Ariane Valmont

I have been with ladies before becoming an escort. People often want to put you in categories so to them, I say I am bi. But in fact, it's a little bit more complicated than that. I am much more attracted to men but I also enjoy being with ladies. I would say that I am a very open-minded hetero. ;) Sex with a lady is fun but it could never replace what I have with men. Or maybe I just did not find the right woman yet! :p

OutForFun and buggernot, I love your stories. :) I find it very refreshing when people say that seeing escorts has made their life better in some way. I think the best encounters are the ones where you feel a human connection. Sex in itself is wonderful but it's even better when you can relate to the person in front of you (or on top, or behind... :p).

emma, I understand that not everyone has a positive story on how they came into the business (which does not mean that it didn't end up being a positive choice for them) and it can be difficult or too personal to share publicly. But I like your clarification. A mom should do everything in her power to make sure her children are happy and that's exactly what you did.

anita, this is quite a story!! Bravo for your transparence and sincerity! I am really glad you found what works best for you. :) I understand that having sex with strangers is not for you but I think you also have been a bit unlucky as an escort. It's great that you did not let those obstacles bring you down, especially since you were still vulnerable from your failed mariage. You are one strong lady!

Pete and Akhenaton, thank you very much for being so welcoming. ;) Akhenaton, you are absolutely right: Montreal men should take note indeed!!

Wow! Thanks to everybody for participating to this thread. :) Gentlemen, from your answers, it seems to me there is two main reasons that brought you to hobbying: 1- the possibility of being with different types of women 2- the desire (or need) to have NSA sex (and we all know that outside the sex trade, it's not always easy to find because many women end up expecting more). What I'm curious to know is this... Did it seem natural for you to spend time with SPs or did you feel shame, guilt, etc, at first? Did you go through some kind of moral dilemma like I did or were you never affected by the notion passed around in society which says that paying for sex is wrong? To the two ladies who contributed to this thread : thank you for your honesty! To secret_admirer, believe me, the british accent IS an advantage when it comes to seducing ladies. ;)

hehe... I know what you mean! :) Of course, I don't have a "get it up" deadline but while I am still relatively young, I also have a list of things I absolutely want to do. Sexually, I think we should try (almost) everything at least once!

Ok, that's it, I have to move to Ottawa! ;) At the risk of upsetting some Montrealers, since I have been on cerb and from what I have seen here, I much prefer the Ottawa's men approach...

It depends. It can be for some ladies but not for others. :) I know that for me, it is good enough!

This is a thread for both ladies and gentlemen. I would be curious to know what made you decide to get involved in the sex trade... I will do the honour and tell you my little story. As you might be aware of by now, French is my first language so please bare with me if my English is sometimes silly! I had always been pretty wild with my boyfriends but until I was about 30 years old, I had very few one night stands. I had been single for a while and started to ask myself why I would choose a sexless life simply because I was afraid of other people's judgments. Yes, you guessed, it, I come from a home where promiscuous women are frown upon. So I started to have multiple partners (that I chose carefully) and explore different form of erotism: light BDSM, threesomes, swingers clubs, exhibitionnism, voyeurism, small orgies, same sex partners, etc! Becoming more and more open-minded and curious to push some of my bounderies, I came upon internet ads (I was actually looking to adopt a kitten!! :-P) from escorts and ladies looking for a sugardaddy. It turned me on imagining me being one of those ladies. There was something kinky and forbidden about this world, a world completely unknown to me then. To make a long story short, I posted 2-3 ads and choked each time. I was getting arroused exchanging emails with those men and I fantasized about going through with it but I was at the same time very afraid of the consequences it could have on me. Then, one night that I was feeling particularly adventurous, I posted one more ad explaining honestly what the situation was (i.e. that I was simply looking to fulfill a fantasy of services against money contribution). One of the replies I received was very interesting and I told myself: ok, this is now or never! I went through with it even though I was still pretty scared. The excitment was exceeding the fear! :) Needless to say that my experience was very positive. After that, I didn't immediatly became an escort because I still had to stuggle with some preconceived notions imposed on me by society. Being a good and decent person is very important to me and I wanted to make sure I would not compromise my integrity. I thought long and hard about it before finally realizing that I didn't see anything morally wrong with escorting (as long as it is done respectfully to yourself and others) and decided to start offering my services. I have never regretted my choice since!

In fact... We were supposed to go to the movie theater located in the mall and were planning on having sex there. But while still in the car and talking about it, we got turned on, started to kiss, caress each other... That's when he had that brilliant idea! hihi So of course I said yes! I was only planning on giving him a quick show but got carried away and continued until I had an orgasm. The only problem is: after that, I had lost interest for the sex in the movie theater. :D

An ex-boyfriend asked me to masturbate while we were sitting in his car, parked in full day light, at a big mall's parking lot. :boobies:

I think PSE is more about the attitude than the services offered. I do offer most things considered "PSE" but I am not agressive or loud, I am more the soft and sensual type. I guess I can become kinda "PSE" but only during very intense sex. Like inaluki said, I see the PSE type of provider jumping on their partner the minute they cross the door.

But my dear, the sexual/psychological satisfaction of a lot of men does not only come from physical gratification but also from pleasuring their partners. It can be a lot of fun to meet men like this. But if it's not their thing, that's ok too since they have every right to choose how the rendezvous should go. That is what I meant.

Annessa, thanks! I wish I could take credit but this post was written by JAG, a woman who also had received threats online. At first, she was terrified but she then decided to deal with the situation. She was very reluctant to go to the police but it seems they were very understanding of her situation. Paige, I don't see how this could affect your family. What are you afraid of precisely? There must be a way to make sure of it while being anonymous. Maybe you could contact the RCMP from a public phone and explain your situation. You have nothing to lose if they don't know who you are.

No, we have never been in contact. Well, sometimes, Internet can be confusing because you have to guess the other person's tone. That's why I use a lot of those silly smilies. I find that it helps to understand my intention. I got the impression you were getting upset with me and I really didn't understand why. Good to know I was wrong! :) Sorry about the interruption... Now let's get back to your topic: if the SPs get mad at you because you do not accept their conditions (location, payment method, etc), simply move on. Don't waste your time arguing. You don't need that. Just tell them that it won't work after all and contact someone else. It really should not be more complicated than that I think.

Why do I get the impression you are taking this out on me? :) I just wrote my opinion and don't feel I said anything offensive so please don't start giving ME crap. ;)

You are absolutely right: they don't need to... But it's still nice when it happens. ;)

Honey, I think you should not generalize. :) I don't know who is mad at you and what are their reasons. You know what they say: there is always two sides to a story. But whatever the situation really is, please do not assume that all SPs are the same.

After reading Akhenaton's response, I read your post again and I guess you were not talking about "pleasing sexually" but more about pleasing the SP in general. Sorry for the misunderstanding! :-P I agree with Akhenaton: as much as we, SPs, can choose our clients, you guys can choose to go elsewhere if you do not appreciate how a lady is handling her business. This seems so obvious to me!

Apex, I'm not sure I understand what the situation is exactly but you are obviously upset. I'm sorry about that. I simply wanted to tell you that you are not the only hobbyist who wants to be pleased rather than pleasing. There is nothing wrong with that. You pay = you choose (as long as you respect your partner's limits, of course!). Like other SPs, I do prefer to be with a gentleman who will care about my sexual satisfaction. But it's not a prerequisite and I understand perfectly that some men want to concentrate on their own pleasure. One of my favourite regulars is like this and it is not a problem at all for me. I am sure I'm not the only one who feels this way.

hehe... I like the fishing comparison. It's pretty accurate. :) I also agree when you say that you can waste a lot of time on those sites while hobbying is a sure thing. But I guess it all depends what you enjoy. If you like the chase, dating sites are good. If you prefer to get straight to the point, seeing an escort is definitely your best choice.

Those websites are definitely tough for men because there is a lot of competition. Here are a couple of advices to make it work : 1- Try to make as little grammar mistake as possible in your profile. 2- Post a picture that will show you at your best. No pictures where you're eating a hot dog or a group picture where we can barely see you. If it's a "naughty" dating website, don't show pictures of your genitals. We want to see your face or at least some sexy pics of your body. I know not all men look like Brad Pitt but you can still manage to have sensual and enticing photos. 3- When you write a private message to a woman, make her feel like you are interested in her specifically, not like you are doing a copy paste of a message you sent to 50 other girls! 4- Always be a gentleman. Women in general love that. 5- Unless she says clearly she's looking for sex (yes it happens!), don't mention the subject. You could scare her away.

hehe! Well thank you very much for the offer but I have a golden rule: in my personel life, I never have sex with people related to the sex trade. ;)

I do sometimes go on dating websites while being an SP and it has nothing to do with my "work". I go there because I like having a sex life outside of my courtesan's activities and online dating is much more convenient for me than picking up guys in bars. But I have no doubt that some women use those sites to meet clients. All I am saying is that it's not always the case. :)