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I think thats what the calendar at the top of the page is suppose to be for. I think? Who am I trying to kid! LOL! Catherine

If they didn't ding you at the door, then you are good. Some places keep track of cancelled appointments, some don't. SP's usually do because of the time issues. Squaring up with the MP was the way to go, it means a lot to providers when someone acknowledges and appreciates that we are just trying to make a living and lost time means lost income. Kudos to you... Catherine

This is a word used extensively at home in the South. It is used as term of endearment. On the wrong side of the tracks it denotes that her man takes care of her, unlike a deadbeat, the way a daddy makes sure all his little girls needs are met, ie-food, roof, bills getting paid etc. It is never an incestuous thing. On the right side of the tracks it's used by older couples, "momma" and "daddy". Again as an endearment. I have also heard it used in the heat of the moment by women, not something I would do, but it works for some of them. As many of you know, I have a certified "daddy" complex. Fortunately, men seem to have a "pretty girl" complex so it works all the way around. Not in a incestuous bend in me, but when it comes to age, I love my men all grown up. I could never utter the word "daddy" in the bedroom for all the money in the world and I can only do the "mommy" thing if it completely nonsexual. Go figure! To each their own... Catherine

I've been thinking about joining, drop me a note and I'll go with you! Cat

Travelling with anyone requires a tremendous amount of patience and a willingness to go with the flow. I have always found that approaching it with the right attitude is key. When I am asked to join in on a trip, the first question I ask is "Does the vacation start for you the minute you start packing or once you reach the destination?" If the answer is "Reaching the destination" I decline because I start my vacation the minute I decide to go. By the time I'm packing I am in such a good place mentally that the party has already started and a good time is going to be had! I rue the day they limited carryon liquid to 3 ounces, I use to carry a shampoo bottle of tequilla on the plane because there are no airlines that carry Patron! Catherine

This board is facilitated in a way that brings the dignity our industry so desperately needs. The dedication it takes to ensure CERB maintains its exceedingly high standards speaks for itself. The Mod has brought out our best by expecting it. Thank you...again. Catherine

I know I have been laying low lately, a lot going on in my real world. This "theme song" thread has been rattling around in my grey matter tho and last week it hit me. This is a song I sang in my sleep for years, and it's the one that plays in my head everytime I need to pull my shoulders back, hold my chin up and my head high (which seems to happen more often recently than I care to admit). Enjoy, I think there is a little bit of everything in all of us... Catherine

Dear Love2Cum, Having an SP do bondage in the beginning is tough for many reasons. You will need to take the time needed for her to get to know you. You might have more success finding someone at one of the S&M get togethers... Catherine

Some clarification here please! How can a bum be too muscular? I thought the gold standard was to bounce a quarter of it? I enjoy a great tush as well as the next guy, but I have always been a little out of the loop as to what the guys really think is a good jean fillout. When I was a pup, the hips were narrow, the butts tight and the breasts were just starting the enhancement explosion. I love them in all shapes and sizes, tho my inclination is towards the apple bottom. The only one on the list I have met is Paige, and you all know I thought she was bout as perfect as it comes. Today standards have changed and I am a little curious as to what a guy thinks the characteristics of a great bootie are? Catherine

Delivering a tip is easy! Stop at the last flat surface in her apartment, take your wallet out and put the $ down while you look her in the eye and say..."Thank you". That usually elicits big kisses from me anyway. I have had guests tuck it under the pillow, leave it in the bathroom or tuck it in my cleavage with a kiss goodbye. When I was an agency girl, I often found it in my toybox, in the top of my purse and even in my boot! There is never an ungracious way to slip a girl a tip. Of all the people in this world, SP's are the last to be offended by the handling of $! Catherine

Dear NK, I have an inner dread when it comes to pictures. I share your concerns about showing your face. My face is my best feature, and the only feature I would like to have out there if not for the personal fallout. There are ways, just be creative and have a good time. My first shoot was with a fledgling art photographer who didn't know sexy from a hole in the ground and I had never had a photo taken before. I should have known as soon as she showed up and didn't own a comb! She was an old school camera addict and it cost me a ton for the pics and I never did get the negatives. 240 pictures, 5 that were usuable. The next time, I hooked up with a guest who was a hobby photographer, with professional equipment. I was so nervous, I was sick to my stomach for the morning. We loaded a ton of outfits in the car, I had a bottle of tequilla to keep my courage up and we spent the day taking a ton of pics, and they are still the ones I use today. I had a good time because he can make me laugh, and he makes me feel sexy which I think came thru in the shots. There are several men online here I would trust with a camera. If you are in a budget pinch, take advantage of what's available to you. Once you get more comfortable, the shots will come. The more you take, the better they will get. Catherine

Dear capitalman, And so your prices should go up if she is trying to take advantage of you! It's so frustrating to take pride in doing something and someone just nitpicks. Drives me NUTS! I have spent the last couple of years working on just letting it go, but I have days where I really wonder. I am the first to admit that getting a great deal is something I love to do, but only if the deal is fair and willingly negotiated. It's never a good idea to negotiate with a crafts or tradesman. If I can't do it myself, I just count out the money and keep my tongue still unless the work is a concern. On rare occasions, someone comes for a visit and tries to revisit my fees. Unfortunately, you don't have the luxury of showing her to the door the way I do. I always have a tinge of satisfaction when the door closes and they are on the other side! I feel for you... Catherine

I agree, it can be a little unnerving having strangers in your home. I don't think it is ever a good idea to work and live under the same roof for a myriad of reasons. The first is safety, it's too easy for someone to watch you. We have all had guests who become a little too amorous and it makes you an easy target. I like to move my incall a couple of times a year. Movers aren't that expensive and I try to take sublets. Keeps the paper trail low. The second is LE. If they walk in, they have everything from the get go if you are at home. The third is mindset. I like going to work, and going home. Lets me get my head straight on the way there, and gives me a time to decompress before I greet loved ones. It all depends on what you want out of your work. I find having a space dedicated to entertaining keeps the energy in the space focused. Running outcalls can be a lot of fun in the summer, but a bit of chore in the snow... Catherine

There certainly was no offense taken, this is a place to discuss these things and see another?s point of view. There is no right or wrong of it. It simply is. Every occupation has its own distinct challenges, and when it comes to finding the best of the best, it is always a scavenger hunt. In every profession there are those that simply show up, do their job and go home. Then there are the ones that put the effort in to become exceptional and those are the ones we all search for. A barber is an excellent example. If you want the extras, the tip is mandatory. It isn't the extra couple of dollars you leave that motivate him to do a masterful job; it's knowing you appreciate the effort and the results. My hairstylist could double his fees and I would pay it, because he is the best I have found for me and I wouldn't want to try and find someone else. It is a risk I am unwilling to take; my hair is part of how I make my living. If I were willing to risk having my tresses butchered a couple of times I could probably find someone else, but the grow out is long and painful. Been there, done that, not doing it again. So many out there wallow in a mundane existence and never notice the little things, and we all need the recognition that we are doing a good job. Thus the "tip"? What I think has been missed out on in this thread is the symbology of the "tip". In some professions like waitressing, it is their bread and butter. For others in the service industry it is a thank you. But what does a "tip" say about the tipper? The way a person tips sends signals loud and clear about a person?s character. Someone who is "tight" shall we say sends out a message that they are constricted, adverse to letting go or taking a risk. In the game of seduction it is the ultimate anti-seducer. We are all cheaper than we think, and often float thru life without realizing the message we send is that we are closed off. Having a giving nature blankets someone?s entire being. Someone who shares willingly will do so in all areas of their lives. It means you are not afraid to give of yourself and that will carry you further in this world than just about anything else. In the world of science, quantum physics has proven that thoughts physically manifest themselves and what we think can become real. Having a generous nature means the world will be generous back. I have experienced this first hand; it is a truth that has proven itself time and time again in my life. While money is a good way to gauge someone?s nature, selective gen♣♣♣♣ity is always a good rule to apply. People can give without hurting their wallets; all it takes is a little willingness to open up to others. I never worry about a tip when I have a guest who comes to me with his spirit open and giving. Those that arrive with walls that need to be dismantled one brick at a time seldom, if ever get invited back regardless of a tip. Everything we say, every action we take sends out messages and we need to be aware of what the message we are sending is. The money simply symbolizes recognition and appreciation, and helps alleviate some of the day to day stresses that preoccupy the mind. Just my thoughts on it... Catherine

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This is so funny! I have spent the last week thinking about this, and I am at a loss. I have different songs that run in my head for different situations, but I never know who sings them or their titles. I will try and figure them out and put up a list, but I am such a ditz when it comes to the details... Catherine

Darling Paige, You got a puppy! That's a new one, certainly guarantees you will never forget the giver, but did it come with lifetime supplies, vet care gift cards and newspaper? That is a handful. I prefer appliances, power tools, anything with a 2 stroke or tires really. LOL! Catherine

Gentlemen, Great input! It is all appreciated and I'm continuing to work on getting it all together. Every post is appreciated. Thank you! Catherine

Dear capitalman, There are so many aspects of your post that on the surface ring true, but when the reality is examined shows the extreme differences between our professions. Comparing the life of a SP to any other business is not feasible. Yes, you have the same kind of overhead that we do, but you do not face the challenges that SP's do. It's important you have a clear understanding of the challenges we face before you start the comparison. Many of us independents are parents, have other jobs that do not pay the bills, but we have to maintain them to ensure we do not lose our children to the state, or have our teenage children put in a compromising "living off the avails" situation. Most of us have to sacrifice our personal lives in it's entirety to conduct our business as it needs to be if we are independent. As SP's we have a limited run, working extracts tolls that most cannot even imagine. As I have stated in previous posts, this is like the career of the professional athlete, you can only do it for so long before it does permanent, irreparable damage. For some it is a physical manifestation, but for most it is mental. It can and will leave scars on each and every SP in some way, and most are not equipped to deal with the fallout. You on the other hand, can continue to be a contractor until you decide to retire which gives you 30 some odd years to build and run your business and make your mark. SP's do not have that luxury, unless we are blessed with titanium inner strength and the good fortune to have a partner who shares our backbone. It's easier to find a 10 carat diamond in the Gatineau river, than a partner who can accept an SP's line of work. This is a line of work where we share the most intimate part of ourselves daily with complete strangers. The energy expended to ensure our guests leave feeling good is enormous. Even a legend like dummpy visits a maximum of one provider per day, we can see up to 5 or 6 guests maximum and that is a WOW day. Most of our time is spent in preparation, and when I average my day, I make about $22 an hour. Not bad for a country hick with no education. But it will be over at some point, what then? We move on, but unless we have invested the money we are back where we started. Most of us have bills to pay which is why we are working in this industry to begin with. SP's don't wake up one day and decide to go hustle. We choose it because our backs are against the wall and we have no other option. I have spent close to $250K on lawyers in the last 7 years because of the industry I am in. My RRSP's are lower than other women my age and my finacial future is entirely dependent on my ability to generate an income. Try for a minute to imagine what it is like to open the door to people you have never met, and take them into yourself. Over and over and over again. Now imagine the reality that many will have issues you find distasteful. Perhaps the hygiene is questionable, or his attitude is demeaning. He pinches and bites a bit too hard and leaves marks, or is too aggressive and leaves you sore and swollen. What if he is first for the day? Every guest after that just makes it worse, and even if they are someone you know and enjoy, it's hard to grit your teeth and not have them know you are in pain. Just think.... So when it comes to tipping, think about the entire scenario and the PERSON who has just made you smile. Realize the effort she puts in and acknowledge it, even if it is only an email saying thank you. $ will always be appreciated, but just knowing that someone gives kudos for a job well done is often enough... Catherine

Dear jughead, Congratulations! I think this is an excellent opportunity to figure out where you weakness lie in a real life situation and not just on your resume. So often, people turn down positions because they didn't get the title and they miss the fact that the alternative can actually be better for them in the long run. It helps round out your experience in a very practical way and gets your feet wet. I have been passed over for a couple of positions because "it wasn't right" for some reason, and taken a different position and I always end up glad I did in the end. I also think your boss has the right idea, the "us and them" mentality has to go in all areas. Cooperation is the only true way to advance everyones best interests. I know it sounds very Pollyanna, but I really believe that if we all could just see one another as people and respect that fact the world would be a much better place to be. Catherine

Now antlerman, something as common as a blemish removal should make you queasy somehow surprises me! It is a lot like sex, it's is something we all do at times, either alone or with someone to help out! Many gentlemen do not have partners at home to help out with these things and to find a provider who doesn't balk at something is good to see. It tells me she is very down to earth, and I happen to like a woman that isn't afraid to minister a little tending to when she sees it's needed. I know many girls who make a notation not to see someone again if they see blemishes, and always thought it was a little bizarre. I think it shows character on her part, and on Krusty's part to be willing to share. We are willing to discuss things such as AtM and facials, but a pimple is offlimits? You certainly made me smile as I read this! Catherine

Darling insidevoice, No apology needed! This is the kind of discussion I was hoping for. Open honest communication with suggestions that are well thought out, and proven true thru experience. Every entry has something worth reading! Everyone...thank you and keep it coming! Catherine

"One more quick note about hygiene "down there". I actually came across a posting about that and it got into the gentleman as well. Perhaps I should have responded to that post but it was so old I let it slide. Anyway, all seemed to be in agreement that it should be clean shaven or very well trimmed. Wow ... that one threw me for a loop. I've tried the shaving and/or grooming things a few times in my life and don't like it at all. Is this type of grooming truly expected on both sides these days?" insidevoice My personal choice is....YES, YES, YES...GROOM!!!!! Flossing with pubic hair is difficult as they are not usually long enough to wrap around my fingers for a grip and if they are long enough then there really is a problem! I also hate discreetly fishing for a stray that's loose in my mouth while trying to focus on more important things. I am sure if I ever end up on a C.S.I. autopsy table, there will be a hairball lodged somewhere inside containing multiple donor strands which they will have fun trying to figure out which belongs to whom because the strays sometimes head south before I can catch them! If you can't keep it smooth, at least keep it well manicured. Many SPs offer grooming as part of their sessions, just inquire cause it's lots of fun! Catherine

Darling Pistol Pete, This is exactly the kind of input needed.... Catherine

1. Deciding what kind of experience you are looking for 2. Determining what kind of SP to use?ie, agency vs indie 3. Planning the encounter, contacting, appropriate language etc 4. Fees, tipping, true cost 5. Etiquette and hygiene 6. Unusual situations All of these have been addressed and once I get it done I will forward the final copy to the Mod to post in its entirety. I want personal experiences so that I can compare what I have written to the experience of the hobbiest. I have been on the client end of the stick on many occasions, as a woman I think my experience is probably very different that that of a man... Catherine