WhiteKnight

So true. I can't fully know the impact seeing photoshopped women all day have on other women, but I can say that it has also a negative impact on some men. Being fed unrealistic expectations robs us from enjoying the beauty, inside and out, all around us. A lady once told me that she finds something attractive in every man she meets; I do the same (with women I mean :) ). Another lady told me not be to shy to say what I enjoy and find beautiful about someone. I also do now. Putting a smile on their lips and a twinkle in their eyes is the kind of sunshine I can enjoy everyday :)

#ChooseBeautiful Spring is in the air! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/07/dove-beauty-choose-beautiful-campaign-video_n_7010178.html

What makes me happy? Many things! On top of my list is during social dancing, when I ask a girl to dance and her shy smile transforms itself in joyful, happy laughters as we dance :)

Her lips and her eyes when she smiles :)

Allo Nathalie! I wish you the very best. You have been an inspiration and helped me become a better lover, a better man. Congrats for your Masters! I have no doubt you will be successful in your future endeavors.

In my (humble and limited) experience, oftentimes those who use the word desperate regarding someone trying to improve oneself may have themselves some repressed issues they should work on. Let someone wiser than me respond to them: "Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others." H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Godspeed.

I agree with you and that is not what I tried to convey! I should have used a different term. For me it is about sharing the playfulness that exist in me and celebrating life in the small things. I guess I feel like a bad boy even though to you I would appear normal :)

I used to call myself a Nice guy. However, a little while ago, a lady friend told me: "You are not a Nice guy, you are a Good guy!". I asked what the difference was? She told me Nice guys are being nice, at least partly, because they expect something from a woman (consciously, or unconsciously), and when this expectation is not fulfilled, frustration may build up. A Good guy is nice because he enjoys to, he has his life together and is relaxed about it all. She picks up on this underlying vibe and is attracted to one and not the other. She told me that many ladies use all available signals (body language, energy, manners, how one dresses, etc.) to size up a man as quickly as she can. If you are, like me, a naturally quiet, reserved man, even though nice, it makes it more difficult for the ladies to differentiate between the Nice and the Good. Some are not attracted to the quiet guys, some are intrigued by the mystery. In my experience, the later are sometimes themselves a bit reserved and brainy, so maybe they have atomes crochus? Then she told me a secret: "You already have a golden heart and your life together. Simply work on being a playful (but not silly) bad boy at the right time and your social life will change forever". She had a mysterious but very attractive grin on her face while telling me this... like she told me the deepest secret of the Secret Women's Guild. :) Since then I applied myself to let this playfulness inhabiting my heart out, in the right way, at the right time. It is actually not easy, I am not quite there yet, but it is worth it lol. A companion told me that my new tag line described me well: "I am like good quality French vanilla ice cream, sometimes with exotic toppings such as spicy black pepper, silly jelly beans or sweet balsamic vinegar reduction". You know you should not have too much of it, but you can't resist (or that is what I hope anyway hi hi hi). Food for thought :)

It is funny because I always thought WhiteKnight had a positive connotation. It is how I feel and what I strive to become :) However, I learned recently that WhiteKnight can be used in a pejorative manner as it relates to this industry! Oh well... I decided to keep it because no lady ever complained lol :)

I was going to write something about compassion and this industry, above and beyond free market theory, and then MigthyPen said it more eloquently than I could ever do. I, too, believe compassion should be a part of this industry and our topics of discussion.

Happy National Hug Day everyone. I hope you have hugged someone today, if not it is not too late! :) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Hug_Day btw... I tried the new cuddle only service. It is wonderful what a warm, friendly, tender and relaxing embrace can provide. It is uplifting for the soul. :)

Holy shit indeed. I find both disgusting. And she looks fourteen years old for chri**'s sake.

I agree with Kathryn. I had similar issues in the past (stressful job, bad relationships, libido issues, chronic pain, on top of overall shyness). I exercised, ate well, went to the doctor, but things really started to improve when I let go of all my expectations and accepted that it was ok to be vulnerable with the ladies I met. With the right lady, I simply could let the encounter flow wherever it felt the best. Many times it was simply soft, sensual cuddling and kissing. Sometimes it was about giving each other sensual massages. A few times I simply perfected my spanking techniques :) Eventually, without me realizing it, the libido came back and the passionate lovemaking. But in the meantime I had grown tremendously as a lover, able to embrace and rejoice in all the wonderful facets of women's erotic universe. This is worth a lot, because you will keep this experience and newfound knowledge for the rest of your life. After getting checked by your MD and managing the job situation as best you can, find a lady you are comfy with and you trust, have the courage to be vulnerable, and let her share with you everything that is good about sensuality. Abandon yourself in her arms. There are wonderful, generous and experienced ladies around here. You might just be transformed as I have been :)

There is something warm, safe and inviting about someone eating a small snack or drinking something hot like coffee or tea. As a shy person, I had to find ways of attracting and engaging women in my daily life without being able to fully entertain them with my words. I had an Eureka when I watched Ocean 11 for the first time and realized that Brad Pitt was eating all the time, and that made him, somehow, relaxed, warm and inviting. During the summer you can see me eat a lot of ice cream when meeting women outside (they always want a bite lol). In the winter coffee works wonder: it cannot be easier to ask a lady on an instant coffee date when its cold outside and I have a warm cup in my hand already. It feels like cheating the universe :)

As I walk or drive around town, I seem to know more about Ottawa hotels than I should lol (as I live in Ottawa). Sometimes, inadvertently, I comment on hotels to friends: beautiful lobby, so so food, rooms renovated, etc. They wonder why I know these things! "Oh, I get invited from time to time by suppliers renting suites to showcase their new products to their preferred clients". This works and I don't even have to lie :)

My experience with pictures has been a fascinating one. Above and beyond the visual aspect of the picture, over time, without me being aware of it, I came to realize that I was able to decipher more readily the feelings and impression that a lady's pictures were creating in me. I came to realize that most pictures convey important aspects of a lady's personality, whatever conscious or unconscious choices the lady has made when taking them (which in and of itself conveys something about a lady's personality!). I am now pretty confident of the type of experience I will have with a lady simply by letting her pictures "talk" to me (ok, I know that sounds new age lol...). (Reading a lady's posts and exchanging messages with her typically confirm my feelings.) Somehow women convey so much about their personality through pictures: introvert or extravert; proud or humble; shy or confident; inner or outer sensuality; intelligence; purposeful versus intuitive versus no non-sense fun kind of woman; artistic personality; more traditional versus free-spirited; etc. Also, the way pictures evolve over time seems to mimic how a lady's feelings about being a companion change over time. Captivating! In retrospect, there have been a few cases where there was a slight mismatch in the feelings I got from the pictures and my actual experiences. Somehow, they are mostly related to ladies with a more naturally dominating personality. These were very interesting encounters! Another type of cases are related to Asian providers: in my limited experience, the way their pictures are taken mask much of their personality. Ladies, keep the pictures coming! pro, amateur, colorful, black and white, lingerie, street clothes, etc. They tell a story - your story :)

Oh my... I didn't think that White Knight meant something pejorative... maybe I should rename my handle!

Jane, could you tell us what a White Knight means for you? I suspect different people have different understandings of the term.

I guess I am a little biased on this one... I will let the ladies comment :)

Cristy, sorry to hear you got infected :( The kind of virus you got is called Scareware or Ransomware http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scareware http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ransomware_%28malware%29 To help other members prevent being infected, ensure that browser, flash, and OS are regularly patched. Try to avoid Java altogether (uninstall it). Do not install software coming from untrustworthy sources. But the best way is either to install a Ubuntu virtual machine in which you surf the web and if you get infected you simply delete the VM and copy a new one from a pristine copy. Another way is to use a Ubuntu (or other linux flavor) boot dvd (or USB stick). Easier to setup, but it bit less convenient to use. And if you have an (non-jail-broken) iPad, it is also a good option, since it is quite a robust platform against viruses (Android tablets or phones are not as robust however). http://ipad.about.com/od/iPad-FAQ/f/Is-There-An-iPad-Virus.htm

Great topic Peachy! I have a quiet confidence too. I let my work speaks for myself and I usually am victim of my own success (everybody asks for me help, which I am happy to give, but then I work too much!). However, I sometimes have to swim with the executive crowd and if I want to influence things I have to speak their language... and this usually takes the form of open confidence (e.g., a confident salesman approach). It is challenging but it is worth learning how to do it, for the things that matter to me. Interestingly, I am learning to be more generally openly confident with the help of CERB ladies, teaching me that beautiful art of seducing women. :) Two good books I enjoyed about introversion and quiet confidence that may inspire some of you: - Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain - The Introvert Advantage: Making the Most of Your Inner Strengths by Marti Olsen Laney

Cuddling is one of my favorite intimate moment. For me, sex without it is blah. It is a rare moment in which we can be both vulnerable and protective of each other. When a lady is comfy and trusting enough to abandon herself and tenderly snuggle in my arms, and almost fall asleep, it is... magical.

Yes! Some days you just want to relax, you know, in the arms of a warm, charming lady :) Where do I sign up?

"To those whom much is given, much is expected." JFK "I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else." Churchill "Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves." Albert Einstein

41. But I think I am really a 40.5 (a bit of 40, a bit of 41, depending with who I am).