crunchyfrog

Should sex for sale be done away with, I think the result would be pretty simple: people would find some other way to get sex. Monogamy is not a natural state for us, building community is. Monogamy is withdrawal from the community. You fill in the blanks as to what joining the community is. -cf

Thanks for the insights, guys. I was hoping some people here would help me understand this topic, and indeed you have. MightyPen: >> b) That explains swinging, group sex, and porn. > I dunno. ... the psychology of each of these things > is much deeper than "I want more partners". You're absolutely right. "Explains" was too strong a word - perhaps something like "the fact that we came from such societies is related to thoughts towards swinging, group sex, porn, or becoming a service provider." I didn't give people enough credit for being the complex creatures that they are. I show my own inexperience here. :-) >> d) Service providers are like waitresses, teachers, or diplomats. > Those aren't the parallels I'd have chosen. ... service providers for me, > when things go well, are more like therapists. Well put. Escorts are professionally trained to deal with all social situations. So are therapists, but therapists only read about it in a book. Lowdark: > monogamy is possible given our minds Monogamy is absolutely possible and works for many people. I can only speculate as to how many entirely monogamous people are members here at CERB. ;-) "Monogamy" is a bit of a dirty word - it really should mean whatever the couple wants it to mean. > the thing that raises us above animals... one of the interesting things in another part of the book is that it notes how we share 98.4% of our genetic material with both chimps and bonobos. It's not just that we both descended from our common ancestor with the apes (you know... if you believe in that sort of thing), for all intents and purposes we _are apes . Chimps can be violent, but we share just as much in common with bonobos, which are peaceful, and for the most part live nearly exactly like modern day forager tribes. Our complex brain lets us work both ways (both violent and greedy capitalist, or peaceful villager) because we're highly adaptable. Let's hear some more if you've got it. -cf

Some girls do, some girls don't. Some places (usually "massage" type places) have the girl join you as part of standard service, but in other cases (more with indys) the girl may join you if she wants to freshen up or just start the fun early. The best way to find out, of course, is to ask. Come showered anyway, and then ask her if she'd like to join you for another. :-) -cf

To re-iterate what others have said above: of course I love sex, and of course I love women. What the girl is selling me is a fantasy - the fantasy that she could be mine. Of course in the end I can't have her, but for an hour she's willing to pretend I can. Personally I believe this is a rather harmless fantasy, and it is one that can be safely enjoyed in a way that hurts neither party's feelings. -cf

I also had the pleasure of visiting Miss Voyeur a few weeks back. She was friendly, and just as she described in her ad. She was un-rushed, offered excellent service, and I hope to repeat sometime soon. -cf

There have been all sorts of ads for escorts on Craigslist in Halifax in the last couple of weeks, after having had none (or very few) for years. What gives? Is the scene picking up, or are the ads fake? Anyone had a chance to try one?