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I have learned that the holidays are just days the same as the other 11 months, just prettier! I've had several amazing traditional Christmas' surrounded by the people I love then I've had some that taught me the true meaning of fellowship, giving and goodwill where I was completely alone with my loved ones out of reach. What I have learned is that every day of the year is precious; some people just need Christmas to remind them of that. This year I will celebrate quietly with intense gratitude as it may be the last one I get with someone I love. I'm not missing a moment of it... cat

I find the post vague as the poster is listed as a service provider but seems to be asking about free swingers play... cat

I've been avoiding this thread as I just can't see the point of labels when it comes to defining people. Sexual labels are unstable at best in the right circumstance and limiting our experiences to conform to a self imposed label is self defeating if it imposes limitations we may want to challenge at some point. If someone is absolutely positive there are activities that they will never engage in and there is a label that they are comfortable giving themselves then they should fill their boots! I leave my sexuality unlabeled, undefined and open to the possibilities that life can bring. In all honesty as I suffer from CRSS, it takes way too much brain power to remember that I don't like something, it's easier to try it again and maybe this time it will be fun... ;) cat

Obviously it depends on the providers schedule for the day. I love extending visits and it happens so often that I try to plan for it. I prefer that the guest simply put the extra consideration in the box while he puts his coat on, seldom is it discussed unless he is unsure how much to add... cat

This thread means nothing without pics! ;) Seriously tho, many of us offer this and all you have to do is figure out what other characteristics you'd like in your provider and check around. SPH can be very fun... cat

Great idea gentlemen! Just remember, a shout out is like a rose, really sweet intention but it fades. A recommendation is like a diamond, it lasts forever... cat

Crimes of Moral Turpitude carry a mandatory lifetime deportation in the US as signed into effect by Bill Clinton just before he left office. CMT's are considered a "Crime against the State" and is a federal offense with indictment after the misdemeanor prostitution charge is dealt with on the state level but often the state level paperwork slips into large stacks on the Feds desks for the clients, not to be processed for years to come. It will eventually catch up with you though, rest assured. Non citizen females charged are systematically denied bail and held as flight risks then turned over to federal agents once their state charges and sentences are complete. 10 years AFTER the deportation process is COMPLETE (it can take years and you will have to surrender into custody and sit in jail for at least 30 days), the deportee can apply to the US State department for a temporary travel waiver which has 99% decline rate for CMT's. Travel waivers are usually only issued for prior immigration offenses and those have over a 70% decline rate. I had 2 years sitting in a law library with a $100G's lawyer sorting this mess out while dressed in orange. They couldn't prove I was a prostitute but I couldn't prove I didn't know anything about it, thus they found me guilty of conspiracy. Final verdict? I can never return to the US because of a single conviction of conspiracy related to prostitution... cat

My top 10 Pet Peeves... 10. Condo Corps special assessments because THEY screwed up. 9. People that don't leave a space the way they found it. Clean up after yourself please, I'm not a maid... 8. Doctors who think they know it ALL. 7. People who eat with their fingers and don't wash their hands after. 6. People that talk the talk but can't walk the walk. If you can't walk it, don't talk it. 5. People who use my stuff and don't put it back. You know who you are. 4. Assumptions. Don't assume anything about me until you actually know me. 3. Judgement, it just sucks on every level. 2. Drama or anything related to it. Life is what it is. and #1 is.... 1. Crazy! Not normal crazy but that bat shit, fuck your life up crazy that you have to change your name and move to get rid of!

When the door opens, say NOTHING AND WALK IN! Wait for the "Hello" to happen once the door is closed and then follow the providers lead. I like a guests coat and then give a hug and kiss when when meeting someone, others prefer a simple verbal greeting. Being discreet means not having voices in the hall... cat

I'm a little old school and don't require references but I gladly give them for guests if a lady requests it. If an SP choses to have a reference option, that is her decision alone; I respect that and cooperate fully. I agree with Emily, safety is paramount. References are an excellent tool, especially for travelling SPs who attract the less desirable hobbyists who have worn out their welcome with local SPs. I don't ask for them as I don't travel much and I prefer to trust my intuition and hands on homework when I book a new guest for an introduction. To each their own, I've enjoyed reading this thread. Posts always offer so much insight into people... cat

The study results are not surprising for me and neither are the comments. Women who are empowered and happy scare the bejezus out of those that aren't... cat

My daily start is a protien/fruit smoothie then on to eggs/bacon/sausage/spinach type meal. I eat a quantum amount of food and I'm big on protien. It's taken my insulin resistance way down and breakfast is the most important meal of the day for pre-diabetics. I avoid anything with grain or processed unless it's a special occasion... cat

I carry $ in my bra and the new bills make my cleavage sweat! I've had to wipe it off after removal. Ewwww. Besides that, I like them... cat

I perused it and didn't really find anything I related to but I agree with bcguy, one would be hard pressed to find two providers with the same experiences, views and reactions to their lives... cat

As for industry consultants, there are some excellent avenues out there for all the basics; all they have to do is Google it. The girls just have to pony up for them and the costs are more than reasonable. The one thing I have found is that providers that need the help are unwilling to pay for it and those that are solid and willing to pay don't really need it. This game has always been sold, not told and if they are too cheap to pay for advice, they certainly won't value what they are given for free... cat

Perhaps adding the very well thought out posts from this thread to the comments on the article is a good idea. Simply edit out the references to CERB first. It would help clarify the difference between sex workers in and survival workers. It certainly would add a much needed view and provide a different insight to the readers... cat

"I'll be right back, I forgot my wallet in the car." cat

This topic never loses its shine! I prefer to focus on what to do right rather than whats wrong as no two lovers have the same definitions. I have some fairly simple rules for making things click for me... 1. Kissing is the main ingredient. It needs to be done slowly with a build up of tension then needs to move slowly to other parts of the body. Not flaky little butterfly kisses either, full mouth contact with lots of sucks and nibbles. 2. Creating body awareness is next. I like to focus on the skin to skin contact, feeling your fingers on me and mine on you. I will concentrate on specific body parts that are touching and that will be all that I feel. It takes the contact to another level entirely when you are touching a "nonsexy" body part. Those are the parts of me that crave to be included and make me weak at the knees. 3. Losing track of time is essential for me to relax. I like not knowing how long I've been kissing or playing. Don't ask what time it is. 4. Let me set the pace. I will get you where you need to go, I promise but please don't try to establish the cadence until I get to where I want to be. I know what works and all I need if for you to let me lead for a little bit. It will be well worth it for both of us in the end. 5. Don't hand me a list of "to do's". I will show you the door. I do find "wish lists" very arousing when you present it in soft whispers to my ear during opening kissing ceremonies. 6. I might be petitie but I don't break, don't be afraid to let go when the time is right. Intensity is most fulfilling experience when it's embraced and acted upon. A little man handling with the right guy is amazing. cat

1. I'm trying to get car insurance on my 1991 Volvo. She isn't a "classic" or a "vintage". She's a soccer mom car that's in excellent shape FCS'S!!!! No online insurance will touch it even tho her replacement value is only $300. 2. Called brokers here in Ottawa. I've never had my own insurance policy and haven't been listed on a policy in Canada in over 10 years so apparently I'M A NEW DRIVER TO THE TUNE OF $3600 per year!!! I've been driving daily since 1983 with only 1 ticket in the last 20 years but that doesn't seem to count. I would gladly pay it but they all want an appraisal of my car before they issue the policy and I need it on the road by Wednesday. I don't get it. My car isn't worth anything, my drivers abstract says I'm an issue free driver and yet they don't want to deal with me. Frustrating beyond belief! Then people wonder why people like me don't live on the grid... cat

My take on contacting them is a bit different than those who've posted. If someone in my family was secure in himself and his involvement in the industry, then I would l actually welcome being contacted. This profession is so isolating when it comes to family. As long as you were going to be supportive and positive, it would offer an opportunity to share a common bond that neither party can share with "the family". It could very well be an avenue to developing a better relationship with someone you love. That said, be sure this is someone you want to get closer to. I have lots of family I don't want to know better. I'm thankful they live far away and do nothing more than post on their facebook to keep me informed of how often they go to the bathroom, work and bed. There are a couple of distant cousins tho that I wish I had known better growning up and wouldn't shy away if they came to me knowing my professional persona. They all know what I do, they just don't know "who" I am so if they had an inclination, I wouldn't be hard to identify... cat

Spend a little bit of time reading the Newbie section here on CERB (depending on how fast you read!) then make contact with a provider that interests you. This is like learning to high dive. You can play it out in your head forever and a day but until you climb the ladder, walk the board, hold your breath and jump; you're not actually doing anything. As long as you can swim, the first jump is just a faith action. The nuances are learned over time and repetition; no two hobbyists have the same experience twice. Be clean, respectful and realistic in your expectations and you will be fine. I promise... cat

I watched the first segment of this last night sitting in a hotel. I travel with medical grade disinfectants that are used for medical procedure rooms and wipe everything down; then Lysol spray the pillows etc. The problem is that the linens are there and we are "stuck" with them so to speak. That said, I believe that bacteria are absolutely everywhere so I don't lose sleep over it; I'm lucky enough that my immune system manages itself well and I'm not at high risk. It's one of the reasons I love my incall space. It's mine to clean and control... cat

I'm wishing for a chance to see all my babies and for my car to be on the road!!! cat

This seems to be the norm today, the older crew outdoing the younger in showmanship and genuine audience appreciation... cat

I found GR's post to be funny and my initial reaction was "not soon enough! Darwinism is dead!" As I've been following the thread, I was thinking about Darwin and the lack of natural selection now a days but wasn't going to comment as it can't be said nicely. I think I have an invisible tattoo on my forehead and my ass that reads... "Are you stupid? If so, I'm your girl!" They seem to coming at me from all directions lately... cat