r100rs

Obviously you life has become unmanageable ... you have been living a double life and with that it brings secrets which lead to shame guilt. First thing forgive yourself ... being in the self condemnation mode just leads to more acting out .... remember you are human and humans are not perfect. Don't think you are unique and different ... you are not alone in your situation nor in your past . For your partner the biggest issue is forgiveness ... a lot of people say they forgive you but they hold onto a resentment which just festers ... true forgiveness cleans the slate. This could be a new beginning for both of you if you can make it through this .... and look at the positive ... you have reached a place where you can put everything on the table ... you deepest secrets, your sexual desires, your vulnerability .... hopefully your partner can listen and open up with the same honesty .... from there you can start a new relationship based on honesty .... and truly how many people get to start over and have a reborn relationship. Of course all easier said than done... it will take work, ups and downs , good days and bad days but as long as you are both on a path of growth I believe the possibilities are endless. Good Luck and have fun on the incredible journey you are about to embark on. r100rs

Sorry for you loss, pets are family. Pets set the bar for unconditional love. When someone doesn't like pets - that sure raises my flags. One of the worst things someone ever said to me was after my dog of 9 nines years died and I was at work all sad and tearful ... she said "get over it, it was just a f'in dog" ... needless to say for me that was unforgivable. r100rs

I realize that it takes some a special skill set to excel in this field and was wondering where/how a provider learns the people skills, the business skills and the session skills? If a person is contemplating entering this profession, would you have advice for them as to how to acquire these skills? r100rs

exhibitionism, plain and simple. Have you never seen the Andrew Dice Clay piece where he explains how great it is getting a BJ in a grocery store parking lot? imagining each and every woman walking by is the one giving you the BJ. Obviously a no go from a business perspective ... tell the client that experience is so special it is best shared with a REAL girlfriend. r100rs

I have an extra ticket for this event - already paid for. PM me if you wish to attend - I'll add your name to the guest list and you can pay me when you get there. r100rs

when you are isolating(read depressed) always remember "you are the only one offering yourself solutions" and get out and get connected with someone and work it out together. r100rs

this reminded me of when vasectomies first came out.....my friend had one done and I asked how it was ... he looked at me seriously and said "think of dry heaves" .... r100rs

I have to do the things necessary to keep myself happy, serene and being alone is a part of that balance. If I'm not in a good place, not in balance, not physically/emotionally/spiritually healthy, I not going to be there fully for others. I have to selfish at times and love myself/take care of myself first. So yes, I love to be alone at times. r100rs

I've found somewhere offsite to share in total anonymity, please pm me for details. happy 24 everyone. r100rs

I would look at an older BMW twin ... they are bulletproof and have manageable weight and are made to tour. Buying a used BMW is not a risk as most owners take great care of their machines. I put 350,000 km on my 1978 R100 and it took me to south america and back sans problem....thus my bias. of the machines you mentioned, the Valkyrie would be my choice. If I was to buy a bike today I would probably get a used VFR800 as they are sporty, bulletproof and comfortable to tour on....though maybe not with a passenger r100rs

I just wish we had the Mixed Proportional representation system. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mixed_member_proportional_representation Then my vote for the greens might actually get them a seat! I always vote for the least funded party as I figure they owe the least favours. some truths in this link here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/noam-chomsky/us-global-power_b_851992.html?ref=fb&src=sp

it's amazing to me that such a large percentage of the population has been brainwashed to believe that the less fortunate are where all our tax money goes. Meanwhile those behind the scenes funding the politicians reap the rewards of military spending, resource rights ... the list goes on and on. We are so far right of where we were not that long ago......it's quite disheartening to me ... thanks everyone like minded for making me feel at home here!

i recently saw a new masseuse who is centrally located really close to where I work, she's 42, awesome personality and great non rush service. I'm trying to get her to join Cerb for everyone's benefit. r100rs

I am a sensual, sexual being, content on this site makes me feel like I'm not alone in my love of sensuality. Of course the members make the site, and this site has awesome members. We are a collective of all types of people,personalities and everyone on here has something I can grow from. I also feel that nothing is taboo here when it comes to discussion threads , of course as long as it done tastefully. I have received some awesome advice from the site about everything. I don't feel alone here, I don't suffer from "terminal uniqueness" here either. Everyone needs to feel they belong somewhere and for me, I feel a sense of belonging. r100rs

lots of pros and cons to both strategies. For me, being shy at first, I hate first meets so if I'm comfortable with an sp, I return and return and return. Downside for me is I tend to get too intimate with my SP and want something I can never have. Past experience has taught me to end the business relationship when that starts happening. Mind you I now have many SPs who are now friends only ( we do dinner, shopping, chat, email but sex is out ).... r100rs

best wishes, stay positive, my prayers are with you. r100rs

I just go to my regular doctor, no instant results, takes a week for most results, 2 for HIV test. Some people don't have a GP, so then it's Appletree(or some other walkin) or clinic on Clarence(while you wait results for most STDs including HIV). The university and college health centres are good choices as well! r100rs

I've already been pm'd by a few members who are too scared to join the recovery group or post in this thread but who need our help. If any members with good sobriety who are working their steps are willing to take some newcomers to their first meeting, pm me. I especially need some sober SPs willing to be there for fellow SPs in need. I will then send your info to the member in need and hopefully ( fingers crossed ) they will have the strength to ask for your help. To the person out there still suffering. Those of us in recovery have all been where you are now. We were fortunate to have someone help us get sober so it is our honour and pleasure to help you get sober. Helping you helps us. r100rs Additional Comments: AA meet Easter Saturday all day followed by dinner dance - ottawa http://www.ottawaaa.org/committees/springathon/springathon.html NA meet from Good Friday to Easter Sunday - gatineau http://www.canaacna.org/english/events.php r100rs

From the response to this thread it's obvious " we are not alone in our struggles " . Some great posts people, thanks for all the recovery. r100rs ps. to the newcomer, or the person wishing to get sober - those of us who've been through it are there for you....anytime....anywhere.

My friend is looking for a gang bang. She says it's a certain type of person that makes up a "gang bang boy" . What characteristics does a gang bang lover have? I'm new to the concept of gang bang ... should I be discussing in the poly group? thanks everyone. r100rs

thanks Isabella, great idea, I've contacted Mod to see what are options are. For now group is changed to invite only. So PM me if you want to join everyone. r100rs

I am a light smoker but am always so self conscious on rendezvous' . I even go to the extreme of not having a cigarette the day of a rendezvous but am always thinking maybe the cigarette smell has permeated everything I own and my being. if only I could afford a daily rendezvous .... but wouldn't that be trading one addiction for another lol r100rs

I started a new social group for recovery. i do like the idea of being able to post anonymously there though ... some people will need that....otherwise those long held secrets will not come out...."you are only as sick as your secrets"

Her old number is out of service, so assuming she is not back yet? I do miss her superior massage skills. r100rs

have faith, stay positive, enjoy the emotional ride. Be open to the positive energy intentioned for you. my prayers are with you. r100rs