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I'm beyond livid! After a 3 year nightmare with a local bodyshop who had my car and held her ransom, continually demanding more money to the tune of OVER $5000 for a job that shouldn't have cost more than $2000. I finally picked her up tonight. As I was driving her to the mechanic to have a spa day and get her a new pair of shoes, her gas pedal line broke. Everything on her is tight and I smelled my clutch burning. These people are thieves. This is why I don't do business with square women or people who aren't clients... cat

Christine, I'm so sorry this happened to you! Arriving early is a bigger no no for me than arriving late. I'm very ritualistic in my preparations, each step is vital (in my mind) to ensuring my guest receives the best experience I can give him. Even 5 minutes early may mean that I don't have candles lit or the refreshments fully prepared. I take an hour to prep for a client with a check list of "to do's" and I want to have the list completed when the buzzer rings. I would much rather wait a little bit than be rushing around. If an arrival time is set, then that is the time you arrive. No earlier please... cat

The low volume/high volume discussion has been going on for as long as I can remember! I was asked about it regularly when I was young, running for an agency and still receive the odd inquiry about it today. I've never understood the preference but I respect the people that have it because I expect them to respect my preferences as well. Life is a cycle with busy times and slower times. This industry is far more susceptable to the ebbs and flow than most and professional providers realize that just because the requests are there today, they may not be there for many days ahead and we have an obligation to try and maximize those requests when they come in. In an ideal world, we would have our daily quotas in front of us and know that we will see the required number of guests each day to ensure our bills get paid but this isn't an ideal world. Days, even weeks go by with little work and the bills pile up. If there is demand, we must do our best to see as many clients as we can handle without compromising ourselves or our service. The bottom line is that when a provider declines an appointment due to volumn she is taking a substantial business risk. The client could go to another provider and decide not to return. Losing one regular for a $200/hr provider is an average loss of $2400 per year. The key for a provider is knowing herself well enough to realize when she's entering the red zone of slipping service or health risk. When I was young and foolish, I worked for an agency one summer where I booked on May 24 weekend and didn't book off until Labor Day. I never slept more than 3 hours at time but still only averaged 4 appointments per day for the whole summer. That's 1 call every 6hrs. I then slept for the entire month of September! It wiped me out physically, emotionally and mentally. I certainly wasn't a high volumn provider that summer but I had to invest the time to ensure I was available when the phone rang. There are very few independents who are revolving door, it can't be done effectively because we can't do the administration AND perform the services simultaneously. A provider may be able to effectively book a couple of days per week solid but that takes time, planning and last but not least; the demand needs to be there for it to all click. And all that is assuming she has the required phone, scheduling and preparations skills needed to be able to fill her calendar consistently and provide the services which imo is a rare mix. I see this concept of revolving door providers as a kind of industry myth that gets bantered around by people with "ideals" but little practical knowledge of the sex trade. When you actually look at the mechanics of the business, it's almost impossible to achieve even for well run agencies. For example, there are times when clients might pass each other in the hall of hotel incall but chances are high the provider waited hours for those two clients and it was simply coincidence the required appointment times were close. When I had my agency, it never failed that I would get multiple requests simultaneously and ensuring the guests received timely service was always my main concern because of the difficulties in logistics. For a very brief moment in time the demand would outstrip the supply. Then when the phones died down, everyone sat and waited. Again. Most of my girls averaged 2-3 appointments on a 10hr shift. If I hired enough providers to fulfill the temporary demand, the ratio dropped to 1 call per shift which isn't enough to keep quality providers under contract. The point of this little stream of consciousness babbling is that the assumptions are made without having an understanding of the nature of the industry. Perhaps with a little more understanding of the business the assumptions will decrease... cat

I've had mine 21 years and only once had an issue which they took care of, no questions asked (3 year olds making peanut butter and it "jumped" off the counter - I still don't know who did it!) and no cost to me. It is an amazing machine and I would recommend it over all others... cat

Having had three children, I will say I didn't forget the pain but my fertility was overwhelming. Only 1 out of the 3 were planned and although I have easy deliveries compared to most I would think childbirth is the more traumatic event. Women don't forget the pain intentionally, it's genetically progammed to be forgotten to ensure continuation of the species which is not always a good thing in my opinion. Now that the cocktail of hormones which drives the reproductive urge in women has ceased to flow thru me, I shake my head at the fact I did it 3 times! I was obviously under the influence of some seriously mind altering hormones and now that sanity has regained it's rightful place, I encourage any and all women I speak with to give serious consideration to reproducing when I find their brains have become saturated with the evil intoxicators... cat

Before going the little blue pill route, I recommend going to have a full spectrum hormone test done. Low testosterone is easily remedied and often will eliminate ED issues. It also offers a host of other benefits but make sure to stay with a bioidentical prescription... cat

Miss Sophia, Start with an Independent Contractor contract from Staples. Then tailor it to our industry covering issues that are obvious, schedules, appearance, under the influence etc. You make up the list of do's and don'ts, the lawyer will put in the legalese... cat

I LOVE lurkers! They make up 90% of my client base and the other 10% isn't even online... cat

Sweet Madison has this listed on her website for those who like a little tang in their salad dressing... switchmadison.com cat

I have received feedback both thru PMs and email. I ask for it from a guest if I feel the playdate didn't quite gel for me. I can tell if a guest is walking out the door and he isn't sure if his VFD needs have been satisfied. If I feel he's a good verbal communicator, I will address it before he leaves. If he is a little more introverted, then I contact him with an email and ask him what I could improve to make our time together better which opens the door for his honest assessment of the session and the vital feedback I need to improve my guest return ratio. Altho it's far less common to have a guest contact me first, it has happened and as long as it isn't an attack and his concerns are valid; I make every effort to rectify it for him. The key is being able to clearly identify what you didn't like or would have liked more of. I also quickly recognize the men who are unpleasable so when one of those come along with expectations so far out of reality, I simply chalk it up to experience and put him on my DNS list. Who wants to deal with the chronically unsatisfied? Keep your expectations realistic by understanding the unique nature of the business and communicate from a place of genuine care and you should be able to clear up any issues at hand... cat

I agree with RG, if you have an issue with a provider then you should first discuss it directly with her and give her the opportunity to rectify the situation. If it can't be resolved to satisfaction then there are plenty of places to post warnings. A woman cannot respond online to something negative without being flammed by the trolls and once it is out there, it's almost impossible for her to make it right with the client that had the issue AND her ability to make an income has been hurt. CERB has the traffic it does because of the policies that are in place. This is the only safe place for providers to interact with clients because the favorite troll aspects of online forums have been eliminated. It's maintained by diligent moderation and a general respect that is expected to be shown by all. On another board I have a multipage thread that the first 3 pages were posters slamming me and THEY HAD NEVER MET ME!!! Finally, a guest of mine posted a review and because he didn't have a high post count was accused of shilling. To this day I don't have a negative review out there because my guests know that if something doesn't work for them, all they have to do is tell me and I will make it right... cat

Miss Sophia, I think you raise an excellent question and it is difficult to find a definitive answer. If a provider doesn't feel comfortable with bodily fluid exchange then it's imperative that information is provided upfront with the guest so there is no confusion as to what to expect from either party when the time to play arrives. The wonderful thing is that pricing is fluid. If she starts out lower than other girls but provides excellent quality of service then you will be able to see that reflected in her call back rate and can then consider raising her rates for new guests as her client base grows. The other thing to keep in mind is that providers grow and change as well. The hesitation to say "yes" to kissing any and all is an honest one. What I have found is that most will feel more comfortable with it as time goes on and their trusted regulars will benefit. In the traditional method, regulars were rewarded with more liberal services as a girl got to know them. Stay focused on providing quality service within the guidelines your providers are comfortable with and you will find there is a market for every niche... cat

Oh baby! Bald all the way... cat

For me, it all depends on the client's attitude. If it appears he's freshly showered or coming from an office, I don't request he bathe. If he needs it, then in he goes. If it takes a man longer than 5 minutes to wash the important parts and swish with mouthwash then I do wonder what he's up to. If he was difficult to book or walks thru the door with an attitude, the shower is on his time whether he requests it or I suggest it. If he comes in with the right attitude then I'm not a clock watcher. This may seem subjective and I am the first to admit it is. I'm too old to put up with bullshit and someone wanting to dicker over 5 minutes brings out the grumpy old broad in me... cat

I define a real friend with a short list of requirements. A real friend... 1. Takes my collect call from jail and posts my bail or finds me a good lawyer. 2. Helps me make funeral arrangements when someone I love dies. 3. Sees that I'm in over my head and throws me a life preserver. I have a tight circle of people in my life that I trust and I know any one of them would be there if I needed them. They are my friends. I then have a larger circle of people that I know and like more than acquaintances but they just aren't people I trust if the sky fell in. Are they friends? Yes, but they aren't "the" friends as they aren't people I "know" who would have my back. I'm sure some of them would, I just haven't had the chance to find out because relationships are ever evolving. Altho I haven't posted on the other friends thread, there are a couple of friends who I met as clients on that very short list of mine... cat

I can see how a woman would decide to have a family and choose not to have the father present. I can see how a man in this position see it as an opportunity to fulfill the desire to "leave something behind". I see the wisdom of choosing a father that has the resources to contribute to the child's financial needs and the willingness to honor the mothers code. Both people are willing and consenting adults so it seems like a scenario that needs exploring both in the legal and spiritual sense except that this doesn't involve 2 people, it involves 4. Mother, father, wife and child. What I also see is a family left behind to find out that their loved one had a "secret" life and I have personal experience with that. The devastation it leaves in the wake is of tsunami proportions. The remaining family questions every aspect of the "relationship" they thought they had with their loved one (or less than loved one at that point) and the time spent together; even the good memories become painful; the path to peace is often lost and these people spend the rest of their lives reeling with almost insurmountable trust issues. If you intend to make this child an heir, you need to include your wife in this decision if you don't want to leave her emotionally devastated after your death. Are you prepared to leave destruction as a part of your legacy? Another aspect to consider is the will of this child as it grows. I have a passel of children, some biologically mine; others are my children by circumstance. The one thing that adults consistently underestimate is the will of child in a situation like this. If this child decides that he/she is going to get to know you and be a part of your life, you will have little power to stop this exploding in your "real" life a decade or two down the road. Children are not to be controlled when it comes to a genuine hearts desire. The fly in the ointment that I see is that you want to keep this a secret. If you genuinely love your wife and value her as a human being and life partner, this is a shitstorm on the horizon. Secrecy is a myth, it doesn't exist and all will come out; my intuition tells me, long before you are gone. Are you prepared for that? cat

Why not wait until she arrives and get to know her a little. I have seen dogs with names that are entirely wrong, like my little guy who came already named. Just wait and see her personality. Nothing sillier than a rotti named Daisy who has no interest in smelling the flowers or an anxiety ridden terrier named Maximus... cat

This is a subject I've been giving serious consideration to lately. It started last fall with my new ads. Everywhere wants to me to put in an age and I just don't know what to put in, I feel like I'm in my early 30's! When I go out with my children, no one believes I'm their mother and I don't relate at all to the number that is my year of birth. I've never looked at anyone as "old" even when I was little because all of the seniors in my life I adored and wanted to be just like them; wrinkles, grey hair and all. So I've sat and done the lists of pros and cons. The cons list is pretty short; reading glasses on occasion, wanting to get to bed at a reasonable hour and not being able to wear 5 inch stilettos for an entire day are about the only things that have really changed in the last 20 years. The pros list is longer than my arm but the top 5 are... 1. The wisdom to stay present and truly appreciate the moment 2. The joy of not taking any of the little things for granted 3. Amazing relationships that are relatively drama free 4. Amazing physical and sexual awareness that continues to get better 5. Recognizing that life is precious yet not to be taken seriously What is age? I don't have the answer for that but I've decided that it really doesn't matter in my life; I'm just me. Sometimes I feel 16 and everything is silly and fun, other times I'm ancient with quiet serenity. It is impossible to average out an age that I "am". For work, if I could pick an age to fill in the box, it would be 35 but I know it isn't accurate so I've decided to be ageless. Sometimes I put in 99, other times it's 75 and when I'm not caring I put in "timeless". In my day to day life, I refuse to give a number unless it's on a government form because it all depends on how old I am that day... cat

I would agree with Igab, pimping is far more prevalent than most people think. The more high profile providers are sometimes independent but in my experience there are many who have a "man" in their lives that direct the business. It's naive to believe that it doesn't. In my 25 years, I've come to learn that pimps don't always wear fur coats or look like gangsters. I've seen husbands who are straight up pimps and boyfriends who offer no contribution to running the business but bleed the woman dry. Many providers have "handlers" that don't resort to pimp tactics but are still leeches. I've also met many providers who are not cut out for running a business but are great escorts. I am one of those and from experience I would recommend an agency to learn the basics and see if going Indie is something she's even interested in. If there was an agency in town that worked me, I still be there... cat

If to you, open minded means additional services then check with the provider who has caught your eye. For me "open minded" can mean any number of things... 1. You want me to drip honey all over your body, slash a feather pillow and coat you in down then remove them with a pair of tweezers? Sure I can but you're cleaning up the mess! 2. You want to slip into something more comfortable like a pair of my Pradas? Not unless you wear the same size as me and come with a gift certificate for new shoes! 3. You want to hang upside down by your ankles while I play ringtoss with your erection with donuts then have me eat them off you? Sure, you bring the donuts. 4. You want to play naughty librarian and rip my clothes off? Absolutely but advance notice is required so I can get disposable clothes. 5. You want to shave my head and play V for Vendetta? Ummm, that requires serious advance notice and a very hefty envelope. And maybe a gift certificate to a wig shop. 6. You want to have your bottom powdered and diapered then fed a bottle while getting rocked and serenaded "Sleep little baby" while masturbating you thru leak proof plastic diaper guards? That can be arranged. Open minded simply means that we are not judgemental and whims with fancy to you are really nothing to blush about for us so go ahead and ask... cat

My dog has canine folliculitis = doggy acne... cat

I have met Katrine and several members of CMJ. I have not had the priviledge of meeting Jessica. CMJ is a p;rivate members club that upholds the integrity of the industry and I always enjoy myself there. Katrine is a young lady who takes her business very seriously and works hard to ensure her place as one of the premiere MA providers. I await my meeting with Jessica... cat

6... It looks like I'm keeping excellent company! cat

My user name is "cat", the post I quoted was about a cat and I was having a little fun in the First Person... Lee just knows how to keep cats happy is all. Keyboards are far cheaper than quality Cat toys... cat