masterowls

I'm glad you agree with my opinion. I tend to try and look at it from the point of view of the Lady involved. Twice the clients equals a more intense session, therefore logically the donation would go up. Nobody wants to do more work for less cash after all. :-)

A good rule of thumb here is, if it involves more of anything, except MSOG, i.e. more time, more people, more travel, more expense... etc. etc. you're probably looking at more money because it's a more complex session.

Al, I am in your exact predicament. I am 40 years old, and was.born disabled. It sounds like your disability is fairly recent. Unfortunately, as far as privacy issues around masturbation, if you want to do it you're probably going to have to accept the fact that your staff have to help you. In my experience, most caregivers, as long as you don't ask them to actually perform the stimulation don't mind helping you get set up. As far as a mess in the morning, I have you considered a supply of blue incontinence pads? They are cheap, and disposable. Just lay one on top of the sheets, masturbate, and then throw the evidence in the trash in the morning, by which time the pad will have absorbed said evidence anyway. Please remember, that masturbation is a perfectly normal and natural desire, and I bet that 90% of your caregivers do it at least once a week, and in your situation would probably want help too.

As far as I know, I never forgot anything. I have however had a lady forget a very expensive bouquet of flowers that I got her. Mind you, I was too tired to care at the time. :-)

I am also in agreement. I consider a number of these ladies friends, even though I haven't, and realistically probably never will meet most of them. The idea of somebody "using" one of them, actually made me mildly angry. I prefer to say, "went on a date with", or "had fun with "

Meg, I happen to believe that when a person hires a "escort or service provider"we are actually purchasing companionship for a period of time (whether or not anything else happens or not). Therefore the term, "professional companion" actually is a more accurate description of your profession. I'm glad you agree. :-)

Meg, Here is a few tips that work for me. I don't guarantee results for you. 1. Do not for goodness sake go to bed, that never works. Find yourself a comfortable chair or couch. Anywhere but the bed. 2. I know some people like to read before bed, however when napping I find that thinking about anything is counter productive. I do however recommend what ever music you find most relaxing. Tip number three most important. Make sure your warm (almost hot) in my experience these tips never fail but then I'm kind of strange :-)

Myself, if I were curious as to whether somebody had experienced a certain lady which I believe was the intent of the original question. I would have probably asked, "have you been on a date with...?" As to Ava's assertion that the term service provider is mildly offensive, I can see her point. I think it could be changed to professional companion. This is more accurate, and also I believe a much more pleasant term. These are however only my opinions.

I'm afraid I would have been a little more direct. I would have said something to the effect of, "I'm sorry you may miss your flight. Perhaps you would rather I risk your life and the lives of everybody else on the plane just to get you here on time?" Of course I would say it with a big smile on my face. Especially when he realizes how stupid he sounded. Of course nobody thinks that you're the one they're going to blame if you fly through the storm and somebody gets hurt or killed. That makes me really angry.

That has also happened to me in the past. Although thankfully I landed sideways. The worst that ever happened from an accident like that, was a concussion and some memory loss both immediately before, and about two days after the accident. Because of that I used to wear a helmet to prevent future accidents from damaging my brain. I probably still should, but I don't.

Dear Meg, because I'm in a wheelchair I can't exactly trip. I do however have a story that may make you feel a little less clumsy. I used to live in Kimberly, which has an open air shopping area paved with bricks. My wheelchair is controlled by a joystick which is mounted on an arm which swings away to allow a caregiver to transfer me. One day I was driving my wheelchair in the shopping area, and I hit a large bump. The swing arm accidentally disengaged, causing me to make an instant left hand turn, right into a concrete building. Since I was traveling at about 8.5 miles an hour, the net result was a broken leg in pretty serious damage to my wheelchair. I spent the next six weeks trying to explain how a person in a wheelchair winds up with a broken leg. Talk about embarrassing. LOL

Mine might tho yours was pretty chuckle worthy. I was living in Surrey at the time, and decided to see a girl who worked in downtown Vancouver incall only. so I get everything set(fees, directions so I didn''t get lost etc) and set off in my electric wheelchair via public transit. After an hour travelling by public transit and wheeling about 24 blocks I arrived right on timw and was met in the lobby by this stunning girl. I'm thinking jackpot, until she opens the door to her place. The shelf where she kept her oils and other goodies was partly blocking the entry hallaw and I couldn't get my chair in. Poor girl ended up carrying me about 20 feet, then packing me out after. Mood killer lol

Speaking from Vast experience, most adult dating sites, even the ones that guarantee the result don't actually work. In fact most of them wind up costing more issues than they solve. What I would recommend, is suggesting that you both make friends here. I'm sure among the numerous members here both of you will find what ever you need. Not only are the people here real, but they all know how to be discreet too. That's just my opinion, and you're welcome to discard it, but you did ask. Good luck, and I hope you find what you want.

The short answer is yes. I have had wet dreams about a number of the ladies on CERB. Five so far. And yes a number of them have resulted in extra laundry :-)

Scott, I get busted at least once a day by caregivers. The fact is, that I'm fairly open about my sexuality, and about the fact that I see Sps, and that I consider afew of them my friends. For that reason I don't really care who sees me on this site. masterowls

I will admit. I used to negotiate when I was younger, and newer to the hobby. A practice I quit years ago when I met a girl who expressed opinions similar to yours. I now consider the practice both rude, classless, and pointless. If I really want a specific lady, and can't afford her at the moment, I simply contact her and tell her that I'm interested but may require more time. I think that sometimes waiting for an encounter can make it even more sweet, because you get to anticipate the result. xxxooo

Dear Carrie, The only distracting thing on a date with you would actually be you, not the music. You're stunning.:)

I agree.These women should be applauded, not persecuted by government and a public who have never even met an escort, and have 0 clue what actually happens.I think I've seen 10 industry related documenteries but only 1 has mentioned any positive aspects of the industry.I think if the general public actually understood the true nature of escorting there'd be much less negatie attitude. I share my story for 2 reasons. 1. to try to explain to people that it isn't a case of my not wanting a gitlriend, but that there are still barriers, some physical others mental, that need to be addressed. The other to try to encourage the ladies who do see disabled clients to keep it up, and those who don't to think about at least giving it a shot.

Dear secret, I have not given up the idea of a relationship. However in my experience if you and I were to attempt to pick up women in a bar, even one with a reputation for being a pickup spot I'd be willing to bet your bill for sp's for a year, that you wind up taking home a girl, while I go home alone. Most women looking to date, unfortunately are either unable or unwilling to deal with the restrictive nature of dating somebody in a wheelchair. For instance I require personal care, which causes two or 3 major problems. The first one is scheduled care. (The agency I deal with won't send staff members to a client if the care would involve being out past 10pm, so I have to be in bed for the night no later than 9:30 PM every night of the week. That makes planning dates rather difficult) There are many other problems, and/or misperceptions which makes finding a woman rather difficult. By the way, both of my other relationships were with women who were also disabled, which creates a whole other level of issues. I'm not saying there aren't women out there who would be happy dating me. My claim is, that getting a girlfriend, while it sounds simple on the surface, and would be preferable, is not quite as easy as you make it seem.

In my case the answer is simple. I would love a girlfriend, however as any quadriplegic will tell you, it's a lot harder to get noticed when you're in a wheelchair. I have been in the hobby about 19 years, in that time I have had exactly 2 relationships that were not with service providers. Both of those ended horribly. For me, it's much less frustrating to make a phone call, and know exactly where I stand. Additional Comments: PSat one point I even had a girl I'd known 2 years actually laugh in my face at the idea of simply goiung to a movie. I find going to a sp who at the very least grows to value me as a client, much less emotionally damaging than either being ignored, laughed at, or politely refused in the dating world

Jim, you said in your post that you were afraid to establish a relationship with a service provider for fear of affecting your career, or home life. What you need to remember, is that these women are professionals. It would not be to their advantage to interfere in your life. You would very quickly find that their client base would disappear. Further more the type of relationship is different. A relationship with an sp, while it may be affectionate (and it's nice when it is) is not and has never been intended to be permanent. I think if you enjoy the variety, then you should continue playing the field, but don't let fear stop you from repeating if you find some one you're particularly attracted to. For myself, mostly because I have special needs due to disability, if I find some one I like I tend to be a repeat client.

I have said before, and I'll say it again this in my opinion is actually the primary difference between an SP, and a street level sex worker in my opinion. SPS provide a much more sensual relaxed and enjoyable experience. As several of the ladies have said, in my experience an appointment with a service provider is much less about sex than it is about spending time with a lady who you actually enjoy being around. If all you want to do is cuddle, I'm quite sure most ladies would not have much of a problem at all accommodating that request. I usually spend at least half an hour just cuddling with the lady in every appointment I have ever booked. PS: take some time to get to know the service provider, and bring her favorite flower, or a nice bottle of wine. It generally enhances the mood if they see you put in some thought before the date. We are lucky in that we have some cool extras in terms of communication with these ladies provided by the website. Choose a lady, read her posts, flirt, ask questions, tell her jokes, even exchange pet stories. That way when you meet, you already have things in common..

Dear Carrie, I think that anybody who is distracted by music, probably isn't all that into the girl he's with. In fact I find the right music actually helps my concentration. xxxooo