VedaSloan

Little late on this one, but happy birthday anyway! Also, thanks for the compliments on my photo. :)

All these birthday threads are giving me some serious cake cravings.

Man, the way you guys talk about your girlfriends/wives' nagging, yelling, etc., you make it sound like you're married to fiendish hell-bitches. :twisted:

I know, I agree, I want more Beetlejuice. I've been watching the old cartoon Beetlejuice on youtube (hooray for youtube!). That and I just finished watching He-Man and She-Ra: Secret of the Sword again. The child in me really really really misses the 80's.

I can't even tell you how many times I've watched these two movies. The Burbs is totally one of my go-to films if I can't think of anything else to watch. YES RAISING ARIZONA. Love love love. Damnit, Cry-Baby was made in 1990. SO CLOSE. Woo, Beetlejuice for the win (1988 )

The SP only section has a forum for health questions, so I don't see why not. I just had an HIV risk presentation in one of my classes and it was really illuminating.

I love older men. I always have. One of my current partners is ten years older than me. For the most part, the age difference doesn't really make any difference. Except of course, when I'm raving about how Jurassic Park was super awesome and how as a kid I thought dinosaurs were the shiz (I still do) and he's like, yeah, I was in university when that movie came out, so it didn't have the same impact. Yeah, I was ten. Haha.

This should be posted in the correct city area.

Wooo, welcome to the new you.

I just carry one of each (water-based and silicone). That way if I am using toys, I use the water-based, if not, I use the silicone. Also, you can use silicone with toys that are not silicone, so things like plastic are okay. And obviously glass toys as well.

Somehow, I knew it would be you who came through.

I vaguely remember a thread about how hobbiest's budget or at least one on how much they spend per month on the hobby. I'm lazy or I'd look for it myself, so perhaps one of our less-lazy, CERB-savvy members could do that. :) Seriously, I probably could have looked it up in the time it took me to type all this out, but there you go, it's a testament to my laziness. Also, my apologies for not even being remotely helpful.

Personally, I think "poly" is the wrong term to use to name these events, but it's a minor quibble. Additionally, since when are gangbangs or other orgies not organized, with boundaries outlined beforehand? I'm pretty sure people don't just fall into these things. Although, there was that one time.... ;) Basically the groupsex social is a meet n' greet similar to the CERB social, but it may involve persons leaving to engage in the 'party' aspect.

Alex (it is Alex right?) you are just the sweetest ever. I'm glad that you've found such an excellent and warm-hearted SP to spend your birthday with. Soleil really is amazing. Happy early birthday!

Isabella, you have every right to keep your nationality to yourself. I admire your ability to keep some things private. I lack that ability. I am an open book for the most part. As an aside, I've had more than one person ask me if I'm half-Asian, which I find hilarious, because I don't think I look even remotely Asian, but what do I know. I'm third-generation Canadian. Maybe there is some Asian in there way back I don't know about. Haha.

I'm not sure how different they are, except that Pjur Woman can also be used as a female moisturizer of sensitive parts. I get it at Venus Envy. I actually got the word zaftig from a thread awhile back about whether or not us bigger gals identify as BBW's. I cannot take credit.

The taste is awful. I stopped using it for that reason. I switched to Pjur Woman because it has NO TASTE AT ALL and lasts forever.

As others have stated, just ask the provider you're interested in seeing. And don't go by tags on reviews either. My reviews have "cim" as one of the tags, and as others have stated, it's totally a YMMV thing.

You should check out This Filthy World--that's where I got the quote from. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0844761/

I've had lots of clients with the same name as my partner and it doesn't bother me. There was an escort who went by my actual first name and every time I'd see posts by her or about her, I'd be like, WHO IS TALKING ABOUT ME and then I'd remember what site I was on. Ha.

I recently had an experience where the client and I were so engrossed in our conversation that before we knew it there was only 10 minutes left in the appointment. I felt guilty for not saying anything sooner and didn't want to rush the sexual aspect even though there was only 10 minutes left, so I said that I could give him an extra 15 minutes, but after that he would have to pay to extend the time. On the one hand, I felt like I should have been paying more attention to the time, but then again, I didn't want to be a clock-watcher either. Like Annessa said, many of us are happy to offer multiple shots, but if you get to a point where there is only 5-10 minutes left, that puts so much undue pressure on me to try and get you off within that time frame, on top of which, my own personal guilt kicks in as I feel bad saying, sorry, time's up, if I happen to be in the middle of servicing you.

Man, sketchy! I'm sorry that happened to you, but it sounds like it was no fault of your own. Personally, I know that when guys email or call me and immediately throw out that they want a longer session (more than three hours) or that they have lots of cash, this throws up red flags to me as them "putting out the bait." Usually these guys DO NOT follow through on their appointment. That is my explanation for why an indie might not follow through. But it still doesn't justify leaving you hanging. The same goes for an agency; they should be upfront about whether they can honour your request or not.

I've thought about this type of arrangement myself, but every time it comes up, there is always this notion of exclusivity; "I'll provide for you so that you don't have to see anyone else." That absolutely won't work for me, not just professionally, but personally. So I've always avoided SD/SB relationships. They really seem like a lot more work than they're worth.

Sorry Phaedrus, didn't realize you'd already linked to it! My personal thoughts are that the message is a good one and while it may not help EVERY teen facing the same issues, it hopefully helps some. Though, I do remember hating the advice "it will get better," because when you're in that moment, it feels like it will NEVER get better, all you can think about is the present. That can be frustrating when you want a solution NOW.