VedaSloan

Reminds me a bit of when I worked at a video store and customers would ask me for their money back or to exchange their video for a different one because they didn't like the movie/thought it was stupid/etc.

(the) Rolling Stones-Wild Horses

Then why post at all? I mean, what was the point of this?

I tend to avoid perfume altogether for the simple fact that I do not know the relationship status of my client, and unless he specifies that he has a scent allergy, I don't know that either. I will not ask a client personal questions as I feel that is stepping outside the boundaries of the client-SP relationship, particularly if this is a first visit.

I think being clear with yourself about who you are and your boundaries is a great start. Why not take little baby steps and have a longer (2-4 hours) engagement with an SP you like? If that goes well, you can try an overnight. Also, there are many SP's who cater to the sort of relationship you may be interested in cultivating with an SP. The intimacy and closeness you need are still there and still very genuine and it's still understood that it is a business relationship. Like any relationship, business or otherwise, when emotions become involved things can get tough. It might end badly,or you might discover you have an incredibly rewarding relationship that goes on for years. A better question to ask yourself is this: Is the risk of becoming emotionally involved and having to (potentially) stop seeing your provider worth the intimacy and closeness that you desire? Or, a better way to put it might be: life is too short to worry about potential future issues that may or may not happen. If you want to try an overnight, do it! You have to follow your feelings. You have a need that is not being met. You might become emotionally involved and you might have to end it and that would suck. But you'd probably still say that it was worth it anyway. You can't live your life always trying to prevent bad things from happening. Alternately, you might also find that your feelings, should you develop any, are not unrequited at all, but in fact, returned by your SP. I'm not saying you should hope for this or think this would happen--but it HAS happened now and again (though it is generally rare). Get out there and have some sleepover fun!

Man, I don't really pay attention to the celeb gossip, but lately I've been tuning in because of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher's new bullshit campaign to end sex trafficking and their non-profit org DNA. The campaign is bullshit not because sex trafficking isn't shitty, but because it conflates prostitution and sex trafficking and Demi Moore is full of misleading statements and so forth.

WOOOOOOOO. Big cheers for you. Way to go. Your advice is always solid and your info accurate. May you live long and prosper.

I feel as though you've already arrived at the answer to your question. If he contacts you again, just be upfront in discussing with him his expectations. He obviously had a particular scene and outcome in mind and was frustrated when that didn't materialize. At least now you know you have to have this discussion with clients!

I'd be up for this sometime! Lord knows I love naked bodies :)

I just want to clarify my pro-poly post. It wasn't meant to claim superiority; that's just what works for me. The OP asked if polyamorous relationships could work, and I loudly proclaim that they can. But they can fuck up just as royally and even more-so than regular ol' monogamous relationships because there are more people and feelings involved. Boundaries do need to be discussed upfront, at the outset, as face2face mentioned. Polyamory isn't one of those "oh, I totally thought that this behaviour was okay, even though we never discussed it" kind of things (that goes back to my first post and not assuming). But that's not okay in monogamy either, so we're clear. Also, I'm not saying one person can't satisfy all your sexual needs, I'm saying it's unrealistic to assume one person will satisfy ALL your needs--sexual, emotional, social, etc. And that sex with someone other than your partner doesn't mean that you don't love them anymore. To the guys who feel threatened by the idea of another man in your partner's life--I know you don't have to, and if you're planning on staying in monogamy, you won't have to, but ask yourself where those feelings come from and go from there. If you break down your feelings and learn where they come from and so forth, you can unlearn all kinds of nasty shit you picked up growing up, including various societal baggage regarding sexual roles and behaviours etc.

Just reminding myself to come back to this when it's not 2:30am the night before a 10am class. *cough*

It is totally possible! I am currently in poly relationship with my common-law partner of seven years. I have a secondary relationship that's been going on for the last three. Everyone knows about each other and both of them know what I do for a living. Here's the thing--it is unrealistic to assume that one person can fulfill all of your sexual and/or emotional needs. But that doesn't mean that there isn't enough love to go around if you are considering polyamory. A mother loves each of her children, no matter how many she has. You are only limited by time. The key is communication, communication, communication. And this means a couple of things: 1. Don't assume. 2. Tell your partner how you're feeling and why when things like insecurity or jealousy arise (because they will--no one is perfect). And be honest and to the point. Don't be vague or try to make your partner guess. Also, get yourself a copy of the Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt. ASAP. Good luck!

For me, it's the part where they're inside you that's creepy. Once they're outside of you, in, you know, baby form, that's not so bad (as long as they're someone else's). But man, pregnant women give me the heebie jeebies. So, uh, no babies for this gal.

I'm pretty much always in need of a good OTK spank session.

I'm not saying I wouldn't try it (I mean, hey, I've eaten raw herring with onion), I just feel that it's meat overkill. To each their own.

I think I'll stick to one meat thank you. Multiple meats combined into one sort of weirds me out. I mean, do you really need that much meat?

Bottom, baby. It takes all of two seconds to scan the previous message, or you know, read it, if you're the one replying.

It's offensive. I stopped watching that show after humour went out the window and it became all about being "funny" because of random, unrelated BS flashbacks or whatever. In my opinion, it's just lazy to write jokes that rely on various cultural stereotypes--be they racial, gender-based etc. There are ways to write comedy that is hilarious without actually denigrating or dehumanizing any particular group.

Ariel Or Belle OR Jasmine

AHHH-mazing.

I didn't say they shouldn't engage in it, I said they shouldn't advertise it. Unfortunately, most people do NOT educate themselves and sex workers offering BBFS do reflect poorly on sex workers and the industry. That is true and I agree with you that sex workers should not be held to a different standard, but unfortunately, that's not how the rest of the world looks at it. And I'm sorry, but offering bbfs (outside of the context of both partners agreeing beforehand and getting tested together) is unsafe, stupid and I'm going to judge you for that choice, whether you're a sex worker or not.

Oh my god that was good. Sharing on Facebook now! I can't even tell you how confusing the whole "base" system was to me in high school. I'm totally going to rep the pizza metaphor all the time.

My entire life, for as long as I can remember, DP was always Dr. Pepper. And then I hit high school and everyone thought I meant double penetration. I can assure you, I stopped saying things like, "man, I could go for some DP right now."

I've seen couples before and very much enjoy it! As well, you might consider Charlotte Sinclair: http://escortforcouple.com