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A dark day for Cerb, indeed. One of our brightest lights has dimmed...

This will be my last reply in this thread, but for what it's worth WIT, I implore you to heed Amelia's sage advice!

Great to see you back on the board, Allyson! Hope you're enjoying your summer.:icon_cool:

While the decision to leave is yours and yours alone, I would sincerely ask you to reconsider. I'm sure your reasoning is sound and that you did not make this decision lighty, but I feel that the lack of your continued presence is an immeasurable loss to the Cerb community. You are one of the most valued and respected members here, and I for one am saddened to see you go. It just won't be the same without you, WIT. I'm just speculating here, but perhaps there's more to this than meets the eye... please PM me.

Peachy's right... guys that use pick up lines come across as needy and desparate. The best approach is to be yourself, and start off with a polite introduction and some general commentary.

After some initial miscommunication, I finally had the chance to see Brittany tonight, and I'm glad I did! Absolutely killer good looks with an awesome all natural body to match with curves in all the right places... smooth creamy white skin with the beginnings of a nice tan... an alluring personality...I could go on... My time with her wasn't long enough, but I'll be rectifying that shortly when I book my next appointment!

Where can I find her ad? I looked for a "Lisa" the other day on BP but I must have missed it.

There's a recommendation on her in the reco section.

What??? No more God status???? Say it isn't so Mod, err... I mean, Zeus!

If the gentleman in question was really THAT intent on getting off again, he should have done the honorable thing by asking if it would be possible to extend your time together by way of additional compensation for your time, and only if it didn't inconvenience yourself.

According to her, she did it purely out of financial necessity at the time, so she felt she didn't have a choice. Perhaps she had some negative experiences... She said that I didn't have to do what I did; I had a choice - she considered it immoral etc.. Too bad though... I treated her like a queen. Additional Comments: You know, the thing is I know better than to reveal my hobbying activities to someone I'm dating. I should qualify that statement a bit; I believe that a relationship SHOULD at least in theory, be based on honestly and full disclosure before the fact. The exception to the rule is anything that pertains to this industry, as I feel stereotypes and antiquated Victorian notions still run rampant amongst the general public. If you reveal yourself, you run the very real risk of the relationship ending, or at the very least having it thrown in your face every time there's an argument. In this case, considering our shared history, I thought things would be different and we could start off on a truly level playing field. - I guess not...

So how did everything go? Hope you're feeling better now!

After a couple of months dating, my last GF told me she was an ex- SP. I had no problem with it whatsoever, since I am very liberal/open minded in general, and especially so considering my involvement in the hobby. Anyway, I decided to put all the cards on the table, and let her know that I was a hobbyist in the past. I thought it was safe to reveal this to her, since she had been involved in the industry itself. Much to my chagrin, she gave me the third degree about it - in short, it was the pot calling the kettle black IMHO. Needless to say, the relationship didn't last.

They also have independent teeth whitening outlets now... "Quick Smiles" comes to mind. They use the blue light in conjunction with a teeth whitening gel which works wonders. I was in the chair for only 20 minutes and could see a noticable difference. It only cost $99.00 + tax. I've never used the white strips though...

Perhaps it is a bit cynical, but I find it increasingly difficult to trust that "things will all work out" when I haven't seen it happen, save for my parents. Moreover, the older I get, the less I'm willing to change - that is, share my home with someone etc.. I guess I've gotten used to the status quo and don't cherish the though of giving up a lot of my independence. As for a relationship with an SP being more honest, I only meant that they will tell you the cost upfront, whereas with a marriage its' often "till death do us part" right up until the divorce when it becomes "I want half". I've seen it happen - my best friend's brother's ex wife totally cleaned him out. Last I heard, he was reduced to living rent free in one of his father's apartment buildings just to make ends meet. Scary thought... Granted, I realize this isn't always the case, ,and relationships can and do work out. It's just that the odds seem stacked against you these days, from my perspective, anyway.

I've been doing some thinking about relationships. It seems that the idea of marriage or even being in a committed relationship doesn't carry the same weight as it did in my parent's generation. Of all my friends who have taken the leap of faith and gotten hitched, not one relationship has stood the test of time. It's either divorce city, or ending up trapped in a loveless marriage, sleeping in separate beds with SO's on the side. These days, marriage is akin to spending a few years with someone, grabbing all you can in the (eventual) divorce settlement, and then moving on, for better or worse. It's not if you get divorced, but when... sad state of affairs really. I've never gone that route, and in some respects I consider myself lucky. I'd be content with the prospect of a long term relationship, but even those are difficult to attain. In my experience, they've started out with a flurry of unbridled lust and passion... not love per se, but more along the lines of infatuation and obsession. The women I've dated were only too quick to begin talk of moving in and having children, which in my estimation is incredibly ironic since the unions ended up being short lived. These trends, or themes seem endemic to today's societal culture which doesn't seem to be grounded in anything concrete. This has caused me to shy away from the notion of romance and gravitate more toward the hobby, which I find refreshing in many respects - not least of which is the fact that it's very upfront and honest, which is more than I can say for many bonafide relationships. You always know where you stand here, as everything is based on full disclosure before the fact. At the very least, it eliminates any nasy surprises when you least expect them. That said, I still hold out hope for the future, but it begs the question, is perennial happiness achievable?

Is she a Cerb member?

I can provide assistance with Halifax... I have used the Marriott Harbourfront Hotel for years when I wanted a "staycation" to meet some new ladies on neutral turf. It's upscale (I'd rate it 4 stars+) and very escort friendly. I've never had a problem there. Hope this helps!

Pace yourself.... this hobby can be quite addictive!

I'd do it, so long as I could be assured that it wouldn't come back to bite me in the ass! lol. Something similar already happened to me -I remember one time when I was at Hedonism II in Jamaica... anyway, I got a bbbj from one of the other guests in the dining room. I didn't realize I created such a spectacle... I looked up and there were about a hundred cameras on me. Needless to say, there are now pictures of me in photo albums across North America! :tongue:

Have a great trip Cato, you deserve it!

It's perfectly natural to feel nervous the first time... we've all been there. In any case, you've found the perfect board to ease you into your hobbying adventures. Cerb is made up of outstanding ladies and gents who will be only too happy to guide you along and answer any queries you may have. The best thing to do at the start is to become familiar with the rules and regulations of Cerb, then find a lady that interests you, and send her a polite e-mail introducing yourself and go from there. I'm sure you'll be very happy with whomever you choose. It's all a matter of taste and personal preference, really. That said, welcome to Cerb... We're pleased that you've chosen to join our community! All the best. :)

Thanks for this... anxiously awaiting your reco!

Too bad we missed you, Carley... hopefully you'll be able to make the next one!

I was talking to jeastman72, and he said he was going to toftt... I'm waiting to hear back myself.