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Right back at you, Cato!

Also, the decision in the Bedford case will be coming down within the next two months or so. Should prove interesting...

Knowing Gene, he probably got Shannon to agree to a co-habitation agreement or a pre-nup.

I know dartgirl...she used to work at Park Avenue.

*lol*... I wish it were that easy... my hair usually takes about three weeks to grow to the point where I can get it cut again - oh, wait a minute, what am I thinking??? I'll just make an appointment for tomorrow and ask for a buzz cut. That should do it!

That's what I was thinking too... At this point there are too many variables, but in the event that both ladies are interested, would it be a good idea to be straight up with them? That is, in the "not playing games department", should I let them know that at the present time I'm more or less just having a look around and seeing what's out there?

I think that when it comes down to it, I would just ask her out point blank. If she says no, I can always say I must have been misled by her co-worker. The idea of being rejected doesn't bother me, since it doesn't matter how many women say no; it only matters when one says yes. What got me thinking is the other lady with whom I have been corresponding with on a dating site for the past month or so - Let's call her "Holly" for clarity's sake. Now, I have a good feeling about Holly and think that she may be a potential match. I had planned to meet her all the way along to see if there's a spark in person, so that would have been all well and good regardless. However, I wasn't expecting the whole "Sara the hairstylist" scenerio to unfold in the meantime. Chances are good I will be meeting Holly before I have the opportunity to ask Sara out. My question is, if Holly and I hit it off and go out on a date or two, is it really so bad for me to ask Sara out to see where she stands?

Thanks... it's nice to get a female perspective on this. My male friend seems to think that time is of the essence, which is why he told me to make a move now, either by calling the salon or showing up in person. However, I am more comfortable with the idea of waiting until my next appointment to ask her out. I feel coffee may still be appropriate since I don't know for sure that it was a set up which Sara was in on. At least the coffee date would be non committal and offer an "easy out" if need be. That said, I may have another problem along the same lines. It seems that when it comes to women, it's either feast or famine for me. In this case, there's actually another girl I'm interested in, who is closer to my age and in a similar occupation to myself. I will probably be meeting her within the next week or so. I was talking to a female friend about this, and she thinks that if I hit it off with this other girl first, then I should not even bother asking the hairstylist out at all since in my friend's words "I would be playing both of them, and I would end up losing". I don't know... I think there's too much conflicting info...I'd still like to see what happens with the stylist, just because how many times am I going to get a chance to date a hot looking twenty something? (I'm in my late 30's) At the same time, I realize dating two women at once can be tricky. What to do... what to do...

This is actually the thought I had, since that way I'd only have to call once and then get her to return my call. I want to avoid a situation where I'm repeatedly calling and missing her. E.g.( She's not in, or she's there but busy with a client etc..)

So, I was talking to a buddy of mine tonight... he says not to wait until my next hair cut to ask her out... better to do it now and just call her. The problem is, how can I do that tactfully when the only place I know of to get a hold of her is the salon, and I don't know her schedule?

Good idea!

Is there a third option? Those ones suck! *lol*!!

I was wondering about that too... for one thing, the blonde girl worked in one of the other salons across town, and just happened to be in the salon chatting with the owner. It seemed like a sheer coincidence that I got the blonde, since the original replacement stylist they had in mind for me was still busy with another client. I don't know if it was really planned that way, but who cares? I'm asking Sara out! The worst that could happen is that she says no... but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Hairstylists tend to be better looking! ;)

Thanks RG, That's the suggestion my friend had as well. I'll wait until after the haircut and ask her if she'd like to grab a coffee sometime. If she says yes, great! If she's non-committal then I can casually ad "Ok, I just thought I'd ask since your friend said I should ask you out".

*lol* Ok, 1) My ex really was crazy, but I said in a half hearted joking type way, as in "How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days" 2) Well, the blonde chick started it! I'd never seen her before in my life, and I thought that maybe she was hitting on me, but then she kept bringing up Sara, which wouldn't make any sense since that would just throw me off the track. 3) I tip well... but at the same time I don't want to make an ass of myself either. If I misinterpret it and it turns out Sara isn't interested, it could make things a bit awkward. But, then on the other hand, I could always blame it on the blonde. No matter what happens, I'm not giving Sara up as my stylist... she's the best!

Given that I'm completely clueless about this type of thing most of the time, I thought I'd ask what everyone thinks about this: My regular hairstylist "Sara" had a family emergency and was unable to cut my hair the other day. The owner of the salon was there when I arrived and she arranged for a blonde girl to do the cut instead. Here's where it gets a bit weird... I sit down in the chair, and the first thing she asks me is "Are you married?" I said no, and told her that my last relationship ended awhile ago. I proceeded to give the condensed 30 second version of what happened, adding that my ex was crazy. She said, "oh, well that's pretty common.. we're all crazy here, too" At this point I'm thinking that the conversation is a bit odd. In any case, I told her that I usually see Sara when I'm here, to which she replied "Oh, you must like getting your hair cut by hot looking girls" and I said, well, it doesn't suck; I consider it a fringe benefit lol. Then out of the blue she said "You should ask Sara out; she has nice legs" I said that I thought Sara was already seeing someone. The blonde girl said Sara wasn't seeing anyone seriously. So, I told her I might ask Sara out the next time I was in. After that it was just a normal conversation. My question is: a) Was the blonde girl just making an off the cuff remark, as in her thinking "oh, I know Sara's single, so I'll try to set her up with a random guy" or b) Was it a situation where the blonde girl already knew that Sara liked me, and took it upon herself to break the ice for both of us? Any thoughts? Thanks!

One of my clients through work is an alcoholic. We were discussing things, and he held up his one day sobriety chip from AA. He said, "this is the most important chip of all - it keeps me grounded", even though he had just received his one year medallion. You know what? he was absolutely right. Just take things one day at a time Angel, one day at a time... You can do this, I know you can. I believe in you.

It's ok... you've taken the first step which is the hardest part of all. Persevere, and you will come out on top! **group hug**

Yes, this really works. My ex gf was in the same situation and it helped her, too.

Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get an appointment with her as she said she was too busy. I was really hoping for Friday morning since that is my only day off this week. Oh well... maybe next time!

Same here!

She actually just called me back... we are going to try to work something out appointment wise.

Thanks, Lexy... I called the number listed on BP. Twice, I got a recording which said that the customer is unavailable. Another time, the phone rang about ten times before I got a beeping noise and the line went dead. I really would like to see her before she leaves... Would she be up for an outcall? Additional Comments: Just tried again... same thing happened.

You hit the nail on the head. We didn't have an appointment that was set in stone, merely a date and time that was to be confirmed. So, the issue is in fact, about politeness. With regard to agencies, once upon a time I used a certain agency exclusively. They were reputable and I was guaranteed that the lady I chose for the evening would be at my door within half an hour of me making that call. I was a loyal patron for over six years; unfortunately, the agency is no longer in operation. The difference now is that I've gone from hassle free hobbying to an environment where it takes a fair bit of effort to arrange an appointment - case in point: This thread. I feel things are getting to the point now where the hobby has lost some of its luster, so to speak. Things definitely aren't the same as they were in the good old days... Additional Comments: Not quite... she said that "Tuesday at 6:00pm sounds good" and "I will get back to you before then". So, either way, some type of correspondence would have been appreciated, even if she couldn't make it.