bjqueen-eve

I guess I have been lucky so far, but I haven't really experienced alot of no shows. (knock on wood) I think to this date I have had two. The really funny thing is with everyone talking about ottawa being the no-show capital I have found most to be very conciderate. Only two no-shows, but many cancelations. Having been treated respectfull by most, I in turn would like to offer the same respect back. The issue with this would be my own rules about calling customers numbers back. I know that discreation is a very big issue with many. I wouldn't want to be the one that puts extra stress on your life. So on the occasion that I need to cancel how do I do it besides sending a pm. Most of the time a client is already on thier way and wouldn't recieve the pm in time. I could see how a sp could be blamed for a no-show, when in fact an emergency ...... came up and had no means of contact. This would be the same issue when it comes to blocked numbers.

I have to agree with Emma here. Most Sp's start out of desperation. It might be children to feed, a hungry addiction, I have seen girls put themselves through school. Which ever reason, everyone still felt like the had no other choice. They felt desperate enough to go to the last resort. ( I don't want to ruin the male fantasty, most Sp's are in the buisness because we are oversexed nymphos, who want more, more, more, more.............. Thats the real reason) When I first started I didnt have a place of my own. I had to work up to it. So when I finally did get one I was so proud. I bought all my "friends" over and felt good about it. I know the place was a dump, I knew than too, it was just "My dump." So I had no quams about anyone comming there. It actually felt good that I had somewhere to bring them. One day I had a disagreement with a "freind". I guess we didn't connect on the personality level. Sometime later that afternoon there was a new post in his name stating that "I sucked and my place sucked!". As stupid as this might sound, it really effected me. I started feeling uncomfortable when people would come ove. I spent the whole time apologising for how "unprofessional' my apartment looked. I pretty much stopped taking bookings if they were incalls. Eventually I just packed up and left. I'm staying at a hotel now, I do feel better about people comming. It is a professional enviroment, and clean. ultimately I guess I'm split on this one. Were in a buisness to "entertain" alot of times this is at your location. In that case I do believe there should be a level of professionalism with it. I also think you might want to look at individual cases, or even better if you really enjoy the sp it won't matter what the location looks like, just enjoy your time with her.

I'm one of those people who never happen to be wrong. So I personally know how hard it can be to say sorry sometimes. Thats why I want to thank Dreamgirl for her apology. I know first hand how hard it can be to say, her doing so meant alot. If anyone is interested I finally got a phone, and just bought a new laptop to replace the one that was stollen. So as of now I should be easy to access.

Okay, okay, I might have over reacted to the post. I may be a little over sensitive this week as it has been a very trying one. (Had my comp stolen) So I just might be a little jumpy. When I started on here I did charge very little. It was because I was unexperienced and didn't know any better. I have since my return in ........ummmm....Aug/Sept raised my rated to meet the average Sp's. You are most likely right Kenny, I do need to let everyone know the change, but being still new how do I? I want to apologise to my fellow Sp, Sorry I jumped the gun on that one.

I was pretty surprised and insulted to find my name here. I'm not sure what would give reason for the writter to believe that I should be included in this catogory. I am confident that the service I offer is well above the $60 amount. I find it rather petty another Sp would say such a thing.

I've had some clients somewhat push a friendship on me. Why wouldn't you want to be friends, once were friends it's a whole new set of rules. You can't treat a "friend" the same as you would a client. You now know there life story. You have to be sensitive to thier feelings. I am by nature a very friendly person(people pleaser) I have had friendships develope, but I also have found that in this case there can be a little of the "new friend" taking advantage of me. By this I mean, no longer do I get my full price. You can't ask a friend for more money because you now know the hardships thy are facing. They take advantage of you time. I recently visited a client, this is a new client and I believe that it was only 2nd or 3rd visit. They had requested that I stay for an extended period of time. Now on the first visit they asked how much for entire night. This leads me to believe that they know it is not included in the one hr fee. I think in total I stayed fifteen hrs, took a nap, had a bath and so on. You can tell he wanted company, and I provided him with the full GFE service. There were comments made that lead me to believe that an additional fee would be included at the end. When the time came not only did I not recieve the additional fee, I didn't even recieve the full fee, or was provided with agreed apon traveling expenses. So after fifteen hrs I walked out minus fifty dollars of normal one hr fee. I think that after the original meeting, and additional visits my "new friend' realizes that I am passive and than takes advantage of that. Maybe friendships aren't in my best interest.

Very well said!!

I do agree that not only Sp's can be broken. This is why I want everyone to leave me with a smile on thier face. I should be a break in the numb drumb, I am here to provide relief and pleasure. Life on both sides isn't always roses.

It's been a while since i read through this thread. Most likely everyone knows that I took off for a couple of months. During these few months I had forgotten the intensity of Cats post. I was amazed that she was able to explain how most SP's think and feel, but are never able to say. She was absolutly correct in saying that it can break your spirit. It effects your soul, your mind. The effects it can have on your "self" can make it so that Some SP's are never able to go on to live a "normal life" afterwards. The guilt, and shame turn inwards and can become self hatred. So how can you say that were not worth $60.00. How can something that has the potential to be so hurtfull, be worth nothing? Sorry about that, and to reassure everyone I'm still okay. I haven't lost it yet. (lol) It's just that I can understand how someone might feel.

I have returned, and all you men are welcuming (heehee) me with open arms and undone pants. I am surprised I have recieved such a warm welcome considering the limitations I am once again facing. At present I once again am without steady logings. So booking incalls has proven to be difficult at times. I am however resorcefull and am managing to pull it off anyway. The one diffrent thing this time is that I am without my cell phone. This is a temporary problem and will be fixed as time goes on. So once again I wanted to thank everyone. I will keep up the good work, aslong as you guys keep recieving it!!!

Oh I guess the change was already made, So let me introduce myself bjqueen-eve

Well thanks guys for the help. thats sweet! I have a few ideas myself, tell me what you think. So you have a daydream (in honor of dreamer) instead of day evening- evedream I was also thinking plain 'ol bjqueen-eve For some reason I kind of got sentimental about my bbbjqueen name. Althought I dont want to advertise the bbbj (i didn't know what it ment when i started) Its kind of grown on me. Why dont you guys let me know what you think.

dreamer I've met alot of really nice people and i have enjoyed the times I've spent with all of you. I wanted to thank dreamer for the opertunity and you guys for the nice complements and reviews. I hope to meet more of you, but mostly I hope to see the ones i've met again. EVE