SamanthaEvans

Sandi, I'll be there, too!

Decisions like this make me feel ill. The case management team believes that he'll cause serious harm to or kill someone before his term is up, but the parole board granted parole anyway because he hadn't done anything they considered to be "serious" so far, despite having admitted that he repeatedly assaulted his wife. O-kay.... A friend of mine works in the prisons with violent offenders. He tells me that these guys have to report in to parole officers every month and that their activities are closely monitored. One step over the line and they're back in jail without passing Go or collecting $200, as they say. My friend says that a lot of these guys are so volatile that there's no way they can follow the conditions that are part of their parole and so they're back in jail within a couple of months and they won't be released on parole again after that. It seems to be the only sure way to guarantee that they guy stays in custody--by letting him break a few more rules. But sometimes, someone gets hurt..... I have to put these decisions next to the Toronto police officers' statements that women shouldn't dress like "sluts" if they want to avoid being raped and the statements made by the federal government in the appeal of Justice Himel's decision in Ontario that becaise sex workers work in high-risk situations that are often illegal, they're not entitled to protection. I wonder whether Messervey will be in any trouble if he assaults a sex worker whom someone decides is dressed like a slut? Just asking....

I used to have migraine headaches that were terrible. If I could take meds as soon as I had any symptoms, and then sleep for about 4 hours, I would be reasonably okay. If not... I swear I could hear a fly stamping its enormous hooves on the ceiling. The headaches stopped when I became pregnant with my oldest child and they haven't returned. Some people find they calm down after menopause. Have you looked into dietary issues? A friend of mine found that she had to cut coffee, red wine, chocolate and tomatoes from her diet. It worked for her. YMMV!

Best wishes for a speedy recovery, hon! London is great and the hospital there is one of the best. You're in good hands!

I don't advertise overnight rates, though I will sometimes do them as outcalls to the client's hotel. I would not agree to a sleepover with someone I haven't met. Sleeping is an intimate thing, to me, and one in which I feel very vulnerable. Even in my "real" life, it takes quite awhile before I will allow someone to stay overnight with me or spend the night at his place. I have sometimes seen someone for a five or six-hour evening date--dinner and private time--and then returned early in the morning to help him wake up and have breakfast together. I usually charge for two hours for that morning visit, though we may actually spend three hours together. My rates are always all-inclusive.

Thanks for this thread, Isabella! Gentlemen, please also be aware that men, too, can get breast cancer. It's nowhere nearly as frequent in men as it is in women, but it can be just as devastating (a friend's husband is going through treatment for this now). Male breasts are usually smaller and flatter than female breasts, obviously, and this makes examination simpler, but not something you can take for granted. We're all exposed to so many toxins!

I'm a member of other boards, but this is the only one I spend much time on. You gentlemen are the cream of the crop, as far as I'm concerned. The respect and genuine care you show for us comes through, every time. I appreciate how you back us up when we talk about decisions and choices we make. That so, so many of you appreciate a lot of the stresses and sometimes dangers we face in this business means more than you may realize. The occasional bad apple really stands out, here, because they're so different from the rest!

I had a great first date two weeks ago with someone I've known for a year. He brought groceries to my house and cooked dinner for me. I helped (it's my kitchen, after all). We had a lovely time getting to know each other better. Last week we had dinner and went for a walk around English Bay. Having lots of time to talk and share experiences and ideas is very important to me.

I get called Samantha or Sam, both of which are fine with me. Someone wrote to me a few days ago and addressed me as "Ms. Evans," which had never happened before, but I found it kind of charming even though I urged him to call me Samantha when I replied. I've had two clients who liked to vary Eric Clapton's "Lay Down Sally," turning it into "Lay down Sammy," which was kind of sweet in a way. A few people call me Sammy. I don't think it suits me, but I like the tone they use when they say it, and that's good enough for me. My real name sometimes gets an IE added to it. I don't like it at all, but, again, the ones who do it usually say it with considerable affection, so I usually just let it go at that.

Charlotte, you're a real gem! Your insights and ideas are so valuable. I'm looking forward to reading many more. Congratulations! XOXOX

Congratulations! I always enjoy reading your posts, so keep 'em coming!

Prairieboy, I for one love to receive e-mail after a visit. That kind of a thank-you note, while certainly not required, means a lot to me. E-mail leading up to the encounter is, in many ways, a way to test each other out and decide whether meeting is likely to be a good thing. There's no ulterior motive for a post-meeting note, though, which is part of why it's so nice to receive it.

I don't know what's available in Ottawa, but using day rates was the only way I saw clients when I lived in Toronto. Hotels don't advertise their day rates, but if you call and ask them, they'll give you the information. When I take a day room, I call ahead and make sure that they have rooms available and then reserve one on my credit card. I always pay cash for the room when I arrive, just like you do when you take one overnight. People use day rate rooms for all kinds of things. Someone might take a suite and use only the living room to conduct a meeting or interview candidates for a job. Once, while driving from Toronto to Vancouver, I'd been up all night with a sick child . I checked into a hotel in Winnipeg and used the room for six hours so that I could get some sleep. It's worth asking!

If you can still perform well when you're with a woman--and particularly when you masturbate--you don't need the little blue pill (Viagra) or any of its substitutes. Don't fall into the trap of taking meds you don't need and don't try to fix what ain't broken! :icon_wink: It sounds to me like you're needing something that's not usually available from a paid companion. You might take some time to ask yourself what it is you feel you really, truly, deeply want and need from another person in your life. You don't say whether you're married or in a steady relationship, but if you are, it could be that some of your needs there aren't being fulfilled. If your partner is going through a difficult time and you're having to carry a bigger share of the load without getting a lot back from her, right now, you may be feeling emotionally drained and physically tired. If you're single, it could be that you want more non-sexual companionship as in social connection, or a relationship based on shared interests and activities. Maybe the certainty of an encounter with a paid companion is no longer what you need; dating, with all its pitfalls, uncertainties and realities can be a joyous thing in part because the outcome is not so certain. Maybe you need to know that the woman you're with is there because she wants to be with you and not because you've paid her for her time and attention. We companions often say that we're paid to go away. Maybe you want someone who might be able to stay for a long time. Maybe, for a little while, it would be better for you to get lots of good exercise, be sure to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep. It's surprising how often attending to these things can improve how we feel about everything in our lives. Whatever you feel, trust that feeling and listen to your own heart. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting paid companionship, or even sex, for awhile! But if it seems that you don't feel you want want anything, or that you don't find pleasure in the things that used to delight you, please do talk to your doctor. Anhedonia (the loss of joy in life) is a symptom of depression. Depression is treatable, but when it's ignored, can cause serious problems in your life and at times may become life-threatening.

Try to keep your spirit strong. Be sure to tell your friends and family if or when you want help or support. They will be pleased to be there for you! Wishing you peace and light for a swift recovery!

For what it's worth, many hotels offer what they call a "day rate" which is usually much less expensive than the usual overnight rate. For a day rate, you can check into a room for a few hours and leave. They hotel can then clean the room and rent it to someone else overnight. They make more money on the room and you get a break on the price. When I use a hotel for an incall location, I always do it this way. I generally arrive about 10:00 and I'm gone by 6:00 p.m. It's easy and very convenient!

Why would someone need plausible deniability? If you leave a voice message and give two or three times when the companion could return your call, trust that she'll do that or, if she's not available during those times, she won't call you at any other times. There's no need for your message to be graphic. A simple, "Hello, I'd like to arrange a meeting with you when you're available. You can reach me directly if you return my call on <day> between <time> and <time> or on <day> between <time> and <time>. Thank you." I can't think that there's anything compromising in this, but if you should need to say anything, you can always claim that you must have called a wrong number. If she doesn't call during the times you've offered, assume that she wasn't free to speak to you in private. Try e-mailing her or sending her a PM if she's here at Cerb.

Like Emily, I don't take requests for first meetings. I tend to dress rather conservatively (at least on the outside), which seems to appeal to most of my clients. Requests for subsequent meetings are fine with me. If I can accommodate them, I will.

I've heard the story about students in the school outing her, not the one about the police. I do wonder, if the police story is true, who is monitoring their morality. It seems to me that they need a firm, guiding hand! This woman doesn't seem to have been doing anything illegal and apparently had only limited contact with students in the school. Dismissal is not appropriate, here. I can see why the school might be concerned that she had been outed and that could interfere with her work and so on, but there are ways to deal with that kind of thing. Instead, a single mom with two kids is out of a job. A wrongful dismissal suit will take a very long time to be resolved and she's not entitled to EI. Sadly, this is the kind of thing that drives some women into the sex trade. What I mean to say is that putting her in such a difficult position by forcing her into unemployment without even EI benefits limits her options. She was already making porn and I'd venture to say that she did it at least in part because she needed the money. Catch-22 is written all over this!

Money orders and bank drafts are nice things, it's true. And the recipient can fill in her own name when she receives it. But sending a blank money order is risky because anyone could put their name on it and negotiate it. I have done this in two cases, though. I have a post office box for mail and other special deliveries. However, my bank still puts a hold on money orders and bank drafts because they can be faked--or so the bank says. If someone wants to send me a security deposit this way, the bank will hold it for seven banking days. If the money order or draft comes from outside the country, my bank may elect to put a hold on it for 21 banking days if the amount is greater than $200.00. That may be okay for advanced planning, but it's not usually the best option for the client or for me. In lieu of cash deposits, two of my European clients sent me lovely gifts, equal in value to the deposit we'd agreed upon. I would have returned the gifts if they had needed to break the engagement for some reason, but that didn't happen in either case. In the end, the gifts ended up being just that: they paid my full fee when we met in person. Generosity is a splendid thing! ;-)

If every politician, judge and police officer who spends time with paid companions were outed, a lot of things might grind to a halt under the weight of the scandal. Just saying.... ;-)

This is an important question, one that most of us often ponder, I'm sure. It's not difficult for many men to attempt to be anonymous, but for some men it's impossible or close to it, particularly if they seek paid companionship in the city or region where they reside. As I'm sure we can appreciate, many, many of us have very well-known clients, whether they're politicians, civil servants, members of the legal profession and the judiciary, entertainers, clergy, sports figures, members of the print and broadcast media--you name it! One might recommend that these gentlemen should not seek avail themselves of paid companionship, but we also know that dog won't hunt, nohow! Some men take enormous risks in multiple areas of their lives. It appears that Mr. Carson is one such man. One could say that his familiarity with escorts posed a risk to him, but there are no reports that these women outed him, or themselves in relation to him. It appears that his problem was not that he enjoys paid companionship, but that it can be represented as one of a number of questionable activities he engaged in.

Vanessa, I think you handled the situation beautifully and with the greatest professionalism. Making a great retort is such a temptation--and I love the ones that Berlin came up with!--but probably not the best. A blowhard like that guy is probably making comments about women all the time. His friend has no way of knowing what's true and what's just hot air. And, from now on, this fool won't even be getting warm breath from you! I tell clients that Samantha doesn't exist off the clock, so it's not possible to run into her by accident! :icon_biggrin:

I've been a scotch drinker since I started drinking a long time ago. My favourite is Laphroaig, but I also have a special fondness for Bruichladdich and Johnny Walker Red. When I was growing up, my mother taught me that a lady never drinks scotch neat (that is, without ice or water). Well, I think that there are too many things that a real "lady" isn't supposed to do, so I ignored that advice for a long time. Then I learned about the incredible wonders that just a drop of fresh water can release from scotch and I've been a strong adherent ever since. I must say, though, that I also enjoy Irish whiskey, from time to time. Tullamore Dew is a favourite. It's a blend, but lovely, too!

I had this very thing happen to me less than two weeks ago. A guy made a dozen obscene calls to my number. Then, when he got my voicemail, it looks like he was doing his best to see if he could fill up my voicemail inbox by calling over and over again from a blocked number, hanging up each time, until the mailbox was full. He did that three times over three days. However, private and blocked numbers aren't as private or blocked as many people assume: my cell provider records the numbers of all callers, blocked, private or not. They were able to confirm that the hang-ups all came from the same number which--amazingly!--was the same as my obscene caller. I reported all of this to my cell phone company and then to the local police. The calls stopped completely, so I'm assuming that someone got through to him.