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If it were my first time with a SP, nothing was mentioned, and I started going down and discovered it was that time...I'd be disappointed. But maybe the same kind of disappointment I'd get if I were expecting daty on the menu and it's not offered. I have had experiences where I was told before making the appt and given the choice. I'll just accept that there's no daty and that's that, no big deal even though I love to do it - there's always the next time. One instance we had talked about it being close to that time but she said there was a few days grace. I booked a 4 hr appt, we just hung out and chatted for an hour, she went to the bathroom a few mins before going upstairs and all was well. Literally 5 mins later just before we started, she went to the bathroom again and it had just hit her. She was more upset about it than I was so I said it was all good, no worries. The culprit was new bc pills and it came early. I was a bit disappointed that I booked a longer than usual appt and didn't get my daty, but I did get the pleasure of curing her cramps from lots of everything else. Got really messy and there was literally blood everywhere but shit happens, what can you do? Actually, looked like a murder scene...still a good time though ;)

Every situation is different and sometimes you're right and sometimes you're wrong...but you never know unless you say something. I would imagine the best way to go about it is to lay out there like you know the answer will be 'NO' from her, and in a way that's easy for her to be honest back. And she may have heard it before so she probably knows how to handle it diplomatically if she's not interested. It's all part of the game...

You're also competing with 50 other guys there if the woman appears normal and somewhat attractive. Might want to try something else that you pay for to bring the numbers down, maybe even professional matchmaking? You already have one big plus in your favour for sure, girls love guys who dance.

That's very good advice. Something else to consider in case you don't know...do NOT eat asparagus within 24 hrs of CIM. Just don't do it, no no no no no!

I checked all of them even though I'm 99% outcall to my place. But I'd consider leaving my house for the right girl :)

I think as long as you have drinks on hand - not necessarily alcohol - you should be OK. You should focus on preparing yourself so that you've eaten a good meal and are through digesting it by the time she arrives. You know, like no swimming until an hour after dinner. I do a lot of 2hr visits and they go by so quick, especially when having a drink or two and chatting. And I personally do not want to snack before sex and can go without for a while after...most girls would probably be the same. Showering is a great idea inbetween, especially if she joins you. Best thing to do though is ask her what she'd like (if you can)

Wonder how much I could get for my virgin ass? I don't swing that way, but I'd do it for a million bucks...something tells me I wouldn't get that though....

What I would find disturbing about this is the fact you said that because of the type of info he divulges, this is someone who knows you personally, not some other board member or lurker. So if - as you said - you don't talk about this to your friends, somebody you may or may not know has got into your email or something like that. Yeah, that's a bit scary...you'd have to be a little off in the head to go around pretending like that, it's premeditated....

I think it's right around the day of my first anniversary of my first encounter with a SP. Called an agency up after weeks of deliberation and waited for her to arrive. All I saw beforehand were pics of a girl with the face blurred out and I had no idea what to expect. I thought the worst of everything - what if she wasn't attractive, what if she was a moron, what if I just don't like her, can't believe I'm doing this, etc. She was over 20 mins late and I was starting to think that maybe she wasn't showing and that wouldn't be such a bad thing... She finally arrived and was incredibly hot and great to talk to. Was a really good experience overall and gave me a bit extra spring in my step for days after. Completely changed the way I thought about the industry, still had some of the preconceived notions that most people would have being oblivious to what it is all about. And she wasn't even GFE...it has certainly gotten better the more I indulge and learn ;)

Haven't seen her in person, but from the pics she has up on CL she doesn't appear to be overweight...more 'healthy' looking than anything else. I know you're just trying to get across that's she not a spinner but, to me, there's curvy and then there's fat. And if you say overweight in reference to a girl, she generally hears that as fat and not curvy...careful! ;)

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Anything offered other than BBBJ would be enough for me to say no way to ever being with that SP. I really hate condoms - but I like living more. I'm well aware that the chances are somewhat remote for a female to pass HIV to a male, but I don't want to end up being that statistical anomaly...

Wow, I thought the numbers would be higher. But I have no SO right now so my palm is my best friend - minimum 15-20 times per week. I hardly ever get out of bed without tossing one off and usually get one in after going to bed as well. And then there's the inbetweeners. On the rare occasions I have a hazy lazy day with absolutely nothing to do and want to stay in to take care of misc things...had a few instances of 6-7 times in one day. Very time consuming to say the least! Jeez, I've even pre-booked a girl to come over at night, got excited a few hours beforehand and masturbated before she arrived, fired 2 shots on goal during the visit and then got one more in before going to bed if it was a 'memorable' session. Maybe I do have a problem?! Then again, I think I have too much time on my hands...definitely too much time in them....

I've had about a dozen different girls at my place in the past year and never had a problem with discreet dress or behaviour. I lived in a townhouse in the burbs for most of that and if my neighbours wondered anything, it would be, "how can this guy have all these girls delivered that are way too young and good looking for him?" ;) Only thing that ever made me paranoid about the neighbours was having the driver parked out front waiting for me to answer the door or for her to leave. Thankfully, I don't care what they thought and most people don't notice these things unless they sit on their front stoop 18hrs a day... Perhaps you just got unlucky with your choice of SP, especially considering that you were up front about your want for discretion.

I've never seen her, but on her website Fun Valerie has that listed as one of her possible options

It's not a bad idea and there's a lot more to it than just losing your cherry. I find that frequenting SP's from time to time does a lot for your psyche in a way that may help you get laid by regular girls. It's kinda like practice, you know? And not just the sex, but the interaction with a girl in a sexual/sensual manner. Even the chit chat you have with them is valuable because it could give you confidence that hey, you're definitely doable! Of course the right SP will make the difference and as long as you realize that it's not technically real, it could help you gain that small bit of swagger you need to help you out with girls in general. When I was younger and frustrated with not getting lucky, the fact I wasn't getting any made it worse. But maybe thinking "hey, I can get laid whenever I want, I don't have to put so much pressure on myself!" knowing that you're a phone call (and a few $$) away from it...might help, who knows?

Being my first holiday as a hobbiest as well, with the extra time and decreased responsibility, I'm contemplating an overnight sometime soon. Can't really do it any other time and that would be a xmas present I would actually like! Still thinking about it though, it's a big drop of $$$. But I've found the right girl for it and I know we'd both get a lot out of it...spread that xmas cheer around ;)

That goes for just about everything though. What % of any type of news positive? It's all about murders, drugs, fires...I could go on and on, but it's mostly about human misery. If it wasn't, we wouldn't be interested. And I've seen enough stories about online relationships gone bad as well so they're not picking on the escort slant...it's just part of the story here. It's probably less likely to happen from the escort side of things since you know that it's about money to start with, and that's what gives the story it's extra allure. Like fuck me, how brutal is that where it's revealed this guy was turned down as a paying client by multiple girls? That is truly depressing stuff...

As much as I loathe people who take advantage of others and even worse, a perceived trust turned out to be total manipulation, anyone who does not exercise a bit of caution with any type of relationship is playing with fire. I feel really bad for the guy and I can relate somewhat to that kind of naivete, but there comes a point where you have to listen to your head and not your heart. My heart goes out to the poor guy and that woman is just about the lowest form of life possible...taking advantage of a handicapped person because he's handicapped. But after the first take of a large sum of money on the promise of something that was never proved, he should have stopped there. He was not stupid, just lonely and hopeful. It's unfortunate that there are those out there that look at that as an opportunity to profit...

I love getting a girl off more than anything, so I try to do whatever it takes for them to orgasm. I'm going to get off no matter what and it makes my experience more enjoyable if I can accomplish that, especially in multiples. It also pays dividends between visits because it gives me something to think about when I masturbate ;) My new favourite SP is great for this. To be honest, I can't be sure with most girls even when it seems like they did and they say they did, because I still have that cynical voice in the back of my head telling me that it's what they're supposed to be like no matter what. Good for business to make the guys feel good, you know? But this girl totally loses it, writhes uncontrollably and comes very easily...always a few times a session, sometimes 5 or 6 in less than a half hour. Plus every time she does, she breaks into a sweat which just adds to how incredibly sexy it is. Last time I saw her, by the end she was a trembling, flustered, sweaty mess with mascara stains all over my pillow...we were both pretty happy with that... Now if she's faking, Meryl Streep ain't got nothing on her!

My feeling is that, even if Ottawa as a whole does not suffer from the brunt of an economic downswing that other areas will endure, inevitably supply and demand will be affected. There will be jobs lost here, and there will be people fearful of spending money on frivolous expenditures. Recessions tend to have an exponential impact as well since the media tells us that it's coming, so everyone hordes their cash...self-fulfilling prophecy? But there's no doubt in my mind that it will change the business where we'll likely have more girls and the rates will go down. The only question is to what degree. I just hope that I can keep working to take advantage of it....

I smoke and I'm trying real hard to think of one SP that I've been with that did not. So on the flipside to this discussion, I only do outcalls, only ever smoke in my home when I have a SP over (if she wants to smoke), and always am fresh as can be when they arrive. Every failed attempt I've had trying to quit, I never forget how disgusting the smell is when I get my sense of smell back, and do not want to inflict that on anyone else. So no, of course it doesn't matter to me if they do or not. But my new favourite right now is a smoker and has asthma...pulls on the puffer at least once every time I see her. That concerns me a bit...guilts me into doing all the work. OK, well most of the work... :mrgreen:

Don't forget that they know that too ;) And any other half-wise woman out there for that matter. 'Oh baby, you're going to make me cum', really means, 'hurry up and finish already!' As long as she makes me believe it's true, it's OK I guess lol Not with a real gf though, then it's bad....

It can be a tighter sensation depending on the girl so the combination of that, the infrequency that you do it and the plain old taboo makes it very appealing given the right circumstances. Some girls like the sensation very much and I would imagine that for the most part, the SP's offering it are doing so because they like it. For me personally I don't go looking for it and if it's offered, I may indulge or I may not. As far as sex goes, if a girl likes something off the beaten path I am willing to do it because it is what she likes and wants. If she likes to be spanked, have her hair pulled, nipples pinched, etc., I love to do all those things because it gets her off more. If she doesn't like that stuff, makes no difference to me because I am going to get off anyways. But my enjoyment is enhanced tenfold when I know that she is getting pleasure by pushing the physical envelope. And greek fits in that same boat - if she likes it, I'm all for it. If not, I wouldn't even do it if offered because her pleasure is more important for my pleasure. One thing that I believe all guys should do before taking the plunge is to experiment on yourself. You can feel the sensation to understand it better and also get to know the limitations and techniques involved to do it properly. And who knows...you might end up liking it yourself ;) But there's nothing worse for a girl then a guy who doesn't know what he's doing, just trying to ram it in there like the pros do in porn. If you know what the pain/pleasure thresholds are, you can reciprocate properly and the right girl will love it.

I always do it at home. Being single allows me to do that of course, but there's definitely a comfort in knowing that I can 'order in' and relax. Only reason I would try an incall in the future is to see how it's like on the SP's turf, and maybe get to play with some of her toys ;) But I feel safer at home and in some cases the rate is no different.