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Me too.. but I wasn't trying to mod. I was simply trying to explain why seeing things from your point of view is difficult for me... Obviously I did this poorly... I wasn't trying to argue, not at all.. I'm just always a little shocked when they talk about street walker sweeps in Ottawa, mostly because I've been here for almost 5 or 6 years now and have yet to see any... and I've had some apartments in not so nice areas where there have been claims of SWs out there, but even working nights.. meeting the driver in front of the building to go to a call, I still never saw any. I have been told that it use to be more in Ottawa several years before I came.. but it's always sounded, to me, like street prostitution died off in Ottawa due to sweeps and lack of interest. I understand that finding them anywhere would be annoying and a nuisance, I did get your analogy.. But my issue is that people are constantly saying that about us indoor escorts as well, and they have the same arguments that people seem to have about street walking.. Everyone has a reason why they shouldn't be around, only none of the reasons really seem to have merit, at least not from my perspective. I'm trying to see it from another way, but all I have is; I've never seen one. I've never heard of one outside a school, bar, church, restaurant... making a scene. I've never known anyone to use one. You don't see anything in the paper about them other than the sweeps. (No attacks on pedestrians like the violent homeless people you read about in the paper.) So while I agree with your reasoning, I just don't have any real world proof or instances where they were actually doing any harm. I get that Ottawa is a small city, that why I asked if anyone had any real life experience with them.. problems with them.. I thought maybe someone with such info might jump in. I guess I'm just overly touchy with the subject of judging others.. Not that I have a "hard on for defending all!", I just hear a lot of it from women at work and it's almost always directed at escorts... I guess I just didn't really want to see the same here. Sorry for any confusion mod, I was actually trying to "wear your shoes", I was just trying to show you mine at the same time. ;)

I know almost nothing about street level prostitution.. Does anyone here? I'm just wondering because people like to call it a nuisance, but I've never even seen a street walker.. Maybe they already have places they hang out that aren't a nuisance? I don't know.. I mean, if they were hanging outside McDonalds, you wouldn't figure they'd need a "sweep" to get them. I don't think we can call them anymore unsafe though.. we just don't know any of them or enough about it. Escorting can be dangerous no matter what.. there are things we can do to take away some of the risk.. but there's always risk. While I completely respect cerb's rules to not allow promotion of such here, (and I understand, it's just not the atmosphere here and could go wildly outside what cerb is.) I don't think we should be judging or downgrading these ladies... people like to judge us too. xo

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But don't you see how you just created a paradox? You are going to attack me because of a threat you feel.. Then I feel your attack as a threat (which it is) and I attack back.. making and everlasting circle of shit. If you're going to go on and on about "manners" and your ideas of "respect", don't create a paradox by fighting it with more rudeness... You're going to put the rude person in a bad mood and it's going to spread. Maybe if people took the high road and were the bigger people, those who freak out will feel like asses afterward and may double think their behavior in the future. The fact that a handful of people here would treat rudeness with more rudeness proves an awful lot. I freaked out at this poor clerk once.. I was having a bad day and someone where he worked had screwed up my order and I eventually lost it. The guy was overly polite and controlled in his responses the whole time. After I left and cooled off I felt like a total ass.. I ended up going back and seeing him another day and actually apologized to him and thanked him for not letting my bad day get to him... People can't always find you to apologize after, but that doesn't mean that they don't think about it and regret things.. The original post talked of understanding.. and as I said, it goes both ways. Fighting rudeness with rudeness or aggression is just stupid though.. You'll just spread more toxic emotions around, maybe infecting more people than who would have been bothered by the jerk who would have stopped talking when everyone ignored him..

This is kind of what I'm talking about... Manners have been taken way out of context nowadays. It's no more simple thoughtfulness for others, it's become this "Do this or I'm going to complain about how you inconvenienced me.. " People with "manners" tend to put themselves up a little higher than people they feel don't have any. Correct me if I'm wrong.. But if I do something you don't agree with/hurts your feeling/you don't understand you have the right to "kick my but" in hopes of adjusting my attitude? And where do the manners lie in that? Do you think anyone would be as nice to the guy yelling about the plane had they not been forced to because they were working? Obviously not as another person mentioned making a snide comment towards a passenger who felt the need to complain... He didn't just grin and take it like the guy working had to.. So, "politeness" should be forced on all because it is expect from some? Sounds overly unreasonable. It's not your place to tell me how to act and be anymore than it is mine to tell you.. and I think forcing someone to behave as feel they should is really, really rude. I think we should really toss the idea of manners and just try some general thoughtfulness and courtesy for other people... at least then we're not forcing personal ideals on others. Wait... why am I even discussing this on a escort recommendation board? It's the one place people should use some sort of "manners" and generally don't. Manners may get you far as or with an escort, but it's a waste of worry the rest of the time. Just be yourself. If you're a nice person, bask in the wealth and friendship that brings you (ha! because the world is that simple).. if you're a bit of an ass like the rest of us, try not to be around people who will use you as a future complaint. Have fun people. xx

I honestly don't think we are. I think we're pushed to be more polite based on some people's ideals, morality, thoughts on how others should act.. because when you take a look at the history of people.. well, we're far more polite now that we ever have been. I think people forget that manners and the lot are unnatural... which is probably why they're so often forgotten by young children and horny men looking for escorts.. I think common courtesy is great, but manners are utterly overrated.

If you're having only protected sex and having regular health checks, why exactly would you offer up information like; "I pay for sex."? It just doesn't seem that relevant. I know people who give blood and who see me.. and why shouldn't they? I mean, it's not like they don't test the blood before they give it to people.. that would just be crazy. You can feel better though, most blood donated doesn't even make it to the HIV testing stage. It is usually thrown out for one reason/contaminant or another. (I believe they generally throw out smokers blood, Then another portion of it goes bad.. Lastly, even with O negative, there are rejection rates.. With O negative being so rare (while it is universal) it's used as a last resort.. Unless of course someone with O negative blood needs blood... So you shouldn't be worrying too much about it.. A quick look at the Canadian Blood Services website is a little scary actually.. They don't want your blood if you're a smoker or if you've had your ears pierced (until 6 months later)... but after having Herpes 2 for a year you may be eligible to give blood? (lol.. it says so right on their website.) http://www.blood.ca/CentreApps/Internet/UW_V502_MainEngine.nsf/page/Donor+FAQs?OpenDocument#10

If you're just starting out, I would suggest ImLive.. They have some really good software and they pay well and on time. I have been using them for the past couple of months, it's a great way to get started. I would not suggest it unless you're actually into that sort of thing though, it's a lot of hard work and sitting at the computer, making people take you into private chat.. as with escorting, it's not as easy as it looks. lol

I don't mind it all there, and a shaved chest can be sexy too... Chest stubble, not so sexy though.. and I've come across this a lot with shaved chests. It looks all right at first and then you get close and touch it and it's horribly uncomfortable and prickly.

Happy Birthday! Hope you had an amazing one. ;) xx

So you're complaining that someone slandered you.. (which I don't really see, but whatever..) ... you complain that CERB has a 0 policy on this.. and then you inset your own snide little comment? Yeah, ok..

Wow... I really don't think she was attacking you.. I think she was making a statement. There are a handful of guys out there who seem much interested "making friends" more so than using our "services".. I get that you were joking around with your comments, but it did come off to me as one of these people who's looking more for a friend or "free time"... not that you are, was just my first thought reading your posts... I personally would never offer 'social time' to a new client.. I've done it before and it can turn into a big uncomfortable mess. I don't really see the point of this thread at all.. There are girls who offer social time, and on other ladies sites I've read that state; "This is not an offer of prostitution, you are paying for time and companionship only." Making this thread seems (to me,) to be more like a way of asking for lower prices because of lack of sexual services...

Congratulations Erin!! Loved your article.. keep writing! ;-)

Well.. damn.. lol Yeah, you're right.. and jerks do come from everywhere.. you probably hear about it twice as much when it comes from cl as anywhere else as well.. I guess I just couldn't be bothered making myself upset over anything so I don't know why other people do. When I have complaints, that can't be resolved, about something.. I usually just move on... usually there's something else out there to move on to.

This I utterly and completely do not agree with. I do not complain about it because I 'can't' understand the benefits, not all of us need it or lots of clients to keep our income up. I don't like cl because ladies and clients constantly complain, yet go back to it.. I believe the definition of crazy is when you do the same thing over and over again expecting different results.. Complaining about something horrible, and then continuing to use such thinking it will magically change, is crazy. I really don't care if someone get 100 clients from CL.. (or finds the perfect girl) To me, wading through countless rude and stupid e-mails just burns me out. If you don't have a problem/have the time to do such.. Go for it, but please don't complain about how horrible it is just to use it over and over.. That's my only problem with that site. I just get sick of people saying how they get all these dick e-mails, or they lost money on some scam girl, just to go back! Complaining won't magically make it change any more than it will magically make facebook moderate groups before they are created..

Not at all! I fully understand where you're coming from, and agree.. you have to be seen where people are looking, if you get business from there to support yourself, it makes sense to post there.. I just can't bring myself to do it. From what I hear though I wouldn't want to.. I don't have as much patience for weeding through countless moronic and rude e-mails as I use to.. /shrug This almost sounds like a mean prank on the mod.. lol Can you imagine if everyone from there decided to check out Cerb? (Has no one read the other sections of that site!?) Poor mod would be suspending and banning and moderating people out the ass..

Yes, that is the really sad part.. it really is a lose lose situation. I've so far refused to advertise there. I just don't like the site, I've read through some of the posts (non-escort ones.) and it seems to me like a bunch of kids and crazies.. To me, if that's who's posting there-- that's probably who they are mainly attracting... My flat out refusal to post there and only here has led to an utter lack of bookings.. sometimes none. So I can see how posting there becomes essential, especially if you depend on that income. I have other jobs, so I don't depend on the income as much as some others may, making my refusal to post there a lot easier. I still feel the hit of everyone going there though.. I think the situation is a joint effort (both clients and escorts would have to start using more desirable advertising).. but getting the majority of people to do that is probably just short of impossible.

While not using 'that site' seems like the best of ideas.. it probably doesn't help the guys when they see most of the girls here, there. I've seen girls from here that once claimed cerb was their best resource now posting daily there.. It doesn't really set a good example for the guys if their favorite ladies and agencies are now all posting there. I'm sure if the ladies stopped posting there, most guys would stop going. But if you keep increasing the number of 'actual' girls there, how can you expect them?

I also run into those people, or those people who think it's absolutely disgusting to be selling your body for money... even though they give theirs away for free at the bars to just about anyone every weekend.. The world's a hypocritical place.. you have to expect some of that to creep in here. ;)

Yeah... as seen in other threads though, the harder it is for someone to contact you in this business, the less likely they are to bother trying. I already don't book by phone, so taking my e-mail off of my website doesn't sound like the best of ideas.. I checked out the Google thing, they actually have bandwidth limits as well.. if you go over they want you to pay for the account. I ended up switching hosts, to one with unlimited bandwidth.. they also have been helping me block proxies that are constantly being used for spam.. it seems to be the easiest way to go about it. I still get some spam, but I'm no longer under constant attack by it.

You can have a 'no review' policy and still be on cerb as long as you are not on the DRN list here... There are some escorts here now that do not allow reviews of themselves (as started on their sites), but they are not on the 'do not review' list here and participate/use to participate. How you would enforce such, I wouldn't know though..

I think that's kind of the point.. In some cases anyways. Sometimes (some of us) use methods of keeping clients we're not really interested in seeing away from us. Some people probably aren't interested in someone who can't or isn't interested in them enough to simply take the slashes or spaces out of their posted number.. "Having gold doesn't mean you'll get a gold-digger, it's not always your gold they're after..."

I think it's less normal for him to put up with it.. I mean honestly, would you sit there and let some man tell you that you're a freak because a wind picked up or your shirt rubbed and your nipples got hard? Think about that a minute.. I'd be the nutso one for staying with the guy.. lol While it may not be normal, you did say she was his wife.. meaning he married her. I'm sure she just didn't roll over all of a sudden and hate morning wood..

Thank you everyone for the suggestions.. I will obviously have to do a bit more research, though this domain to gmail option is looking promising. xo

My only problem with this is that it doesn't stop the messages from coming to me, it just stops me from seeing them. Though they will get filtered out by the e-mail addon, it doesn't stop them from coming through my account, which eats up my bandwidth.. they wouldn't bug me so much if they weren't chewing me towards my limit..