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Just because an SP doesn't have an online review or recommendation doesn't mean she doens't provide quality service. It could simply mean either she wants to maintain discretion or no one has wanted to be the first to put something. I have very little out there by way of recos but it is intentional for personal reasons. I think if you can't find anything negative online about her it means she is probably what she seems, a woman making a living in the most discreet way possible... cat

YES I DO!!! Unless there is a biological reason or reasons I am warned about at the start of the visit it will leave me unsettled after a guest has departed. Kind of like cutting the lawn without raking or trimming or washing up and leaving the dishes in the drainer. It just isn't "done", can't be ticked off the "to do list" without a twinge of guilt. It's ingrained in my work ethic and if it happens more than once with an established guest, we "have a little chat" about what I need to do to tweak the visits so that it works better for him. If it is unavoidable then the pressure is off and it's all good clean, messy, fun... cat

It takes 30 mins to get my corset and stockings off! I do understand the reasons for a 30 minute appointment but for me it would seem a waste of time to focus on twice the outcome rather than the experience. I am also one of those old school girls that likes a job finished properly so I have a difficult time saying "times up" which is why I only book 2 hour rendezvous. 1 hour visits seem rushed to me now. I do take my hat off to a girl who will give msog/30 a go... cat

What has always confused me is how do people contract diseases from blood that has been tested? Someone answers a question and they don't bother testing that donation? I think the testing of the donation is more important than the questionaire. cat

Body language is "the" tell with all communication. I watch it in all my interactions and it is a gold mine of information. When a man is very blatant in his focus it simply allows me to control the situation so much more easily. Someone with controlled body language is a greater challenge which is interesting and thought provoking. Overtly leering body language brings out the Tinker Bell in me and that mischievous impishness will toy with him making him look and feel like a wanker in short order which is also a tremendous amount of fun! cat

I grew up in a male environment with only my mother and sister as female role models. For male role models I had my father and the assorted male employees that came and left. Today it would be considered very inappropriate to raise a child there but for the times it was normal. Our shop was papered with Playboy centerfolds and then came the Sunshine girls. The guys talked about sex as often as they did about engines and foul language was considered effective communicating. Reading material was Penthouse, Playboy and what ever books made their way into the house from trunks of cars enroute to the crusher. I could read before I went to school and called the teacher out on my Dick and Jane reader because in my book there was no dick, just a little boy. I didn't know it could be a boys name. That's the first time I realized I knew stuff the other children didn't. What did it teach me? I learned listening to men talk is way more fun than listening to women talk. I learned my current trade skills from the magazines and my life skills from the people around me. Did porn shape who I am? Probably but it didn't teach me that a mans pleasure came first or that my pleasure was to come from what the man decided to do. It taught me the basics, my own explorations taught me to ensure I enjoy it. My understanding of the sexual component to relationships gave me equal footing with the men in my life both professionally and personally. It taught me that women have an advantage that is unlimited if they know how to use it wisely. I have raised my children from the beginning to know and understand the biological aspects of sexuality and now they are older, I am the one they come to if they have a question. Nothing is off limits and I encourage them to follow their inclinations and see what happens. Just always play safe... cat

Most of the SPs that I know consider it a professional courtesy to give recommendations. We appreciate when someone does so for us, so we gladly do it for others. Not trying to hijack the thread but I would like to point out a couple of things to the gentlemen when a referral is required... 1. If you are going to see someone who requests a referral, give your regular SP a heads up that this SP will be contacting them. Out of the blue requests from an unfamiliar SP can set off spidey senses. I'm very protective of my guests information and do not discuss them unless they have given me permission to do so. If I receive a request that the gentleman didn't contact me about, I immediately drop him a message to ensure he is aware. By letting your regular SP know they may be contacted, it will save you time in getting the appointment set up by eliminating needless communications. 2. If you have a habit of cancelling at the last minute, not showing up, not showering or behaving in a way that SPs don't appreciate, do not be upset when that information is passed on to the referral requesting SP. For some SPs request the referral strictly for safety, others prefer to know that they are going to be dealing with someone who respects their time and efforts. If in the past you have not done so, be prepared that the offending behaviors may be part of the referral process. Smiles, cat

Really? I read the deleted posts, they are not what CERB is about. There are other boards to put that negativity on, I know from experience that it will spread like fire in a stick built house. For those who don't quite get the reason behind MODs quick removal of posts that don't support the tone of this board and were not here when things got a little out of control previously, this is my rant about those kinds of interactions... http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=34186 People just need to leave the attitude at the door or not walk in at all. Otherwise a fire breaks out and everyone gets burned in the chaos... Smile, cat

Now if we could just have a fireman, a UPS driver, a superintendent (with attractive tool box) and a mechanic...my wall would be complete! cat

Babies bring clarity to the confused life at times. It certainly did with me. Too young, to naive to know what I had done, but it made me what I am. They are extraordinary in every aspect and will change you in only for the better if you let them... cat

I am so truly sorry. It is not a practice a reputable SPs would resort to. When the time is appropriate, please let her know she made a terrible faux pas. cat

@ JuliasUndies - tried to give you rep points but apparently I have to spread the love! My favorite part of the "baby" phase is the bums! So cute and perferct! Fresh out of the bath, smelling like Johnsons babiness. I would lay them on a towel and massage them from head to toe and they would smile then go limp. Put their diaper and onesie on then it was boobie time! A big blanket on the couch with some mood lighting and the right music (Bob Marley was my groove for nursing). I could spend hours nursing, holding them close and just smelling them... cat

I love babies, children, tweens and teens. I am a machine when it comes to having a baby (last labour, 13 mins start to completion) and if I could stay permanently pregnant I would have. I also understand the lack of maternal drive and I think people should be encouraged to make a choice for themselves and not what society thinks we all should do. I have friends who are not maternal at all and should have never had children. I know people who only ever wanted to be mothers, be disastrous mothers! I have also seen women who seemed to lack maternal instinct become amazing mothers so I don't think anyone can say one way or the other whether they would be a good parent until they actually become one. I have cared long term for little ones who's mothers just couldn't do it and I have seen the long term results. It makes for a difficult life for both parents and children. It's quite a crap shoot. Deciding not to have a child is a responsible act. Anyone can have a child but you need a license to fish. Go figure. I am a huge supporter of adoption, especially "older child" adoptions. I think that there are so many options that a person can exercise later if they choose not to have their own that chosing not to have children isn't that big a deal. If you get to that certain age where it is "sh*t or get off the pot" and you decide not to, then you have made a good decision for you. If you change your mind, there is always a child out there waiting for good home. My momma always said that there isn't a problem in the world that can't be fixed with a baby and a rocking chair and she was right. I wouldn't trade those long days, even longer nights, diaper changes, snotty noses or stiches for anything in this world. That said, I'm glad that part is over and my little ones are all now big ones. Soooo much easier. Now I'm just waiting for granbabies! cat

I agree, the discussions were time consuming. I too like to have a theme in my ads and being able to post on a single thread would make help people see my intended meaning. Starting a new thread for every ad defeats the purpose of sequential ads and makes it harder to come up with creative ads that make sense. It's a challenge that I will have to figure out now that I have resumed advertising again. cat

I rescued a dog. He's small but a real dog. No bows or nail polish for this little guy. Sweet, smart, strong, and tough; everything I like in a man! He had some really minor aggression issues when I got him that in 4 days he seemed to overcome and we were moving forward in his training fast. Then on his last, late night quick pee walk last Friday we were attacked. It was dark in the park and I heard the dog coming but couldn't see it. This massive hound was intent on tearing my new little friend apart and as I held my dog in my arms this hound goes after both of us. As I'm fending her off, her owner STROLLS across the park yelling "Belle, don't do that baby" in a melodic, singsong voice. WTF!!! By the time she got close, my coat was torn in places and my dog was in the Red Zone trying to get out of my arms to fight. The owner can't get her dog by the collar, every time she tried the dog darts and lunged at us again. I about killed her when she finally got her dog on leash. Luckily I had my arms full of my dog, so I couldn't strangle her on the spot. The tongue lashing that I let loose felt good for me but I could tell it didn't register with her one iota. This was a week ago, I can't walk him now without him trying to eat everything. Dogs, squirrels and birds puts him into a zone that is almost uncontrollable. Now he's starting to eye people! It will take weeks, perhaps months to get him back to where he was. I'm sure she is out there, having completely forgotten about the event and now my dog is suffering the consequences of her brain dead, irresponsible, pc yuppie freaking actions. Why do people without brains have dogs? The rules are easy, if you don't understand dogs, don't get one. If your dog doesn't answer and mind, don't let him off leash. If you won't step in and break up your dogs attack, you deserve to be on the receiving end of an attack to see what it feels like. I don't let other dogs near mine if I don't know them, I don't believe in taking dogs to dog parks to "socialize" with other dogs; I never have. Dogs are not people, they are not children, they are dogs and need to be handled like a dog. Irresponsible dog owners are dangerous. cat

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I have a list as I am on a winners list sometime before 2013. I just don't know the date! 1. Pay off all debt. 2. Children trust funds and friendship gifts. 3. Pay the ransom on my youngest daughter so she can come home. 4. Invest every remaining penny. 5. Continue working and just enjoy it. 6. Go back to school. 7. Open a retreat for SPs, where they can come to rest, recharge and refocus. The model would be self care oriented and pampering beyond belief. 8. Start scouting locations for the Pooner Retirement home I am going to open. smiles, cat

Along with cleanliness, if I feel like something is knocking, I use Sinus Buster. It is a cayenne nasal spray that wipes out anything that is lurking. I also use it in place of coffee or energy drinks when I'm feeling sluggish. It's all natural and if your a sensation freak like myself you will love it. $14.95 a bottle, lasts months. cat

An excellent question, you should contact MOD about access to the SP section as you would get far more detailed responses imo. I do not offer a list of services. My rule for what I will or won't do is extremely simple... "There isn't a game that I don't love to play, just playmates I won't play them with." For those that need it translated, I am open to all games, twists, bends and naughties always respecting health and safety but I will not be commanded or expected to do anything unless I want to. I will not agree to anything until I have met a guest and there are certain games that are played with only trusted playmates. If you would like to see how certain games are played, check out some of the amateur porn sites. FetLife is an excellent source of information as well. I would be upfront with guests who are requesting a service if it is something you are interested but inexperienced with. Let them know you are willing to experiment with them but you set the boundaries. If it isn't fun, call time and stop the game... cat

The problem with regulating posts in the various sections comes from what has motivated the posts. On these threads there is a monetary incentive that some have abused in the past and the result is limited options for contribution now. It may not be "fair" but it protects against those that take advantage of it. Adding a comment to a reco is often done because it is somewhere for newbies to add to their post count or regulars to support their fav SP. It is a gray area that people often don't realize exists. I am not a supporter of the "regulate out bad behavior" school of thought, but when there is multiple complaints about something rules get put in place. People need to be more aware of their actions when they are doing something motivated by personal gain because all it does is ruin it for everyone... cat

I prefer retainers. It allows for consistent budgeting, time management and dedicated guest services on my part which suits my business style and personality. It does require trust, flexibility and at times, compromise. On rare occasions it hasn't worked but nothing in life works exactly as planned every time. As long as I have done everything in my power to uphold my end of the agreement and my guest isn't left with a bitter taste then it's all good. Retainers are more than a method of payment for me. They represent a quality that I personally find very attractive in a man. I see it as a gesture that says he cares and he shows it by contributing to my financial well being. It says that regardless of what else is going on in his life, he is willing to contribute to my life in a necessary way. It shows a level of committment on his part that says "I enjoy you and want to ensure we spend time together" within the boundaries of a very unusual business arrangement. It allows us to move within the arrangement in a way that is more natural to me than the tradition business model. I prefer to have a small guest list that have me on retainer than multiples that have me on speed dial. It allows me to focus on my guests as people, giving them the attention and experience they desire. Retainers do not work for everyone but they work exceptionally well for some. The key is finding people that have the same vision for the life experience they are seeking, a willingness to negotiate the deal and the personal integrity to honor the deal once is made... cat

And for the court reporter to record, I would like everyone to note that after 5 years; today I learned how to load an avatar!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you, I know my technical brilliance amazes and astounds you all! cat

Congratulations Miss Gabriella! You always bring a welcome smile and laugh... cat

Extraordinary people congregate here! :icon_wink: Thank you all! cat

Oh Darling face2face, I try to look in your eyes but knowing whats waiting behind the zipper can be very distracting to us girls... sweet kisses, cat