GHT

Cato, Nice, They both look like Pros to me HAHA. :)

It may have been insensitive of me to use the label sex addict, sorry. As Buggernot, Annessa and others have suggested, true sex addiction is very serious and destructive. A better term might be sex enthusiast. My sense is that typical CERB members are looking for sex and intimacy and aren't morally hung up on seeing an SP. I'm not really sure if CERB members are bigger sex enthusiasts than the general public. Maybe its just that they have the right moral mindset to justify it and the means to pay for it. Just wondering. GHT

Yes I could stop. I can be pretty disciplined if I want to be. However my plan right now is to get in deeper and see where it goes. Its been a very interesting ride so far. GHT

Another thread got me thinking about sex addiction. Its a real adventure interacting with ladies be they SPs, girlfriends or SOs. Starting into the hobby thing has got my serotonin levels way up and I'm becoming a better person in a number of ways. Its so so good I'm hooked. Now I've dabbled with other addictive things in my life, but they don't compare. Its sort of like I want to be addicted to ladies. Pardon the crudeness but I'm going to say that: Pussy is the most addictive substance know to man. And SPs are the most concentrated form of pussy available. The BS, attached strings and overhead associated with regular relationships is what makes them less pure. It's no wonder hobbying is addictive. What do you think? So are we all sex addicts here on CERB or are we regular guys that for some reason have made the leap, tried it out and are now hooked. I'm wondering if you took a regular guy (assume he has some money and a sex drive) and introduced him to hobbying for a while as part of an experiment, would he be hooked to or would he revert back to himself after. In other words, is the CERB community inherintly different or pretty similar to the general population in terms of having sex addictive personalities? I'm very interested to see what hobbiests and SPs have to say. BTW - I'm pretty sure that I have a higher than normal sex drive. I don't think that makes me an addict. Then again I could also be deluded so who knows LOL. GHT

Peachy, I thought you were talking about a new game sort of like pin the tail on the donkey. I could wear and blindfold and well .. you know. LOL. GHT

My GP recommended one simply because my bowl movements changed from before in terms of frequency and consistency. The doctor that performed the colonoscopy did so without anesthetic. It was painful but thankfully was over pretty quick. I'll opt for the drugs next time when I go in 10 years.

Well I like all hair colors, even white, orange and purple can look really good on some ladies. However I voted for brunettes. I love them, don't ask me why.

My nature is to do what I said I would do. Therefore when I book an appointment, I will do everything in my power to make it happen. I've have had to cancel around 5% of my appointments due to sickness or emergency. Always with 8hrs or days of advance warning. It really irks me when others (both hobbiests and SPs) don't operate this way. I'd say I've been jerked around plenty by SPs but I expect it to a degree. SPs are running a business and shit happens. I'm OK with SPs cancelling for any reason they have. Just please be upfront and don't leave me hanging. I don't even need an explanation. I've changed my mind is good enough. Here are some of the Cool - Not Cool behaviors I've experienced: - showed up on time, no one is there (Not Cool). Later I realize I got cancellation email 20minutes before appointed time (Cool). After an appologetic email this lady is still in my good books (Cool). - had confirmed appointment , called 1hr prior as arranged for exact loaction. Called 2 more times, no answer (Not Cool). Apologetic emails after the fact (Cool). - get an apologetic email the day before cancelling (Very Cool) Thankyou. - date and time arranged, waiting for final email confirming appointment. Never get any emails. Days later, politely inquire what happened? Is everything OK? No response (Not Cool) It's a complete mystery. - get an email the day before saying time X isn't going to work anymore, how about time Y (Cool) I can understand that SPs that get jerked around by clients (ie no shows) are not going to feel too guilty jerking around clients. So hobbiests if you want to improve things, please don't be a no show. It seems to be one of those "what goes around comes around" situations. If everyone treats others as they expect to be treated, then everything would be very cool.

Ideally I like to book days to week in advance. I like the comfort and security. I try to book daytime hours so when the shit happens is work related. Getting away from work so it not an issue for me. The only time I ever had to cancel is when I got sick. That said, I've also had some great short notice or plan B dates. Met some wonderful ladies I may not have met otherwise. Cycled through my phone list and went with the 1st one to say she was available. Never been disappointed. So I didn't vote. I don't feel the way I operate is one of the options. GHT

I don't think you can determine the mileage before you commit. I think you have to go in with a good attitude and hope for the best. Its worked for me, I've never been disappointed. So I find your experience a bit mistifying. Like you all my tastes are served on the std GFE menu. If you are interested in something specific, its best to talk to the lady about it way ahead of time. If you want CERB feedback, I think you need to be more specific about the circumstances you are in. Don't be shy. Good Luck

The best thing that hobbying has done is to make me a happier person. This seems to have many affects on my life. For example: - I laugh more, I'm more fun to be around. - I seem to be more "in the moment" when talking to people. I'm not all caught up with my issues. - I have renewed interest in making myself a better person. - I have more confidence in any situation. - I enjoy being with people more (I've been know to be anti-social at times). Some of the lady encounters I have had are amongst the most thrilling and memorable events I have had in my entire life. It makes me realize even more that life need not be stagnant (even at my age). If I don't like some aspect of my life, and its under my control, I should change it. It's for the better. GHT

I must say this young lady has great attitude, she's smart and very easy to relate to. I felt we connected very strongly right from the get go. The kissing (WOW) just felt so right, so passionate. My lust meter was pinned at redline in no time. We did all the safe GFE things which suits me perfectly. I'm going to leave out the details except to say Jenna is physically a true work of art, she is very playful in bed and she is the "horny little thing" she describes herself as. Mind blowing as others have said would be a good summary of the event. Thankyou Jenna Lyne, I will be seeing you again. :D:D

Thanks Val for your concern and good suggestions. Right now things are pretty good at home and I'd like to keep it that way. My motivation for starting this thread is sort of "Prepare for the worst and hope for the best". Its what I have to do since things could change for the worse very fast. Still Happy, GHT

I've received lots of good input here and a couple PMs from a wise insightful lady. If I could write out all the advise that fits for my situation it would read something like this: I should keep up my hobbying activities, but be very careful not get carried away or make careless mistakes. I need to pay attention to my SO and really try to make here happy. Even if the sex/intimacy that I want is not there. It dawned on me that I may be subconsciously punishing her for the lack of sex/intimacy and maybe withdrawing somewhat. The theory here is that if I work at it and she is happy she won't suspect much, or if she does she just might let it slide. If I ever get seriously confronted about my activities I will have a choice to make. I could deny, deny, deny, deny until I die. Or tell the truth. Luckily I don't have to make that decision now. GHT

Erin, I agree with you and wish things were different. Unfortunately society is not very excepting of this type of behavior so I can't count on my SO to be excepting. I'm not willing to take the risk of telling her even though she might surprise me. Hopefully society will evolve for the better in time. GHT

I'm pretty sure she would react badly, at least at first. I don't want to find out in any case, the truth will not make it better. I think she is basically testing me with the "your having an affair" accusation and seeing how I react. She is far from 100% convinced that it is actually the case. GHT

She is fairly close to the truth considering the fact that I've been an active hobbiest for the past half year or so. Now get this, the reason she thinks something is going is that she notices that I'm happy person of late for no good reason she can think of. LOL. A personality change you could say. It makes sense since I'm sure my sexual frustration at home and the resulting unhappiness showed a lot more before. Luckily for me she has zero evidence of wrong doing, so I'm hoping it will blow over in time. She needs to be reassured that I love her (which I do) and that things will work out. Easier said than done though. I'm a bad liar and a terrible actor. I can't really trust my reactions when put on the spot with pointed questions. So does anyone have advise for me on how manage this situation. I'd like to keep seeing SPs AND I want to keep the best possible relationship with my SO. Thanks, GHT :-?

I visited Jude a couple of weeks ago. My massage was a very good therapeutic massage, a medium touch I would call it. The sensual stuff starts slow and building nicely to the finish. The atmosphere is great, Jude's look's are great, I liked it a lot. Highly recommended. GHT

Message to Hobbiests - You are missing out if you only go for the new girl with lots of recos. There are plenty of examples of great SPs who had a flurry of recommendations 6months or 1year ago. Now they have established reputations, regular clients and keep a much lower profile. Hence few or no recent recommendations (maybe by their own choice). HOWEVER, they still offer the same excellent service. Seek some of these ladies out, you may really like what you find. GHT

Assuming I have the time and the money, it really comes down to mood. The funny thing is that even though I might be in the mood to see a favorite, chances are she is unavailable on short notice. GHT

I've seen Val a bunch of times now. The experience is always great fun. She has beautifully trim well proportioned figure with great views from the front and the back. Val really aims to make your experience the best it can be. She is very attentive, has lots of energy and definitely enjoys herself. Multiple positions, shower play , massage, apparatus all done in a fun easygoing style (non-rushed for sure) I should mention the last time I was there she had a very nice new custom made "spanking bench" complete with matching outfit. VERY HOT. See and try for yourself, you'll be glad you did. Thanks for fantastic times Val, see you again soon, GHT

After lurking on CERB for while this past spring, I chose Ava as my 1st SP. So now that I'm posting somewhat its fitting that she be the subject of my 1st recommendation. The things I remember about Ava is her great attitude and good looks . She's is watching you very closely with those big beautiful eyes, a bemused naughty girl smile on her face. So sexy. Our session started slow and ended more frenzied. Completely mesmerizing. Conversation afterwards came easy, she is very down to earth and a smart cookie. I left there feeling like a million bucks. Thanks Ava. Hope to see you again soon, GHT

I couldn't keep away. Just too curious about what was going on. Cheers Everyone.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I've come to realize that sharing my hobby experiences with friends outside this community is likely a dead end. Hence I will share here on CERB and hopefully make some friends. Maybe in time I'll even find some drinking buddies LOL. GHT :wink:

That is so true Buggernot, why take chances. I've resolved to say nothing. I'm sure that resolve will be put to the test some late beer filled evening HAHA. GHT