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I can understand the frustration ladies, but take these two replies and see it from our perspective. If we are not interested in taking you for a dance, we must be polite enough and not seem too rude with an immediate rejection, but yet we can't take up too much of your time talking either. Please understand if we get it wrong in either direction! Additional Comments: As I kept reading, I realize CarpeDiem made the same point I tried to. I guess we all have different perspectives -- I know I wonder about many men talking for a long time without going for dances, but I guess I can probably come off as rude by saying no too quickly.

I think a big factor in applause is the DJ. If the DJ calls out the dancer just as she's leaving the stage, it gives the audience a good cue as to when to clap. Whereas, I've noticed that when the DJ announces either early or late, that cue is missing. Does the audience clap when the dancer leaves the stage? When the DJ calls her name? When the song ends? Especially with smaller crowds, having people clapping at the same time is important. So: An on the ball DJ, a dancer who looks like she's making an effort, and a decent crowd size combined will hopefully lead to a decent amount of applause.

Showed up Thursday night, and was struck by how tall most of the ladies were. Where have all the short little spinners gone?

You're most likely right -- it's most likely a rationalization I've created so I can avoid spending so much money in the CR... :) The best CR experiences I've had, have always been with someone I'm really attracted to (obviously), but also someone that I've had a bit of a connection with. That can start from the performance on stage, with a simple smile and a look. Going completely off topic, but it can also happen from an approach that is different from the bog standard "where are you from", "how's your night going" openers that most dancers use... For example, Cherry @ Barb's got me with that aforementioned smile on stage, then a funny compliment when she approached. It's amusing, but I think a lot of dancers could benefit from studying some of the "pickup-up artist" material out there, since a strip club is in many ways the typical meet market atmosphere, but with the gender roles reversed.

Yes, exactly. The original question was if "real artistry" would be worth it in the club. The consensus opinion seems to be that while appreciated and admired, it is likely not necessary, or perhaps even worthwhile for the dancers. However, I think there is a lot of room for simply improving the "basic stage show", as Megan puts it. You also have an interesting point about how busy the club is. It is perhaps understandable, but the less full the club is, the worse the performances on stage seem to get, and vice versa. Yet, it's less likely I'll get excited about a private dance if the dancers are just going through the motions walking around on stage. So, when it would be most useful to put on a good show (since there are fewer customers around), they are most likely to not put in the effort. And, the flip side of that, is when the club is busy (say Pigale's on a Friday night), a dancer can wow the crowd with a stage show, and then be impossible to find for a private dance afterwards.

Do you actually have to pay for this? I always assumed that clubs did this just to get the business of a large group of guys willing to spend a lot of money having a good time (as most seem to do at a bachelor party).

Do you now if Sarah has been around lately, and if so, when she's there? I haven't seen her around recently.