Kyra.Graves

I'll second the notion that you generally want to avoid BP when in the US, that is really where the risk comes in. If you aren't familiar with navigating the US system then be sure to stick to well known ladies and boards/advertising sites. As someone that works mainly in the US I don't find it all that high risk as people make it out to be but you do want to do your research and understand that as a client you are going to have to be verified and provide your personal information. If you don't have at least two recent references from independent and reputable ladies you may have a difficult time seeing anyone. Booking a stripper for a 'private show with contact' isn't going to be any less hassle free than booking a companion and as was mentioned I'd be very, very wary of anyone that did not ask for references and verification information when you are booking in the US. I don't know if there is much in Fall River, assuming you have a car you may find a small number of reputable ladies in Providence (approx. 20min) and obviously a large number in Boston. (approx. 1hr) Enjoy!

For the record I am not a fan of either term but the main difference is in the intent of the subject, a MILF is someone a man or men want to f*ck and a Cougar is a woman that wants to f*ck (younger) men. If you feel one suits you better use it, if you don't feel comfortable with either term then don't use either. From the free dictionary online: or http://thesaurus.com/browse/mature

In Toronto one of my favourite places to go for a quiet meal with someone special would be George, in the warmer months the back patio is really quite beautiful and the tasting menu (with wines) can be quite an experience as well. George - http://www.georgeonqueen.com/ Bero is a small dining room with great attention to detail, certainly worth a visit. http://bero-restaurant.com If I'm looking for something a little more 'fun' with an out on the town vibe rather than feeling like date night I think Bar Isabel is a great stop. http://barisabel.com/ Lee and Blowfish never disappoint me, both are consistent in quality year after year. http://www.susur.com/lee/ http://www.blowfishrestaurant.com/king/

I generally refer them to my website and will matter of factly respond with a simple, "Thank you for your inquiry, please note that my consideration is posted on my website. *link* If you would like to meet I would be happy to arrange such..." Then depending on how they inquired, ie. the tone, I may let them know that while I may not be available to them there are certainly a number of wonderful ladies that are available in the area and depending on how familiar I am with the city I might refer them to someone that is better suited to their request. Sometimes gents really are nice guys and simply cannot afford to meet you, far too often I see gents told "It never hurts to ask" and they genuinely don't realize that yes sometimes it does offend the ladies to ask. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. If the tone of the email is rude, they didn't take a moment to properly introduce themselves or perhaps explain their reason for inquiry/situation then I will simply send them a link to my consideration... or I refer the request to my assistant (who has the patience of a saint) she may respond politely or if she's had the exact same inquiry from them a number of times I hear even she sometimes loses her patience. ;)

I think you are over-thinking this, not once has someone brought me a gift, card or made a gesture of some sort and my immediate reaction was "he's doing it to curry favour" I simply assume they are doing it to be nice. We share an intimate moment with the people we meet, often they get to know us quite well and we get to know them. It's actually quite odd because in some instances I know ladies don't even know the names of their clients yet you know their bodies, you often know what their daily stresses are and you know a good deal about their dreams, goals and personal fantasies as well. There is intimacy in that and it's not at all unusual that someone will provide a token of appreciation for that relationship,or a gift to wish someone well when they have taken ill, it's normal to show concern for those around you. I would be surprised to think any lady automatically assumed you were trying to use that token to leverage her for more than she might usually offer. The only thing I will say is that for some companions flowers can be uncomfortable to receive simply because they are not always discreet, if she sees a number of men on any given day then a person walking into her room with a bouquet of flowers might be conspicuous. Take that into account and consider her personal situation, does she have a private entrance, would that be a concern for her? Personally I love having fresh flowers in my room, though I only host when travelling so they need to come with a vase, but not every lady does. Tea, a gift card for a pedicure, or even some nice candles might be easier to hide in a little bag if discretion matters. I am sure she'll appreciate it.

There are a lot of exceptional ladies in Toronto, you wouldn't go wrong with any of these ladies. Gia, she was my first thought when you mentioned tall but being in her late 20's I'm not sure if she qualifies as "mature" but I am never sure what one defines that as. She certainly carries herself as an adult and not as a girl. http://www.giatorontocourtesan.com/ Also on the taller side with an elegant look yet a youthful look (I swear the woman doesn't have a line or wrinkle on her skin!) having met her numerous times I know she is incredibly beautiful and carries herself very well, would be Arianne St. Claire. http://www.ebony................../ or a more petite lady that is 36 years of age would be Betty Jean, I'm not sure if that is considered mature but I know that for myself that's what Eros has us advertising as "mature' at. http://bettyjean.ca/ None of these ladies would disappoint, all the best on your visit to Toronto!

I always find this an interesting concept when it comes up, if you leave no message how can a lady know what time frame is acceptable to call back and what is not? If you do not wish to receive a call back it's always better to be clear in a message stating "I am calling at 'ab' time from the number last four digits 'wxyz' and for reasons of discretion would prefer not to receive a call back, I will however try to reach you again. Thank you." The reason I suggest this is a number of ladies receive complaints on boards for "not returning calls" so often they are damned if they do and damned if they don't. In addition many ladies do not accept same day dates or may not be available on a particular day so by their scheduling practice callbacks during a much longer time frame would be deemed appropriate. Finally as I have always stated if your spouse may answer your phone don't call from it, mitigate your risk and invest in a separate phone or sim chip and if that isn't an option then simply don't call. Most ladies can be reached via email nowadays and it's easy to get a secondary email that your spouse would not have access to. Discretion only goes so far and the responsibility of not being caught cheating lies on you not on your companion. Oh and for the record I only schedule dates via email so this isn't personal just a topic I have seen discussed frequently on the various boards. :)

Cheers to you handsome, may you have many more battles in your future and look upon this one as just one more you've conquered. I will not try to blow roses or smoke up your ass, that kinky stuff will cost you a good deal more (sorry no pity discounts for you!) and I am sure this will be a struggle but from all that I have gleaned of you over the years I am sure you will find the strength to face this head on. Whatever the prognosis you have been given I do hope you realise there are always some that beat those odds and a good many people are on your side to support you and be sure you are one of those people. Take care of yourself first and post to us when you need it, want to or just feel like blowing off some steam.

Kylie - She puts a ton into all of her shoots but this photo easily moves from the escort/companion marketing into fine arts... there is a message beyond the photo that elevates it.

I swear by the FC2, I think it's probably the best condom available on the market right now. For those that still prefer a male condom I think the 004 are a great option for gents, however everyone is built differently and not all condoms work for everyone so sometimes you need to try a few to see what works best for you. (that's one reason the female condoms are a good option, they don't need to fit you just her)

I agree with the sentiment that we should not objectify people, whether women in this industry or not but perhaps the delivery could have been done without the final paragraph. To put down those with a lower rate than yourself, to say that you get what you pay for implies that there is a hierarchy based on rate in this industry when in fact I don't agree with that. We all offer different services, model our businesses differently and service different areas of the market. There is a market for the $80-100 ladies and yes some of those ladies may not offer great service but then some ladies that have rates much higher than mine also are not "gems". To say that price is the determining factor means that I am about twice as good as you and I don't believe anyone can say that. We simply target a different clientele and have a different business model, we may appeal to different people as well but there may be some overlap, of that I am not entirely sure as I am not in Ottawa that often. I think it's important for everyone to realise though that there is a market for everyone has a role. Some of these ladies are likely not happy in their present situation but that can happen in any market. I know ladies that do not enjoy the longer dinner dates and travel that I prefer, they like to focus on the shorter 1hr engagements. I myself will not offer those as I do not enjoy them. It doesn't make any one of us better or worse, and definitely does not guarantee you are a better companion than anyone else in the eyes of your client. What makes you a better business woman is when you recognize what works best for you and work within your comfort zone, clients appreciate someone that is happy offering a service they enjoy and from my understanding that is what you do. Perhaps some of the ladies that offer shorter dates or have a profit model that is based on higher volume are also content in their situation and I don't think it's right for us to put them down for that. **** end of my little detour **** As to the topic... Personally I don't get a lot of the negotiating requests, when I do I stop to re-evaluate where I am marketing and my ad content. I can ignore one or two emails about my consideration but more than that means I am somehow failing in my communication and I need to be more effective. As an example recently I decided to post on a new advertising board and had several people contact me about my "one hour rate" or perhaps "I'll contact you again in a week when you drop your rates, you must be new." I was in a city I had visited several times so I wasn't at all concerned about it, the only new factor was the new board I had advertised on but all the additional emails about the rates were a make work situation for my assistant so I was able to determine quite quickly this was not a place I would be advertising in the future and in fact I deleted the ad early as I didn't want her to be wasting time answering these inquiries. It wasn't the fault of the potential client but rather I wasn't reaching out to my market.

I would also add that you don't say anything to a persons family, friends or coworkers, it is up to them how much they choose to disclose and when. One factor no one has mentioned but it's important is that this is essentially a part of her sex life, yes it's a paid part and it's her work but it involves sex and not everyone has a family they go and discuss the intimate details of their sex life with. My parents would not wish to read the details of when I had sex with another person, they would not feel comfortable knowing I engaged in xyz with a particular person the other day and especially knowing the details of it along with photos of me in next to nothing were available for all to read on the internet. It's simply not how my family talks about or deals with sex. If someone were to share that information with my parents it would forever damage the family relationships, partially with me but also with each other simply because I know how they communicate and it would become a giant elephant in the room. So yes they would ask, like all parents they would want to know simply out of worry and concern (at least if I were 19) but they would be happy to hear that their worries were unfounded, denial is a well used tool in my parents toolbox. I know this, I am comfortable with this and understand that dynamic but if someone didn't know this and shared information with them I would be upset simply because they hurt people that I love and needlessly. This may not be the situation in your friends family but the point is that we all have unique family dynamics, some of us know how to engage in them and some of us do not, still it is through growing up with these families that we gain that experience and we are the best ones to handle these situations not an outsider, well intentioned or not. If you are approached you can simply tell them that you believe it is best to discuss family matters with family, no matter what the issue is because you would not want your parents to come to your friends asking about you, whether that be asking about your dating life or your schooling. Tell them it would make you uncomfortable and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable either.

White Fang. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fEZc3R77zsM I don't remember how old I was when I first read the book but I was probably a bit too young for it, still that might be why it left such an impact on me. Seeing it visually so many years later cemented those early feelings.

Ohhhh... I'm opening some wine just to celebrate! Have a great one beautiful, we'll have to share a glass soon.

I use an assistant when I am travelling, it's a decision I have made for the safety and discretion of my clients. I travel between Canada and the US quite often and I feel it's in the best interest of my dates to not have their information on me at the time of my crossing. As I don't really have an interest in wiping my hard drive every time I cross a border I prefer not to travel with as little information as possible on me and hand the scheduling to someone else. Even if I am travelling in Canada I may not be travelling direct, plans may change when I'm already at a destination, etc. I just find it better to be prepared for anything and having an assistant allows me that peace of mind and also allows my clients to rest assured I am doing the best I can to protect their privacy. This certainly is not what every lady does and I'm not saying it's what they should do, it's the model that works for me and that's why I've opted for it. Many of the clients I have met are happy with it and it helps them to feel comfortable with meeting me so they happily deal with my assistant. They know if they need to reach me directly they can but that when I am travelling I may not get back to them in a timely manner as I do not always have access to a computer. Each lady has different needs and each client will as well, that's why there are always various options to choose from and it's important to find what works for you. :) Just so you don't think I'm being totally paranoid: http://rabble.ca/news/2013/04/sexism-border-personal-account

You can also just order them online, they comes in a plain brown box and are labelled discreetly (something like "bath products") http://www.condomdepot.com/product/catalog.cfm/nid/225 I know they're preferred by my clients, so much so that they've been mentioned in more than half of my reviews. I don't recall anyone taking the time to mention that I used "Beyond 7's" or "004's" which are some of the best male condoms on the market but when I use a female condom they are almost always mentioned in a positive way.

As was mentioned above I'd definitely recommend the female condom; most men I have met prefer the feel of them as they have a 'relaxed fit' for the male partner and they also provide slightly better STD protection which can also provide better peace of mind.

I'm with Emily on this, if we are going somewhere dress to feel comfortable in that particular environment. If we are going for drinks at a pub that might be jeans and a nice top, if it's white table cloth dining then something a little more formal might be appropriate. When we are staying in then I usually expect you'll just be yourself. I think a date flows best when you can relax and unwind and most people do this best when they are comfortable in whatever they feel best in, for some that is a pair of khakis and a button down, for others jeans and a t-shirt and for others they may feel confidant and sexy in a suit. Whatever works for you wear it. As has been mentioned above and I would say you want to avoid is making your potential date uncomfortable, answering the door in next to nothing or nothing at all can make someone feel threatened. It's really very personal and in this business there is an immediate intimacy that is already implied by the time frames that we work under, when you force that to speed up past what some ladies are comfortable with, especially when they are entering an unknown space it becomes very uncomfortable. When we walk into an outcall we generally want a few minutes (at a min.) to get our bearings, to see that the space and you are safe and to feel comfortable. I have had people answer the door in nothing and I can tell you that when it's the first time I meet them I simply leave, for me it's not respecting my boundaries because I want some time to feel comfortable and safe in an unknown environment. I believe it would be the if you were visiting me and did not have a lot of information about me, you may want to take a few minutes just to be sure there wasn't anyone hiding in the closets waiting to rob you. ;)

Oxytocin, it's not just for women anymore! ;) http://www.smart-publications.com/articles/oxytocin-the-real-love-hormone

[quote]A 60-year-old Toronto man faces multiple charges of drugging and sexually assaulting several women, many of them sex workers. York Regional Police allege the suspect located his victims through a number of websites and arranged meetings with them in Toronto, Markham, Belleville, Cobourg and Oshawa. Police say the women were drugged, rendering them unconscious, and then sexually assaulted. Allen Chow, of Toronto, faces 21 counts of sexual assault. Investigators allege the suspect photographed and videotaped the victims as he assaulted them. To date, none of the victims contacted by police had any recollection of being videotaped or photographed. â??Most of them were stunned, they were completely unaware of what had transpired,â? Det.-Sgt. Randy Slade told CTV Toronto. â??There seems to be a blank in their memory, which is consistent with what was shown on the video.â? Police are encouraging any other victims to come forward and contact them. Allen Chow, of Toronto, faces 21 counts of sexual assault. He was arrested Monday without incident, police said. None of the allegations against him have been proven in court. Information about this case can be reported anonymously through Crime Stoppers at 1-800-222-TIPS[/quote] Note to the ladies there is a photo of the accused in the link, please take the time to look. He was a local pharmacist and it is believed he drugged his victims so one may not remember being assaulted. Share the information and contact police if you believe you had contact with this man. [url]http://toronto.ctvnews.ca/toronto-man-accused-of-drugging-sexually-assaulting-women-1.1212543[/url] As always stay safe.

You know I think I kept checking this thread just hoping that Mod would come on and post: Because we all know the moral of this story is Hare today Goon tomorrow. ;) I'm editing to add that I assume everyone knows "Bunny Fufu" but if not perhaps you should google it.

I've been reading this and was unsure whether to post or not as I really know nothing about the Thunder Bay market or area so I don't have much of value to add for your situation, still perhaps a 'young gal' like me might be able to offer a little information and I hope you don't mind my butting in. ;) Personally I like your sarcasm, it suits me. I'm a tad on the sarcastic side too so I wouldn't worry too much about that but not everyone will get it and you have to remember that when you do put out sarcasm without the "sarcasm font" (I swear the internet needs one) then about 50% of the people reading will respond without realising you were being sarcastic and you just have to go with that, you take your lumps if you will. It's kind of like a comedian being offended when the audience doesn't get her jokes. Anyway as for the rest of it, some people will say that upscale is overused and others will say to use it. My thoughts are if you are using it to define yourself, if you are saying "I am upscale" then you need to either be sure you have some sort of reasoning for that or something to back up the claim otherwise it just seems a hollow statement. Many people use hollow statements in marketing but why bother, it does no one any good and it generally detracts from your brand instead of adding value. Alternatively you can use specific terms to define your market, one such being "upscale" then you'll know if it connects to your ideal clientele or not quite simply by who sees you and if they repeat. If the people that come to see you are the men (or women) that you wish to see and feel a genuine connection to then you are doing something right in your marketing and keep it up. If however your clients are people you are feeling rather alienated from, not the type of clients you enjoy seeing then you need to re-evaluate your marketing. If you see clients once and not again then perhaps you are not representing yourself accurately or not targeting yourself to the right market. It's a bit of a hit or miss but there is no problem with defining your clientele as "upscale" many men see themselves as that no matter what their standing in life is and then there are many men that are in high social status that do not see themselves as "upscale". The trick is to not make that the only defining factor but to continue to refine who "that man", your client is. Then when you have that defined tell him who you are and why he'd want to spend time with you. At 50 you have a lot to offer, a lot that some of us youngins' don't have. (LOL I'm in my 30's which in this industry still makes me "mature" by a lot of the guys standards, talk about a blow to the ego!) All the best whatever you decide to do!

I have to agree with you Kylie, I don't see myself in any of the celebrities that I hear but I suppose there is something that others see in me that I just don't see in myself. I hear Elisha Cuthbert most often and when my hair was dark I used to always hear Liv Tyler. I always find odd that I get both as I don't think they look all that much alike.

I always do the same, quick, easy and no fuss. I don't know what it's like in Ottawa but the lines at the Passport office and the lines at a Service Canada Centre are almost always the same here (Toronto) so one doesn't really take any longer than the other.