YoungStud

A few months ago I met someone with whom I not only connected completely sexually but emotionally and intellectually as well. Before in my life, there were several women over the years that I deeply loved but with whom the sex tended to have limited variety, though good for what it was. Of course there were also women, sometimes quite a few, for which the connection was mostly or purely sexual and in quite a wide number of ways. It's made me as happy as I've ever been to unite those two side of me more completely that ever before. Even though my new friend is involved in a long-term live in relationship with someone else, we get together often to enjoy a wide variety of activities both in and out of bed. It's always good when we are together, no matter what we are doing. We both know we're now involved in long-term relationship of our own with all those connections between us, which makes us both feel very glad and fortunate.

I agree. Book online. Let them validate your credit card info when you check in. Then, when you're done, just leave the key card on the dresser and go. No need to check out unless you need to confirm your pay-per-view porno movie consumption and mini-bar usage. :???:

Paige makes some really good points. A friend of mine in the business would echo the one about Ottawa being really bad for no-shows from clients. She's worked elsewhere and has a perspective for comparison. So no-shows certainly work both ways. As well, they actually hurt the provider's income, while the reverse is not true for clients. I think everyone knows that working women in any profession have lots of other things going on in their lives - family, friends, children, significant others, illness, etc. Some may sometimes forget that SPs are just the same as anyone else in that regard. And as well also have the privacy and discretion considerations Paige mentions. I think any reasonable client would accept cancellations gracefully. And deal with no shows as just something that happens from time to time. And not just to them.

What can they arrest the driver for? What charge? And under what Act? Criminal Code, Highway Traffic, etc?

Yes, I remember that. They used to take out fairly big ads in the Sun to promo the tiger angle. Actually saw the act one noon hour. Kind of felt sorry for the tiger. :???:

A couple of people have made the point that perhaps this individual simply has "rough edges" or "was previously disappointed by SP no-shows" or words to that effect. In my book, those could be explanations, but they're not excuses. If you come across as an a-hole, for whatever reason, expect to be treated like one. And, to shift focus a bit, on the no-show with no explanation point, there could be a number of reasons. Including the fact that a number of women in this business have their own often very justifiable reasons for being angry with men in general and want to be able to exercise some control over their relationships with men through their work. A no-show with no explanation could be an expression of both those things coming together. And was something which occurred for a variety of factors, most of which probably don't have anything to do with a particular client. So no reason to take it personally, even though it can be frustrating. Fortunately, the really good SPs have sorted out their personal demons, or at least can separate them from their business life, and provide really professional, friendly service. The best ones know exactly who they are, what they want and how to enjoy the life they've chosen to the fullest.

Ah, okay, the SO guilt thing. Been there, done that, know what you're talking about. I'm really fortunate in that right now my main relationship is with someone who is at least as promiscuous about casual sex as I am and we're both quite open about what we do. Occasionally. we trade "war stories", which makes both of us hot. :?

No need to apologize, you write what you feel and do that very well. As for the remaining bits of nerves and guilt, those should pass with time. One really good way to become more comfortable with women is just to spend a lot of time with them, both outside and inside the hobby. Sex is just another way of being with a woman, certainly one of the best ways, but not the only way if you want a balanced and relaxed emotional life.

You're a real Hugh Hefner there, Secret. lol Myself, I prefer in-calls in Ottawa and out-calls when traveling. I know most of my neighbours along my street, and though I live alone now, prefer some discretion, rather than having people ask me about all these young women in cabs pulling up in front of my house regularly. It's just easier when you don't have to explain. lol Plus, my favourite provider only does in-calls.:???:

But not everyone would agree with the point of view expressed by Seymour and others in this thread so far. For example, see: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=28974&postcount=12

You guys should stop whistling in the dark. Bad stuff sometimes does happen. And it has nothing to do with the media or complaints from the competition. Check out this thread: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5967

http://privatechloe.com/About_Me.html

Also, you can always just ask her, "Do you mind chatting like this with me for free?" It never hurts to check to see where the other person is coming from rather than just make assumptions.

Wow, that sounds very hot, Paige. When will this exciting development be available to the general public?

Well, no matter where you are, you are close to some places and farther from others. :? I think there will be lots of high-tech business men (and others) who will be happy to have a high-quality day-time service in their neck of the woods. You may lose some "repeats' but you will soon gain others.

I agree with CK. This has been totally boring for quite awhile. There may be other options in this price range if one wants to do some in-person research rather than sitting behind a keyboard all day.

I've said I'd try almost anything once. In my range of experiences to date, I may have come now to the "almost" part. But I agree with Antlerman and Cat, Tigerclaw's post has moved the goalpost here (no pun intended) to a different spot. Almost everyone here, I'm sure, has that one (or two or three - lol) thing(s) that particularly press their buttons. Always glad to hear when someone has found theirs. Different strokes for different folks. Sure would be glad to be in the room when Paige and Aylhin meet. {;-)

These places get busted by LE because they regularly violate a number of laws. See: http://ottawa.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20080917/OTT_Massage_Parlour_080917/20080917/?hub=OttawaHome I think it's safe to assume most or all of them have women there who don't want to be there. Having sex with an unhappy woman who is being forced to work in the sex trade is definitely NOT my idea of a good time. You could also run the risk of being on the premises the next time the cops kick down the doors.

Enjoy yourself, buddy. She'll show you a good time.

No offense taken. It's just that I'm probably more interested in the escort's performance rather than the client's. :???:

Have the discussion with him. If he leaves you as a client, sounds like you won't have lost that much anyway. If the chat smartens him up, also to your benefit. Some people will get away with what you let them. Sounds like you've been more than generous and fair already. Also sounds like you're a terrific person and a very desirable companion who will have no trouble replacing this guy with a much better level of client. Also, on your other point, if you are spending time socially with a client, if he's a decent guy, he should acknowledge that time with some kind of tangible appreciation. (Gifts, etc.) If you really don't want that for whatever reason, you can always tell him so. But it should be offered by him regardless. Yours to accept or not as you wish.

Have a good one, dude!

Glad things worked out for you, but perhaps you've given us a little too much detail there? :???:

From reading the threads, they did one date with igotaboner and two with Dummpy, who had a previous personnel connection with them, it sounds like. Then they retired from "public" life. Given that this is still one of the most popular recommendations on the board a month after this duo retired after only three public dates, it says something about the intensity generated by the date descriptions.

I agree. I'm involved in a relationship now in which, if I'd thought too much about it (age difference, education difference, some lifestyle differences and the fact that she's involved in a long-term relationship with someone else), I would never have gotten involved. But now that I have, I must say this has been one of the best experiences of my life. I have found one of the few emotional and intellectual equals I've ever known whose values, from family to sex to work to play, are very closely aligned with mine. The aforementioned differences give us lots to talk about, but have proved not to be a barrier at all. Even though I've been around on this planet for awhile and have had quite a variety of relationships in the past, I've also learned not only more about myself but as well how, in some ways, to be a more mature individual in the true sense of that phrase. And I wouldn't have done any of it if I'd only followed my head instead of my heart.