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I have had scenario 1 and have deleted my post, the lady after a few visits was just really on the first time and subsequent times was very poor or her circumstances changed dramatically. We all make mistakes and sometimes the first experience is not followed up well. A classic example I went and saw an SP and it blew my mind, I went back a few days later and she had lots of drugs and partying going on at her place, this was not my first impression of her and I would never recommended such a scenario so I immediately deleted the recommendation. In the second instance I know several ladies who are retired and they love coming back every once in a while and seeing the reviews I think this is fine unless the lady requests it be deleted.

not sure if this is helpful but it may give you some insight; http://sex.perkel.com/escort/shygirl.htm

I am just curious about how you would handle this? You see a lady everything is fantastic then you write a review and you and the lady enjoy it. Weeks turn into months etc... Out of the blue someone sends BS to the lady about you and she never wants to see you again, should you delete the review?

I really enjoy writing them and then you can go back and remember the event weeks or months later.

I guess it boils down to needs at the time. Sometimes I am horny and need to get laid, that is what plan b is all about. Sometimes it it the romantic in you (with all this prep this sounds more like the occasion) and the time and hunt are more important than the act. If it is a physical primitive desire than call another lady, if it is the romantic cerebral type of occasion than re-schedule for another day with that lady or another lady. The bright side is always that you have a few extra bucks in your wallet! Companionship can come from the lady in the book store or on the park bench, don't forget to smile at strangers (but not grin that is creepy)

Every woman I have written about has received hate mail of one type or another associated with seeing me. Unless I think the lady is strong enough to take the hate for what it is I don't bother putting her (and me) through the process. Most of the ladies only know me from a few encounters so they, don't know who to believe and stop seeing me and I don't like that. Things that have hurt me are the emails telling ladies that I am pimp and that I am only trying to recruit them (Ya that's why I give them $1000 cause I am a pimp) or that I have lots of diseases so they can't trust me (if that were true we know how rampant the "horrible diseases" would be arouind here I think have done 30% of the laides you do the math) or the forged chat log about me saying mean things about the ladies, anyone ever see me in chat being anything but fun and jovial? Love to know when I have time to wrtie all this bad stuff about the ladies. Or the peice de resistance, playing the diferent boards off against each other and saying I have said nasty things about them on another board? That's my excuse, and frankly when I discuss it with the ladies some of them are getting a lot of hate mail as well and don't need the added visibility. Please do not take this as a negative comment or jump on the slagging and bashing band wagon of me or the BS'ers. I am appealing to the community to come up with a way to deal with this BS. We have a warning section for bait and switch and bad dates. Perhaps we can develop some kind of warning system for BS emails that are circulating as well? I know that Mod has mentioned that if we recognize these people that it only encourages them. However there has to be something we can do to limit their success? Those of us who have been around know to ignore them, but how do we explain that to people that don't utilize the board but that we recommend and interact with. I am in the process of developing my own ideas about how to combat this however it is going to persist.

Nice CK And who says you can't have a room that is all waterproof :) http://www.waterbondage.com/ And as if that weren't enough what could me more motherly than Water boarding a few terrorists! OKOK I know my sic mind is showing again :( Seriously HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

I have been purchasing WW clothes as a gifts for the ladies for years now, they seem to really enjoy the stuff! And I know I enjoy seeing them in it :)

That is in a nut shell the difference between a fine courtesan and a fly by night escort. You my lady are a courtesan, your time is compensated and what you choose to do with it is a mutual experience for your client to decide in private behind closed doors! Every client is different and the flexibility to recognize and provide for them in the way they would enjoy is a sign of a great courtesan. If you were in Ottawa I would tip you well! And not just with cash.

Now that is a mouthful! Man I can't even remember what half of them looked like forget about names!

I hit the button but I am biting my tong, I too was surprised at the number that hit the same button as me. Yongstud that was an excellent article!

Well if you put it that way I guess if they can fog a mirror. :) I am tremendously attracted to any lady, they all have something that makes them special, I just can't have sex with them all (not for a lack of trying trust me).

For me it is all about the Tummy, especially the lower tummy as it curves into the hips, I really like flat tummies! I like to admire all the features of a lady, and I appreciate all different types and sizes but that tummy needs to have the curve and flatness for me to get aroused.

Well it could be your reward for getting that far in the reading :) I do find myself staring at your beautiful face :-P

The train station is 5km from both hotels, and about 7 km to the one in hull.

Now I do understand that not everyone is going to agree with me on this, however there are a few basic thoughts and rules at play in being in the hobby. These are rules that I have always lived with and policies that I have always maintained. First off the total attitude of the visit, this is a fantasy and a roll playing situation. The ladies can accommodate a variety of rolls and have a variety of scripts that they are comfortable with. We try to find ladies with a repertoire close to our fantasy i.e. girl next door, porn star, dominatrix. Just because a lady does a great girl next door does not mean that she can not also be a great Dominatrix. Many of us come into this hobby with a very naive understanding of the women in the industry and their past experience. I am not criticizing, these experiences are what make us who we are. All we should focus on is our time together and what our expectations are, the ladies in this business are not ?virgins? or ?innocent? but they can be for your hour or two. Don?t over think the visit just because a lady was reviewed as PSE last week on one of the boards don?t rule her out for your perfect ?X? experience. Enjoy your time together and don?t think about whom she saw yesterday or last week, this is a mood killer for both of you, trust me she has directly or indirectly done and been with everyone and everything. That is why we use basic precautions, and clearly it is working, we do not seem to have a high incidence of health issues. Like wise ladies the reality is your client has been with enough other ladies to be in the same category (guys if you see 3 or 4 ladies a year than exponentially you are far from pure), if it makes it easier than for that hour or 2 he sees no one but you. If you give the ladies the information they need to give you the fantasy you desire you will go a long way to a happy encounter. Sex and acts of love making are very intense and emotional that is why some of us are addicts (Yes I admit ?Hello my name is Dummpy and I am a sex addict?) If you find someone that is truly special than emotions will become involved and your relationship will grow (not necessarily the way you or the SP wants) that is why some of the members rarely repeat and have a buffer of several ladies between visits. No your emotional thresholds and try to keep them in check. The reality is that we are a pay cheque, do not over step your relationship. As with any profession friendships are formed but don?t overstep the bounds of the basic profession, our roll is to provide a pay cheque don?t forget that part. And ladies your roll is to maintain the fantasy many of the guys here are not interested in the real you and it will scare them. Over time we become desensitized to the emotions and it creates havoc in our real lives, most ladies can not have an intimate lover as they are no longer interested in sex. Men we no longer want to be with our SO because they cannot compare to the fantasies that the ladies provide. At the end of the visit after the fantasy has played out move on until the next appointment. Ladies if you ask for a favor outside of the regular constraints of the fantasy expect this to change the dynamics, we men have no idea about your world and if you give us a view we may not like what we see. Don?t get confused between reality and the fantasy, the fun for both sides is from the ability to create rolls and persona?s, am I actually a dwarf experienced in Midget porn and Midget wrestling? Does Cowboy Kenny actually own a horse? Don?t believe everything you see and read, and don?t try to shatter the illusions or the fantasy because trust me it is very fragile and easy to break. Just like watching a B science fiction movie, you choose to believe or be a skeptic. You will enjoy the movie a lot more if you choose to believe (weren?t those tomatoes real). Ladies the best and most successful SP?s are excellent method actresses, don?t be afraid to immerse yourself in the roll for the time that you are paid for, but also don?t let your alter ego take over your life remember who you are and keep track of your regular life. Being able to switch the rolls on and OFF is critical to surviving this business. Guy?s fantasy is always going to beat reality that is the basics of being a drug addict or gambling addict or sex addict. Drug users create a fantasy world and use the drugs to escape to it, gamblers imagine the big win and how that will change there life ?649 imagine the freedom? and we step into our own fantasies when we see a lady, the grass is not greener, be thankful for the things in your real life too. Interestingly enough over the years I have made some lasting friendships, I have had some disasters as well. The key thing about being friends is you have to develop understandings, you leave yourself open to be hurt and sometimes you do get hurt. Don?t be afraid to forgive and try not to hurt anyone along the way, don?t place a lot of ?conditions? on your friendship and they may be long lasting. I guarantee that if you do place conditions on your friendships (you are my friend until you do this? or we were friends but you did that?) you won?t have many, friendship requires 2 people that are willing to learn to understand each other and that takes some mistakes and learning along the way, obviously forgiveness is part of that. There is very little in life as rewarding as a long term friend. Just some thoughts I have had in reflection over the weekend, if you got this far congratulations!

Four Points Sheraton in Hull is also not bad and quite convenient may have much better rates.

I like the upside down 69 BJ :D when you are standing with the ladies legs over your shoulders now that is a good BJ (I have many restrictions on this as I am old and small so the lady has to be tiny and flexible).

Interesting poll, it is interesting how over the years the same posters seem to change their view on this, I know for me if the lady does not perform BBBJ than I take a pass on the CBJ, if everything else is really good than I can live with out the BJ, then other ladies I go just for the BBBJ. Not unlike HJ some ladies can really do this well and we never mention it? One of the coolest HJ's I have had was Monique she is CBJ but makes up for it with incredible HJ and Greek skills! I don't think any one service or lack of service would ever qualify or disqualify a lady from to do list. Attitude is the make or break for me, our time has to be a mini vacation, not just to get me off (they have internet porn for that). A clear signal to me that the lady is not for me is when my mileage is very different than other clients, that tells me that I am not wanted.

As some of you may know I am a little down these days not really sure why, but non of the usual things have helped. Things that don't normal bug me are getting to me, I am finding excuses to be pissed off etc... I know totally out of character for your friendly dwarf. (I think I was a little heart broken actually) Any way I got a mutual introduction the other day to a fellow hobbiest, not another guy as you would imagine and as I am so found of a few bears or lunch with my mates, but a female who hobbies! She is not interested in seeing guys that don't do it for her, so please don't start pm'ing her with demands or requests, just very polite inquires will be looked at. This incredible lady wanted to take some time to get to know me first so we actually met a few times last fall and I lost contact with her, then low and behold! She is hear on cerb now :) we went to lunch and some great conversation she is so easy to talk to and so much fun to just hang with! She is very classy and dressed very very nicely for the occasion! Then headed back to the arranged location. We never discussed a fee she did mention at some point that she was very reasonable and it was not about the money, so I simply placed my usual donation on the table and no mention was ever made of it. She had prepared her visit with some great lingerie (snap off g string and soft matching bra happy happy happy) she also brought a bag of tricks with some of my favorite things! (I don't want to ruin the surprise but her toy selection is superb) and we went into a very hot and steamy session, I felt like I had been transported to a champagne room but not with a chair but with a bed, she moved so erotically and held her self over me in anticipation! we both taught each other some new tricks and for a few moments I believed I was the star of my own porno, complete with money shot on her body! and what a body, it is nearly perfect, tight amazing ass and she really knows how to use it! incredible tight tummy prefect perky breasts and one of the tightest pussies I have ever had the pleasure of. Her lips were soft and just the right amount of wet. I can't wait till next week for our next rendezvous! It takes some persistence to get an appointment and this is not work to her it is just a little fun on the side so don't expect her to jump at any invites but if you are one of the lucky few congratulations to this very exclusive club!

This is a dangerous practice and should not be encouraged. There are a few exceptions, if you have opted into a list to be emailed when the SP is available (Garden of Eden list or Alexandra Heart for example). Now if you have invited an SP to make contact either via text or call than that is different, however if their only motive is to generate a call than that is not so good. When an SP initiates the contact to me through my phone either via text or call I assume that there will be some social aspect, or they want my opinion, not that they are trying to book a call. The ladies that can call me have been told by me to call anytime, if that invitation has not been extended than I do not expect that kind of contact. As a general rule the ladies should destroy any contact info or evidence of a visit after the successful completion of the visit, unless other wise specifically directed, IMHO. In many ways this business is truly old fashioned, the ladies get asked for the dates. I guess a good rule of thumb is whoever is doing the asking should be financing the visit, if you invite me to lunch I expect you to pay :) (but I am kinda old fashioned!)

nicley done, I do enjoy the jokes and the sunshine girl posts (biggest thread on CERB) ! Posted via Mobile Device

Actually Amy does her own photography!

Pictures can make or break an SP in this market, I remember many years ago when pictures were not possible, then the art of a seductive description was important. I think in the next year or 2 Videos will be even more powerful, very much like the ground breaking effort from Garden of Eden and Maxime. I know if I were to start an agency again I would have the girls introducing themselves in a very professional and provoking way in video, kind of like a one minute this is me. Wearing an out fit that fits their personality, plus maybe a one minute vid of them getting down to something more revealing. If we really want to get carried away we could include a third vid this would be a talent vid and could be anything from spinning a baton to something a little sloppier :) Dreamer the pics are great! Once again you have shown what a giving person you are! I am sure that this will work very well for you, it has been my experience that a percentage of ladies especialy ladies can not resist a camera.

This is the kind of shit that had me leave the business 17 years ago, of course back then it was not email hijacking but still a bunch of BS. As long as we have no organization and push this business underground and treat it as an illegitimate business this kind of stuff will continue. There is no protection or recourse for the ladies or the users. I do think it is time for industry reform.