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I was always intrigued by the concept. My memories are also of a service that was auctioned off on Monday evenings; never given away free. Out of interest's sake though....a couple of questions 1) Were you allowed to bring alcohol from the club with you? 2) Did the dancers charge you the same rate for dances as in the club? 3) Without going into detail...were there more or less restrictions?

A recent comment made here reminded me of a service/attraction that used to be offerred at Barberellas. This was a couple of decades ago (and boy does it hurt to admit that) but as I recall the mgt used to auction off a limousine ride with the dancer of your choice. I believe that the "programme" ran on Monday evenings. I was never able to take advantage of this and thought I would open up a general discussion for any that had. My apologies if this had been discussed before.

This is not the 1st time that I've responded to one of your threads. If I remember correctly the last reply was after you had lent this dancer some money and were questioning if you were going to have it paid back. I suspect that you may have found my response insensitive....I assure you it wasn't then....and it isn't now!!! My friend...you need to seek assistance here!!! This is not an addiction that can be cured by yourself!!!!! You seem like a very smart man....you owe this to yourself!! I fell in love with a dancer, led a double life and spent well over $200 k for the life experience. Please learn from my mistakes!!!!!!!

I noted a couple of earlier nominations for Jeckyll with the great Jimmy Nesbitt; might I also suggest his BBC Ireland series Murphy's Law. Nesbitt playsa very convincing Irish undercover agent. series 3 &4 are great! Also someone mentioned AMC's the Killing...if you get a chance to see the original Swedish series or even better, one that recently played in the UK called the Bridge...check it out!!! ....and yes...The Wire.....simply the best TV series ever!!!!!

I think that ultimately you are the only person who can decide if you were "foolish" to lend her the money. You refer to her now as a friend ....how many of your male friends would you lend money to for an evening of gambling if they were "tapped out" ? Here's a couple of thoughts for you to consider 1.There's 2 types of cons...the short game...and the long game. Make sure that she's not priming you for her "victory lap" 2. What exactly are your intentions in this friendship? Are their issues of co dependancy lurking here? You seem like a very intelligent guy....Be Careful!!! This from someone with too much experience (unfortunately!!!!) (from my mobile)

Hi Castle Your concern is certainly a valid one. Discussions with some of the dancers that I know have indicated that business is somewhat slow with the economic times. As a result, many of the ladies are supplementing their income with "working outside of the club". Although this may not be the case in your situation, it's always wise to plan ahead! My suggestion would be that you contact the lady prior to your evening out and whilst confirming pick up times, location etc. simply ask " do I need to bring anything"? I believe that if the dancer is looking for reimbursement for her time she will take advantage of the opportunity and direct you accordingly. If, (and cross your fingers here, ha ha), she is simply looking for an evening out with "no strings attached" then she will reply with either "no" or "what do you mean"? At that stage of the conversation, you could simply respond with "I like to bring present my date with flowers ....what kind do you like"? If the issue arises later in the evening, you can remind her of your earlier discussion and remain confident that you did inquire as best you could while maintaing the degree of respect that she deserves. You will, of course, need to ensure that you do have enough funds on you to cover any "unforseen situations". Anyway...my 3 cents (adjusted for inflation). Trust that you have a good time!

Not to perpetuate the discussion between Miss Cloe and Apex2006 (which was very informative), but the comments exchanged regarding Rob Reiner's When Harry Met Sally and the general inability of men to "fake it" reminded me of one of my favourite skits from Craig Ferguson. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hxs2D0wLD8g Although I share Apex's desire to have the ability "to pull a fast one" (pun intended), I must admit that I don't think I could compete with Mr. Connery's performance! In fact, if memory serves correct, any time that I was cognizant that my partner was "faking it", I'm sure my facial expression was more comparable to Mr. Caines'. ha ha

I don't know if this will help you Novell, but here are 2 suggestions that I have found beneficial in the past. 1. Try to concentrate on your breathing. Sometimes in the "heat of the moment", you don't realize that you are focusing on your pleasure and are holding your breath. 2. I like to think of my NORTEL shares.......oh wait a minute....strike that.....the thought of my shares makes me go LIMP....ha ha :oops: :oops: .............oh well,,,,,1 suggestion

Well to my chagrin, my first celebrity crush was Batgirl from the 60's Batman series. Always wondered why Bats' and Robin never had any "visable reaction" to the sight of Yvonne Craig in her purple leather costume..ha ha

Joy: I'm not sure if this answers your question or not, but in reviewing the various replies to your thread the concept of competition has been raised. Perhaps the followiing deserves some discussion. Is is possible that the rate of compensation hasn't dramatically changed in over 3 decades due to a substantial influx of other "alternative venues"? For example: 1. lap dances in strip clubs. I don't believe that the "fuller service" dance was available 15-30 years ago. 2. the widespread availability and subsequent lower costs of pornographic material on video and dvd. 3 the internet Obviously, I'm not trying to suggest that any of the above possibilites replaces the experience of being with a companion! But they may offer a suitable alternative dependent upon time, availability and cost. In terms of available options to the discriminating consumer, then, the competitive value may not lie in the rates between different SP's but rather between the cost of visiting their favourite companion or in participating in one of the more inexpensive alternatives listed above. (I do appreciate that enjoying the pleasant company of a dancer can be expensive, but it can also end up costing less than the price of a hotel room, an SP's fee and a possible gratuity). In essence, I believe that competition may be a mitigating factor. Not in the sense of competing with another SP, but in competing with other venues. Is it possible, then, that the increase in these other venues may have placed a cap (artificial or otherwise) on the value that the market will bear as regards the rate of compensation? If I have misunderstood your question or if none of the points warrant further discussion, my apologies. Just write it up to a little 'Johnny Walker wisdom'............and thanks for listening.

My apologies Secret how do you think Simon feels???....lmao (no disrespect intended to Secret ha ha!!) YES.....EMMA A.....please forward all PM's....because I think that I have a surprise for you Oh and yes...my dream girl is about 5'3", between 40-43, blond hair, charismatic personallity, a smile that would launch a thousand ships, eyes that you could melt into, a body that brings beads of perspiration to my forehead and a laugh that makes everything just right!....OH...and she laughs at my jokes (to paraphrase Shakespeare....she's all that and a bag of chips!!) i'm an idiot.....here i was flirting and teasing Mr. secret admirer all this time about me being his dream girl and PMing him asking if he was still making me dinner....lmao...then to realize ...hey this isn't who i thought it was.....Simon where are you? All i have been writing to Secret was meant for Simon.....my apologies secret.....:oops: kisses, Emma A

Emma A: Just wanted to add.....that I think that your boys are pretty lucky and if they end up being half as charming and as intelligent as you, they'll be well prepared for anything!

Samantha: Although your original question was posed to SP's, I did want to offer the following comment. I believe that any woman, as a single parent, in today's society that is able to provide for a healthy and happy home deserves and commands my respect! Any woman who is also an SP and is able to do the same...just commands additional respect!! ....and not that it should mean anything...but I'm a single parent as well!

1. Set up a trust fund (approx. 25%) for my son. 2. Invest 50% for myself 3. Give 10% to my family and friends 4. Give 10% to charity 5. Spend 5% frivolously 6. Continue to work.........................BUT WITH A FAR BETTER ATTITUDE!!!

1. Jennifer Aniston (sorry Mr. Pitt...but Angelina just doesn't do it for me!!) 2. Monica Belluci 3.Veronique Cloutier 4. Nikauly De La Mota 5. Emma Alexandra (because she's a celebrity in my books!!)

Just had this vision Emma, of all the costume houses in Ottawa inexplicably having a run on hotel cleaners uniforms....ha ha At the very least, you should be phoning them and giving them a "heads up" lol thanx for a great story...after the stock market yesterday...needed something to "raise a smile"!

Just wanted to say thank you to Angela Aurora and Jessiko555 for getting the thread back on track. I/we really appreciate your comments!!!

Yes...thank you...."I sit corrected"..I notice the misspelling after the post. As to the actual context of corollary, I often use it as a synonymn for consequence. corollary c.1380, from L.L. corollarium "a deduction, consequence," from L. corollarium, originally "money paid for a garland," hence "gift, gratuity, something extra," from corolla "small garland," dim. of corona "crown I'm still hoping however....to hear from some SP's...and get this thread back on track!!! :-D:-D:-D

Thanks ED Man, Tstorm et al....but we need to be careful that this discussion not be a collolary to the other ongoing thread!!! Let's let the SP's decide!!..............and let's have fun!!