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Ladies and gentlemen, I have two blazers that were left behind. One is grey and one is black. I also have a back pack and a red track suit jacket. If anyone forgot anything, please PM me and I will get it back to you. Smiles, cat

I attended the Ottawa Christmas Party this evening and I would like to thank both Angela and Ottanon for their work in putting it together. It was a lovely evening, very well organized and attended. To all who came out and made it a great evening, thank you. For anyone who forgot items, I collected them all and brought them home. The staff there did not seem to want them left behind. PM me and we will make arrangements to get your things back to you. Smiles, cat

If a woman has an alternative profession that will ensure her income is not affected and she choses to leave escorting to pursue the relationship because she knows it makes her SO happy; then thats her choice. I respect that you are monogamous when involved in a relationship but not everyone shares the same definition of monogamy. I do not catagorize all men as controlling, but to ask anyone to change their profession and means of supporting themselves due to a moral belief system is unfair and highly suspect imho. To ask someone to change for a relationship to work indicates the problem is in the asker. Why her profession threatening to him? Society already ostracizes sex workers, we live in the fringe and to have someone you love say "Gosh, I'd like to spend the rest of my life with you but I can't accept you because of what you do for a living so you are going to have to make other arrangements or I won't be able to love you" can be devastating. Sit and think about it for a minute. Put yourself in her shoes. It means something about her is "wrong" and needs to be "fixed". I'm sorry I don't agree with that. The request undermines her, tells her something is fundementally off about herself. She will try, but it will impact her in ways you can't imagine. Regardless of the seemingly "together" appearance SP's put out in their branding, sex work doesn't attract women who have their shit together. It is the few who come into sex work knowing who they are and have their self esteem intact. The rest of us either use this business to find the real woman within or it leads us down a destructive path. We are all in the midst of figuring out life and this can be an empowering experience if it's allowed to be. For me it is the only life sphere that I have truly been successful in all areas of my life, spiritually, physically and emotionally simultaneously (except motherhood). It has cost me two relationships but if you are living in an inauthentic way just to have someone love you, is it really living? I don't think so. As human beings we all want to be loved but to have conditions put on that love due to their work is unfair. If you love someone, you do not ask them to change something so fundemental for you. You love them for who they are and how they chose to make their living or you don't get involved. I have seen it dozens of times and it doesn't work. Ever. Don't ask, don't expect, just accept or move on. cat

You are correct, escorting is unlike any other PROFESSION. This is a job. When I work, I am not being unfaithful, I am working. After 25 years in this line of work I have yet to see a woman square up for a man where there wasn't some degree of a control issue at hand. I also have never seen a relationship succeed where the woman quit because her SO requested it. If she choses to leave on her own, without influence that is another story. If he knows what she does and has monogamy requirements then he shouldn't get involved with her to begin with. Given my experience, asking her to stop is and always will be a red flag for me... cat

There are factors too numerous to list involved in making this kind of decision. If the relationship is one you are committed to making work there will be details that need to be addressed upfront. My opinions are for SPs... 1. What will you do to replace your loss of income? If he is replacing it, you need to get it in an ironclad written agreement. If he is not replacing the income you need to think long and hard about whether or not you can afford to leave. 2. Why is he asking this? Is it a control issue? This is indicative of possessive tendencies and can lead to other problems down the road. 3. What about long term financial planning for yourself? Is he willing to pony up and ensure these things are looked after. 4. Will you be happy? If you escort to pay the bills and don't actually enjoy the work, he is willing to sign the appropriate documents and take over financially then it could be a good thing. But if you like your work and would not consider leaving except for the fact that he is asking, will you genuinely be happy with "life" after you have squared up? If you can't answer yes to that, then don't do it. You have to make this decision for yourself, not for him. The fact it is asked or even implied is a red flag and you need to proceed with caution. If he truly loved you, he would not ask... cat

Another thing to keep in mind is foot care. Do you have feet that are well groomed? A regular pedicure is a must if you want to keep your feet touchable and any nail joint in the city will do it. It certainly is the deciding factor when I do a massage as to whether or not the feet get included. cat

These things happen, and each and every one of us has had an "oh shit" moment. There is no way to prevent it. You do an exceptional job here and I see nothing to forgive. Thank you for all that you do... cat

I love gift certificates that come in something fun like a bouquet of flowers or a plush bathrobe. I love to open something and find another surprise hiding... cat

In North Carolina it is a felony to engage in oral or anal sex at anytime... cat

The wonderful thing about belonging to a community like CERB is that everyone understands that life happens and we all are welcomed back no matter how long the absence. cat

I am a procrastinator thru and thru. My major downfall is paperwork. I have no organizational system in place altho I have researched the topic to death, decided on the structure, bought all the necessities and yet there it sits. A filing cabinet filled with file folders, label makers, colorful post it notes, fancy letter openers and tape dispensers. I have it all and yet it just sits there. Unpacking my suitcases. They never get unpacked until I need something from them and then everything ends up in a disheveled pile because I'm in a rush and need a specific item. It can take days until I have needed each item and by then it's time to repack. Fresh vegetables and fruit. I usually have a fridge full but they rot and I always reach for the frozen as they are quicker and more convenient. So I have stopped buying them for now. There is nothing more disgusting than a drawer full of slimy, rotten produce and then I spend the time cleaning it out feeling incredibly guilty about the starving children in the world. I never gas my car up when I have time and then when I am in a rush I have to do it and can't find a full serve station. My favorite station just relocated from downtown to Merivale so thats a pit. I hate self serve and Canadian men never offer to pump a girls gas. Exercise. I have always been an intended exerciser. Like the paperwork I mentioned above, I have all the gizmos and necessities and it lasts 22.6 minutes before I am bored silly and get distracted with something else. I've tried gyms but my edit button implodes and I always end up saying something to some moron who actually isn't a moron but is doing something that my research has shown to be ineffective and I stop going out of embarrassment. They are actually doing it and I'm just mouthing off. Big "L" on my forhead there. I hate messy pillows and have a bazillion of them. My godson thinks I have the best jumping beds in the world and I spend the whole time he's bouncing gritting my teeth wanting to straighten the pillows he's just anihilated into every corner of the room. Floors. I cannot stand dusty or dirty floors. I hate hair in the corners or smudges. This seems to be limited to my living spaces and doesn't seem to bother me in other places in the least. Very annoying when I am sitting with someone and see lint or some other offender I have missed. It distracts me to no end and as soon as they leave I have the dust buster out. Stains. I hate stains on my sheets and towels. As soon as a towel shows the least sign of wear it is relegated to the cleaning rag bag and same goes for sheets. It kills me to take a 500 count sheet and turn it into dust rags but I know that if it has a stain I will never use it again. These are the major pet peeves about me that I wish would just go away. I'm working on them, little by little, tomorrow.... cat

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Go to the Dollar store and buy the $1 aluminum film wind socks and a cheap wind chime. They worked like a charm for me for a total investment of $3. cat

Antlerman, you are stirring the pot and I will reply as soon as I have a chance to write my thoughts down... cat

Being a carnival addict back in the day, The Rotor and the Polar Express. (after hours of course!) cat

sugardaddy.com I believe. Not worth the hassle unless you have the patience of a saint. cat

Very Scary! cat

It's not just SPs.... cat

Mod, I would have to disagree. If the Mod did not run an incredibly tight ship, CERB would be where every other board is. It's like a family home, someone has to be the adult until everyone learns how to behave appropriately and then snap a towel when someone forgets the rules. I'm not kissing ass, I have seen members on CERB on other boards and their behavior is not nearly what it is here. MOD has set a high standard for acceptable behavior and the community are grown to reflect the positive stance he has implemented. As for the daily diligence, yes it is remarkable and very much appreciated. cat

I bought one at the Costco on Innes Rd and it was as good as Grandmas! The french fry thing is very Southern, they have never heard of fries and brown gravy. It's too funny to order it, the waitress looks at you like you have 2 heads. We also put potato chips on our hamburgers....way yummy! cat

Red Velvet Cake with Creme Cheese Icing Queen Elizabeth Cake with Coconut icing Shellfish with melted garlic butter Toast with butter and Peanut Butter or Honey Turkey and Stuffing Mashed Potatoes with Gravy Cashews Almonds Vector (no milk) Chocolate chip cookies with melted cheddar on top Popsicles Hush Puppies and creamy Coleslaw Southern BBQ (not grill) Whip cream Sour cream French fries dipped in a Frosty Bacon Guacamole Potato chips and dip Just to name a few... cat

I worked for an agency in Toronto and several down South and honestly, I prefer it. In TO there was $265 for a full hour call (20 yrs ago), the agency took $110 for each call, $15 book on fee per shift, and $10 cell phone fee per shift, driver took between $20 to $100 depending on where the call was. We were expected to negotiate the additional driving fees with the client when we booked the call. The agency did not book the call, the escort did. Did I resent the $$$ paid to the agency? Not usually. It allowed me to work shifts then go home and have a life. If you were reliable and trustworthy you made $, day in, day out. In the South it was a 50-50 split, you drove yourself but the agency booked the call. There were times I resented the run around, but I know in straight jobs you get the run around as well. At least I made enough $ to pay my bills and take care of my family. I've also worked in brothels down South, where you are on lockdown and that was bizarre but it worked for me. I don't have a problem following house rules and at the end of the night I always made good $. The difference for me between being an indie or an agency girl is the quality of the experience. I really enjoy being able to cater to my guests as an indie. I don't like the administration work involved with being an indie which is why you seldom see me advertise. I hate screening new clients and dealing with the time wasters. It's why I bust my ass to ensure I keep the guests I have when I do work. But there are many days where I have time to entertain, but didn't have the time to send out the invitations before hand so I miss out. If I worked for an agency, I could pick up the phone and book on. Voila, I'm making $. The problem in Ottawa is that agencies don't work older women. 5 years ago when I arrived, 2 agencies hired me and I did 3 appointments a week maximum. I had to lie and say I was 40 to go to work for a mature escort agency just so that I could eat. If I had more appointments, I would have stayed with the agencies but I was living in my car at the time and couldn't get ahead so I went indie. There are definite benefits working for a well run agency but the key is finding one. There are many girls who do not have the discipline or skill set to be an indie but they may be great escorts. It needs to be understood that good agencies are more than a cell phone and a newspaper ad and that effort needs to be financially compensated. Working with escorts isn't easy and their behavior makes it distasteful for someone considering opening an agency when one weighs the pros and cons of making the initial investment of time and $$$. The ROI often isn't strong, there are legal issues at hand and there needs to be some real soul searching as to whether this is actually worth it. Escorts are not known for their ability to follow the rules or respect authority and a good agency owner must have rules and enforce them. An agency owner deals with the other side of the "time waster" coin, which is weeding out the time wasting SP's that are unsuitable for multiple reasons. Many are unreliable, see agency clients on the side, or have personal or emotional issues that interfere with the day to day operations of working for an agency. In Canada, the SPs that allowed an agency to actually make $ leave and go indie after they get the hang of the industry. So one thinks, why bother opening a solid, well run, SP friendly agency if it means training women who will quit as soon as they have enough to put an ad on Escorts Canada? Unfortunately, that leaves the agency void to be filled with people who run makeshift operations and take advantage of escorts working both incall and outcall. The people that would make good agency owners often decide to devote their time to other endeavors. cat

It broke my heart, so young, so much life ahead of him. I'm sorry... cat

Congratulations Pistol Pete! cat

It certainly would be fun to watch! cat