Jimbo351

Secret Admirer, you are very seriously "confused" by the many "ladies" here, LOL. The favourite female sex act is a new pair of manolo blahniks, or five, or a new Charger (and I'm not talking about augmented sex toys here), or meeting a "hot" guy who is "loaded", that is, with cash, and not much more, and certainly not the brains to tell the difference! The evolutionary perspective is that for the female species, sex is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

So right you are! Saucy it is. The too seriously self-indulgent/emotive stuff is NOT sexy. The light touch is so important, esp. in things sexual. The lightness of being, the playfulness of innocence, always with more to do but never done. Now that's fun :razz:. The heavy-duty folks who can never leave anything left on the table miss the secret of it all, LOL. The literalists, yuch! Now, to "throw the cat among the pigeons" for the others, take a look at this gal's song, the spinster gal, the ugly duckling, the one who has had a lifetime of abuse heaped on her and has never even been kissed by anyone...but when she opens her mouth....:shock::-D Man do I love this! http://buzz.yahoo.com/buzzlog/92464?fp=1 http://vodpod.com/watch/1520172-susan-boyle-at-britains-got-talent The voice of an angel. Brilliant. Just LOVE the first five seconds when she starts, then the the quick shot of the blonde doll's reaction. Juxtaposition: the ugly duckling vs. the doll. Who do you love? Man I love this! What a paradox. Pink Kitty always goes on about some SP who is going to "blow your mind". Well, this gal does "blow" my mind, LOL. Best "blow job" ever, ROFLAMO. She "dreams a dream that love would never die...." :!: Listening to the first five seconds of her song is better than sex. And what about this guy? Not sexy in the least, but the "mouse" that roars. Just listen to him when he gets going at 1:11 and 2:04. When this guy, Paul Potts, the loser cellphone salesman, finishes and Simon Cowell et al start to give their verdict, just look at Potts' face and eyes very, very closely as they are about to judge him. See the wounds. Like Jesus, I would think. It was Easter, wasn't it? Two beautiful, beautiful human beings, and that's "sexy" in it's own weird and wonderful way. Man are they attractive! What a mystery. Love the paradox. Having lots of fun throwing a spanner in the works here, LOL!

Some very good posts here, but three "small" details are missing: 1) Troy71 was not being judgmental, just expressing a different and valid opinion. People's sensitivity to his different point of view tends to prove his very point, that we instinctively know that something is wrong here (from the wife's point of view, and it is very, very important). We can't reflexively say someone is being judgmental just because they express a different point of view, and politely at that, when there's a giant elephant sitting in the room--the wife. Kinda hard to miss. 2) the wife, or most wives' feelings, if they knew about a so-called "hobby", after bearing their husbands' children, etc., among a million and other things. Try 12 hours of child birth, and now he does this?? 3) not all women are exhausted all of the time (we can't generalize here from individual experiences). It takes work: you've gotta be attentive, sensitive, generous with the expectation of nothing in return. Most women respond well to that--very well, indeed. If they don't, there's something wrong in the relationship: it's not a sexual issue. Now I have a question that partly contradicts point 2) above. Married or other women once they've had a child, to me, look quite unattractive, like a deflated paper bag. The wrinkles/sagging never go on the most beautiful part of their body, no matter how pretty they are in face or figure overall. I've seen this in beautiful girls of just 19, and can't quite believe it. Is this something that "mommies" never tell their sons and daughters, one of the ugly facts of life no one ever speaks about because the implications are so negative? That said, the posts were very revealing, indeed. Thanks all round!