SamanthaEvans

What if they had to pay a deposit, at least? Refundable when reasonable notice is given, but forfeit if the client doesn't show up or cancels at the last minute? Deposits are not a new thing. I used to require them of all new clients. Nowadays, I mostly ask for them from gentlemen who seek to book long meetings weeks or months ahead of time. The principle is the same: When I make a booking with X, the time he's requested isn't available to Y or Z. If X doesn't show, I've lost not only that anticipated income, but in most cases neither Y nor Z will be able to use the appointment time. With enough advance bookings and paid deposits, a companion can have a much better sense of how the tour will go. If she doesn't have enough bookings, she can return the deposits and stay home or go somewhere else.

The foregoing controversy aside, I think that tepic's original post is worth a response. What I say has to be heavily salted with the fact that I don't tour, though I do occasionally go out of town with, or to meet, a client for a few days. I'm happy with the business I'm doing where I am. I'm frankly in awe of the ladies who travel all the time. It requires enormous stamina, more than I'm willing to expend right now. That said, I have been toying with the idea of going to Ottawa. I like Ottawa, particularly the capital region, and I haven't seen it in awhile. That's one reason. Another reason is that I've enjoyed getting to know some of the men there and would like to meet them if they were interested. A third reason is that I simply love quite a few of the Ottawa ladies and I would like to spend some time with them in person. If I decide to travel to Ottawa I would need to be sure that I could cover my costs. While many touring ladies have a schedule or a cycle of cities they visit, some companions travel to a given city when a gentleman offers to pay for their flights and acommodation, usually in exchange for a comparable amount of time. So, for example, if a flight to Ottawa were to cost $900 and accommodation is another $600, the companion could provide $1500 worth of time. That might be an overnight visit, or a couple of long evenings--whatever works for them. She would see other clients outside the time set aside for the one who brought her to the city. So, tepic, if you want to encourage more companions to visit your city, perhaps you could consider offering some sort of incentive that will both ensure the companions go to NB and make it possible for them to begin to establish a client base there. Obviously this is not an inexpensive gesture, but it might work!

According to the Penticton Herald, Benny Wolfe is 67 years old. This is his second attempt to become mayor. In 2008, he received 96 votes, coming in dead last out of a field of five candidates. He says he was brand new to the city at the time. Now he's been there for three and a half years and thinks his chances have improved. The girl he is alleged to have engaged is 17 years old. Her 46 year-old father was her pimp. Two other men, ages 34 and 63, have also been charged along with Benny. According to the Vancouver Sun, Benny says he met the girl and her father at a bus stop bench. "She was reasonable, a hundred dollars for an hour of her time," said Wolfe. I'm sickened by this, as I'm sure most of us are. Benny says he was told the girl was of age. Why would he believe a father who is pimping out his own daughter? Moreover, when a 67 year-old man is engaging the services of a woman 50 years his junior but says he thought she was somewhat older... the thing doesn't pass the smell test. I hope someone is looking after the girl. She's going to need all the help she can get!

I'm always eager to know what you're thinking, Emily. Keep 'em coming!

I hadn't seen this. I agree, it sounds sincere. It's hard to evaluate, though. I've looked into Tania's history and find that she's prone to more exaggeration about her life than I'm comfortable with. I hesitate when she says that she, too, was a victim even while being a Madam. It could be true, but it might not be. That said, it takes a lot of strength to write and post so publicly this kind of apology. I'm not sure that Tania is making a lot from her book. I think that it's self-published. Even so, I agree with you, Elizabeth. Real Contrition is a complete action and should include refusing to make any kind of profit from her writing.

I don't know why I haven't heard about this agency. I can't find any reliable reviews, just some shill. I understand that everyone has to start somewhere and self-promotion is never easy when you really don't have much to promote. Okay. I'm willing to consider TOFTT if I'm ever in Ottawa. I've got $16.50 in Canadian Tire money. What will that get me? Oh, and please... don't send any pics with your reply. Some things are better left unseen until the final moment, eh?

Congratulations, WiT! Your fair-mindedness, dedication and thoughtful engagement here go a long way towards making CERB what it is. You're a true blessing to us. Keep at it!

Happy birthday, Nicki! Have a wonderful day!

I've read that there are tantric techniques that men can learn which will help them have more than one orgasm per session. I've never met anyone who had learned them, however. The men I've known who could have more than one orgasm per encounter have some strong similarities. They are in good physical condition, not overweight, don't smoke and do not have diabetes or pre-diabetes. Their blood pressure is either well-controlled or doesn't need strong medication to keep it within a healthy range. They can have good erections without medication or, if they use something like Viagra, the drug works in that it helps them achieve good, firm, lasting erections AND helps them control when they will ejaculate. Men who have trouble with premature ejaculation (PE) don't often have multiple orgasms in my experience. The orgasms that they do have are often not very satisfying, as well. Fortunately, PE is easily treatable. From my own point of view, a man who can have one good, satisfying orgasm when he's ready for it is set to be a wonderful sexual partner. However, men who have erectile difficulties and/or men who have trouble achieving orgasm can also be wonderful partners. While I understand how important strong erections and powerful climaxes may be to many men, these are not the most important qualities in a sexual encounter for me. I am more interested in mutual giving and receiving, overall sensuality, playfulness and a dedication to pleasure for both parties whether anyone has an orgasm or not.

Hmmm.... Unfortunately, Notch, that link doesn't result in anything but a message from Gmail. Try again?

LOL! You gentlemen are too much! But yes, 'tis true . . . I do think that Sean Connery is one of the sexiest men on earth, even now, in his 80s. OldDog, I'm saving a copy of that photo. I shall look at it from time to time and think of you fondly. :wink: Elizabeth, the chicken suit does have a certain je ne sais quois. Not wanting to brag too much, or tell tales out of season, as it were, but Santa Claus is one of my clients. He visits me in full regalia and, yes, the beard is real! Unfortunately, last Christmas, he was snowed in at Whistler and without reindeer to come to his aid because they were resting up for the next night. I've been promised that he'll make up for it this year. LOL

I agree with everyone, here. All very wise advice. I need to say, however, that I love a man in a tuxedo. Truly, I do. Sadly, the tux is not ordinary wear these days, except for symphony orchestra members. For whatever it may be worth, I would like to say that I am very adept at removing the studs from a tuxedo shirt. With my teeth. :grin: Kilts, however . . . men in kilts go to the head of the line. Men wearing kilts with tuxedo shirts and jackets first! Kilted, tuxedo'd gentlemen bearing full sets of bagpipes are to die for!

Enjoy the 70s. The 80s come next. :icon_wink: Eptness is a quality devoutly to be wished-for, by the way!

Well said, Daniel. I completely agree with you. I think that the biological clock is real. It urges people in their 20s to find a mate and get on with procreating. This is not a bad thing, but it's not something that's universally required, either. All I've learned is that, in life, to live well, you need to be who you are, where you are. Know yourself and be gentle with yourself because you will never know yourself as well as you think you do. Be compassionate and charitable towards everyone else. Follow your heart. Love who you love. Love them well. Be honourable. If you have enemies, try to treat them as people you love: it will make a difference. Find something to do that satisfies your deepest, deepest longing. Never imagine that you've got everything figured out because you never will and, in the end, questions are more meaningful than answers, anyway. And if you're looking for a partner, whether for a few days or a few decades, tell everyone. People will want to help you. You'll at least meet some interesting folks!

I don't think I've read a sadder public post by another paid companion. What you've written here, IslandIndependent, honestly breaks my heart. If this has been your experience in our industry, I can only say that it hasn't been mine, for the most part. I want better for you. I agree that there are plenty of men who pay for the opportunity to get right down to what they want without having to go through a lot of preliminaries. Long ago, I used to have a lot of these meetings. The transactions were simple and clear. Feeling like I was only something to pound was rare, for me, but it happened sometimes. After awhile, I realized that I'm not submissive enough to just lie there and take it, or simply to follow directions compliantly. I don't need romance, but feeling bored isn't good for me, either. I decided to change things. I took a good look at what I know about myself, what my strengths and limitations are, what interests me, how I most enjoy relating to other people, how I want to be seen and understood, what I most appreciate about men, what I enjoy in bed and out of it, what I know about my own body's workings and what I know about men's bodies, too. From all of that, I recognized that I could offer a very fine, complete and rewarding experience to anyone with whom I chose to spend my time. I was right about it and I've never looked back. I welcome clients who want to spend some time with not just any woman, but with me. They've usually gone to the effort of getting to know something about me, whether by reading my website or reading what I've written in other places before they contact me. They try to present themselves as people I might be interested in meeting. We take it from there. A few e-mail exchanges, one or two phone conversations, then we meet, having recognized that we each think we'll enjoy spending a few hours together. If this will be the only time we'll ever meet, it will at least be worthwhile. And yeah, sure, we'll have sex, too. I've found that, almost without exception, men who will take a bit of time before the meeting will be concerned about what I want, too. They want the encounter to be good for me. I want the same for them. If they had specific things they wanted to do or to try, they will have told me about that at some point and I will have said whether I'm interested in or comfortable with those things. If the mood and energy is right, they will probably happen. If it's not right, they won't, but there won't be any hard feelings, either, because we will have made the decision together. In the end, I don't feel used, degraded or ignored. I trust that my client will feel admired, appreciated and enjoyed. Time well spent! This longer dance of seductive engagement is not for everyone. But if it's what you want, you can be sure that there are plenty of good men who want it, too. They will treat you well and appreciate you. The last thing I want to say is that if you're feeling detached from what you're doing or what is being done to you; if you feel like you're not really there when that's where you are; if you don't believe you have choices and the right to say what you do and don't want to do; if you don't think that your preferences are important or would be respected.... please stop. Don't sacrifice your spirit for the sake of what your body can earn. The sex trade is not right for most women. If it feels like it's not right for you, listen to that voice. If you need help to leave, help is available: PM or e-mail me.

If they implemented this in Vancouver, it might mean that the police would actually pay attention to the SWs. After all, the women work near the major drug centre at Main and Hastings which is only a couple of blocks away from the police station in the Downtown Eastside.

It's a hard one, for sure. The guy was showing a lot of warning signs, but he didn't have a record for drunk driving or driving with out due care and attention. One might think that this friends would have been aware of his risk-taking behaviour, but a lot of young folks think they're really invincible. He's shown a lot of remorse. He accepts that he's responsible for his friend's death. I can't imagine how he'll ever keep this far from his mind and heart. Would it be better to lock him away for 20-25 years? What would that accomplish? I don't think he's going to go drinking and driving again, ever. I do think he's got a good family and lots of people around him who will help him try to make a positive difference in the world in ways that he could never do if he spends 25 years in prison. I'm touched by the things his victim's girlfriend has said about how she and her children do have to live with a life sentence because her partner, and their father, is gone. That's true. His life and what it means can't ever be replaced. I guess, on balance, that the sentence he's received is better, all around, than the kind of vengeance some wish upon him. I hope he's able to do something powerful and positive with his life when he's released. It's a very sad situation, all around.

I really like Alexandra-Sky. She's warm, friendly and very smart! She always has good things to say and I look forward to hearing from her.

:icon_biggrin: "Science is about knowing based on experimental evidence," hmm? Well, I'd say that we women have LOTS of experimental evidence. True stuff, whether "scientists" believed it or not! LOL Science is the new religion, methinks! Btw, I love that graphic, datyaddict!

This is good news, all in all. But, frankly, could we do a little education about correct terminology? The clitoris is the bundle of erectile tissue and nerve endings at the top of a woman's genitals; a vagina is internal space into which penises, fingers, tongues and toys may be placed and from which babies may emerge; the labia are the lips that surround the clitoris and vagina; and the whole thing, all together, is called a vulva. Words matter. They refer to specific parts which do particular things.

So let me get this straight. Scientists report that we women have been right about our own bodies all along. Imagine that. :icon_rolleyes: The news is not that scientists have proved what we already knew. The real news is that some scientists have finally decided to believe us.

You are so awesome! Funny. Wise. Practical. Deadly sexy. A wonderful friend. I wanted to give you an enormous barrel with at least 5000 jelly beans in it, one for each of your posts. Alas, I couldn't find one that was big enough, so this will have to do. Congratulations!

Congratulations! On to the next 500 . . .

You're on a roll now, hon. Keep at it!

I learn so much from these threads! Really. Like, that it's just fine to show pix of undergarments with no one inside them! I was planning on having new photos done soon. It would be so much easier just to have photos taken of various bits of lace, satin and sheer this-and-that, all by themselves since, after all, my lingerie schedule is much more relaxed than mine is! Coming soon: a new album called "Things Samantha Might Wear." Fair is fair! :icon_lol: