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This is a bit of a rant, more conceptual than anything. It might sound lofty to some and a little too intellectual for our forum, but having spent the morning on the phone with my sister who is facing a divorce from a man who closely resembles many men I know, I needed to just get this out there because she just didn't get it. I realize that everyone likes to put things into little boxes...this is this and that is that. It's bullshit, plain and simple. We are all here having this life experience to learn, to grow and to evolve. Interactions with other human beings are an integral part of our evolution as people. Our society drills the idea of monagamy into us from an early age and whether it's right or wrong is irrelevant. We percieve our ability to have a successful relationship with a S.O. to be measured against what society is dictating to us. Why? When a relationship ends it is viewed as a failure when in reality it has run its course and it is time for change, because with change comes growth. This entire existence is dependent on change, the growth and destruction is inevitable. Nothing remains the same, and we should not be expected to behave in ways that contradict our evolution. We seek what we need instinctively, for some it simply a change in the routine of intimacies at home, for others its a connection that validates their being. As long as the doctrine of right and wrong in relationships is adhered to, we will live with a self imposed struggle. Acceptance of who we are unconditionally is the only way to allow our growth to continue. Why do men cheat....Why do we call it cheating? Why did ownership and control become an accepted part of marriage? How can we possibly believe we have the right to dicate anothers behavior? How do we know what someone needs to do to become who they're destined to become? And why do we take it so personally when someone interacts with another instead of us? It's unnecessary drama and just plain bullshit. Just my 2 cents... Catherine

I'm very interested in what is being said in this thread because I am such a visual creature. We all have a dominant sense when it comes to our intimate stimulation. Altho all the senses need to be stimulated, everyone has one sense that is the trigger. We fall in to the three categories of seeing it, hearing it or feeling it. One will dominate, the other two will compliment it. Orafactory senses become the net that holds it all together. It's important for an SP to be able to identify which sense is her guests main button and then tailor the experience to that leaning. I am a tactile primary with supporting visual stimulation to get the job done. In order to ensure I enjoy, there is always a mirror close by because I love to watch the play as it unfolds. When I identify that my guest is visual, the mirror becomes the focal point of our play. If he enjoys "eyes closed" then it's a combination of touches and words, whether they are whispered or screamed. Those that close their eyes need to cut off the visual in order to focus on the tactile and verbal input. I find the visual aspect allows me to turn off the mental dialogue by concentrating on the images while the tactile moves the story in the desired direction. You must have all the sensations stimulated in the appropriate way to ensure the experience. I find the eye contact to be an integral part of my own satisfaction from the moment my guest arrives and the door opens until it closes as the guest departs. Facial expressions can be comical at times if you are not staying in the moment but if in the mutual throes they just enhance the experience. So I guess I would be an "eyes wide open" kinda girl... Catherine

Warning...the word "love" is used in this thread many times. For those that have committment issues, fear of attachment or relationship paranoia this post is not for you!!! The word is not intended to represent the traditional understanding of what our society calls the infatuation that leads to the insanity of being "in love". It is a much deeper resonating energy that comes from deep within. That said.... This is a great thread! People are complete, unique entities and that is beauty of our existence. As Eve described there are those that don't understand the complexities of the human spirit. I have been there, opened the envelope and had my stomach fall out. I have learned and try to ensure it doesn't happen, but when it does, I chaulk it up to tithing. Obviously they are unaware in their essence and may never see the bigger picture. I feel pity for them more than anger. I have been incredibly fortunate in my life. Everyone in my "real life" who is in my inner circle knows what I do, and I live an inclusive life. My guests are friends from the moment we meet. The bond grows and the relationship matures. I have a couple of those incredible men that are my "down time" friends. They come and hang when I am in sweats and no makeup. They have seen the reality behind the show, shopped with me, hung paintings and mirrors, felt the intense focus of preparation. They keep me real during the panic moments. When my daughter made her "great escape" this summer, one sat and held me while I worried for her. He stroked my hair and whispered words of encouragement that I desperately needed to hear. His hugs kept me sane. When she arrived he was there when the inevitable questions came. He helped me explain what I do in a way I could never have articulated without it sounding like a sugar coating. When I think of him, inside I know I love him, he is my friend and will always be my friend. In their own ways my guests contribute to my life in ways that can't be put into words. Those that are so inclined and cut the mustard meet my family. I had a guest attend my daughters 18th birthday party. He is my friend. Another meets me for dinner at a local pub every Sunday evening when our schedules connect. We then sit and talk into the wee hours. It is time I treasure. I have friends that are welcome in my families homes. I have an unusual extended family and they open their hearts to those that want to enter and when I introduce someone as a friend they welcome without hesitation. My guests have had dinner with us, they come to laugh and celebrate our milestones. They offer guidance with their knowledge and life experience because they all come from varied backgrounds, there is so much out there I am oblivious to and their advice is always welcome. Loving in this world is crucial and I do so openly. It is unconditional and the "in love" boundaries are seldom breached for a reason that is beyond me. Perhaps because I am older and not the "fall in love" kind of girl. I have no expectations, and whatever they are comfortable with is good with me. I take each moment as it comes and enjoy what it brings to my life. The closest friends I have outside of blood ties in my life have all been guests. Some retain the guest priviledges, others prefer to go the platonic route. I trust their judgement in this arena because intense emotional connections with a physical aspect can be difficult. As I have eluded to, I ran into trouble with the US Feds and I found out who my true friends were. They weren't limited to my family and friends, my guests stepped up to the plate in spades. I had one show up to put his house up for my bond, others quietly delivered envelopes to my lawyers, some sent money orders to my facility to ensure I had necessities and some took collect calls and orgestrated communications that otherwise would have been impossible. To this day, these men are my friends. I love them for exactly who they are, not what they offer on a monetary level. They showed me that the connection I felt with them was real. The role I play in my guests lives is multifacited. I willingly step into whichever aspect they are lacking in their lives. Seldom are we given the opportunity to not play a role, and when a guest walks thru my door there is no role to play. They get to be themselves without fear of judgement, they are accepted for who they are at the basest level and the being "stripped" of his apparent identity is always infinitely more attractive than any role they play in their world. The soul emerges and it's incredible. I follow their lead, if they are looking for something that allows them to stay at arms length, that is good with me. But if they are seeking and their spirit connects with mine, I go with it. Are these men my friends? Absolutely! Is it difficult? No! Would I change it? NOT A CHANCE!!!!!!!!! Catherine

To the Gentlemen of Ottawa! I must take a moment to put some of my thoughts down. I'm out west, sitting on my balconey looking at the city skyline and the mountains all at the same time. The coffee is steaming, the sound of construction fills the air. The only thing that could make where I am better, is if it were all in Ottawa. Last week was such an incredible experience for me. For all those that didn't have the opportunity to come for a visit I apologize. I had 59 requests, and there are only so many hours in a day. The visits that I had the pleasure of entertaining were such fun, and my new suite lived up to all of my lofty expectations. The gentlemen in Ottawa are truly exceptional breed of man. I left Ottawa with an overwhelming feeling of genuine care and belonging. The sadness that settled as I waited for my flight was quiet and I know in my heart that Ottawa will be home to me as much as the South ever was. Anyone who knows a Southerner will realize the magnitude of that statement. My visit was intense, the relationships I have with so many of you bring me such a tremendous sense of joy and satisfaction. Thank you all, for just being who were born to be... Catherine

Mod...is it time to close this one yet? Catherine

As everyone knows, I have had a jaded opinion of the concept of these boards since landing in Canada. My appearance on the scene caused some discussion on the other board that wasn't favorable even tho no one had met me and it left me repulsed by the very idea of boards. It's not that I had an issue with someone saying something negative, if someone has a complaint I want to know so that I can rectify it. But the thought that my relationships would be discussed in the open world was shocking. I watched closely before deciding to participate here, and only because of the Mods dedication to upholding the high standards set out did I venture in. Many from the other board have become guests and some friends, but since the rise of CERB they are now here also. I have had several discussions about the "kiss ass" nature of the reviews here, mainly from guests that don't "hobby", but find something good and stick with it. They have a hard time believing there are that many 10's out there. In the end it always boils down to their inability to believe in the good in people. Everyone has qualities that can and should be appreciated. What most of our society fails to understand is that positive expectations brings positive results and negative brings negative. If an SP reads negative input, it emphasizes the negative and she focuses on it. If she doesn't have the skill to let it go it leaves a residual negative energy within her that will eminate out. Raise the bar in a positive way and your expectations will be fulfilled. I have never been approached with a "review for services" offer, can't imagine how someone would even broach the subject. I do find that the relationship I have with the guests from CERB are more enjoyable because we have a better sense of who we are enjoying. Ideas are shared and discussed, the interactions online are fun and they bring a familiarity to a guest that I haven't met which helps me feel more comfortable. If the reviews are considered over the top by some, it is simply because they haven't yet reached the awareness that people are incredibly unique and can only be judged against themselves. Much like the Salt Flat races, you compete against your own best, not against the others on the ticket. I look at every visit when it is over and make the mental notes about what I can improve on next time for this guest. I constantly work to make what I do better, I can't try to compete against the Paiges and Avas who have years in their favor and a love of lifting iron so I don't even attempt it. Why would I? The ladies here in Ottawa are some of the finest providers I have had the opportunity to work beside. There isn't competition, there is compliment. Every visit has it's own flavor and nuances, that is the beauty of this life. This Mod and members of this board get it, and thats why it has taken off. Any environment that excludes and divides will only breed more isolation. CERB is a place founded on inclusion and acceptance which enhances the connections and allows people to expressed who they really are. I know it sounds "Pollyanna", but I truly believe in the good in people and I feel CERB proves that if there is a safe place to "just be", then people will respond with who they really are. For all those who put themselves out there on this board...Thank You! Catherine

Welcome to the board lanalee! Don't take the teasin' serious, these boys are as sweet as they come and don't mean any harm. I took a look at your site. YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE! I asked these boys a while back what the perfect bottom looked like. IMO, yours is it! Absolute perfection that is a pleasure to behold. Smile, have a great trip here in Ottawa and I promise if you treat these boys right, they will treat you even better! Catherine

I love smooth! I do have a bit of a buffer zone for comfort, but took the plunge and had the entire area lasered. What an incredible treat! Everywhere that counts is silky smooth always, and not having to wax or shave is freeing in and of itself. No razor burn or wax bumps, I love it and would not go back. Ever... I have a woman here in town who does it. She's cool as shit and will do any bodypart. Because she works out of her home, it's a comfortable relaxed environment and the price is great. If you want her number, just PM me. Catherine

Quality providers whether M's or S's don't change their names if they understand the business. Reputation is everything and takes a tremndous amount of time and effort to establish. Name changes indicate instability most of the time but on a rare occasion it will stem from a personal situation or a stalker. Stick with known commodities, it's always a safer bet. IMHO.... Catherine

Reread the thread, can't seem to find the date. On my last trip to Sturgess I swore I'd never ride bitch again I think I'll recant the statement. If it's this weekend, I'm in if there is a warm body infront of me and a flask of Patron on my hip... Catherine

LMAO!!!!!!!! Talk about mixing your looks! It's as bad as mixing your decades! Catherine

There are men who are cut to wear a suit and carry themselves as such. My take would be that if you wear a suit regularly, there is a connection to it. Everyone who has ever slipped that perfectly tailored jacket or vixenish Jimmy Choos knows that different attire can change a persons demeanor, stance and behavior. A construction worker that only wears suits to a funeral would emit an intense "uncomfortable" walking thru the door in a suit and a woman who loves her Aerosoles will never look at home in a pair of street legal Guess stipper shoes and this comes thru in spades! When a man dons a tie regularly, it changes the feel of him. I have a friend in the military who always wears jeans when we hang. I saw him walking down the Rideau in his blues, and his walk was amazing! He had a strut that looked as natural as breathing, but the next time I saw him in jeans it was just a walk. Same man, same smile, same spirit. Different walk. Personally, I love the suit and tie if my guest is comfortable in it. There is something about taking a tie off that oozes sex appeal and the buttons are such a fun way to start the play. The other side of the coin is every bit as delightful, give me a man straight out of the gym, dripping wet covered in pheromones and there will be no couch time or small talk. To me his body screams to be had, so I do. I am also a sucker for a cowboy, uncomplicated in his FTL and Wranglers or the labourer who still has cement on his pants and callouses. To me it says "I get shit done" and that makes for big fun. As long as they are comfortable, it's all good. What isn't good, is a lack of attention to detail no matter what your wearing. Hair that is growning out of places that it shouldn't be, ie uncontrolled nose and ear hair. Eyebrows that can be braided. Hang nails, fingernails chewed to the quick or feet that have never seen a pedicure chair. REAL MEN GET THEIR FEET DONE!!!!!! Trust me fellas, book an appointment at an Asian nail joint. Let those pretty girls make you feet and toes sooo touchable! Just take care of yourself, and stay true to who you are. JMHO... Catherine

Age is a tricky thing when it comes to entertaining. For me, age is more of the mind than the body. Maturity is the desired characteristic, and we all know those that are wise beyond their years and those that never grew up. I have a current age restriction which is motivated by the age of my children. Can't visit with those that could date my daughters. Even a Brad Pitt look alike would have a tough time getting past the couch. It makes me feel like a dirty old woman! That being said, it is the attitude which determines whether or not someone is welcome. With younger guests, there is often more unrealistic expectations that life has already explained to the more mature man. As I have expressed before, I like mine to be fully grown mancubs regardless of their chronological age. I love a man who wants to experience the moment and participate in it fully with me. Less mature playmates miss the "now" going thru the mental checklist of comparisons and preoccupations. I can't speak for other SP's, but for me it's about the quality of the time together, regardless of what the birthdate on the drivers license is... Catherine

I am never far, always stop in here to see what's shakin. Lots of wonderful changes at hand. Keep an eye on the announcements, I will be back in Ottawa soon!!!!!!!! Until I'm there....smile! Catherine

Thank you Everyone! I have been floating in wireless world for the last couple of weeks, and I logged on to find this! I hadn't realized I was in the running, so it comes as a delightful surprise! There are so many wonderful SP's and hobbiests who contribute here. We all deserve the recognition because it is the dynamics of all the contributors that make this such a great place to come to. Again....Thank you! Humbly yours, Cat

The "N" word, hmmmmm. Coming from the south it is often used, but it no longer is a reference for skin color, how very "70's" to say the least! At home it is a term used to describe someone who is ignorant. It describes someone so set on being right at any cost, that they never see the world with any clarity. They come from every walk of life, every demographic out there. Since arriving in Canada, I am amazed at the lengths Canadians are willing to go to, to ensure the appearance of racial harmony here. But then I encountered the "frenchie" and "quebexico" mentality and realized that racism is here, it's just more discreet. Hats off to all who replied to this with the honesty needed. As I have said before, we all bleed red... Catherine

Dear Dash, One never knows how someone will respond until the contact is made. Take heart, we are not all ***es, altho I wish I had one more like Pretty Paiges! I hope things are going well here for you, I think you'll find that the more you are on the board the warmer it will be for you... Catherine

I took the test and came out with a respectable 7/10. Then for shits and giggles gave it to my 18 yr old daughter and she beat me with a 9/10!!!! Talk about a "head shaker"! Guess the sex ed classes work. I agree cm...where do they get this stuff? Catherine

Congratulations Cowboy! I like it when something works out the way it is suppose to! Catherine

It is more than appropriate to ask for an outfit! This thread shows how diverse the likes are and if it is narrowed down for us that makes getting ready so much easier. I always appreciate it when a guests gives me specifics. It gives me insight into my guest, and allieviates the need to try to find something generically sexy! I remember a guest that specifically said no black and then with the second appointment I forgot and had a LBD on. As soon as I opened the door I realized my mistake and it never happened again. It is so important to make great experiences, and any information that is given before hand is a help. Catherine

This has been such an interesting thread for so many reasons. As for the "race-age-ethnic" bias, I found that very entertaining. I am sorry to say, but just as men have likes and dislikes when it comes to women, we have the same kinds of inclinations. If I have two clients requesting the same time slot, who do I give it to? The one I know I will have fun with. If they are both new guests, then I go on instinct. I for one, chose which clients I see based on prior encounters. If I didn't have fun, then you don't come back. I know many women who are only attracted to a certain race, or a certain look. If this is a side business then they can pick and chose because they have different motivations. I have clients of all shapes, sizes and colors. But, only those who have shown respect have earned the right to come back and play regardless of skin color. SP's don't have time to racially profile, but we work off of past experience and gut intuition. Newbies don't have past experience, so they have to go by their gut. We all learn as we go and if someone thinks photos will help so be it. It's important to remember humans are a funny lot, one mans tickle is anothers torture. Catherine

Just because you are paying for a visit doesn't mean we don't have the right to decide before hand who we want to see. If this lady has decided she only wants to share her body with those she finds personally attractive then that is her choice! SP's are unlike any other service providers. Put yourself in her position, what if you were standing on the other side of the door and opened it to a woman who had no teeth, greasy hair, reeking of body odor and she outweighed you by 150lbs. Would you feel comfortable telling her she repulsed you and to please leave? I think you would go thru the same thought process we do... 1. Can I do this? 2. If she wants to kiss me, can I do it and not gag? 3. When she wants me to eat her, can I do it without losing my lunch? 4. If I tell her to leave, will she go peacefully or cause a scene? 5. Am I in danger? 6. Can I get it a hard on with this person? 7. How desperately do I need the money? (not necessarily in the order in which they flow thru the grey matter!) Think about it. Just because you are the one initiating the contact and wanting to have the opportunity to spend time with an SP doesn't mean you dictate anything and that she doesn't have the right to ask for whatever she deems necessary to ensure her peace of mind. It is not for you to ask why she does it, just to decide if you want to participate on her terms. Catherine

Thank you so much for the nomination. I have been neglectful of late and really don't deserve it. Congrats to all who have been listed, but everyone knows a girl always has a weak spot for a man on a horse... Catherine

When it comes to restaurants, I wholeheartedly agree! I love finding the little out of the way places that no one knows about. Unfortunately, due to the laws in this country we are not allowed to have a true, down home style. I would love to have the rambling house in the country full of voluptuous vixens lounging on chaises in their lingerie where men can come and just have a good time! Somewhere that you park your car and no one driving by can see it, and everyone there forgets everyone else as soon as they leave but give knowing winks over the table when the little wives have a neighbourhood dinner party. Where the bar is always open, the pool is always cool and the girls are exactly what you need to warm up after a cold day. But alas, we can't...yet. So, we set up in respectable neighbourhoods and keep our lawns neatly manicured so we don't stand out. We open the garage door so your car fits inside and no one driving by can see it. We sit alone when there are no visitors and wait. Appointments, an inconvenient but necessary evil. Catherine