VedaSloan

Welcome back dude!

Me+bubblebath+Billie Holiday or Nina Simone=bliss

To me, monogamy is unrealistic. It is unrealistic to assume that one person will fulfill all of your needs. Certain people are better at certain things. Love is also not finite; a mother doesn't love any of her children any less the more she has. The only constraint is time. If you barely have time for one committed relationship, you're certainly not going to have time for two or three. But that's the beauty of polyamory. You might choose to have one primary partner and a couple of secondary partners with whom you are not emotionally committed to. Or you might find that having two primary partners is what works best for you. I, personally, try not to think of relationships in terms of primary, or secondary, because that creates a hierarchy and implicit in a hierarchy is that the one at the top is the best or most important. I have two relationships and both are equally important to me in their own ways. These kinds of relationships won't work if you (all parties involved) can't communicate. Additional Comments: I don't mean to single you out personally, but your response exemplifies something for me. Your wife has explicitly made clear that seeing SP's is a no-go and yet you do it anyway. Your relationship "works" because you omit the details of seeing SP's, not because you are actually monogamous.

Ask him to keep it down. If he refuses or gives you shit, then you need to find a new roommate.

Movies: Blood Feast (1963) The Wizard of Gore (1970)--this one was recently remade with Crispin Glover. I haven't watched it yet, but Crispin Glover is always a good choice. TV: Star Trek Twilight Zone

I was really pleased when I read the comments section (which can be dangerous!) and all the comments were positive.

Thank you so much for all the birthday wishes. It really means a lot! Because I had surgery yesterday, I've had to postpone all my birthday partying and I was a bit sad about it, but you guys have totally cheered me up. xo

haha, well maybe just for you Meg ;)

It's really easy to sit around and make political choices and take sides when you're not the one faced with the decision. And I don't think you need to be desperate or for it to be your last option.

Wow, Jazzi, you were really on top of that. I've only been 28 for 38 minutes. Haha. Thanks :)

The whole nude/beige craze isn't for me. It's so boring! Give me red or purple!

That gift to yourself sounds amazing. My partner and I have future plans to bum all over North America trying to find the best diners.

My only issue in terms of client's body types are men who are VERY LARGE and expect to engage in intercourse. As much as I would like to, the physics of it just won't work out.

Appointment, session, date, encounter...it makes no difference to me.

Happy Birthday fellow Pisces!

I've had clients with those before, and I knew what they were, so I wasn't concerned. I would assume most of us ladies have seen it all before, so it wouldn't be too surprising.

I go with zaftig too! Once though, I posted on CL in the casual encounters section (I was just looking to get laid) and I described myself as a "zaftig treat" and holy shit did I get some hilariously clueless responses. Such as, "a zaftig treat, what is that, like some kind of doobie?"

I once called my professor "Mom." Oops.

Ha, I am totally okay with more attention on me. I'll have to work on looking like I'm not glaring though; people have said I look angry when I'm not smiling. Thank you both for your advice and tips, it is very much appreciated!

My partner and I are going to the stripclub in a couple of weeks to celebrate my birthday. I'm very excited, but I've never been to a stripclub before and I don't want to inadvertently offend anyone or do something wrong. So if there are any dancers who want to chime in on this one, please do. How do you feel about female patrons? What's a good amount of money to bring that will allow me to have some fun, but won't necessarily break my bank (can I get away with less than $100)? Tips for having a good time? I want to be a good patron, and I don't want to waste anyone's time unnecessarily. If you are not interested in a particular dancer who approaches you, do you simply politely say you're not interested? How do you get the attention of a dancer you are interested in? Do you wait for them to come to you? Thanks!

Damn, if his other books are written that way as well, then screw him. I thought he was being clever with his lack of clarity. Haha.

Hahaha, fair enough!

I actually didn't mind Blindness. It took me a bit to get used to the style of writing where none of the speakers are necessarily identified as such (i.e. "so and so said, "blah blah blah""), but I thought that was a nice touch to give the reader the full feeling of being with a bunch of blind people.

Why the assumption that Asians are forced to work, but Eastern Europeans are not? Why the assumption that they are forced to work at all? For all you know, these women know exactly what they're coming over here for, and come willingly. That doesn't mean they expect to be working as debt-bonded sex slaves, but it doesn't mean they were forced there either. Some of these assumptions are similar to the racist policies of immigration officials who "rescue" aka arrest Asian women only (a good source on Asian migrant sex workers and anti-trafficking laws can be found here : http://intersections.anu.edu.au/issue19/jeffreys.htm ) or the UN document on Trafficking in Women and Children that states that migrant workers CANNOT consent. A little bit patronising, don't you think?