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Everybody is being politically correct in saying "it happens" or "something must have happened" and they are right it does and it could have but that does not excuse the SP for not calling to cancel. I would contact the SP and politely ask for an explanation and let her know how disappointed that you never had the opportunity to make alternate arrangements. Then take the money that you saved and treat yourself to an extended appointment or an extra appointment on your next trip. What ever you do...don't publicly diss the SP or evenly discreetly diss her. It will hurt your reputation. Who knows, if the SP in question is appreciative of your politeness, she may enjoy the opportunity to make it up too you. Almost like makeup sex.

So much for sticking up for the guys lol.

You girls don't need 1,000,000 pounds to be rich. You are already rich in beauty and yes in friends from cerb. Just don't tell the taxman. Cheers

Once I move to Ottawa, I am hoping to budget 1 per month...I will have to get a handle on my other expenses once I get there so right now just a guess. Right now when I travel to Ottawa or Toronto for business, I usually will see 2 each trip. I will average about 2 trips to Toronto and 3 trips to Ottawa so right now its about 10 per year.

I always love it when you girls stick up for the guys.

I agree, could we not have a couple of options availabe when fielding a friend request, such as: - The person for which you requested a friendship would love to be your friend, or - The person for which you requested a friendship would consider your request once the person has gotten more acquainted with you, or - Hey fella, you had your chance and you blew it, this person would rather go for a root canal than to be your friend. Well ok, maybe we could work on the wording of the different options. Anyways, it is an eye opener for me. I have befriended a few SP's and hobbyists and have not personally met all of them. I did not think twice about it. I had exchanged pm's and chatted a fair bit with the individual before I made the request. I think Annessa is right, I think I would have been a little disappointed if I was rejected as a friend by anyone with whom I felt I had established a good rapport. Am I setting myself up for disappointment. Cheers

Many Happy Returns...and while I am at it....Happy New Decade

I once heard about this guy that won the lottery. He calls his wife and says, "honey, pack your bags...I just won the lottery". Wife replies, "great...where are we going?". Husband then replies, "were not going anywhere...I just want you out of my house by the time I get home".

OOps Sorry, when I replied I thought you had found an SP that interested you and were then looking for the next step. But as CK said, if your not decided check the reccommendation section.

I'm not sure what a "forward spnner service provider" is or is that a typo. In any event... what you need to do is contact the SP that you have decided on. When you contact either by phone, email or pm remember to be polite and respectful...it will pay off in spades. Sometimes SP's will use the initial contact to screen clients. Ask any questions about the type of service and the donation. The SP will give you further instructions. If you have decided on only one SP, you may have to be patient as most don't work 24/7 so you will have to coordinate a schedule that works for both of you. Good Luck

First of all I respect any SP that asks for references ... it is a prudent thing to screen potential clients which ever way you want (and asking for a reference is a personal choice). When I started this thread a few weeks ago, I was not intending to judge any SP that asks for a reference rather I was trying to determine if I should ask any SP to provide a reference to another SP. (because I am unsure of the reaction I may get) What might shed some light on the dilema is for SP's that request references to share with us whether the SP's giving the reference appeared comfortable and willing to provide information or did they seem to be put out a bit by providing a reference. So to Naomi and Emma (who have indicated in this thread that they have at sometime asked for a reference before seeing a client) as well as other SPs, what kind of replies did/do you get from the SP providing the reference? Were the replies positive or negative? This might give us a handle on whether SP's are generally accepting or not of providing references. Cheers

Good for you Cap for taking a stand after the first time you asked for a reference. I'm afraid I would feel the same way...too weird. I have a favorite SP that I don't think I would ask just cause it would be too weird. Even if she agreed to it and I'm sure she would, I would have an uncomfortable feeling about it. I wouldn't want to fall out of favor from my fav because I wanted to explore what else was out there. Maybe, I would have the nerve to ask an SP who is not a favorite of mine as long as our sessions was good.

I meant a SP's seeking reference for a client she is contemplating on seeing. Thanks

I just recently read a post about an SP who was not willing to provide a reference to a client. While I do understand the need for references, I would like to know if there is a reluctance for SPs to provide a reference. If so, could you advise why there is a reluctance. Is it insulting if a client asks you for a reference thus indicating that they want to see someone else rather than see the same SP? Would this change if the client was a regular client? Also, when SP's chat about references, what are they looking for? Not LE?, Reliable client? Respectful?, Hygeine? Any or all of the above? Just trying to understand the industry a little better. Cheers.

Best wishes for the holidays to cerbites.

I maintain a stash of cash by stowing any loonies and toonies that I get in a box. When I get enough for a sp, I take my stash to the bank and exchange for paper money. Kind of like money laundering). The important thing is not to have any large withdrawls coming out of your account that would be difficult to explain. I now withhold $5 bills also. It adds up quick so heads up girls I will be a little more active in 2010.

Well I have heard so much about Annessa and even read many of her very impressive and intelligent posts. I think I have to meet this girl. Annessa, do me a big fav... keep an eye out for me cause I'm gonna come a calling for you my darling. I think you and I will get along well. Cheers for now... see you in 2010.

Like everything else....moderation is the key especially if your resources are limited. Some suggestions to help moderate the frequency of your hobbying is to be selective on the SP you want to see. By this I mean don't call the first SP that you come across rather research who you want to see so you get the kind of pleasure that you want. If you pick the first SP you see and the experience is not exactly what you want then you will want to see another SP right away because your craving has not been satisfied. Also if you are selective and have a TDL with only a few SP's then they may not be readily available thus you will naturally will have no choice other than to wait until one of your chosen ones are available. While you are waiting for one of your SP's to be available....you may have to take things into your own hands....if you know what I mean. Bottom line....make a budget... and stick to it.

Sorry I never got to meet you in 2009 but I personally am hoping to make 2010 an even better year for both you and me.

Good thread GHT. I actually thought of starting a similar thread a little while ago. I had to ask myself if I am an addict. While I don't know the answer, I can answer some questions and readers can decide themselves if they think I am an addict. 1. Q:Do I need to hobby? A:I need it to be a happier person but I won't die without it. 2. Q:Am I willing to walk away from it? A:No, not right now 3. Q: Can I walk away from it? A: no, not right now 4. Q: Is there anything stopping me from hobbying any time I want? A: Yes... money and guilt 5. Q: Would I take an inceased risk of getting caught if there was an opportunity? A: I am always cautious, so I would say no...I would probably be so worried that things may not come off as I would hope. 6. Q: Do I worry about how to get off the hobby? A: Yes, but hope this will happen once the sex drive diminishes. 7. Q: Will I seek out sp's at whatever cost? A: No, I have limitations. I propably have more questins and answers... I could go on. So What do you think? Food for thought.

My favourite band... Uriah Heep.....Shady Lady

Great Stuff!!!

Maybe a little help here from the women of cerb. When I am with a SP, I want to do things that are of interest to the SP. I say that cause for me, the biggest pleasure that I get out of a session is knowing that the SP enjoyed the session as much as I did. I will make some suggestions that I think would be fun for both of us. One of those ideas I would like to consider is watching porn with a SP but I am not sure that that sort of thing would appeal to the SP. Ladies can you help me here with a couple of questions please: 1) Is this something that you SP's might enjoy? 2) If so, what kind of porn would appeal to you...rough, sensual, 3some, girl on girl, guy on guy (eeech jk), good storyline......? 3) I have read that to add to the enjoyment of watching porn together, both client and SP should be naked and that sensual touching, caressing, cuddling, kissing etc should take place while watching. Bottom line girls...would it be a turn on for you and if so, what could be done to make the experience enjoyable for you. Cheers

Maybe not all that strange, and not neccessarily funny but I kind of frieked when the SP passed out during outcall. I could not wake her for an hour. Meantime the agency and the driver were calling for her.