MightyPen

Let's assume that we're discussing clients who are in a relationship and have a partner to cheat on, and the client hasn't discussed it with his partner and obtained her permission. Nor do the terms of their relationship simply allow it. But with that done... then: Yes. If your partner hasn't agreed to it then it's cheating. Everything else is a rationalization. Having established that, though, there are further issues: - What really is the nature and significance of cheating? - What circumstances give rise to cheating? - Are there cases where someone can understandably decide that cheating is better than the alternative of burning their domestic life down to the ground? That's a separate discussion maybe better saved for later in the thread once the preliminaries are done with. But fundamentally, I think the interesting part of this discussion isn't going to be your original question, whose answer seems unambiguous to me; rather, it's the followup issue: "Okay, so let's talk about cheating."

Same for me. I generally take the tree down on "back to work Eve", which in my case is this coming Sunday. On the other hand my outside lights never really come down, but I stop turning them on sometime in the middle of January.

I'd like to offer my own warm wishes to everyone here, and in particular: - to the women I've spent time with this year: thanks so much. Your company has been exciting, intoxicating, engaging, refreshing, and healing for my body, mind, and soul. And... a whole lot of plain old fun! Really. Thank you. - to everyone I've traded ideas with here through the past year; thank you too. I'm really happy to have a place to discuss such a wide range of subjects, and especially to explore sexuality (because how many other places are there to do it and receive thoughtful, informed replies!?). It's the quality of the community that keeps me engaged and coming back time after time. - and to everyone else reading this who doesn't fall into those categories; thanks for simply being here and supporting this site. I hope it's been as great a resource for you as it has for me. My best wishes to everyone; I hope you find a few presents under the tree tomorrow morning, and new adventures, discoveries, surprises, and fulfillment in the coming year.

I think very soon, having exchanged a few PMs, I'll be paying a visit to Miss Didi: Miss Didi recent ad A lady whose profile I've kept returning to and considering over the last few months, which has a special appeal to me: A Taste of Eve recent ad And another, which I again contemplate from time to time (but who hasn't advertised recently): Isabella Styles We'll see what adventures the new year brings!

The list of appealing actresses is long. But if we're going for those with engaging talent plus something a little special that makes them particularly attractive: Cate Blanchett Helen Mirren Julie Christie

I've always been a huge fan of pretty legs in completely opaque tights: Granted the tights themselves can become an obstacle once things get really racy. But then... a) it's fun to play through them, prolonging the foreplay preceding the ultimate skin-to-skin contact, and b) wasn't there a thread somewhere about the joys of lustfully ripping clothing off someone's body...? ;)

So true! (Actually it's true more often than we think -- being in love with a departed figure from our own past, or just the person we imagine someone unattainable to be, can get in the way of fully loving the people close to us.) By the way Georgiana, if I dress like that guy in the eCard for an appointment someday, will you dress like the lady? 'Cause I think all those clothes could be FUN. ;)

I've seen the movie and am a good way through the book. Both are excellent. And credit to both; the book tells the story and succeeds in ways that only books can, and the movie tells the same story, but succeeds in ways that only movies can. The movie is, yes, mostly about a boy who ends up adrift at sea in a lifeboat with several animals for company (because the ship they were on was carrying his father's zoo). Soon it's just the boy and a tiger. And yes, there's some dealing with the practical matter of how to survive at sea (with a hungry tiger). But mostly, the story is about: a) the boy's relationship with the tiger: how the boy first flees from it, then negotiates with it, and then learns to live alongside the tiger as a companion. Note that this kind of evolving relationship with something dangerous is true of many things we encounter in life besides tigers. b) some marvels they see while adrift. And this is where the movie really excels at doing what movies do best: showing some really beautiful images. There are several shots where the sky and perfectly still water blend seamlessly and the boat seems adrift in a universe of amber, or of pure blackness punctuated with countless stars. There's one scene where Pi, the boy, stares down into the water and (imagines?) he can see all the way down to the distant bottom, where the wreck of their ship lies. Plus, one really astonishing scene with a whale at night, which was tailor made for watching in 3D. :) Then there's a very smart, key scene at the end that makes you look at the events of the movie in a different light and gives it a new layer of meaning. How you interpret this scene will strongly impact what you carry away from the movie. So what's the movie really about? Ultimately it's about relationships between people and the people/creatures around them, and with parts of themselves. It's about giving up or carrying on; letting go of things; and being at peace with things, and how we attain that peace through the stories we tell. As the story puts it a couple of times: "this is a story that will make you believe in god." Though even that promise can be interpreted in more than one way.

Far more importantly, tomorrow is the day that the "Colonist" aliens from X-Files are scheduled to invade our planet! "...the ancient Mayans were so terrified that they stopped their calendar on the exact date of colonization: December 22, 2012." Watch out for bees. That's not pollen they're carrying! X-Files Colonists

I'll grant you, I was kind of curious to see how this would go if it really happened. Would the end of the world run on Greenwich Mean Time? Would it start a fraction of a second after Midnight in any given point on Earth... maybe a giant catastrophe first bisecting the UK, and sweeping steadily westward in a giant line stretching from pole to pole? An enormous chasm, consuming Ireland as an appetizer and then draining the Atlantic with a globe-spanning waterfall. Then we'd all get to watch for a few hours at it traveled steadily toward us from the east, until the chasm's leading edge finally snacked on Newfoundland before getting down to the serious business of feasting on the North and South American continents. It would certainly have been a grand spectacle.

Yup. Looks like we carry on as expected: we've got 4 billion years 'til life ends on Earth when all the water has boiled away, and another 3.5 billion years after that 'til the planet gets absorbed by the Sun. Nothing to do but settle in for the long wait...! And hopefully find another home along the way, for whoever and whatever our descendants are in a few billion years.

There was a time when I was compared to this guy more than once: ... but I dropped the beard quite a while ago. And it's very approximate. ;)

The one you love dying before you. Or you dying before the one you love.

That's hilarious! Gotta say, though, I >>reallly<< wasn't sure what I was going to see when I clicked on this thread... :)

Well... that escalated quickly.

ALL of my instincts tell me this is a poser. The key is the power game he's playing; this complete stranger is positioning himself as the authority in this little "relationship" and telling you what to do. He'll get off on trying to make you conform to his will. Look at the naked power play in this little bit especially: Imagine the satisfaction he would feel if you replied as he commanded, and meekly agreed to his terms by hiding away from the 'net. I suspect he was irked that you wouldn't meet him for free as he wanted, and crafted this to "put you in your place". Good for you for the defiant reply you sent him. I'm with others and suggest you forward this to the real police; who knows where this guy's desire to exert power over women will end up if left unchecked. But of course that's easy for me to recommend from here behind my keyboard. Please accept a virtual hug ( >>hug<< ) and my sympathies for having to deal with this kind of thing.

Me too. But I think the sentiment here isn't about living a life of pure chaos, but rather your open-ness to adapt to changing circumstances and opportunities. Sure, you've got structure to your life and a plan for your day. But do you like to pursue a whim when it arises? Which are you more likely to do: stick to the morning's plan, or give into an urge to chase a butterfly? Are you even noticing the butterflies, or are you too busy carrying out the plan? ;)

OH! AND! Dr. Holly Marten from "Eureka":

I'm definitely a go with the flow type of guy. If others enjoy it, I'll give it a try. To stroll through a snowstorm and twirl through a torrent, with only some joy at the end as its warrant. Plan to do one thing, but who knows where you'll be? So set out for milk, but meet an SP. :)

Saffron from Firefly. She'd rob or murder me afterward mind you. But... it'd be worth it.

Good question! Trampling isn't really one of my "things", but I understand the mind-set and I've experienced it a bit in the past. 1. Why? For the "why", you have to start by wrapping your mind around the fetish itself: and like any other fetish, here some object is imbued irrationally with immense sexual significance. We all "get" that spike-heeled shoes and boots are sexy; they're presented that way in our culture all the time. Now just magnify that symbolic role immensely. For whatever reason, the shoes or boots in this case are extremely powerful sexual tokens all by themselves in the mind of the "enthusiast", and even moreso when "wielded" by a woman who herself grasps their sexual power. (That last bit is an important point. In my experience, an oblivious and uncomprehending woman saps the sexiness out of the fetish object when she tries to wield it clumsily and without understanding. Yet who can blame her? The fetishy aspect of something can be completely weird and incomprehensible to those who don't share it.) So, if sexy footwear is the absolute pinnacle of lustful sexiness to a guy, then having a woman "use" them on him is deeply exciting. Maybe it will help if you imagine that you've acquired a penis, except it's a boot. ;) (And you've got two of them!) Now... what are you going to do with it? 2. How? The actual standing on top of and trampling part is a way for the guy to submissively experience the footwear fetish. The power is all in the boots and the woman wearing them. Specific acts that appeal vary with the guy, but don't imagine that you're going hiking on his body and tromp about. You've got a sexual tool; use it seductively and a bit threateningly and you're on the right path. Go slowly, don't just jump on. Start with one foot while standing on the other, and then apply more weight to the "active" foot. Lean on something that will take part of your weight and work your way up to applying more pressure. You standing on top with both feet and without other support will be the pinnacle of the process, not the first thing you leap into. That kind of buildup is sexy in itself; the rising threat and tension, nursed and drawn out to maximum effect; think of it like building up to an orgasm. 3. Isn't this dangerous? Very good question. I guess the right answer is "well yeah, a bit." Keep in mind that people can have cars roll over their chests and suffer just some fractured ribs. The two most important parts are knowing where to step, and spreading your weight about; never put all your weight on a stiletto heel because yeah, just like it's namesake, that sucker is going to go right through someone's ribs. The chest and back are well protected and can bear considerable weight; but I've just decided I'm not really qualified to say what's safe and what's not, so seek some online resources and work it out with the guy before starting. Despite all those admonitions... just be reasonably careful, and have fun with it! I'm jealous of all the tools women have in their toolkits. ;)

1. Not nudity or near-nudity. (Surprise.) If we meet, we'll get there. Until then, I'm looking to learn something about you. 2. Personality: a fun pose, novel setting, nice clothes. Something sexy here, yes, but just as importantly something intriguing that catches my eye. If there's some smart and sexy thought put into THIS, there will be thought put into... well... other things. 3. Clothes again. Alright, look, it's a big thing for me, so I'm looking for an appealing look. I'm particularly vulnerable to classy mixed with sexy. (Pencil skirt!? SOLD!). So basically an awareness of sexy cues that don't involve flesh. Because we'll be spending some time with that. :) That's it off the top of my head.

I thought about this carefully after reading this thread, and I'm going to have to go with: consenting adults get to do what they want. I can imagine all kinds of risks and pitfalls that come with incest; as already touched upon, it risks ruining a unique and irreplaceable relationship in your life. Less uniquely to incest, there can be power imbalances or worrisome motives. I could make a list. But when it comes down to it... if they're BOTH adults and they BOTH consent, I'm gonna have to say "as you wish". Just... don't make a kid. There are solid genetic reasons not to.

Me too! Wilhemine. Usually exclaimed in surprise when she first enters the story - "Wilhemine!" She was hot. Cartoon hot. Okay, 60s cartoon hot. And I was, like six years old. But still. BAD. And hot.

Yup. As I mentioned that's what stood out to me; and the girl's strange incomprehension and indifference. "Yeah, that was weird." Hmm.