would mean she's paying $1000 to $1250 a month depending, she could rent her own place for less and not have a man have a key which allows him to walk in anytime. Our living space is our sanctuary and needs to be a soft, safe place to land after a bad day. She would infact be sharing her space with you even if you don't live there. Again, a woman with the characteristics I've listed above would hesitate to place herself in this kind of arrangement with an unknown man. The two of you would need to have an excellent relationship before hand if you expect her to trust you enough to follow thru with this... cat

This scenario has "danger" written all over it for both parties. For you, understand that any provider willing to take this offer is in a desperate place. For her, living with a man with strings attached that if it goes left she's left on the street again. Too many variables to even go into scenarios. Just don't do it. Perhaps finding a male roommate or fellow hobbyist to chip in for the overhead is a better plan.. cat

Danger Will Robinson, DANGER... cat