shypilot

jughead, you can hold your head high and be pleased with the effort. It takes courage to face your boss and you did it. Good for you, and now it looks as though you have decided to move on. Just remember you have a lot to offer when you start getting interviews, be confident in yourself and your skills a good interviewer can spot that very quickly.

I am right there with you antlerman.... Shwing!! is right.

It is difficult to add to what has already been said. For me Cat is simply the greatest in every way. She believes I have led a sheltered life which just shows her modesty. She is simply a catch no matter how you put it. Intuitive, intelligent, articulate, beautiful and sexy. Cat you are probably too good for me and I am grateful that you have welcomed me so openly. You are simply the best in my humble opinion. SHYPILOT

Cat, Page, I simply can't believe that this is still an on going issue, and for that I am truly sorry that you have to deal with this yet again. Even once is one too many. My opinion has been slowly changing to a much tougher position on this subject after reading this thread and the previous one that Cat had started. These ladies deserve our respect and admiration, they are intelligent, caring and give us a level of trust without question most people rarely get in their daily lives. The very least we can do is respect that trust. Cat I believe you go way beyond the call with the way you handle these situations, but in my opinion the cost to you emotionally is too high a price to pay. These deadbeats don't deserve your trust or your respect because they have clearly abused your trust. Yes, yes I know that shit happens, I am the king or at lease the crown prince of shit happens but with a friend I would never betray their trust no matter the cost. These gentlemen (and I use the term lousily) have put themselves into this position and it is not nor should it be your responsibility to try and fix their problem. I believe they should be cut louse and left to deal with it on their own. Page although I have not had the privilege of meeting you yet I feel this fellow has done you a tremendous disservice, you are clearly a lady who has gained a tremendous level of respect and love from this community and you should keep that in mind. This ass hole that has put you into this situation should be left to hang. In the end he did not show you the respect you deserve by not taking the precautions necessary to ensure your privacy. I believe guys like this actually want to be caught because they don't have the courage to confront their spouses so you become the catalyst for them. In the end they are using you to reach some goal they may not even be clearly aware of. Morality is the issue here but not on your part. It is the ass hole who has abused your trust that clearly has moral issues. I think I can safely say the gentleman that have responded on this thread and on the previous thread are just that, gentleman; they clearly respect, admire and love you ladies and I am proud to count myself one of them. I am sorry if this seams to be a bit of a rant but common guys treat these ladies the with the respect and consideration they deserve. SHYPILOT

There is one thing for certain and that is you can not go wrong with Cat she is in a class all by herself. Welcome to the site.

Hay Dummpy that sound like a fantastic night! You are definitely a trail blazer. As for a party at Cat's place I am not to sure I could handle 5 of these ladies at one time but it would sure be fun trying.

I am from the sam basic school of thought as Dumpy. In life careeres come and go along with the fortunes. He is right that you should try and find what you love to do and do what it takes to make it happen. I know it sounds easier than it is but in the end if you don't try you could live a life full of regrets. You are absolutely right about the fact that if they can't see the value of 17 years experience then it is time to move on. I am quite sure others will find that kind of dedication and loyalty very valuable. Good Luck

I agree with you whole heartedly dummpy. Some of the most beautiful woman I have met over these short 40+ years are mothers but like all things in life there is bound to be variety of all kinds it is the nature of people men and woman. Just a note to Troy you truly have nothing to be jealous about; marriage should be and usually is taken very seriously but some people pay a very high emotional price because of things out of their control. When you see these 40 somethings driving around, a lot of them are trying to compensate for the miserable state they have gotten themselves into. Trying to relive their imaginary youth. True I an sure they have fun but in the end they still have the issues that got them there in the first place. Don't be jealous be yourself I don't know how old you are but it sounds like you have plenty of time ahead to get as screwed up as most of us.

So far I think every one who has piped in on this side topic has brought up very valid points of view. It clearly is an important issue no matter what your perspective is. That being said the question still boils down to how should an SP respond to the situation Cat raised in the first place. In the end those of us with wives who are seeing SP's for whatever reason, should always take great care in how we handle things. The ladies on this board like Cat deserve our respect since they put so much trust in us and treat us so well. It is a responsibility to them and the wives to make sure things are kept discreet for the SP's as well as ourselves. An ounce of prevention goes a long way... Gees I can't believe I just said that I sound like my old man....

I have to say I have very rarely herd it put in such clear terms. Your points are very accurate. There are so many circumstances we find our selves in and without knowing the whole story you could never guess anything was up. You can love your wife to the grave but life certainly does throw curve balls at us all the time for both the husband and the wife. I have been separated from my wife for quite some time. To most of the outside world people have no idea. I could have divorced but I do this because she is not well and requires a lot of care. It is not her fault she did not do this to me or herself, so in most ways I still love this woman I now take care of. The separation was a way for me to be sure that I did not want to live with her but still loved her enough to keep my commitment to her in maintaining her care and health. It took me a long time to try an SP and it has been one of the best experiences for me. It's not my ex's fault but I don't believe it is my fault either; this way I am able to feel like a normal real man and not just a care giver. The problems don't go away but knowing a woman like Catherine and many of the other ladies on this board who are exceptional people in every respect makes life bearable to exceptional. In my situation if I divorced my wife I would be abandoning a woman who has never done a bad thing in her life except deal with illness. It is simply not right so what do I do? Go out and lie to woman I meet? Or go somewhere I may get a little understanding, friendship, support and always walkaway with a smile. There you have it if you don't know the whole story be careful before you judge. Sorry for the long entry but I felt it was important to add to this line of discussion.

I have to agree the twins are rather nice, Tuesday is no slouch but ahhh twins.

At least with the detailed billing only a number appears which in and of it's self does help a bit, but like most people if you put a number in your phone you are also likely to put the name with the entry and that could be a dead giveaway. Who is this Catherine you have in your phone??? LOL. I still think if you have something to hide then protect it.

The florist idea is a good one it gives the SP a neutral out without having to get into details. But I also like the password option for the clients since I do the same thing and it is not that difficult to deal with. We live in an information age so as a rule and a good practice protect that information. I know Cat and I am sure other SP's take care of your private information so why not you with theirs.

I think the first line of defense is to know where your phone is. If anyone is like me my phone is my business link and I never let it out of my sight. If it is a shared phone you need to get your own. That being said I do not believe it is the responsibility of the SP to have to deal with this you should never have been put in the situation in the first place. Also, how would you know that it is the wife of a client calling? You don't! Quite frankly I am not sure at that point if there is anything you could say that would relieve a suspicious wife. Lets face it she must be suspicious if she is calling a number on the phone call list and it is her husbands cell phone. I know what I am saying does not answer your question but in the end you should not have to ask the question since the responsibility lies with the client. Keep Smiling Cat.

No not the porch and there is no guest room as far as I could tell... Lets see a canopy bed nice decor and of course Catherine at my side. Now that I think of it; it could have been anywhere as long as she was there and oh boy she was. So I stand by my original thought she is absolutely secretly in love with me. It's obvious.

Well oneshotguy I don't want to dampen your dreams but I was over at Cat's last night and the evening was wonderful, it was her last visit of the night and I had my toothbrush handy. So need I say more I am quite certain she is secretly in love with me, no question about it. On all other points I tend to agree.

I don't believe anyone could add to that review. It just confirms the good things I have herd about Page. Wow.

I agree with you Catherine and very well put. I don't believe anything is worth that risk. You ladies have a difficult job why make it more difficult by taking such risks. Although I am new to using SP's I personally prefer knowing that you take the extra step in protecting yourselves and as a result protecting me. Nothing in your line of work is worth your life and if someone walks away because of you trying to be safe you don't need them; there will be someone else around the corner who appreciates the care you do take. So from me I would thank all the ladies who care for and take pride in yourselves you are worth it.

I fully agree and endorse this thread. Antlerman put it so well there is little else to say other that yes, yes and yes again. Cat is an astonishing woman on every level and I feel my life is much better with her as a friend and more. Here's to you Cat and it is clear I am not alone we can't all be wrong, you are clearly a special lady.

Your place is exquisite, full of charm and frankly you are intoxicating so I have not even thought of music. Although now that I think of it, you know my taste is wide but a good jazz blues mix would suit me very well. As for the robe, well I am with you Cat fresh out of the shower and back into bed appeals to me for sure. Frank

This is my first time on this site and I am very new to the whole concept of SP's. But I have to tell you, Cat is simply the most amazing woman I have met in years. She is cultured, intelligent, articulate and beautiful a rare find for sure. You simply can't go wrong with this lady. I can't wait to see her again. Thanks Cat!