VedaSloan

Personally fleshlights creep me out. If I was going to send a kinky care package to some dudes, I'd include a crap-ton of lube, some nice anal toys, and a few masturbating sleeves.

Personally I'm not a fan of the increasing medicalization of sex. If you have a weird fetish, suddenly you're a freak, if you have too much sex, suddenly you're a nymphomaniac. Too much focus has been put on what is considered "normal" sexual behaviour, and in reality, there is no normal sexual behaviour. We all have likes and tastes and quirks. There is nothing wrong with that.

This is my personal opinion, I'm not speaking for others, but I've never experienced ANY danger in my three and a half years of working. The notion that this work is dangerous stems from the fact that our work is criminalized and stigmatized, not from the work itself. I tend to think that most men's so-called "fears" about this job as it relates to relationships are simply their own insecurities.

I too find it strange that at least one or two of these agency women haven't been reviewed. Yes, agency girls tend to work occasionally or part-time, etc., but if they've been working for a few months they should have something written about them somewhere. I say this as a former agency girl who only worked part-time. I had reviews. It's your money and therefore your call, but I personally would rather spend my money on something I know will be a good time, rather than chance it.

Most university codes of conduct are incredibly vague as to what counts as a breach of that code in regards to sleeping with students. Obviously sleeping with your own students is a huge no-no. Sleeping with students who aren't in your classes, or students you met prior to them being a student, I don't think is as big of a deal. Provided you keep it discreet.

You can view both the report and the letter to the HRC at POWER's website: http://www.powerottawa.ca

Oh WIT, I can always count on you to beat me to the punch. :)

There is a difference between a man asking his partner to be monogamous and asking her to quit her job.

I read this this morning while waiting to do the CBC radio interview with Chris, and I was so annoyed at the insinuation that their accounts are baseless because they are anonymous. We used accepted research methods and their accounts are absolutely valid.

Part of the reason why I disclose my profession to potential lovers/partners is as a screening tool. If they have issues with what I do, then I know they're not right for me.

Most of us try to keep our personal lives separate from our work lives and certainly, taking on a prof as a client at the university you attend--that's some major personal and work mixing.

Christmas is coming up, feel free to buy me a banner ;)

I'm not trying to say that sex workers shouldn't get tested, I am just saying that making it mandatory is a bad idea for the excellent reasons Megan outlined. You should just get tested of your own volition as part of a healthy sexual life. A better idea would be sexual health education type campaigns to promote STD checks for everyone who has sex and comprehensive sex education for teens.

I'm so glad that everyone is finding this thread useful. Also, "pleasure-bot" really made me laugh, Angel.

It pleases me to see that almost 70% of the votes are pro-decrim.

I've found that for a lot of men, sex is simply the opening for them to ask for what they really want: intimacy, romance, understanding, compassion. When I first started, I thought that that was what the job was about to. But, I've since come to learn that I am providing a service for people to experience their fantasies and desires in a non-judgemental atmosphere, as well as encouraging communication.

I know that your post wasn't about your son and friends specifically, but more about finding friends in strange places, but I have to say: if your so-called friends are distant, it is their loss. I'm glad you're a part of this board.

What Megan said. I agree with her wholeheartedly. It's pretty one-sided to require mandatory STD testing of sex workers, but ignore their clientele. And it just reiterates to people that we are vectors of disease. Surprisingly, in my lectures, this rarely comes up. For whatever reason, the students I lecture are more concerned with whether or not I do my taxes and how will I explain what I do to my partner (if I get one, the assumption is always that I am single--because you know, who on earth would want to be with a sex worker?).

Yeah, it basically looks like a tube with two flexible rings on either end (one bigger than the other). The smaller ring you insert high your vagina, the other end (I assume) you hold in place as it rests on the outside. Then the penis goes inside the tube. That was a terrible description. Here's a photo.

Disclaimer: I realize that the majority of you are paying for a sexual service and that your needs should be met within the boundaries of the escort in question. That is the service I am providing. However, that being said, I would like to call attention to what I like to refer to as "jack-hammering." This is basically extended penetrative sex and nothing else. You may be convinced that good sex requires only penetration and stamina--as well all know, women want a man who can last (I hope you can sense the sarcasm there), or perhaps it is purely selfish on your part, you do want to get your money's worth after all. So you pound your paid sex partner, over and over, squeezing in every possible available second. In which case, I am not a blow-up doll. I am not an object solely for your use. Keep in mind, I do not think it is a problem, for example, if you would like to simply pay to receive a blowjob, provided you realize the skill and time involved in administering a good blowjob. And I do not think penetrative sex itself is bad. But if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids that can make penetrative sex so wonderful. So take the time to pay attention to things like kissing and groping and licking and nibbling and so on. If the first thing you're going for is penetration, you have skipped so many amazing, naughty fun things to do to one another. While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady. Happy pooning!

Just watched Dead Snow last night. It's a Norwegian flick with Nazi zombies. It can't seem to decide if it wants to be scary or funny and tries to straddle the line between both. It just gets absolutely ridiculous closer to the end. It's worth a watch if you're a true zombie aficionado.

Dog Soldiers was awesome. Also, the guy who directed this one also did one of my favourite horror flicks, the Descent. Also Doomsday, which wasn't bad.

I like my ladies on the curvier side of things. If she's a bit tomboyish, even better. So basically, if I ever find my twin...:bddog:

You went to IKEA to look for those new curtains your wife wants and got lost. Seriously that place is a maze. And then you got ravenously hungry and decided to get some Swedish meatballs.

Primal Fear was really really good. I remember watching it and thinking, I bet this Edward Norton dude is gonna be big.