YoungStud

Excellent post, Brandi! I think the key part of it is in what I've quoted below:

This has held back Vice-President Dick Cheney's wild side for years.:-P

Actually, it's not only possible to be both a friend and a client but quite enjoyable as well. If you find someone you really like and trust and you both are honest with each other, this kind of relationship can be long-term. Of course, a "friends with benefits" proposal could also be just another way of saying "sugar daddy sucker", so you have be careful to really trust your own best instincts and judgments and be clear about what's really going on.

I agree with the point about confidence. The more you have, the more you get. :wink: The danger is, perhaps, being so confident you spread yourself a little too thinly. :???: Though flirting is always harmless fun. (Or pretty harmless anyway - I totally agree it's rude to do it when your with another woman. Unless she has a peculiar sense of humour, of course.)

Your story has added a new dimension to the phrase "Support the Troops".

I totally agree with you there. There is never any need for review purposes to identify an SP by anything more than her work name and, if an in-call, general reference to location (e.g. Downtown, St. Laurent area, Bayshore area, etc.). If a photo is included, it should only be one already published on the Internet by the SP herself.

I understand and appreciate your points. I think they are mostly valid ones. However, I'm not sure I agree with your assertion that all escorts "get outed eventually". Or to what degree reviews on boards like CERB may contribute to the outing of those that do. Most SPs do not put their faces on their own websites, though many do have some sort of web presence now which includes an outline, sometimes quite explicit, of the services they offer. Almost all use working names. Often those names will change several times during a career (or a year in some cases). I'm just not sure, for a hypothetical example, that a review about "Angel" who became "Shugar" who became "Joy" who became "V?ronique" etc etc can be tied very easily to a particular individual who may have briefly employed all those names. Especially when other SPs in the same market may have been using similar or identical work names during the same period. (And the pool of potential names sometimes does seem rather limited.) Also, unless someone has some very distinctive body features (tats or scars for e.g.) or actually puts their face on their SP website, I'm not sure how anyone can ID someone positively from visual info on an SP's own website, let alone from words in a review on a board like CERB. Finally, if an SP is posting that she offers (again, for e.g.) DATO and COF on her website, I'm not sure how mentioning those items in a review alters anything. Just my thoughts.

Aylhin and Paige - what an intriguing duo possibility! Paige riding Aylhin cowgirl style while the third participant could stick his . . . very interesting possibilities. And imagine how hot it would all look. :???:

It was kind of like having sex on the stock exchange floor during a "bare" market trading day. Phones kept ringing, people kept coming and going, the level of intensity was high, everyone was interested in doing a deal, everyone was interested in completing a deal, everyone was looking to provide good value in the limited time available. I had a really great time despite or perhaps even because of the slightly crazy circumstances. Shy and Lolita had kind of had too much market success with their duo offering, resulting in having to push back bookings an hour or so, as single and duo half and full hours began to pile up almost literally at their downtown hotel suite location. I didn't mind the wait for my duo fun. Well worth it in the end. (Two very nice ends, actually.) And found it kind of amusing when the guy who had just finished a single with Lolita tried to barge into the bathroom where I'd just finished a preparatory shower and where Shy was keeping me entertained until Lolita finished her solo. When the three of us managed to retire to the bedroom, a very pleasant and professional mix of tongues, fingers, tits, pussies and a penis were blended with various on-going booking phone calls on a couple of cell phones, all of which were seamlessly rolled into the mix and effortlessly dealt with by (mostly) Shy. Talk about energetic multitasking. One or the other of these two hot young spinners, usually both, continued to keep me very occupied as we worked our way towards an "extra special" (YMMV) high-pressure close of trading in what became a very fluid market. I was amazed under the very exciting and busy circumstances that I was able somehow to maintain a very proportionate sense of aim and distribution as I fully invested my resources and drained the reserve supply. Kind of a Warren Buffet type of balanced, well-measured and high volume contribution to a very busy day on the local "bare" market. Yes, sometimes some SPs do get crazy busy, but if you go with the flow, you will have a good time. For previous comments on this combo, see: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=4247&highlight=lolita

Wow! Very strong emotions there my friend. I hope for your sake she stays around for a long time this time. Have you ever talked to her about what she feels like when she's away from you for awhile? If you haven't, might be an interesting discussion if you want to have it. But only if you want to have it.

... Agree agree ...

All good points. Also worth considering . . . I once worked at a national corporation where one manager was sacked for sexual harassment and misuse of authority when one of his many little office affairs went badly wrong. Another was fired and criminally charged with misuse of corporate funds after several years of funding a little nearby apartment love nest for office affairs came to light during an audit. Kind of extreme I know, but in general, this can be very risky business for a variety of reasons.

This issue is a bit more nuanced than that. Check out this recent thread for more info: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5750

The letterisms and acronyms are explained fairly comprehensively here: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/faq.php?faq=vb_faq#faq_abbreviations One basic rule of thumb - the more abbreviations used the better - usually indicates a broader approach to the concept of "full service". :???: Though, in any particular instance, YMMV.

Survey shows: clean is always much better.:smile: Seriously, for the independents working from home, ask first of course. It's their house, after all, so be a good guest. In my experience, independents usually do a good, thoughtful job of providing towels, wash clothes, soap etc. either for a full shower before (during - mmm!) or after - or just a quick wipe-down afterwards.

I agree, compared to many other addictions, this is pretty healthy physically. I'm not sure how healthy it is emotionally for everyone though. I'm good with it, but my solution is to be pretty honest about what's going on. It's paid casual sex for fun. It can be done in a very friendly and enjoyable and exuberant way. But it's still paid casual sex for fun. GFE describes a range of pleasurable options. It doesn't mean she's actually your girlfriend. I've always been big on emotional fidelity, as opposed to sexual fidelity. And obviously you will not find a lot of emotional depth in most of these casual escort relationships. As long as you don't expect to, it's all good. And one's level of capacity for emotional fidelity really doesn't, in my view, have much to do with one's capacity for casual sex, or how long you will be involved/addicted to this kind of "hobby". I think it's possible to be involved in a long-term emotional commitment with someone while both of you still have casual sex of various kinds, including the kind of long-term "hobby" addiction (if that is really the right word) we're talking about here. I don't think it's either/or. But you do really have to have a high level of mutual honesty and trust and commitment in that long-term relationship. And you have to see the casual sex - paid and otherwise - for what it is - just that, casual. And derive your main emotional satisfaction elsewhere. Then it really doesn't matter whether you can quit the "hobby" or not. To achieve such a long-term emotional commitment is easier said that done, of course.

It's just casual paid sex with a (usually) very experienced professional, so feel comfortable. The more comfortable you are, the easier her job, the more fun for both.

With regard to level of standards, I'm reminded of that old Jon Lovitz schtick on Saturday Night Live, in which he would do a monologue on some very improbable or ridiculous situation or experience involving trying attract members of the opposite sex, the punch line for which would always be, "That's my point exactly. Just lower your standards!" But seriously folks, I think, whether fueled by birth control pills or cream-filled donuts (where did that cream cum from Dummpy?), Dummpy makes a good point. It never hurts to be nice, it never hurts to try to try to see things from her point of view and it never hurts to ask. Simply by doing those things I've occasionally been able to transform what had been advertised as a very safe GFE into a pretty wild PSE at no extra charge. You can, to some extent, control the chemistry if you make the effort. But if you just show up and figure "I'm paying for this, so you'll do whatever I want b__ch for a big porno stud like me", YMMV. So I agree recommendations can only go so far. The rest is up to personal expectations and - very important - attitude.

It's easy to be whoever you want with someone you will only see once. It's more difficult, but in the long term more satisfying, to actually be yourself with someone who knows you well. :razz:

See updated info at: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5325 You an also PM her on this board at BellaBeauty: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=19586

Personally, I like all my insertions to be comfortable for all concerned. (Perhaps that's why God, in her infinite wisdom, invented lube, flavoured or unflavoured.) :wink:

Still better than the reverse possibility. :-P

I know people with Bell and Telus who have the same complaint. No company has a perfect network in national captial area, given hills, rural areas without towers, certain blocked areas because of highrises, etc. etc.

Speaking from personal experience, yes, it's possible to be both a client and also have a good long-term friendship both in and out of bed as part of that relationship. For me, having sex with a friend is always much more satisfying.

Thanks, Dummpy. And your ass perceptions, as always I'm sure, are correct. An excellent doggie perspective.